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writes:I recently met this guy online. He seems like an honest decent man. We have been talking to each other for only 2-3 days but I think I already have a huge crush on him. Well I think he likes me too; he'd like to say something more about him when I didn't ask for it. There are some issues though like he is way taller than, he is 6'5 and if I stand next to him I will be around his chest. But the biggest problem is that we are so far away. He lives in the US while I live in HK. If there's more to this, I might come back to the US but I am not sure if he is the one. Actually I sent my last reply to him and it has been more than 24 hours now but he hasn't replied. He said he works 12 hrs a day and he just moved to a new place so lots of unpacking to do. So could you say that he hasn't have the time to drop me back a line? But it indicates that he has log on to the dating website on and off. So it is certain he has already read my message but why he has not responded. Maybe he found someone else he might like better? Do y'all think he still wanna talk to me? Will he ever talk to me soon? Btw in the beginning of our correspondence, he added me as his favorite but I am sure if that's somethjng he will normally do to other girls. Please let me know what y'all think. Is it worth a try?
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reader, LiveAnnLearn  +, writes (30 April 2015):
 Don't rush into it emotionally, you seem waaay too invested into a guy you've never even seen in person. Who knows is he what he seems to be, and even if he is who knows will you like all that as much if you meet him. Please take it easy and don't act like such a schoolgirl ;) Ok to try to pursue it, but try being rational about it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 April 2015):
 have you ever had a relationship in real life?
You don't KNOW this guy... you are infatuated with the IDEA of what you THINK he can be. YOU are not even infatuated with HIM as you barely know him.
DO not stop living your life where you are while waiting for him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 April 2015):
 If you were my Sister, I'd suggest that you not waste your time pursuing this guy....
Good luck...
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 April 2015):
 You know nothing about him. You met online, you've been talking for less than 100 hours. You live halfway around the world. (We're guessing as we really don't know where he lives.) You say you live in Hong Kong but would be willing to move to the US based on this relationship that is less than 100 hours old.
Does that sound like a sensible wise plan to you? What do your friends and family think about him? Do they even know about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2015): I think your crush is just an initial fascination, and the excitement of meeting someone new. There is nothing at this stage of your introduction that says things will go any further than they have. It's all a thrill, but keep it under control.
I assume HK stands for Hong Kong? The likelihood of a meetup might be a little remote; and I think you might be a bit ahead of yourself assuming you've made any kind of connection in only the course of three days. That is far to eager. Don't get too enthusiastic, and go packing your bags just yet. You have no idea who this man really is. You only know as much as about him as you've been told in a few conversations, and have nothing more than that.
Slow your roll, young lady! Have a few talks and perhaps a visual introduction over Skype to see if this guy is really all you've fantasized him to be. Keep your feelings in check!!! There are scammers, predators, and trolls all over the internet; and you should always be cautious with strangers. Serial-killers can be quite charming, and even good-looking. You can't get so enamored in the span of a few hours.
It is way to soon to affix any feelings to this guy, let alone ask if anything will work-out between you.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (28 April 2015):
Online, and in life are two completely different things. Feelings cannot truly be expressed online. Infatuation can be express online. You have to spend time with that person on a personal level to truly have a sense of how they feel.
Not saying to back off...but keep a realistic check on your feelings until you have had some real time together.
A shot at love is always worth it. :)
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