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writes:Hello people I have a problem and don't know what to do me and my partner have been together for 2 years and 8 months we have twin boys together he has always gone to work as did I till I had my twins the problem is I feel like a single parent I get no help from him at all we are happy but I have done every night feed changed every nappy and not had a night off since they were born he comes round after work we have tea I wash up he sits with boys while I sort uniforms out then he goes home and if I dare to seem stressed or tired he goes very quiet and moody on me how do I make him see I need him to help a bit more without it ending in a argument thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2015): "I feel like a single parent"
Given that you are neither married to nor living with your baby daddy, you ARE a single parent.
"how do I make him see I need him to help a bit more without it ending in a argument thank you"
You're asking the impossible. You can't "make him see" anything and you can't control his emotions.
The time to determine whether a guy would make a suitable father is before you lay down and make babies with him. Unfortunately you appear to have chosen an uninvolved, disinterested sperm donor as your baby daddy.
I would suggest you consult an attorney to ensure your children's rights to child support are protected should this relationship fizzle out, which appears to be a likely eventuality.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (23 April 2015):
 As you've been together for a while and have twins, is there any reason you haven't discussed moving in together?
I would pack some nappies and food and tell him to take the twins home a few nights a week. You can go around and collect them when he goes off to work.
Ask family or friends for help as well. Perhaps someone can look after the twins while you have a night off.
One of the things you said, "if I dare to seem stressed or tired he goes very quiet or moody on me" tells us that you two are not able to communicate with each other with compassion or empathy.
How did you wind up having twins with a guy who 'goes home' after coming over?
Are you sure you are with the right guy for you? Because this sounds very lopsided and unhealthy for you and the twins.
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