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26-29,
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writes:Dear Cupid,I recently wrote here asking for advice on asking my highschool crush out, whom i haven't seen in a while. I decided to bide my time and wait a few months till i've change and decided to focus on career instead.A few weeks ago I decided to start a chat with her on facebook and before doing so i decided to look through her wall...What i've found was she was 14 weeks pregnant and was visibly happy with her boyfriend. I'm writhing in pain, i've never felt that way with a girl before and now she's gone...i never had the chance to confess my love and to ask if she'll give us a shot.What do i do...do i keep this feeling bottled up inside, or confess my love go batshit crazy and ruin a healthy relationship... because you all know it's not over till the fat lady sings. I just feel like i wasted my time waiting that i lost my shot, i'm never gonna find another like her and it feels like im going to be alone...Please im desperate for advice and I can't ask my friends because they don't know about this... and please feel free to judge me and my situation because i feel stupid and i just want things to return to normal or even better...thanks in advance!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 April 2015):
 What was the consensus of the advice you received when you asked if you should ask your high school crush out?
Life is quirky and surprising and alas, it happens while we are trying to make life plans.
If you've put this much importance on this one person, whose availability is responsible for you happiness, my goodness, you have a narrow and small perspective.
Say it out loud to yourself, there's no reason to bottle it up.
If you stop looking, of course you'll never find another like her.
You're 18-21, if you hang up your dating shoes, of course you'll wind up alone.
Dude. Relax. You'll find out that there are many women who are compatible with you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 April 2015):
 There is no use regretting. There is no guarantee that even if you had asked her out that would result in a great relationship. A relationship does not start with confessing love. You may be infatuated with her but to love someone that takes time. What your brain needs is to adjust to the endorphin or dopamine supply that's stopped abruptly. You've been feeding yourself a dream and now finding it hard to cope with the loss. Infatuation also causes you to single one person out and forsake all others. If they are really happy with each other, your confession is not going to do anything but embarrass yourself. Things will return to normal by itself. It takes a few weeks or few months for the chemical levels in the brain to resume back to before. Falling in love is not stupid although it can make you do stupid things. That's when common sense comes in and pulls you back.
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