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writes:Hi I just started dating a new girl . The sex is great and we both oral fixated me giving and her getting . There is one problem she wants her anus licked which I usually enjoy doing but there is a problem with this she has a wiping problem back there. I keep given excuses but she is getting more annoyed . How can you tell an adult that she does not wipe properly and that is stopping you without insulting her . So how do I tell her without offending her ? Reply to this Question
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reader, No watered down advice here!  +, writes (1 July 2014):
 Buy her an enema. Wiping isn’t enough, washing isn’t enough. An enema will do the job. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2014): You basically have to tell her directly or suggest a shower before and she should use some wipes with witch hazel or something mild. You also need to make sure you don't lick her there and then her vulva without rinsing out your mouth because she is going to get a nasty infection otherwise which could turn into a chronic problem. I would just recommend skipping the whole thing because it's really not worth it imo, I know this from personal experience. You are exposing yourself to a lot of germs too if you're not protecting yourself.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (18 June 2014):
Dear OP,
It would embarrass me like crazy, but if I was in her shoes, I'd rather know the truth.
Maybe you can say it in a friendly and humourus way? I'm not creative enough to come up with something good to say, but if you are not too accusatory and you reassure her you still want to do it, then she should be fine in the end.
Just something I wanted to mention.. some people have darker skin around the anus, no matter how clean it is. So maybe it only looks like a wiping problem? Could that be possible at all?
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reader, cattycakes +, writes (18 June 2014):
You could say that you are hesitant because you once had a bad experience when someone didn't clean thoroughly. It put you off. Would she mind being really thorough as you have a phobia now.......
If that doesn't work make a rule that you have a shower together before sex and use a sponge on her.
Last resort, she is going to have to hear the truth! You will have to tell her that she has missed a bit cleaning in the derriere region.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (18 June 2014):
Nah, just go clean yourself up first, then tell her to go in and clean herself up too so you guys can have some real fun!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 June 2014):
 I would do as CCMP suggest, but wipes (unscented) and ask her to was off before you being to lick. OR you include the clean up into the fun.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 June 2014):
Buy her some wipes and tell her if she wants you do do it she needs to be as clean as possible for health reasons. You don't have to tell her that she doesn't wipe properly.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 June 2014):
 "Babe, I want to make you happy but one thing has to happen because it's fecal matter down there and I don't want any issues with that. So if you want that special treat from me, please ensure you are spotless as can be. Then I can accommodate your desires.
"I've been racking my brains for a nice way to say this so this is the best way I can think to do it. I'm embarrassed and don't want you to feel embarrassed too.
"Now let's go take a bath/shower together and I will show you that I am sincere in wanting to please you!"
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