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22-25,
*hay_Rain
writes:Hi, So my boyfriend and I are going to different highschools this upcoming school year and he's not really worried, he's confident that we will be just fine together. I on the other hand am less worried than I used to be but I'm still worried. I think it's going to be sorta difficult but we've managed to get through most of the summer and not seeing each other as often has been sorta rough but we both seem to stay positive about our relationship and enjoy the times we are together. We even survived not talking for 5 1/2 days when I was at camp and was not allowed to have electronics for those days. (which may not be a big of a deal but we talked all day pretty much every day) So I only have one major concern. I am taking all honors classes and will be up to my eyeballs in homework so I probably won't have a lot of downtime and I hope to play basketball for my school so that will be another chunk of my life. Basically my questions are to you: 1. What are some ways we could study/ help each other study when we are taking different classes at different schools? 2. Is there any way/ system that could help me manage my workload and busy schedule? 3. Any unique date ideas that could help us with our school work and be able to spend time with each other? We both want to last as long as possible and I'm not expecting to be together forever but we both want to try because what's the point in the relationship if we aren't trying to last and be happy together for a long time? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 July 2015):
 Hi Shay_Rain, congratulations on the honors classes and basketball plans.
To answer your questions:
1. How to study/help each other study - My advice would be to focus on your own studies. Form study groups with people who are in your classes. Acknowledge that due to your separate schools and curricula, you won't actually be in scholastic alignment, so to speak. So let that go.
2. How to manage your workload and busy schedule? Definitely speak to your school counselor, your parents and I would reach out to the students who were successful in managing their time.
Break your time up into 15 minute chunks. Include time to rest and decompress. Stay off social media while you are completing school work.
3. Date ideas. Um, just spend some time together. Or go on field trips that enhance your academic interests.
My advice would be: relax, things will turn out fine, be yourself, live with integrity.
And again, congratulations on a promising academic career. Now stop stressing and enjoy it. You're only young once! Yes, he may be an awesome boyfriend but you are way too young to be planning your life around him.
And again, I know this is super boring to a teenager, but ask your parents about this. Your parents were your age once, a long long LONG LOOOONNNNNGGGG time ago. As in the Middle Ages. Or the Dark Ages. Or whatever, they may be super old now. But they were your age once. And they do get it.
So talk to Mom and/or Dad about this. :)
And Shay_Rain, you know what? Everything will work out just fine. It may not be as you expect or want or imagine, but you seem like a very intelligent girl and will work through whatever comes your way.
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