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writes:Ok, I like supermodels and always have. Not the big-boobed, blonde bimbos in men's magazines but the high fashion models. When magazines like Vogue or Photo have their "Top Models" issue, I get it. If there's an interview with a model I like, I'll read it. My computer desktop rotates pictures of Christy Turlington from every stage of her career. I even watch shows like Remodeled and America's Next Top Model.This does NOT mean I'd ever want to date a supermodel, I think that would be super stressful and high-maintenance. And if a girl in real life looks like a model, then I rule her out (since I'm not rich). I'd be open to girls with the opposite body type if their personality was really attractive.Most people out there have an attitude of like, "Supermodels? [roll eyes] Oh you mean those size-zero, anorexic, stick figure FREAKS who make girls everywhere feel bad about themselves and get paid to do it!" I dunno why people need to get angry over it. They'd never talk about fat people that way, but when it's thin people, that somehow makes it okay and acceptable to hate on them. If we're supposed to accept all body types, why is the supermodel type seen as disgusting?From what I've seen, a lot of straight women appreciate the female form, thinking it's more sensual and mysterious and turns them on more than looking at men. Yet if a guy feels the same way, they don't like it! They just get jealous. I dream of meeting a girl who was totally cool with flipping through magazines together and comparing the models or even being a fan herself, without thinking it's wrong. Is that even possible to find?
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (6 March 2012):
Impossible? No. I am actually like that. I don't really talk about it to others when I know their interest lies elsewhere; I usually went to places like The Fashion Spot or Bellazon to talk about models, etc. (Plenty of straight guys there too btw). And coincidentally enough, I'm also a dancer (among other things).
I'm not a vain person, I just appreciate beauty.
For example, I really like six packs abs on a guy (and basically a body that is muscular in a functional way, not a pumped way), but that doesn't mean I require my bf to look like that. I really like Adriana Lima even though we have nothing in common looks wise and I'm a straight girl. I have a couple of favorite models and when a magazine offers a spread with them I will buy it.
If you go on forums like the ones I mentioned in the beginning you will find tons of girls who do the same stuff you do. Some of them even have fansites devoted to their favorite models and are responsible for the HQ scans of the editorials circulating the net. And some of those models are male models, though the women really rule in that regard.
I think it's harmless, as long as you remain tactful and don't let this interest take over everything. I can imagine a gal can get sick of you talking about your favorite supermodels all day. Just like anyone can get sick of someone talking about one of their interests all day. My bf likes to watch snooker, which I find tedious and boring. I endure it because I know he likes it, but if he were to also talk about it incessantly I would get annoyed at one point.
So balance it out. And make sure you clarify to any potential girlfriend that just because you appreciate those model's beauty doesn't mean you think she should strive to look like that. Sometimes that means working extra hard making sure your girl knows she's 1st place no matter what.
Another tip I would give is to not date an insecure girl.
All girls have some insecurity (just like all guys, I imagine) but in your case I would really try to avoid the fragile ones that need to be assured all the time. They will not be happy with your hobby/interest. A grounded girl won't have a problem with it as long as you treat her like she deserves to be treated.
Personally I find it fun to know what my guy finds pretty. I'm a pale girl with dark grey eyes and ash brown dark hair while my bf's type is tanned, blonde and blue eyed. He for example really likes that girl in the Game of Thrones and Marisa Miller. Yet he went for me. I like talking about that and what ends up attracting you to a person. So yes, there are girls like that out there.
Hope this helped!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 March 2012):
 If your visual signals, that is, your wallpapers and your pictures on the walls of your home and your keychains and your magazines and books are all supermodel, all the time, that is a pretty big clue to any woman that you're into supermodels. It's kind of a no-brainer.
So then the question for the woman will be, why is he into these things? Is it because he thinks they are hot? Is that the type of woman he thinks is sexually attractive? She'll think to herself, huh, I am not a supermodel, I am not that physical type, so he obviously won't be into me. I guess I had better move on.
Now, if you want a woman who is into this type of thing too, why not date women who work in the fashion industry? Most of the jobs are behind the camera, hair, makeup, photographers, assistants, that sort of thing. They are used to looking at models and it'll be normal to see images like the ones that appeal to you.
"Most people out there have an attitude of like, "Supermodels? [roll eyes] Oh you mean those size-zero, anorexic, stick figure FREAKS who make girls everywhere feel bad about themselves and get paid to do it!" I dunno why people need to get angry over it." I don't think people get angry over it. I think what is upsetting to many people is that using exclusively that body type to sell clothes sends a message to impressionable young women that this is the ONLY body type that is desirable. Women are under tremendous pressure to be 'hot,' to be 'beautiful,' to be physically perfect. No one says, oh how nice, Amy Supermodel had her baby and she's still carrying the exra mommy weight! How normal! How sweet! No, they all point out that she's back to a size 00 3 weeks after giving birth, isn't she a fantastic example to new mommies everywhere!
"They'd never talk about fat people that way, but when it's thin people, that somehow makes it okay and acceptable to hate on them." Are you kidding me? People poke fun at fat people all the time. They make comments and suggest that So-and-so could stand to lose a few. There's plenty of fat-hating going on out there. You're just listening with a different filter.
I'm going to betray the sisterhood here. You don't get it, you see. What you don't realize is that most all women are insecure and overly critical of their own bodies, their own beauty. Ask any woman how happy she is with her body and she'll come up with a list of 10 things that are wrong with her, in an instant. Even the supermodels will have that list. There are a rare, favored few, who have come to terms with their physical being and are content. But for the vast majority of women, they feel imperfect, no matter how beautiful they appear to others.
I'm guessing you haven't actually dated many women, if you haven't figured that one out. It's pretty basic.
Most women don't like to see their men hanging pin-ups or centerfolds of other women, supermodels or the more mainstream beauty queens. We compare ourselves to those women. We know we are wanting. Our boobs are smaller, or saggy, our thighs are too thin or too big, our butts are misshapen or lumpy or inadequate in some way. If we're not dating the guy, that sort of display may put us right off him, because we think he has an unrealistic expectation of what he's looking for in a woman, and we know we are not it.
If you want to have a successful relationship with a woman, it would help if you were a teeny bit interested in making her feel comfortable in your space. Does that make any sense?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): OP we have to deal with our girlfriends gushing over rock hard bodied men like Daniel Craig or Hugh Jackman. You should hear my girlfriends reaction whenever she sees them topless in magazines or movies.
OP girls are always gushing over men, they do so blatantly and they do so in the knowledge that most of us guys don't care because we don't feel that an unattainable fantasy is a threat to us. Believe it or not most girls are the same as us as in they don't really care either and those that do should just get dumped, let someone else deal with their insecurities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): OP there are tonnes of naturally skinny girls around you could date that are very pretty. We all have a preferred body type. I prefer naturally round women with a bit of extra weight (not obese). I'm not very attracted to supermodel women at all, nor am I attracted to morbidly obese women.
It's not wrong to be attracted to women like that and just because society calls obese women brave and skinny women unhealthy "bitches" doesn't mean you're in the wrong for liking what you like.
I mean people call Adele "beautiful" and "a great role model" but I think she is rotten looking and seems like an arrogant diva. But the simple fact is people love the fact that she's ugly and big and became rich with a great voice. Yet girls like Avril Lavigne and other such stars who are skinny are always getting criticized for promoting bad body image, models are too. Well promoting fat as a positive body image is not good either (Adele did recently come out and promote the virtues of being obese) people only like it because it validates themselves because they feel they too are fat and ugly, and like to be told it's okay to be that way.
Can a woman get over the fact you like skinny models? If they can't then they're not worth the trouble OP, if they can't see you like them for reasons of aesthetics then they're ignorant and not worth your time.
I love soccer and my girlfriend isn't too fond of it. She likes soap operas and I hate them, if a person can't deal with the things you do or do not like then they're not the girl for you.
Not all women despise models, not all women are the same. Not all women would love to be thin nor get jealous of the other women we look at and if you find one that is that way just dump her and find another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsince sooo many people keep bringing this up... I would NOT have any problem with a girl talking about male models, dancers, hockey players, whatever. Look, my mom was a ballet dancer, I've been around dancers a lot, I'm athletic myself, I studied Greek art, so I understand fully how anyone can appreciate the aesthetics and artistry of the human body. If a woman confessed a love of the male form, I'd find that pretty interesting.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 March 2012):
 OF course it's possible to find. Will you flip through GQ with her and help her appreciate those chiseled ABS of the male models as well?
I always point out the beautiful thin women to my fiancé. He prefers young Asians so I even have been known to take him to the Asian market to go shopping (not for women for food).... eye candy is just that eye candy.
Interestingly enough when I was "model thin" (hard to do as I'm only 5'2") and my ribs stuck out and my spine showed and my shoulders were bony he hated to hug me. Now that i've picked up about 15 pounds and I think I'm fat he finds my body much more enticing...
Stick thin women are just moving mannequins that show off clothing well. They are not fun to hug or love on as they have NO PADDING..... so I don't find them threatening
WHAT I do find threatening about these women is the extreme lengths they go to in order to maintain that level of thinness. They eat unhealthy foods, they take drugs. they exercise incessantly.
My issue is not with how thin they are but that in order to be that thin they espouse an unhealthy lifestyle that so many young women aspire to and it causes major problems including death for some women. THAT is not healthy no matter what people say.
Too thin is just as unhealthy as too fat.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (6 March 2012):
 It's possible but it would take a lot of searching.
And attractive women would not neccessarily judge you only on your money.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (6 March 2012):
 It depends what your 'love' of supermodels involves. If you like reading more about their lives, are interested in the world of modelling and simply appreciate them for being beautiful people - and can equally appreciate a handsome man - then yes you will find a girl who will be able to accept this.
However if you would hate your girlfriend discussing male models with you and the pro's and con's of David Gandy vs the skinny androgynous male models out there (google David Gandy if you dont know him!) then you are a hyprocrite so it would not be ok.
If the only reason you wouldnt date a model is because you dont have the money, then again that is not going to be ok with any girl out there. She will feel like she is second best and if you ever find yourself financially well off you will run away with the first supermodel you can find.
If you ogle these women and only talk about how hot they are and how you would love to have sex with them/date them etc and how you wish you could have a girlfriend who looked like that - again no girl is going to be ok with that.
Any girl that becomes your girlfriend will want to feel beautiful, she wants to know that you think she is hot. Yes she knows she is not Gisele, but she at least wants to know that she is not second best because you cant afford a model, and she wants to know that you are really attracted to her even if she isnt a supermodel. There is nothing wrong with liking a particular celebrity or model, but it cannot take over your life and become obsessive to the point where you talk about that woman/women all the time.
I personally love supermodels, I will read about them all day if I could and love Vogue and studying the different ads and photoshoots, seeing what the photographers have done with the models and which models I like and dont like. I equally love to do the same with male models, because I appreciate both the female and male forms. I dont rattle on to my boyfriend about male models though, because he is not exactly male model material! I would never want to hurt his self esteem or confidence because I think he is gorgeous, I am very attracted to him. I like to think that I can appreciate beauty in all different forms, but I'm not obsessive over it and I dont talk about it too much with my partner out of respect for him.
You need to find a balance - there will be some girls that will think its great to sit and read Vogue together and you can talk about the models and how they look in the different images. But if you sat there and all your opinions were 'she's hot' or 'she's beautiful' then that would get very annoying very quickly. Your opinions would need to be 'she's got great legs but I'm not so keen on her face' or 'I dont like what they have done with Gisele's make-up in this shoot' etc.
As long as you are careful and are not simply ogling attractive women all day then you will be fine.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): Yes it IS possible to find :)
There is nothing wrong with your interest, and it's a part of who you are, and what you enjoy. As you said, you are not into the bimbo, it's more about their career and the whole fascinating life they lead, their looks, etc. It's normal, you are a guy :) Us normal girls also like it. I too enjoy seeing photos, reading interviews to learn what their lives are really like, and watching shows like America's Next Top Model.
Don't allow other people's ignorance, lack of interest, knowledge or judgement deter you from what YOU enjoy!
In terms of a girlfriend - when you meet someone and fall in love with them, I'm sure THEIR picture will replace Christy Turlington's desktop rotation pictures ;-) it's a normal thing that happens. Also, you don't have to give an indemnity when you meet someone, that you love supermodels. That does not define you, and it's not all you are about, right? It's ONE facet of you, something you really enjoy, and want to share with the love of your life.
The secret will be: treasure the girl you love, make her #1, treat her right, be true, loyal honest and faithful, and then share the things that make you both unique, with each other.
A girl will only get jealous, when she isn't #1. If you make her #1, and then you both share these interests, it will be fine. I'm speaking from experience! I am the jealous type ;-) and my boyfriend is wonderful, a keeper, the best thing that's ever happened in my life, and I am happy to watch something like the Victoria's Secret supermodel show with him!!! :) why? because it's ME that is HIS girl.
So there you have it - it IS possible :) from a straight girl in a very happy relationship of 1.6 years!
Wishing you happiness,
xxxx E
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): Oh, if you had money, you would then feel confident to date a supermodel. Since you don't have money you have to settle. Grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): At your age, you should've figured this out by now, but a woman who's interested in you is not going to want to watch you drool over someone else. Especially if afterwards, you're going to look at her and remind her with a look, or your attitude, that you're just settling because you can't get Christy Turlington.
Would you want to sit with your girlfriend, looking at pictures of handsome men with perfect bodies and knowing that she'd really much rather be with one of them?
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reader, The Realist +, writes (6 March 2012):
 By the way you come across with this interest I don't get the vibe that you these women are just sexual objects to you. I get the impression that you enjoy the whole idea of and career of a supermodel which is what would make this ok with someone. The big fear would be that you only find these women attractive and it would really put a woman off but you sound more like a modeling agent then an obsessed fan.
I think the right woman would understand this and be ok with it. She may even be happy that you two can talk about this since most guys would not.
If you are worried about it being a problem I would bring it up early in a relationship saying that an interest of yours is the world of modeling. Put that way I would say it is more intriguing rather then something that is going to be disliked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2012): Would you like to sit down and compare which handsome man has more money with your girlfriend? And see how excited she gets looking at rich handsome men leaving you to feel more like a gay best friend than a boyfriend? Im sure there's someone that will love and choose to accept you as you are, just make sure to put in the effort to make her feel as special to you as your super models are.
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