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writes:Hi I am actually from Pakistan but now living in Australia with my husband and 4 years old son.My husband works and I am a housewife.We r really a happy small family.Here I met with a guy when I first came.I lost my way and my husband was not with me.The guy then helped me.From then he became very close to my family gradually.My husband and he is now good friends.But he is more close to me.I must say he is among my best friends.Our relation is now at a stage that is really very good.My husband knows all about it.He has no problem with that.Me and the guy do normal kissing sometimes lip kissing and hugging.I don't have any problem to kiss and hug as a friend.But recently the guy try to kiss me passionately and touches my private parts.I told him not to do that.Then he said me he wants to have sex with me.So now I am in a dilemma.What should I do now?One part of my mind say yes and another,no.My husband and my son is my world.And I am satisfied in my sex life with my husband.But maybe I won't be able to refuse the friend's proposal.If I can continue my normal life with my husband then should I sleep with that guy?
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reader, Senian +, writes (10 July 2013):
Senian is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThnx everyone.Ur advice will defenetely help me.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (10 July 2013):
 What do you do now? You no longer spend any time alone with this person. You have allowed him to cross boundaries that you should have set. Lip kissing and hugging is over the line, to me, it's not appropriate and should never have happened.
Tell your husband that you no longer can spend time alone with this person as he has made sexual advances toward you and he is no longer a trustworthy 'friend.'
I think it's time to end the friendship entirely, personally.
It may be a cultural thing, but learning to say "NO!!!" and "STOP!!!" is an excellent skill for anyone who has a problem with boundaries.
Does your husband go out and sleep with his female friends?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 July 2013):
 How about no?
HE is NOT a friend. Friends don't try and coax you into having sex with him. They don't SNOG a married lady either.
Hugs and cheek-kissing CAN be OK, but not with a guy like this who seems to not understand that you might have boundaries. I'm guessing he thinks you are vulnerable and easy to convince.
And WHY shouldn't you be able to refuse the "offer" for sex?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (9 July 2013):
Why in the world would you consider this when you love your husband and you're sexually satisfied? Would you really risk everything you have just to have sex with someone new?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 July 2013):
 I would not do it.
I would also let your husband know that his "friend" is being sexually aggressive with you and ask him to tell the friend to stop it.
if you don't want to do that then tell your friend that you and your husband and your "friend" must sit down and your "friend" must propose a situation to your husband for HIS APPROVAL.
this guy is NOT a friend btw. A friend would respect your boundaries. Have you told him to stop it?
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reader, Senian +, writes (9 July 2013):
Senian is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHNANKS
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