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writes:I've noticed something about myself in the last few years that I don't like. My desire to work is lessening. I can't hold a job for more than 6 months, because I just lose all interest in it. I've had a pattern for the last 3 years now: going to work for 4-6 months, then being unemployed for 2-3 months, then going back to work again, because my husband's income isn't enough to support both of us for very long. I find myself wishing he made more money so I could just stay out of work. I then feel guilty, because I think that's a selfish mindset to have. It would be one thing if I wanted to stay home so I could have kids. But I don't want kids, never have, and I don't see that changing. Something else I've noticed is I'm not nearly as happy as I used to be. I used to wake up every day with a great attitude. Now I can barely make myself get out of bed. That caused me problems, because I was always running late for work. I even tried having a night job where my hours were 10 p.m.-varied between 2-4 a.m. so I wouldn't run into this problem. I told myself a night job would be better, because I could sleep in as late as I want, and still have plenty of time before work. I thought this would make me happier, but it didn't. In fact, I quit the night job a lot quicker than I've quit any of my morning or afternoon jobs. I've never been a morning person, but in recent years, it's gotten so much worse. I used to be able to force myself up anyway, regardless of how tired I was. Now if I don't want to get up, I'm not going to, period. I'm also never happy when I finally do get up, whereas I always used to be happy to start a new day. Things I used to be interested in, I no longer am. I have limited activities I enjoy now. What has happened to me, and what can I do to change it? My husband has noticed my work patterns, but doesn't know how unhappy I truly am. I feel like if I tell him, he'll blame himself. But it has nothing to do with him. I really don't know what the cause is.
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reader, Marilissa75 +, writes (18 March 2014):
 A regular exercise routine would do wonders for your mood. Finding a new hobby to be passionate about would help. Getting a spiritual focus would help. You need some things to feel passionate about. What would you do if you could do anything in the world? Write it down, list how you can create that for yourself. If you absolutely have no idea, try reading some self improvement books to get you motivated through new perspectives. Best of luck to you!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 March 2014):
 You sound a lot like me a few years ago. I went to my doctor for help. I strongly urge you to see your GP and get it sorted out.
I had clinical depression, I took one medication, started yoga, walking and weight training as well as watching my nutrition. Things have changed for the better.
You can change, I'm certain. Be strong, true strength lies in asking for help when you need it. You need it now, if you are writing this here. Call your doctor tomorrow!
Best wishes.
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