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writes:I just broke up with my ex after nearly two years and he's on a dating site now, does it mean he never cared?It was a 'break' and shortly after a 'break up'. Too many arguments and such however for the most part we were really happy, enjoyed each other's company and great sex life. He instigated the break and I instigated the break up. We lived together and had made future plans.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (18 June 2014):
 No, it doesn't mean he never cared. It just means he started moving on sooner than you have (probably before you'd broken up) and doesn't want to be alone.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 June 2014):
 No, why should it mean he NEVER cared ?
It means that he is moving on.You broke up , he wants to move on and he thinks that finding someone else right away will speed up the process.
Or else, since he was the one instigating the break, it means that he cared ,then at some point along the way he started caring a little less and a little less.., up to the point of asking for a break,- and now he is ready for something new.
Whatever it means, it also means that if you broke up you should realize that you are broken up, and for a reason, I guess. Therefore you should move on too, and monitoring his Internet activities, or wondering what he has in mind, won't help you at all in that.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (18 June 2014):
 I expect it means he's a practical man and has moved on.
You broke up with him after he instigated a break? Then he was checking out of the relationship before you were. It doesn't mean he didn't care for you. It just means that he's started the dating process. Which means that you should stop checking his online whereabouts....
Why are you even looking him up? That's a waste of time and will just serve to make you feel crappy. Why bother?
Block, delete, move on! He's in the rearview mirror, don't keep circling back to see what he's doing! It's a waste of precious time and energy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2014): I wouldn't read so much into it. A lot of people (some at the suggestion of their friends) prefer to start dating right away so as to get their mind of things but I've never been able to do it. After a break up it's easy to misconstrue things as we grasp on to snippets of incomplete information and try to make sense of it.
Focus on yourself. He is in the past. You are center stage in this new chapter of your life. Do everything to improve yourself and make yourself happy because you need to reaffirm that it's in your control.
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reader, mamak574 +, writes (18 June 2014):
 dont take this as a sign for anything...some people just deal w/breakups differently
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