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He's mean to me and I don't feel loved. What do I do?

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Question - (5 August 2015) 6 Answers - (Newest, 6 August 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *pendy writes:

Why does he always shout at me? He says I complain to much:(?

So I ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. He s been unemployed over half the time we ve been together. I ve supported him financially, I ve been there when he had no one, prayed for him, helped him look for jobs.

He was moody and irritated with me most time would snap at me and I was advised to just be there cause he might be just depressed and insecure without a job. So I stuck by him cried when he was nasty to me.

Now he s got a job:). He works long hours and we speak less and that s ok cause I understand we both work most of the time. I had really bad chest pains and I told him and he didn t really show caring in a way that I wanted.

He didn t contact me for over 24hrs. So he contacted me this morning and I asked why he didn t contact me when I was so ill. Not even a text. I thought I was having a heart attack and was scared I was going to die. He snapped at me and said he was working and said im always complaining so he hung up on me.

I can t describe how I feel. I m crying right now. I thought he will sort out his attitude once he gets a job but it seems like he s gotten worse now. No phone calls, no text. He only returns my calls when it suits him.

What do I do? I m so hurt. But I don t feel loved:(

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A female reader, Honeygirl South Africa +, writes (6 August 2015):

Honeygirl agony auntCant say anything more than what the other Agony Aunts have suggested.

Please listen to them!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (5 August 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI agree with YouWish

YOU go to the ER if you have chest pains and think you are having a heart attack. You don't wait for your BF to suggest that or coddle you.

Dump the moron. He is being rude and mean hoping you will "get the clue" that he wants out. He no longer "needs" to mooch on you, so now he is done with you.

Want more for yourself and take care of your health.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (5 August 2015):

Tisha-1 agony auntOh, I forgot one other thing I want to say that requires all caps:

BREAK UP WITH THE LOSER!!!!

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (5 August 2015):

Tisha-1 agony auntI actually advised you to end the relationship and other aunts advised the same thing: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-he-always-say-such-horrible-things.html

Your boyfriend has a bad attitude and you have stuck around and allowed him to be a jerk to you.

Get rid of him ASAP!

And in the future, if you are having chest pains, don't text a guy with a track record of being a jerk. GET YOURSELF TO THE HOSPITAL!!!!!

It may be a panic attack or indigestion or acid reflux, BUT IT COULD ALSO BE A HEART ATTACK!!!!!

My caps are on for a reason. DON'T TAKE CHANCES LIKE YOU DID!!!!!

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (5 August 2015):

YouWish agony auntWhy didn't you go into the ER if you were having chest pains?? Usually when there's serious pain like that, worrying about the level of sympathy from a partner should be the least of anyone's worries.

Your health issue aside, let me be clear. He wants to leave you, but he wants you to do the breaking up. That way you look like the "bad guy", he doesn't have to do the "dumping", and that's it. Leave the guy, go get your health checked, and never ever support anyone else financially ever again. Why you did that in the first place is one of the reasons why you're in this situation to begin with. He used you, and even good relationships go sour when money gets mixed into it like that.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2015):

Give it a month or two and if he's still like this..Break up with him. The guy's a complete jerk.. You shouldn't be treated that way after all you've done for him.

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