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After ten years we will be getting married ... IF we can agree on a venue!
Q. After 10 yrs of being together we finally have decided to get married this year but the problem is I want a church wedding and he wants a civil one. All girls dream is to walk along the isle with everyone watching and all he ever want is a simple c...
A. 21 May 2014: We have not yet finalized everything but I was thinking more like a civil wedding in a white long gown with a romantic venue would be nice. I hope he agrees with not I know its not just about me fantasizing my dreams but its a vow that we awe to ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner that I'm ready to marry now? Or wait?
Q. ive been thinking of it for quite sometime now... ive been with my partner for 9 long years but have not decided to ger married yet... well he did ask me once 5yrs ago but i told him im not ready yet since then we havent talked about it again... our ...
A. 26 September 2013: When he gets back from his trip I will talk to him about how I feel but wont literally ask him to marry me... instead ill open up the marriage thing topic hope he wont avoid it nor dont comment on it... his silence scares me more each day!!! ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner that I'm ready to marry now? Or wait?
Q. ive been thinking of it for quite sometime now... ive been with my partner for 9 long years but have not decided to ger married yet... well he did ask me once 5yrs ago but i told him im not ready yet since then we havent talked about it again... our ...
A. 26 September 2013: Just this morning I spoke with some of his friends since his out on a trip.. I ask if his ever talking to them about getting married and they said often mention about setling down but his scared I might refuse again... Felt happy upon hearing such ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner that I'm ready to marry now? Or wait?
Q. ive been thinking of it for quite sometime now... ive been with my partner for 9 long years but have not decided to ger married yet... well he did ask me once 5yrs ago but i told him im not ready yet since then we havent talked about it again... our ...
A. 26 September 2013: He ask me to marry him during my birthday when all my family was there... It was indeed a surprise when he as me because he was sayin his birthday wish and right after he ask me to marry him in front of everyone. I didnt what to say by that time I ... (read in full...)
I still love my ex and know we will not re-unite as a couple. So how do I move on from still having feelings for him?
Q. I wanted to ask if it is normal to still be in love with your ex after being broken up 4 and a half years. I have tried to move on, but I feel like my ex was the love of my life and I can't bring myself to date anyone else, even though I know I ...
A. 11 September 2011: I know it is very hard to let of the person especially when you have planned so many things with him...
There is no such thing as forgetting but acceptance is the key. I am in the same situation as you are now I can't imagine being with someone else... (read in full...)
I can't end my affair........
Q. My story is a long one. I have been having an affair with a man for almost two years. Its the usual story. When the affair began,I was married. I left my husband, which was difficult, but I left not for the other man because the marriage was ...
A. 9 August 2011: If you have no trust in him I don't think the relationship will work..
I have a long time bf for 7 yrs and it all started with little argument and that it went out of hand.
He lied several times and that lied made me hate him until now..
I was so ... (read in full...)
I haven't the guts to leave my partner but I'm interested in another guy!
Q. I'm with my partner 8 years,its been very rocky at times,he's cheated and lied over the years and its been very volatile,I love him and care for him,but I'm nor in love with or really have sex anymore,over the past 7 weeks I've been chatting to an ...
A. 9 August 2011: Leave if you can before it's too late...
It happened to me too I wasn't happy in a relationship before but I wanted it to work so bad that in the end I messed it up...
I finally let go of the person then now I'm slowly adjusting and trying to meet ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is cheating. Should I keep chasing him or just wait until he is ready to face me?
Q. My ex bf didn't try to explain to me why he just took off but I found out from friends that he said he was scared to face me.... He even told them that those rumors about him cheating isn't true at all and it's all in my imagination... Well how ...
A. 4 August 2011: sorry... its not really ex bf since he didn't say anything about breaking up...
he told me he is just tired of me always repeating the same thing over and over again...
I don't know why he choose to hide himself from me and not explain.... (read in full...)
Should I blame myself, or prove to him that he is to blame?
Q. I have finally ended my 7 years relationship with my bf and I don't know if It is right. I didn't cry at all and it feels strange. He blames me for everything that happened between us. He said that he run away because I have pushed him so hard and ...
A. 25 July 2011: I don't feel alone and depressed I still have a lot of things I can do with my life.
But I really want to prove to him he was wrong to just took off and didn't explain.
Today I got new job a really great one and I think from their I will keep mys... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend is cheating on me, is it all in my head or is my instinct right?
Q. I'm jealous of this girl and just by hearing her name makes me sick the entire day... I don't have proof that my boyfriend is cheating on me with this girl but I can't stop thinking about it. He always tells me nothing between them but I can't find...
A. 15 July 2011: I'm not sure about his feelings for her.
But he never talks to me about her neither mention her name in front of me because he is aware that I'm not comfortable and we might end up arguing again.
Everytime I'm gonna start asking him about his frie... (read in full...)
He said she was "just a friend".... should I believe it?
Q. Sorry this is long, Im just so frustrated! I'm not sure if I even want to know or not, but this thought has been troubling me for a while now. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. During the relationship I was concerned about him having feelings ...
A. 15 July 2011: I have been in you situation before. Well it's just that me and my bf always argue about this girl w/c he claims friend of his. He even met her before I came along on the picture. It's very annoying that even if we are together this girl would... (read in full...)
This one girl is always contacting my boyfriend, how can I stop worrying?
Q. I just recently got back with my 7 yrs boyfriend. We agreed to settle things after we got separated for a month and he said he will make up for the times we have been in bad terms and I told him I would do the same. Well we spent the entire week ...
A. 14 July 2011: Yes I think your definitely right I should stop reminding him of her.
They never had relationship of any kind aside from being friends but not anymore since he already kept distance from this girl that I really hate.
If she can't take away my boyfr... (read in full...)
I'm planning to send a friend to flirt with my bf and test his loyalty to me. Is this the right thing to do?
Q. Okay my boyfriend is acting kinda shady. There is this girl that just got a job as a salesperson and she's drop dead hott. She has a perfect body and she's engaged and she already slept with one of the workers he works with. And ever since she ...
A. 9 July 2011: I'm not sure if you would like the result of it but if you are ready then why don't you do it.
Just be prepared to took off just in case he does something wrong.
Guys are guys and their natures are different from ours.
Well if he doesn't do a... (read in full...)
Why does he treat me like this, I'm carrying his baby !
Q. I have a big problem im 7 months pregnant from a guy who is now disrespecting me, hes very abusive emotionally and physically. He calls me names the after day he told me he made out in a park with a girl he met on blackberry messager group. he keeps ...
A. 8 July 2011: Sounds terrible to me....
At your stage he should be supporting you because usually pg women are more sensitive and tends to make things worst.
But if your bf is like that your better of a single mom.
You have to prove to him that you deserve ... (read in full...)
I want to look experienced even though I'm not, help !!
Q. Hey so I've got a difficult situation to deal with. I really like a guy, and he really wants to have sex. I'm a virgin, but he thinks I'm not. I think I'm comfortable with vaginal sex, but he has somewhat of an obsession with getting head. I've ...
A. 8 July 2011: Huh??? Don't rush things out you are still very young...
I have 7 yrs relationship but I never wanted to give my guy a head. At first I was thinking if I did that I will lose respect from him and my self respect.
Initially thats what I thought ... (read in full...)
Spotting but still no period, am I pregnant ?
Q. hey i need some help urgently and i would really appreciate if someone answered this. okay so im 17 and i had sex a week ago(28th june). i was supposed to get my periods around the 4th to 7th july (my last period was on the 4th june). On the 7th of ...
A. 8 July 2011: just wait for a week I think some period change its cycle from 22,028, and I think 30 days. Sometimes I'm late for a week but its normal. Just make sure you and your bf are doing it safely ok.. But usually if you have sex a week before you period... (read in full...)
Why do women get involved with married men (or men who are in committed relationships) and stay with them for years together, waiting for "their man" to leave his wife/mate?
Q. Why do women (of all ages)get involved with married men (or men who are in committed relationships) and in some instances stay with them for many, many, years, waiting and hoping for "their man" to leave his wife/mate? Despite you academic success, ...
A. 8 July 2011: Frankly I don't know why they keep doing that. I mean its clear that they can hurt other people in some ways but they still do it. Consider affected parties first before staying in the relationship that you know from the start that would only harm ... (read in full...)
Will he ever stop cheating on his GF and be more than a FWB to me? He is my first lover
Q. So I dated this guy and we broke up on our month Anniversary and a month later we began to have sex. About every month we meet up once or twice to have sex. Most likely he is just using me because I am an easy target for him. He knows he's my firs...
A. 8 July 2011: Hahaha!!! Great comment there..... I think you have to make a decision w/c ever ways you will still lose it... Your relationship with him is in the wrong side so don't expect it will end at the right one... If you want him to respect you cut it of... (read in full...)
Should I come clean to my boyfriend?
Q. I have a really complicated situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating off and on for about 5 years and in March of this year we got back together after having been separated for about 7 months. For most of our relationship, we have been long ...
A. 8 July 2011: Yes I definitely agree with all the statements... OP badly needs help psychologically. I think you have very high self esteem to claim yourself to be found attractive and use it as an excuse for cheating. No matter how drunk you are you wouldn... (read in full...)
I love her but I keep catching her in lies, and she insists she's telling the truth even when lying right to my face!
Q. Sorry for the length of this one. Im in love with a girl I have been friends for 5yrs and lovers for 5 months. We were co-workers/friends about 5yrs ago, parted ways, kept in tough and now in love and happy for the most part. Only problem are the ...
A. 8 July 2011: With everything that you have said I don't know what to say to your gf... She is one of a kind and can't imagine someone that is inlove with you would do such things. You have no reason to be insecure about the past ex's because they are not bet... (read in full...)
What does this mean?
Q. My girlfriend is over in Norway for work and im here in the Philippines to finish school she left on May 12 from here. Well she told me last weekend that the friend she was staying with was getting ready to go meet some guys at a bar but her friend ...
A. 7 July 2011: Whats the question then???
I don't seem to find any problem except that your in LDR...
If you think she loves you then believe it...... (read in full...)
Should I come clean to my boyfriend?
Q. I have a really complicated situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating off and on for about 5 years and in March of this year we got back together after having been separated for about 7 months. For most of our relationship, we have been long ...
A. 5 July 2011: There is completely no excuse for cheating...
You've done it four times sure you can do it again..
Tell him and let him decide if he still wants you or not...
... (read in full...)
My Wife cheated two months into our marriage, will we ever be happy again??
Q. Recently I discovered that my wife of nearly ten years had an affair with a co-worker. As if this wasn't painful enough for me to deal with, I also learn't that this happened only two months into or marriage! Now I find myself constantly quest...
A. 5 July 2011: Yes I definitely agree with LoveGirl...
There is no excuse for cheating,,,
Ask yourself if you can ever trust her again bcoz I know that there will always be doubts in you mind that she maybe doing something wrong..
If that happens to me would not... (read in full...)
He told me that sometimes he hates that I wasn't a virgin!
Q. I have a problem, i had lost my virginity a few years ago which was the biggest mistake of my life well i hadnt let my self date since then nine months ago i met my current bf i had told him everything that i had been through since he was still a ...
A. 5 July 2011: I think if he really loves you he should be willing to take and accept you as you are now.
It's important that you are with him and that you are faithful.
We can never change the past but I know we regret it's just that we can't do anything... (read in full...)
She cheated on me, then broke up with me and started a new relationship....but now she wants to come back! What should I do?
Q. My galfrend confessed that she slept with another man. I forgave her. But she insisted to break up... Two weeks later i discovered she is having another relationship. Now she is calling,she want 2 come back. I dont trust her any more. What do you ...
A. 5 July 2011: She cheated once she can do it again..
Find someone who can be faithful to you in all means...
You deserve better than her kind...
Good luck... (read in full...)
How do I end a 7 month relationship?
Q. How do I ditch my boyfriend? We've been together 7 months, but he's recently started acting different and I think there is another girl but dont want to jump to conlcusions. He hasnt been acting like a boyfriend, he never has time for me, he's alw...
A. 4 July 2011: Yes you should meet up with him and tell him how you feel.
Not seeing him for long and making lots of reasons not to see you are signs that the relationship is falling apart or either he is cheating on you.
Tell it to his face that you don't li... (read in full...)
Half of me says I should stay because I love her, the other half says leave because she's a cheater....what should I do?
Q. So i had been with my current girlfriend for 1 and a half years. we met in senior year of high school fell deeply in love it was great i couldnt tell you how strong my love for her was..i was gonna marry her i was completely commited to her. Then ...
A. 4 July 2011: well base on your detailed story I can tell that she had been unfaithful to you for so many times and honestly I hate cheaters.
If you love the person you would never cheat on them even if they are far or you are drunk.
There is no excuse for chea... (read in full...)
Question for the ladies: Do you find that there's a lot of variation from one man to the next in terms of how good the sex is, or do the vast majority of men tend to fall roughly in the middle range?
Q. Question for the ladies: do you find that there's a lot of variation from one man to the next in terms of how good the sex is, or do the vast majority of men tend to fall roughly in the middle range? As a man, I'd have to say the old saying that ...
A. 1 July 2011: Ive only been with one man so pretty much I can't compare with others on how were they... But sex is good especially when you are very mush in love with that person...... (read in full...)
We have a great relationship except for the fact that I am just his girlfriend, and he doesn't EVER want to marry me.
Q. I hope someone can help me with this problem. I am back in the dating scene after 10 years of marriage. I NEVER thought I would want to get married again, but I have found someone that I don't want to live without. When we began dating, I made i...
A. 1 July 2011: Well of course all women would want to get married right. It's just a piece of paper for some but for me I would still prefer marriage. If he loves you that much no matter what the reason is behind no getting married he should stand for you. You ca... (read in full...)
Please helppp! should I try to save my relationship or ended?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now. He is 36 years old and I'm 20. At the Beginning of our relationship everything was perfect, we used to go out to dinner, watch movies, go for walks at the park. We had our issues along in the ...
A. 29 June 2011: I could relate in your situation and I guess guys usually are like that. From the beginning all nice and sweet but at times they get tired. You know my bf is like yours, Every time I call him he tells me he is very busy and I keep trying to call h... (read in full...)
Depression has gotten worse now that my BF has broken up with me, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend has broken up with me, because I recently I have been stuck in a depressive episode, due to a load of family crap with my parents. Over the last 2 years I have had 2 nervous breakdowns, 8 different anti-depressants, counsell...
A. 29 June 2011: Sorry that you are feeling this way for a long time. I had been depressed myself for months well not because of family issues but merely because the relationship that I have is not going too well. Everyday when I wake up I have to cry and then again ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with guys and big boobs?
Q. What is it about big boobs that guys like so much? I have small breasts, small waist and a big, round butt! My friends tell me I have a great body and that I should be proud, but there's something I don't get. I don't seem to receive that much ...
A. 29 June 2011: Well honestly I have gifted ones too but I don't like it... I'm getting too much attention and I would prefer not to have those. Even if I just wore not too sexy clothes guys would always look at me even when I'm with my bf. I felt a little ... (read in full...)
I finally left my husband of 5 years who cheated on me many times.. but I don't know how to deal with the pain
Q. how do you survive after the cheating..? i finally left my husband for 5 years who cheated on me many times.. but i don't know how to deal with the pain ...
A. 28 June 2011: It's very frustrating I know. Ive been under a lot of stress lately because of the thought that my bf is cheating on me. I know it would be very hard to move on plus the breaking up is very bad. But I'm sure you get through it. We just need to be ... (read in full...)
I turned his marriage proposal down 3 years ago but I'm ready now! What should I do?
Q. My bf ask me to marry him 3 yrs ago but I said I'm not ready yet and I still want to live my life being single. I feel that he hated me for doing that so he punishes me all the time for being rude to me and not being appreciative. Sometimes I ...
A. 28 June 2011: Well partly I'm taking the blame for some of his actions... If I have been a good gf to him he would have been nicer to me but I wasn't. Now that I'm trying to be a good gf he does not appreciate it at all. It seems he is blaming me for everything ... (read in full...)
BF unexpectedly dumped me. I need some support
Q. Hey, I'm really devastated right now and really hurt. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. When it happened i felt as if i couldn't breathe. I mean, he just broke up with me out the blue. The day before the break up we were all fine. He sai...
A. 27 June 2011: Breaks my heart hearing another woman like me is hurting as much as I do. Seems to me almost all of us have been there as well... We cannot avoid heartbreaks and to be honest I'm feeling same thing as you do.. It's very hard to let go of the person ... (read in full...)
My lover is married, how do I get people to stop judging me?
Q. I'm so fed up of people judging me for being with a married man. Once again my best friend has broadcasted on facebook that I am a homewrecker and my boyfriend will only cheat on me blah blah blah I started seeing this man a year ago but never as...
A. 27 June 2011: Yeah definitely agree with chigirl... If you don't want people to judge you do the right thing... You can't be with this man for life not without ruining his family.
Come to think of it, what if you dad had another woman???
How would you and your... (read in full...)
I don't have the heart to leave this relationship, but I don't want to waste my time either.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for five years now, both recently graduated from college, and we're living our lives in the "real world" with full-time careers. Marriage is something that we both don't want until we're in our mid/late-twenties. However, ...
A. 27 June 2011: Yup definitely agree with Luv Lost there.... Im at my 20's as well and very busy with work. My bf only see me once in 2 weeks since last year. Early this year he started telling me you look ugly and not yourself lately... I didn't mind at first ... (read in full...)
What would you do if a pretty young girl was chasing your boyfriend?
Q. What would you do if there is this pretty young girl chasing over your boyfriend??? To make things worst they live in nearby place and I'm miles apart from my boyfriend now... I'm clueless on what is going on since I'm in a very far away place right ...
A. 27 June 2011: Yes I know I should trust him more... This girl just taking advantage of the situation that we are in right now. It was funny since my bf knew her first before he even met me but still never took the opportunity to ask her out... I think there is ... (read in full...)
How would you know your boyfriend is cheating?
Q. How would you know that your boyfriend is cheating on you??? What strong signs that he is doing it???...
A. 26 June 2011: Thanks Abella.. This is very helpful to me since I'm really having hard time figuring out my bf... I need to understand more so I could adjust better and not make some false assumptions base on behaviors that I'm seeing! ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is a girl, and I feel jealous when they hang out!
Q. My boyfriend's best friend is a girl. She's a good friend of mine and really nice and we're pretty close. I don't want to, but every time he hangs out with her (which is like everyday) I get jealous. Recently, I've been on a 9 day trip and every day ...
A. 26 June 2011: I felt the same with this girl that my bf used to hang out also. We are far apart so this girl is with him almost everyday and even calls or text even when he is visiting at home if he got free time from work. My bf said need not to be jealous with ... (read in full...)
How would you know your boyfriend is cheating?
Q. How would you know that your boyfriend is cheating on you??? What strong signs that he is doing it???...
A. 26 June 2011: Well he has been like that since the day I met him. He shares things with me but he still keep secrets especially his job. He doesn't want to tell me since I wouldn't understand any and he don't want me to worry about it. He swears that he never ... (read in full...)
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