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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met this girl recently through a mutual friend. We have known each other for less than a month now but she added me on Facebook less than a week ago.From what I know so far, she is very flirtatious. With most men - from what I have seen - she likes to be very playful. Lightly touching, bumping, smiling. Genuinely looking like she is interested. But she does it with everyone.My point is, how do I get past that to something meaningful. I'm a novice in this area, and want to get past that whole playful thing. How do I go about it? How do I develop more concrete signals with her?If it doesn't work out, fine, but clearly there is something that can be done.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 March 2015):
 Ask her questions about herself. What do you know about her from mutual friends? Ask her about her interests, what she is passionate about (aside from flirting).
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 March 2015):
 Alternative methods?
Like what?
Don't flirt back?
You want to get to know her, and move PAST her more flirtatious persona - so GET to know her. My guess is the flirtatious bubbly personality is part of WHO she is, but also part "self defense" mechanism. If she wants to LET people IN for more "serious" conversations I think she will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2015): [OP]
I'm not asking her to stop flirting, but yes I want to get to know her.
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female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 March 2015):
Are you asking how to get her to stop flirting with others and have a regular conversation with you?
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2015): [OP here]
Sure, I could do that. But are there not any alternative methods?
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female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 March 2015):
Have you asked her out? Maybe being one-on-one will make her "relax" a tad and lighten up on the flirtation.
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