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writes:This past fall, I took a pe class and unintentionally developed a crush on one of the cute guys on the last day of class. I added him on Facebook over the winter break and messaged him once about the class. During the winter, we didn't have class together so I never saw him on campus, but still thought about him a lot. Today is the start of the new quarter, and the start of the pe class we took together the during the fall. He is enrolled in it, which surprised me. My problem: I only need 6 more units in my major to graduate, which is considered part time. This pe class would put me at 7 units, which equates to the full time price. I had a few other classes in mind that I was planning on taking, but I don't think its worth the money, especially if I don't need it. However, I'm going back and forth over this issue because id like to talk to him more, but don't want to pay for full time. He seems like a quiet guy. He only talked to me when I talked to him, and didn't make an effort to talk to me.What should I do?
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (3 April 2015):
I guess it's only worth doing the class if you'd actually USE the time to initiate further conversations with this guy.
If you take the class and simply wait for him to approach you and not approach him yourself, then you really will have wasted your money.
And I think if you're too shy to message him, you'll be too shy to speak to him also.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 April 2015):
 It's s swimming class which means you won't get to talk to him all that much anyway... it's a waste of time and money.
you are already friends on facebook, go ahead and message him... but I'm betting your crush is unrequited. IF he was interested yo would probably know unless he's very shy or insecure.
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reader, azpie +, writes (2 April 2015):
azpie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits a swimming class. At some point in our lives, we were both on a swim team. I love swimming.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (2 April 2015):
I've signed up for a different class just for the opportunity to talk to another girl. Didn't work out. I'm not sure if it ever works out when people do this. It seems like the other person eventually just figures out that you aren't interested in the class.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 April 2015):
 So, you are making an assumption that he'll think you are bothering him by messaging him again. You messaged him once. That's once. Not enough to be weird or odd or annoying....
Finish your degree without factoring in this crush on this guy.
You seem very concerned about being perceived as creepy or weird.
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reader, azpie +, writes (2 April 2015):
azpie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont want him to think "what is she doing messaging/bothering me again". I think he might think its weird.
Az pie is more like my username. Az are my initials, and i just added something random at the end.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 April 2015):
Why not message him again, in a friendly message, and ask how the semester is going for him?
Why would it be creepy?
Your name is azpie. Does that refer to Arizona or possibly Aspergers? I'm not intending to offend you, I'm just wondering if there is something else that might play a part in your uncertainty and discomfort.
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reader, azpie +, writes (1 April 2015):
azpie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, i dont see him often. Hes a different major than I am. Plus, were both graduating in june. I already messaged him once. I feel like i would creep him out if i kept messaging him or talking to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2015): Why would you pay for a class you don't need when you can walk up to the guy and talk to him?
If a guy doesn't talk to you unless you talk to him, it's a good chance he's not interested.
The only way to find out if he's holding-back because he's shy, is to be brave enough to introduce yourself and get to know him. Don't waste your money or your time, just to secretly crush and gawk at some guy.
Take only the classes that you need.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 April 2015):
Don't make a financial decision on your tuition payments based on a crush.
Do what you need to do and don't pay more just because you have a crush on a guy in PE, especially a guy who didn't display much interest.
Work your networks (there's a girl who knows a guy who knows a girl who is besties with your crush) but I don't see any reason to go full tuition just because you like a guy in PE.
If you are now friends on FB then start developing a conversation with him.
It may be that he's just not going to crush back on you. This doesn't mean that you aren't someone worth being interested in; it just means that this one crush just isn't going to work out.
How are you paying for school?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 April 2015):
 You can ONLY talk to him if you enroll? That makes no sense. Why not ask him out? That way you KNOW where you stand without having to shell out for a semester of something you do not need.
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