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*heerwhore23
writes:Hey guys i really need your help. I thought i loved my boyfriend more than ive ever loved anyone in my life. i know im only 19 but i thought it was different this time. i saw our future together and looked forward to a happy perfect life after we both graduated college. we're still together and he feels the same but its me thats the problem. I dont know how i feel about him anymore. We spent every single day together for about 3 months and i loved every second of it. then i had to move back home for the summer which is about 4 hours away. we visit each other as much as possible but it just doesnt seem the same. I cant decide if its just the distance thing or if my feelings have really gone away. school starts again in a month and im moving back for good this time so we wont be apart for a long period of time again. i just dont know if i can take another month of feeling so empty. what should i do?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 July 2013):
 Why not just let the month pass by and watch yourself experience the feelings you are having? Is there some rush on this?
The age you are, where you are, the experiences you are having, all are in transition. You are maturing and experiencing new things, you may simply be realizing that those feelings you had about him being the one forever were based in fantasy, in imagining your future. I know I came up with a lot of dreamy fantasies at age 19. I thought I was with 'the one,' thank goodness I came to my senses.
I think your feelings of disconnection from him probably are a sign that you just need to observe how you are feeling for a while.
Have you talked with your mom or dad about this? Parents can oddly be the source of some very good life wisdom, especially as they know you so well. Give that a shot.
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