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writes:I really do love and care for my boyfriend. However, I'm beginning to question his... Dedication. He is quite lazy when it comes to building our relationship. I'm always wanting to hang out and talk (he lives about 2 hrs away)... He'd rather surf the net, play video games, or go to the bar with his two buddies. One of my MAJOR issues with him is he will "promise" to hang out with me, but often doesn't live up to those promises. For example last Sun he "promised" to go out but.. told me he was tired and just wanted to stay in. I'm honestly starting to lose my attachment to him. It's frustrating. I really want to be able to go to him to talk or spend time, but I'm starting to find myself going to other people... One of my male friends is so much more "warm" than my boyfriend! I don't love him like I love my bf, but ok starting to rather his company. I'm curious... Does my relationship seem like it cam still get better? I REALLY do care about my bf but he's driving me nuts.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 October 2013):
 Did you JUST post this?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-love-him-but-im-losing-attachment-to.html
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 October 2013):
 I don't think it'll get better unless he figures out he has to do some of the "work" in the relationship. Maybe you are just a bit too far to see regularly?
I'd let him know that you expect him to step up and show he's willing to put in as much time into your relationship as he does in his other interests, and then, I'd wait. I think I'd give it about 3 months. See if he makes plans, reaches out. If he doesn't, then go hang out and talk with your friends. By the end of the 3 months, the relationship may be dead anyway because he's done nothing to keep it going.
Just do yourself a favor, don't start anything with a new guy until this relationship is resolved.
Or cut to the chase, end the relationship and just be free to date the new guy, or any other new guy who proves more appreciative of your company.
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