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*ovingnerd
writes:Its been a year. After my really bad rebuking mail, we stopped talking; but she still called back once or twice . And then the last one was an apologizing mail a few days back.We were in contact for around six months, but I stopped talking after I learnt she had a new boyfriend.I'm planning to ask her out again if she is free or not dating any more.Will I be doing something I shouldn't? After her last text mentioned above, does she have something of me with her? Will she be even willing to have me back, after a complete year of being afar, and four years of being so close before that?
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reader, lovingnerd +, writes (29 February 2012):
lovingnerd is verified as being by the original poster of the question Cool. Thanks a ton, again!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (29 February 2012):
 I'd say she's unlikely to be interested in dating you again, she demonstrated this by not telling you about her new man. She has relegated you to a distant friend status by doing so. Rather than be angry with her for not reciprocating your feelings, you should be thankful that she's made it clear there's no hope for a romance between you two. That way, you can mourn the relationship, accept the new reality, and move on to another relationship which has a real future. She's not your future, sorry.
Be careful that you don't build hopes where there is no chance of them coming true, okay? Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2012): She may not want you back. Your really bad rebuking mail to her could have offended her and turned her off. I know I wouldn't want to get back with someone who took a nasty tone with me.
she probably was only contacting you and apologizing just to make amends and ask forgiveness, because some people don't like the idea of others thinking badly of them or hating them. But that has nothing to do with any desire to get back with you. she has a new bf, which should say a lot.
she probably just wanted to not have you hate her that's all, I wouldn't read into it that she wants to get back with you.
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reader, lovingnerd +, writes (29 February 2012):
lovingnerd is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot Tisha, Mandy!
Yeah, it was indeed awful to have a relationship this way. But she kept in contact for almost six months and never even mentioned her new affair. It was excruciating, and after a while really pissed me off. Sure I shouldn't have done that though.
And yeah, I could just be friends with her now that I feel I can live without thinking of her so much. I guess a call or a meet up might suffice, right?
Thanks a ton Dear Aunts.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 February 2012):
You will never know the answer to this question if you don't ask her.
One question for you, why did you send her a really bad rebuking message? Are you going to do it again? It must have been very awful for the relationship to end like that.
Can you reconcile yourself with a 'no' if that is what she says to you?
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (28 February 2012):
 HI
I wouldn't ask her out just yet. She could be simply apologising because of the way things ended. Just try being friends for a while, and see what happens. This way your not putting your emotions on line, and you can both get to know eachother all over again by being there for eachother as friends.
Mandy x
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