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20 August 2015: Today I’m feeling pretty shit, so I can either sit there and sulk or either do something about it. So I chose to do something about it. If I can’t make myself happy, I can try and at least put a smile on those that read this post. :D “Life is...
8 Golden rules!
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15 April 2011: Hiyaaaa, Ever since I've join this amazing website which wasn't long ago, there is many question about relationships failures like cheating, no spark and all that so I've decided to come up with 8 Golden Rules on relationship! So here are my inte...
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My man has ED. How can I support him through this and pleasure him in bed?
Q. I've been with my partner for 10 years and we have the most amazing relationship. More recently he has had trouble getting hard enough- or staying hard enough to have sex. I want to be clear- this isn't a problem for me in any way shape or form. I...
A. 25 August 2016: Hiya! Firstly communication is the key so it may be ideal to discuss things about what you like and don't like with regards to sex. For example introducing new aspect of your sex life by using toys, role play including the outfits, kinky sex a... (read in full...)
Will I get used to study life or are some people just not made for it?
Q. This is not a relationship question but if anyone may have some input to help me? Iv just started my first year of uni. One week in and i am SO overwhelmed. I haven't had to study since school (where i had a don't care attitude back then) I fee...
A. 13 February 2014: I feel you gurrrrrrrl! I know exactly what you feel like because I too am in University but I'm in 2nd year. In all honestly, it will get worse. The work load will increase and increase to the point where you can be on the brink of having a ... (read in full...)
My girfriend's drinking habits worry me.
Q. I am worried about my girlfriend's drinking to the point that I started recording mentally how much she drinks. I think she drinks more than all the women I ever knew. Here is the example: Monday, 2 drinks at home; Tuesday none; Wednesday 3 drinks...
A. 2 February 2014: Hiya,
You have got to be kidding me? That is one hell of a drinker!
Okay fair enough that people drink a glass or two to accompany their food but not a lot.
She needs to give her liver a break, and despite the fact that you have confronted ... (read in full...)
Why did she leave?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for over two years. Over the past few months, she has been through some stressful events - changing careers twice, finally finishing school, and dealing with the pressures of being an adult (bills, work, ...
A. 2 February 2014: Hiya,
Obviously you guys have been through a lot with stressful life changing so what your girlfriend need is a break. It sounds like she is having a breakdown and the best thing you can do is be a good sport. Support her.
And how do you do th... (read in full...)
He wants me to text dirty ...
Q. my boyfriend wants me to send him dirty/horny texts and i don't know what to write.i need some ideas please help....
A. 2 February 2014: Hiyaa!
Right... honestly straight up "no, don't do it".
Clearly you are in a state of confusion. You have a having doubts racing across your mind otherwise you wouldn't be posting this so you shouldn't do anything that you are uncomfortable wi... (read in full...)
Did my g/f forgive me for my stupid mistake?
Q. Hello, Second time poster here. But I really need some advice... Yesterday me and my friends went out, and we had a good time. My girlfriend showed up as well, everything was fine and we enjoyed our time. My friend, who was very drunk, annoyed ...
A. 4 July 2012: Hiyaaa,
Honestly I don’t see why she would be pissed coz you got a little annoyed by your friend but I think she thinks that the relationship could get a bit intense so I think that you just gotta show her that you can be a man that wont get into... (read in full...)
The man of my dreams has turned into a monster! Why do I always end up with abusive men?
Q. My partner of two years is moulding me to nothing. Where do i start.. The 1st year things were great i got sweet phone calls and txts and when he would come home he would tell me just how perfect i was he was perfect i had a constant smile on my ...
A. 4 July 2012: Hiyaaa,
Instantly I can spot a problem after reading what you wrote. This goes for everyone not just you… a man cannot change a women and a women cannot change a man. Whatever you do you cannot change a man ways just like your ex who is a crack addi... (read in full...)
Is going to the gym scary?
Q. Hiyaaaa, Well, I've got to a stage in my life where my body isn't going to go any slimmer and as in 6th form (college) we stopped having P.E lesson even though it wasn't exciting I still had fun and its you know exercising! I wanna start going ...
A. 26 June 2012: Hiya Guys,
Thanks you so much for your lovely response and sorry for the really late reply but I've joined a local gym and you guys are right its not that scary at all so I hope I can have a summer body by the end!
Ima FreAk
x... (read in full...)
How can I leave bad news friends behind?
Q. Hello, my apparent friend group just did something which definitley proved to me there not my friends. We all smoke weed and they've turned extremely aggresive and short tempered since they have. I recently called them fake friends and lately ...
A. 15 April 2012: Hiyaaa, You are a man mate for wanting to leave your old friends coz you don't wanna hang around with the wrong crowd. Once you get sucked into their world with drugs, sex and drinks it's soooo hard to get out of it. And during the future you r... (read in full...)
My hair is falling out and its really getting to me
Q. I'm 23 and have been losing my hair for about a year. I'm very paranoid. I used to have the barber thin my hair out because it was so thick and now its thin to the point of seeing my scalp. I had been losing hair around my temples for a few years ...
A. 12 April 2012: Hiyaaaa,
Firstly don't worry and don't panick! The more you worry the more your hair is gonna fall out coz of hormone inbalance.
Secondly, (nerd alert) your suppose to shed about 40-100 hair a day apparently.
So chillax! There are many ... (read in full...)
I told her how I felt and she has not spoke to me since! What should I do?
Q. actually i don't know what to say or ask, i really need some help or advices maybe because this thing just make me really stressed. and here's my situation. i met this girl a year ago from facebook, I met her family year earlier from facebook...
A. 26 March 2012: Hiyaaa, You should contact her and talk to her. Honestly if something bugs you that much you have to ask coz you'll never know! Contact her, facebook her and ask her is she okay or what not and slowly subtly ask her what you just said that does ... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out?
Q. Hi all! There is a girl that lives near me, she’s a hairdresser and my dad is friends with her dad. As she’s local and I know her dad and brother abit, I added her on Facebook. The thing is, I’ve fancied her for a while but don’t know her enough top ...
A. 26 March 2012: Hiyaaaa, You added her on facebook! Post a message saying hiya is your dad _____ (whatever her dad's name is) and you know on go from there. At least you have something to talk about, something to start the conversation off. The key thing t... (read in full...)
I still feel pain after the relationship had ended
Q. i was involved in a serious relationship with a guy for several years. Even though the relationship ended i still feel pain. what should i do?...
A. 12 March 2012: Hiyaaa, Don't punish yourself! Is the first thing you shouldn't do or blame yourself! Don't put yourself through that kinda torture! Obviously it's hard to get over your ex as you guys were in a serious relationship and its hard to get over tho... (read in full...)
What do I say to my crush?
Q. This sounds pretty pathetic, i mean i'm 27 for goodness sake and can easily talk to others, but i'm genuinely stumped on how to go about this!!! I work for a bookies and recently transferred to a different shop closer to home. Whilst in my old...
A. 5 March 2012: Hiyaaaa, That is really sweet that you done for him as you made the move first so you should carry on leading! This isn't a bad thing because it shows you're confident and guys love that! You should send him a message on facebook you know ask... (read in full...)
Too shy to ask my boyfriend to kiss me! Help!
Q. Hi I'm 13 and i am shy around my bf and i really want him to kiss me any advice???...
A. 3 February 2012: Hiyaaa,
Firstly! Girls can kiss guys! It doesn't always have to be guy kissing girls!!!!!!!!!!
You can go on a date with your boyfriend like to the movies or anything you know just hang around and have fun, make sure you look into his eyes or... (read in full...)
Will I ever get over her?
Q. As with many people on here before me, I find I am suffering from a period of emotional torment to do with the girl I loved briefly for nine months and who broke my heart repeatedly because she was not ready in her own mind for a new relationship ...
A. 2 February 2012: Hiyaaa,
You're normal!
No need to seek a counsellor just believe in yourself and you will get over her.
The best treatment mate is time, you just gotta have patience and slowly it you will get over her. I know the thinking and the constan... (read in full...)
Please help, I'm insecure!
Q. I am crazy in love with my boyfriend and he really is a great person. But I am really feeling insecure at the moment... I'm over weight and live quite a ways away and haven't gotten to see him much. But thing is he used to be very popular back in ...
A. 2 February 2012: Hiyaaaa,
Firstly love can make someone do crazy things. It's the power of lurveeee. You shouldn't feel so insecure and focus on loving your boyfriend.
Stop stalking his exes and all that and just focus on making him happy do the little thing... (read in full...)
I need motivation, how to lose weight?
Q. What are good weight loss exercises for over weight people? I physically can't do regular push ups so I'm trying to find new things I can do that will still work. I'm currently on weight watchers, but I feel I need more motivation... Any help would ...
A. 2 February 2012: Hiyaaa,
Don't worry love, I can't even do one push up that's how bad my upper body strength is.
The thing is, losing weight is easy but it's keeping it off that is hard. You should think of weight lost as a lifestyle change, not just a tempo... (read in full...)
Will I ever get over her?
Q. As with many people on here before me, I find I am suffering from a period of emotional torment to do with the girl I loved briefly for nine months and who broke my heart repeatedly because she was not ready in her own mind for a new relationship ...
A. 2 February 2012: Hiyaaa,
Sounds like you can't move on from this woman.
Sometimes things aren't meant to be so you must move on and face bigger challenges.
These feelings will go away if you try and is determined to get over her, because I've noticed tha... (read in full...)
How do you move on when you still have hope for reconciliation?
Q. We broke up 2 weeks ago. Tried to be friends but I love him to much to stay 'friendzoned'. I want him and miss him terribly, even though the breakup was inevitable. Unfortunately, the last bit of contact we had was pretty ugly, and the only time ...
A. 14 January 2012: Hiyaaaa,
Things happen for a reason. It's must be heartbreaking for you to go through this but time will heal.
The thing is there are things that are easier left broken like in your case, imagine your ex in front of you and you walk up to him b... (read in full...)
I'm a boy and I like the guy that helps me in History. How do I tell him?
Q. I'm an 18 years old boy and I'm bi. I've got a guy that helps me in History and he's 28 and, to be honest, I really like him as a man. I'm 99.9% sure he's gay, based on the way he acts, speaks etc and sometimes, when he's into his teaching very much ...
A. 2 January 2012: Hiyaaaa,
Firstly, you can't assume he is gay. NEVER ASSUME. Trust me assuming just makes things 10 times worse.
You gotta ask straight up. It is awkward to ask a guy straight up "are you gay?" instead I dunno tell him a problem that you have. In... (read in full...)
I feel guilty doing things my mother disapproves of, but should I?
Q. Hi everyone, Over the past year, I have begun the process of "growing up". I'm getting ready to graduate from college, moving out of my mom's house, I've been applying for jobs, etc. In a few days, I'm leaving for a New Year's vacation with my ...
A. 2 January 2012: Hiyaaaa,
Every mum is bound to disapprove things I mean my mum disapprove tattoos and and any body piercing except ears, she even thinks the carilage piercing is extreme. So every mum has their own "what they hate". So don't worry it's perfectl... (read in full...)
My family calls me Dog
Q. Dear Aunts I started gaining weight past few weeks. I wanted to lose the weight as fast as possible because people were beggining to call me names. So i told my friend, and she told me that the fast way to lose the weight is to drink cola everyday...
A. 31 December 2011: Hiyaaaa, Firstly the problem with the weight gain, NEVER DRINK COKE! Honestly it doesn't work coz the sugar in coke can store as fat. But losing weight as fast as possible is crap coz it will make you gain all the weight back on but losing weight... (read in full...)
How do girls really feel about shy boys?
Q. Girls tell me that they love me but they say that's as a friend. What is their fucking problem? 2nd Question: what do girls feel for shy boys? ...
A. 31 December 2011: Hiyaaaa,
Girls!!!!!! We are soooo complicated!!!
Firstly, they say the love you as a friend coz maybe you treat them as a friend. If you carry a girls handbag, talk about girly things like make up, nails, and deep feelings, girls will take ... (read in full...)
Ways to get over the crush who rejected you?
Q. Best and most effective ways to get over the crush who rejected you? It feels like I've tried everything but it still doesn't seem to help. I did what most people would say; "Cut ALL contact". And now a friend of mine told me that this girl h...
A. 31 December 2011: Hiyaaaa,
Best way to move on from a girl or any lover to be honest is think of the bad times you've had together. Everytime you look at her think of how she broke your heart and the fights that you guys had.
Don't cut her outta your life that i... (read in full...)
I met this girl but she has a boyfriend. Can we still hang out?
Q. Hey guys and girls. Happy holidays :D Hope you people had lots of fun. Alright here's the help I need. I meet this girl at a formal like around 1 week ago for like an Religious Catholic Organization. Alright I meet her, I don't wanna over board...
A. 29 December 2011: Hiyaaaaa,
Yhhh you definitely hang around with her but you need to be careful.
Don't fall into the trap which what usually happens that you end up falling for her and she too and you guys secretly date or have weird confusion and then a just ... (read in full...)
Dating again and need some advice!
Q. Hi all! Happy Holidays!! I need advice please. I'm dating again after an 8 year relationship. I've been single for the last 3 years finishing college and getting on my feet. I'm 30 now and dating has really changed in my eyes. also, I was so young ...
A. 26 December 2011: Hiyaaa, Firstly be yourself honey, that is all I can say. Question wise, don't be to noisy let everything flow smoothly and don't be curious! Curiosity kills! I read this psychology book and that asking interesting questions that people on... (read in full...)
Should I walk away from this relationship for my partners sake?
Q. Ok so I have asked for help here before and you aunts have been so sweet to me. This is an actual relationship question. Basically as some of you know I'm trasnsgender. Born into a male body but defiantly female inside. I do have trouble finding ...
A. 26 December 2011: Hiyaaaaa, Clearly you definitely love this woman, and she is confused by this maybe it's coz everything happened so fast but you should give her time. If you walk out on her, you will regret it for the rest of your life because you won't know t... (read in full...)
What are opinions about male menopause?
Q. I was wondering about your opinion, about male menopause . Some doctors believe it, when man has problems with libido,or getting an erection, it is explained, with this new term. But I have an extreme case of this, if it is true, and my ...
A. 17 December 2011: Hiyaaaa,
I did do a little research just to see if male had menopause symptoms just for a laugh and they actually do.
Obviously it's not called menopause but "andropause". if you go on google and tyle andropause.org.uk it's a great website abou... (read in full...)
I cant make myself leave him even though I know I should!
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my bf for 2 years. I never really introduced me to his friends as gf. For them i was just his friend, he is not cheating on me, so i never really raised any issues on it. He never really talked about our future. Yesterday he...
A. 12 December 2011: Hiyaaaaa, Introverts! Nothing wrong with being an introvert! You just gotta find some introvert friends! I know you know that you should leave him so I'm not gonna bang on about it even though YOU SHOULD!!!! Honestly I think you deserve be... (read in full...)
Am I getting used again and if so how can I stop myself feeling this way about him?
Q. I split up with my partner of 18 years this year as we had a shambolic relationship, i was totally neglected and just felt used by him. Since I got a new lease of life, i lost 4 stone in weight and made a lot of new friends. Unfortunately i have ...
A. 12 December 2011: Hiyaaaa, Friends with benefits is never good honey because it always develop into a actual relationship where you get feelings from that guy even though you're not suppose to because you guys made a deal... save it for the bedroom and nothing else... (read in full...)
How can I draw boys attention to me without turning into a slut?
Q. how can i draw boys attention to me without turning in to a slut? ive never had a boyfriend, not even a little girl relationship, i think im ready for one now but i dont have the confidence to tell anyone that i have the hots for them, i myself dont ...
A. 13 November 2011: Hiyaaaa, Don't be ashamed that you haven't been in a relationship, trust me it's best not to be in a relationship now I mean no offence, secondary school (high school) relationship don't last. There is always something that will always be someth... (read in full...)
Broke up with my girl, and I need advise on how to make friends
Q. Hello I am 19 year old male and I have no friends. I lost my female best friend 2 months ago and my girlfriend 3 days ago(it was a mutual agreement, she didn't dump me). I started studying economics this year and it is still hard for me to find one ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hiyaaaaa, Making friends is not has hard as you think. People think OMG making friends arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh (running while screaming!) Here are my tips of making friends: 1) ALWAYS SMILE!!!!!!!!!!! :D You have to smile always s... (read in full...)
I enjoy going out. But guys, in error, think I'm ready for one night stands. Nooo.! But am I missing out ?
Q. i enjoy going out and having a good time with friends, but often guys assume this means that i'm down for one night stands. i've only slept with one guy in my life and he was my ex boyfriend, but now i feel like guys are not even interested in you ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hiyaaaa, Everyone has different views on life, love and many things and just because you believe in something different from your friends doesn't make you weird, abnormal or any other adjective looool. Your just careful which is a good thing an... (read in full...)
Help with OCD paper?
Q. Hi! I'm a freshman in college and in my Psychology class I had to choose a topic for my paper. I chose OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)out of a list of similar topics. It has to be in APA format. Anyways I know what OCD is, but I have no idea on ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hiyaaaa, I LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEE PSYCHOLOGY!!!! So I can help you with that! What you could write in this paper is firstly what is it you know with the quirky fun introduction with an explaination of OCD. Then you could write about symptoms ... (read in full...)
I'm married but want to be free but haven't even taken one step to do anything!
Q. hi everyone I would appreciate your help and advice. I am 39 and after 12 years of marriage I have had enough - I cannot go into all the detail here but I have tried very hard to make a marriage work with a selfish man who regularly puts me down ...
A. 15 September 2011: Hiyaaaaa,
Honestly what I think you could do this I know it's gonna be hard and you're probably gonna think its a bad idea but give it one more chance with your husband. Sort it out, go to marriage counselling and when you trust him fully then you... (read in full...)
Should I keep this baby? I've already had 2 abortions but I think I want to keep this one, but my boyfriend isnt supportive...
Q. hi everyone. I am in a big dilemma. I just found out that I am pregnant. The problem is that my boyfriend is not supportive at all. He actually says that he doesnt want a baby with me.. I have already had two abortions, the last one in february. I ...
A. 8 September 2011: Hiyaaaa,
If you want the baby just keep it. No point in having an abortion no offence, first time ok might let you off but this is the second time.
The more you have an abortion the more karma your gonna get and plus getting an abortion is ... (read in full...)
I am dating an older woman,what issues could come up due to the age gap?
Q. I'm 25 and my girlfriend is 37. Why is it that I get criticism over the age gap from people who I see? I was in a local pizza takeaway joint when the guy behind the counter said "here's the pizza for you and your mum!" I've also had criticism...
A. 26 August 2011: Hiyaaaaa, Honestly some people are just belligerent, they like to have an excuse to start a fight. What I can really say is f**k them looooooooooool but what I can strongly recommend is that you shouldn't pick a fight them them don't play fire ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue this thing? Does it look positive?
Q. Ok, I have had a crush on this girl for about a year, and noticed she was flirting with me. In fact she hired me in to the facility I worked in, she worked In human resources. Anyway I quit the job and kept coming back just to visit and every time I ...
A. 22 August 2011: Hiyaaa, Why not? I don't see why not. The only problem with pursuing this relationship thing is that it might be a bit too soon. The girl you like just broke up with her fiancee a month ago and a lot happened in their relatipnship which s... (read in full...)
Am I gay, bi or straight?
Q. i'm 23 and i'm really confused about my sexuality and have been questioning it for many years now, i used to find women very attractive and i even had a girlfriend once but i ended it because it felt awkward and there was no more feelings after the ...
A. 22 August 2011: Hiyaaaa, Well I think that you could of been in a bad relationship which made you feel dull with women relationship (please correct me if I'm wrong). Nothing wrong with having feelings with the opposite sex but to make sure that you know what ... (read in full...)
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