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writes:I am a 18 year old virgin. My girlfriend is 18. We are seniors in high school and have been dating for 9 months. We enjoy doing the boyfriend/ girlfriend things. We were talking about sex the other night and I told her i was a virgin. She told me that she has had sex with two guys and that she first had sex when she was 15. She is very smart, fun, cute, beautiful, and sexy. I don't want to force her into having sex with me. Though I would really like her to be my first sex partner. It would really be a joy to be able to see someone as fun, cute, beautiful, and as she is in the nude and be able to explore her body and be able to express love in a more physical way. How could I tell her this?If we do have sex. I am afraid of not doing anything right. I'm mainly worried about it won't be pleasurable enough for her. I want it to be wonderful sex for both of us. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 July 2015):
 Print out a copy of this submittal... and keep it handy to show her.... once she sees and reads it, I predict that you will have the "night of your life...."
Good luck.....
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 July 2015):
 Isn't school out here in the US? We are now in the summer recess. So you are either rising seniors or you graduated in May or June.
If you are 18 and she is 18 and you are comfortable with each other, do you have a problem with letting her know that you find her fun, cute, beautiful and attractive?
"We've been together for 9 months, I'm crazy about you and I would love to get closer physically, when you are ready. No pressure."
As for the sex stuff, well, we all learn on the job, so to speak. Be sure you understand her anatomy and what she likes. (Super secret note: many men make the mistake of assuming that most women's sexual satisfaction depends on the man's penis size. Most women do not reach orgasm from penis-in-vagina sexual intercourse alone. Most do reach it through manual or oral sex. And I do rather dislike the word "fingering" because it sounds like what the guy has to do is stick his finger up there and wiggle it around as though that will bring her pleasure. News flash. Her clitoris is like your penis. Her vagina is like your scrotum. Ignore the clitoris or the penis? Not great sexual stimulation. Though it feels nice it may not be enough to ring the bell, ha.
Although she's had sex rather young I do hope she's in tune with her body. I would ask her to show you, either with her hands or your, to show you what feels right for her. It may not look anything like what you may have seen in porn. In fact, it probably won't look anything like porn. But if you want to be a successful lover, you will ignore porn and pay attention to your partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2015): I think Chigirl is right - it will be fine, you have no need to worry. Sex is instinctive. If cavemen managed to do it, then there's very little chance of you doing it 'wrong'. How good the sex is depends mostly on the emotional connection and chemistry you have with that person, rather than the physical action (from a female perspective at least!).
Next time you're making out, ask her if she wants to take it to the next level (or make moves in that direction and see if she's ok with it...). If she's not then wait a month or two and try again ...
Good luck!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 July 2015):
 How long have you been together? Has she said she doesn't want to have sex with you? If not, then this will come naturally, no need for you to explicitly tell her so.
But, it would be wise to wait until you've been together for at least some weeks, if not months, depending on what the customs are.
The sex will be fine, no worries. You've got time to explore each other and learn. She will need to learn how you work, just as you will need to learn how she works. Sex is not like learning how to ride a bike... it's a very different experience with each different person. And whether it's good or not depends on how well your bodies work together, more than experience or anything else. It's about physical chemistry.
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