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writes:Dear cupid, I am in a relationship with a really great guy for about 3 months now. He's so nice and sweet and I can just be myself around him and we have so much in common, it's amazing. I'm always happy when I'm with him. But I feel like he doesn't tell me things. We have the same group of friends but sometimes he goes out with them and I'm not even invited. I feel really excluded. I understand when they're having a guys only night out, but why does he not tell me when everyone is meeting up? Why doesn't he invite me too? Should I be concerned? Or am I reading too much into this? Please help me. Any advice would be appreciated :D Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (18 July 2015):
 Oh, and I did forget to ask, how old is he? He may just be a rather clueless teenaged boyfriend who has a lesson or two to learn himself! :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 July 2015):
"[Great guy's name], I have been having a great time with you! I have a question to ask. Why am I not being included on the meet ups with our group of friends? I'm feeling excluded. I'd like to be included on those meet ups with our group of friends."
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We won't be able to tell you why he doesn't invite you too. Why don't your other friends in the same group invite you? I think the only way to know is to be brave and ask him.
Do you have a female friend in the group?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2015): If it's "guy's only" that means no girls. Sometimes fellas have to hangout with their bros. They might get a text out of the blue, and asked to meetup. You don't tell your girlfriend, that's the fun of it. You don't cancel a date for it either. If he does, he's a jerk!!!
If there are other girls there, and not you. Then he's not so much the wonderful guy you say he is. Not if they invite other girls out, and don't tell you about it. You're going to have to learn to recognize when he's being a jerk, and how to let a guy go. Even if you think he's wonderful and stuff.
He also has to have time to himself, it doesn't always have to be spent with you. Being around someone 24/7 doesn't mean they love you. It just means they have nothing else to do, and they might be clingy.
You should have your girl's night out, or sleepovers. It's healthy to get away from each other, and not be too intense.
You're very young, and you should be having fun with friends as well as going out with your guy. Girls may not easily understand or accept this. They think they should always be snuggled-up close and lovey-dovey. Not so much as young as you are. You need time to just be a kid, and hangout with other girls. Making new friends, and being social as a strong and independent female.
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