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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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What are his ... (read in full...)
Happy about the royal wedding but sad about not having a hubbie of my own!
Q. This is going to sound really odd but I'll give it a go. As everyone knows its the Royal wedding tomorrow, and being a royalist I am excited/happy to see the ceremony and the wedding dress etc. It will be a lovely day here for many of us in the UK ...
A. 28 April 2011: at least when you do marry you will be able to do your own thing. But imagine having the eyes of the world and the press onto you all the time. Long range lens being 'the worst'
Now are now 25. Don't let this guy clog up your life.
Even if you m... (read in full...)
My husband and I are Jewish, how do we go for a traditional Catholic wedding without feeling uncomfortable??
Q. My husband and I are Jewish. A very good friend of ours is getting married - and having a traditional Catholic with a full mass and communion. The problem is that we are not comfortable being in a Catholic church / mass. There is nothing in our ...
A. 28 April 2011: well done that you chose to attend.
I noticed that at the wedding in London of Prince William and Catherine Middleton that Rabbi Bayfield has accepted an invitation to attend the wedding in London and will be sitting with other Heads of vari... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's gay friend asked him for sex! Does this mean he is gay too?
Q. I have a boyfriend and everytime I open his account he ask me not to open his messages and comments . I was so curious that day that I replied to a gay friend of him and ask why, then I was shocked when that gay answered "where are you now ,could we ...
A. 27 April 2011: hi,
Trust is such an important aspect of a good relationship and it would seem that/trust had already flown out the window before you opened his emails and impersonated him with that reply. And his secrecy re his emails says that your boyfriend migh... (read in full...)
He criticizes me and sends mixed signals, should I stay with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a year now... I am in love with him and feel so low when im not with him.. but I feel as though he is mentally torturing me. He doesnt liek me wearing make up and the other day he gave me an ultimatum betwee...
A. 27 April 2011: Mr Bitter-n-Twisted is trying to hurt you. Which really demonstrates the calibre of this guy. Leave him with his ex. She is his standard.
I do understand that you still have some feelings for this guy. But his behavior towards you demonstrates that... (read in full...)
My husband and I are Jewish, how do we go for a traditional Catholic wedding without feeling uncomfortable??
Q. My husband and I are Jewish. A very good friend of ours is getting married - and having a traditional Catholic with a full mass and communion. The problem is that we are not comfortable being in a Catholic church / mass. There is nothing in our ...
A. 16 April 2011: hi,
No one would take any notice if you sat in the Church and just participated in the joy of the couple marrying.
Often people within different versions of the same religion can feel uncomfortable attending, but usually put that aside to honor th... (read in full...)
He criticizes me and sends mixed signals, should I stay with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a year now... I am in love with him and feel so low when im not with him.. but I feel as though he is mentally torturing me. He doesnt liek me wearing make up and the other day he gave me an ultimatum betwee...
A. 2 March 2011: he is way too judgmental and rigidly imposing his views on others. So he's vegetarian and you are not. Tell him to get over it, and not pass judge. It is ignorant and rude for him to pass judgment on what you are eating or drinking. Check if he we... (read in full...)
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