My niece is sleeping with my ex boyfriend. Should I confront her?
Q. I was involved with a guy for a period of time. I left him because of his womanising ways. Since then my niece saw it fit to contact him and send him dirty pictures of herself to him and he send to her. My niece knew he and I were involved. I ...
A. 22 January 2013: Its true you dont have any say in it and honestly it sounds like they are good for each other. You were right to leave. Hes her problem now. It is dipicable Im sure your family thinks so too. Try to keep yourself busy and dont think about it.... (read in full...)
Feeling neglected. Why doesn't my partner want to make love?
Q. Me and my partner have been together 2 and a half years and we love each other dearly. He is very affectionate and cuddles me and kisses me but when it's time for bed he just turns over and goes to sleep. Leaving me feeling frustrated, hurt and ...
A. 22 January 2013: What is his situation like? Does he work alot? Watch porn, masturbate ? Its very frusterating and I sympathize with you. It seems talking doesnt do much good. Does he have a low sex drive? How long has it been this way?... (read in full...)
Am I bound by this contract?
Q. I live and am employed in California. When we were hired, we signed a contract stating we must give a 1 months notice before quitting. I want to leave as soon as possible because I have a new job offer but I still have to stay an extra month. Do I ...
A. 25 September 2012: Yes. A contract is a contract. They may let you go sooner, if they can find the staff. If not, you do have to abide by that. You could always not show up, but it could probably be taken to court. Idk how they would or what they would do though. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a friend to sleep with your FWB?
Q. My very close friend slept with a fwb of mine and has not come out and told me herself. I am so hurt by this, but other people who I have spoken to don’t understand why I should be as bothered as he is only a FWB and therefore he doesn’t mean ...
A. 24 September 2012: With my fwb (or when i had them when i was single) i always have an agreement. We are both to be monogamous to each other regarding being physical. If we however end up being physical w anyone else, we tell eachother. I have this arrangement so i ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my parents that not getting another dog is the right choice for me?
Q. My rat terrier is 15 years old and I got him when I was 12 years old. It was great having a dog growing up but after he dies, I do not want another dog. My problem is my parents are making a big deal about me not getting another dog after he die...
A. 24 September 2012: I used to be surrounded by animals 24/7 since i was 12. I was a caretaker for a ranch horses, poultry, dogs, cats, an occasional bobcat cub, or baby bull. Along w the pets i had at home. Now, im grown i have pets 2 dogs 2 cats, 12 yes 12 turtles and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his child are a pair of spoilt brats!
Q. Okay, so i have been with my bf for two years now, he has a 4 yr old of his own and i have a 6 and 8 yr old. My bf takes his son every weekend and whenever his son is here i dread it, i know i sound horrible but i treat all children the same so if ...
A. 24 September 2012: Wow you think you were too harsh? I would have taken him and put him on time out or left and threw him in his room for jumping all over like that. He definitly would have gotten a spanking for hurting others. I guess im no nonsense and provide tough ... (read in full...)
How do I get this situation sorted? My home is not big enough for all this. And my sister contributes nothing.
Q. ModNote: two interlinked posts combined Dear cupid,i live in a two bedroom apartment with my three young boys. They used to have their own room. My sister move in with us which i thought was going to be for a short time. She has a two yr old son ...
A. 22 September 2012: You should go to the sheriffs office and see what you can do legally. In the u.s. It doesnt matter if the person contributes or not legally if they get their mail there you have to go through the eviction process and then give them 60 days. ... (read in full...)
Situation with my dad and his neighbour is getting out of hand, what can we do to help the situation?
Q. I am writing this on behalf of my Dad, as none of us are too sure what to do any more. About a year ago, a man in his mid twenties moved in next door to my Mum and Dad. Due to his age, my Dad instantly started worrying that this man was going to...
A. 19 September 2012: Sounds as if you have done all you can. The police monitoring the noise levels and parties is all you can really do. Arent there laws about playing loud music? In US. We can't play loud music after ten pm or we can get fined if they warn us and we c... (read in full...)
Can you break your hymen during masturbation?
Q. Im a 19year old virgin girl who has become quite addicted to porn and mustarbation..thing is i want o wait till marriage so if anyone can answer me truthfully if its possible to push back or break the hymen after mustarbating by opening my legs high ...
A. 19 September 2012: I broke mine at the age of 14 by jumping in... a pool, yes... A pool. It hurt like a mo.fo. and i bled quite a bit. So anything can break ur hymen. Ive ridden horses a vast majority of my life and of all things it was a pool. Kinda glad though ... (read in full...)
Is this implantation cramp or normal cramps?
Q. A few days ago i fingered my girlfriend that might have traces of dry precum on my finger,4 days later she is feeling these cramps,she said that it feels like her period is coming earlier than usual. Our clothes and everything were on so there is ...
A. 19 September 2012: I have two kids and i have to say that implantation "cramps" really dont feel like cramps, at least they didnt for me, it felt like a tinge of pain panging in my uterus. But not a cramp. But a lot of times sex or getting fingered maybe three days or ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting to the constant texts and calls
Q. Boyfriend constantly texting and calling another woman.... Please help, i have been with my partner for 4years and to be honest it hasnt been easy, after the 1st year he dumped me as he had feelings for a female friend. we got back together a...
A. 19 September 2012: You have two obvious choices. Talking to him has not helped. Option one you tell him hes lied because he didnt keep up his end of the bargain. At this point give him an ultimatetum. He cuts all contact with her. If he doesnt, leave him because ... (read in full...)
Isn't it a bit extreme for my boyfriend to just cut certain people out of his life?
Q. This really weird interaction happened when I was out with my boyfriend. We were walking along holding hands. We saw a friend of his in the street, my boyfriend called out to him to say hi. Then they were chatting briefly and then his friend looked ...
A. 19 September 2012: My fiancee does the same thing. He calls it "cutting out the cancer." friends that do more harm than good and arent decent enough to be considered friends. Its not you he doesnt trust, its them. If they can hit on you in front of him, they can also ... (read in full...)
How do I let my wife know I found her vibrators without it looking like I was snooping?
Q. Hi Married for 10 yrs, wife and I have great sex, when we have it. Over the last 6 mth or so, we only have sex when she drinks, which is maybe once a month. I heard all the excuses...You smell like choclate, you smell like garlic, you are ...
A. 9 September 2012: Just tell her exactly what you posted here and tell her that you would gladly use them on her when you have sex. just tell her what you think, tell her you think its sexy and but that you wish you would have sex more often. When you had sex before ... (read in full...)
Why do women get post natal depression, while others haven't found love/ struggle with infertility?
Q. Why would you get post natal depression? What is there to get depressed about? As I haven't had children I can't understand. As opposed to be single and getting depressed because you haven't met The right person yet and don't know if you will...
A. 8 September 2012: Post partum depression is usually caused by a chemical imbalance. Its not a choice by any means. Some people say that they are depressed when they are very sad and going through hard times, and while that is essentially depression, clinical... (read in full...)
Our anniversary is on a Thursday but he wants to go out on Saturday. Why?
Q. it's me and my boyfriends 1 year anniversary next month. I mentioned it and he said he'd already planned to take me to a certain restaurant I like so I'm happy that he's put some thought into it. our anniversary falls on a Thursday but he wants to ...
A. 30 August 2012: I agree. Maybe saturday is just a day where hes certain hes free and knows your schedules dont conflict. Weeks can get busy so he wants to plan on his down time to make sure he can take you out. Im just assuming. But you should be happy and consider ... (read in full...)
What's with men and the way they talk about girls?
Q. My boyfriends best friend was coming home for the first time,I have never met this guy and I wanted to create a good impression cuz he is my boyfriends best friend..so I woke up made lunch,cleaned the place..and then his friend came over we had ...
A. 29 August 2012: I have to disagree with so confused. Its disrespectful certainly, but then think about how we talk about men with our girl friends. Ex is he hot? Hows the sex? Have you seen it, how big is his package? Lol i know ive done that with my friends not ... (read in full...)
Tips on having sexual intercourse? It will be the first time for both of us.
Q. hi, i'm an 18 year old girl. I was just wondering if you guys could give me any tips and suggestions for my first time having sexual intercourse! It will be both his and mine firt time. Thank you! (:...
A. 29 August 2012: I remember my first time. Poor guy tried everything to make my first time good and make me orgasm. So first and foremost no expectations. Second sex is portrayed as this amazing blissful experience and it can be very good but its definitly ... (read in full...)
Step-dad is mean:( Please help!!:(
Q. My mom has been married to my step-dad for 2 years now. Whenever he gets mad at me my mom takes his side. He also told me to "shut-up" and "that no one including my mom doesn't care for me". He is truly rude and mean to me behind my mother...
A. 28 August 2012: First before you do anything i think you should get a job and if you already have one you should start putting away money so you can move out. If your age bracket 18~21 is correct then you arent exactly running away since technically you are an ... (read in full...)
Does watching lesbian porn mean I'm bisexual?
Q. Hi I am a 24 year old virgin,I don't believe in sex before marriage,I believe in abstinence..I know some of you may think its crazy but these are my values,luckily the men I have dated understood this about me and never pressured me into sex.. I...
A. 28 August 2012: Pornography is all visual and fantasy and what you may like in porn doesnt mean you will like it in reality. I think you are scaring yourself. I did that too before i had sex. I was so scared it would be the most painful thing, and yes it did sting ... (read in full...)
He appears to be immature and emotionally vulnerable. Please help me !!!
Q. I am going through a difficult phase of my life and I wanted to seek an expert's advice on my situation. I am in a relationship with a guy from almost 2 years. He is 2 years younger than me ( i am 28 and he is 26). We really like each other and we ...
A. 28 August 2012: I agree with you one hundred percent. If he is not ready to give up sex with other women he is not ready to commit. While sex does play into the relationship and is important to a relationship there is more to a relationship than just sex. Love, ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion two weeks ago and feel lonely and depressed ever since
Q. I had an abortion two weeks ago, and Im feeling so alone. I got pregnant by this boy I know, and when I told him all he said was get rid of it and I didn't hear off him after (still haven't to this day as he blocked me on Facebook and blo...
A. 28 August 2012: I went through a similar situation with an ex bf. He used me and was selfish through the relationship, but i was so blind. I found out i was preg on my 20th birthday, he told me if i got rid of it it would basically solve our problems, but i wanted ... (read in full...)
I love kids but I don't want to give birth because I'm just terrified of the pain of delivery!
Q. I am 23 years old..I have always loved kids,I see them around I make it a point to go to them,play with them..I would do anything to have one..and I used to always tell my friends that I would want to adopt a baby.. Now fast forward to my current ...
A. 26 August 2012: I agree with person12345 and honeypie. It sounds like you may have a phoebia. Im 23 also i have 2 kids 2yrs and 15mos and we are planning a 3rd in a few yrs. Honestly giving birth is not that bad. It hurts yes but its not the worst pain. I had ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is putting his dog before our relationship!
Q. This situation is very complicated. Myself and my partner have been together and split up again several times in the past. Each time we split up we have got back together and this time I am totally ready to put 100% into making our relationship work ...
A. 24 August 2012: Ppl like your bf can be annoying. I have rehabilitated dogs, horses, birds, etc and the worst thing you can do is live your life around your pet. If your animal isnt balanced you have to teach them and help them to be. He needs to lay down the... (read in full...)
I love my husband but his habits of selfishness and laziness are starting to makes me feel unimportant and undervalued, and is putting me into a state of depression.
Q. I love my husband, but his habits of selfishness and laziness are starting to really eat at me. While I feel he loves me, I don't feel he cares about me. He doesn't seem at all concerned with what I might need or want, and everything seems devoted ...
A. 23 August 2012: I assume you have talked to him about it and if you havent do so asap. If he cannot change i would get a divorce because that is not a husband. You may as well get paid for what your doing. I had a boyfriend that was very much like your husband and ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but his habits of selfishness and laziness are starting to makes me feel unimportant and undervalued, and is putting me into a state of depression.
Q. I love my husband, but his habits of selfishness and laziness are starting to really eat at me. While I feel he loves me, I don't feel he cares about me. He doesn't seem at all concerned with what I might need or want, and everything seems devoted ...
A. 23 August 2012: Im sorry because it sounds like you are making excuses for him. Stop. People who love someone care about them and he doesnt care. Period. If you are supporting him and working cooking cleaning etc and hes just taking and taking then stop giving. ... (read in full...)
I am a cheater but is that really so bad?
Q. I am cheating on my GF. should i stop. i cant help it i like the excitement of chasing new women and when i see a beautiful woman im curious how it feels to be with her. but i like having something guaranteed at home. but people make it seem like a ...
A. 22 August 2012: How sick. How decietful. How sad for your gf. She deserves better. I do not understand people like you. I understand that you like to be with different people, i get that you want something stable at home, what i do not understand cheating! Why not ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with pubic hair growing back?
Q. For people who have sex regularly, how do you deal with the growing back of shaved pubic hair? It loses the smoothness after only 1-2 days, so doesn't it get uncomfortable for your partner with the stubble? Shaving the stubble creates hell for me. ...
A. 21 August 2012: I had a difficult time too. I used to shave everyother day and would get the worst razor burn. I have trouble waxing myself and it gets expensive and to me is a bit embarressing to go out and get it done. The creams can cause terrible chemical burns ... (read in full...)
Is this normal? To be told from your mother that they don't love you?
Q. I would like some opinions from parents:- Would you ever tell your child that you didn't love them? And be completely serious about it? and when I say child I mean a young child. I, myself am a mum and could never imagine in a million years ...
A. 18 August 2012: I agree with karlos in that perhaps there is more to the situation. However even if there was more to it i can imagine saying that to your own child or any young child really. I have two little boys 2.5 and 15 mos. And i will always love them. Even ... (read in full...)
I want him to get a divorce so we can marry. Why does his wife keep trying to get his attention? I want her gone.
Q. im living with a man twice my age. yes he could be my daddy. but i love him. he works hard, cooks for me, cleans. and i dont have to work. the problem is is that his wife is still in the picture. she just wont get the hint, that he loves me and n...
A. 15 August 2012: If he isnt divorced shes in the picture. Even when they do get divorced he pays her alimoney and shes in the picture. Technically hes cheating if they arent divorced yet. You need to look at the bigger picture other than just yourself and him. He ... (read in full...)
I think he's the ONE. He's cheating on his Gf to be with me. But why the delay in breaking up with his GF?
Q. There's this guy. And he's cheating on his girlfriend.. with me. I'm the 'other girl.' I honestly love him and think he's the one. However, he told me he's thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend to be with me, but he hasn't. It kill...
A. 14 August 2012: I agree with caring guy and stacy. Hes in a relationship. If he wanted to be with you he would have broken up with his gf. But he isnt because he doesnt want to. He has a gf that he has to work for and he has you for an easy lay. The one would ... (read in full...)
Sex every other day for 2 months, but I'm not pregnant yet!
Q. Hi! I'm almost 32, my hubby is almost 34. We've been trying to have a baby for 2 months now, having sex every other day. We're both healthy and in good shape, don't smoke and don't drink alcohol. Unfortunately, after two months, I'm not pregnant and ...
A. 14 August 2012: Drs say you should try for at least a year. Sex every other day is too often. I would reccomend just 2 per week and when you are ovulating. Stress even when you dont think ur stressed affects you getting pregnant. You should stop trying and just ... (read in full...)
She went to Vegas with her guy friends and came back shaven!
Q. My gf is very pretty and curvy. she has an issue with her weight and therefore, she has a problem being naked in front of me. she dresses sexy and wears pushup bras to work, but around me its time to hide the girls. i tell how sexy she is all the ...
A. 12 August 2012: I disagree. That is wierd. She should be comfortable around you enough to do those things. Did you ask her why she was trying to wear lingerie? Because that just doesnt sound right. I would talk with her, gently. Dont accuse her, but do ask to see ... (read in full...)
My mom and my ex were talking behind my back! Is this a violation of privacy or am I making a big deal out of this?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I have this issue and I am not sure how to handle it. I am 22 and live with my parents, but I pay them rent and utilities.That said, I had a boyfriend that I recently broke up with, but my family does not know, they just kno...
A. 11 August 2012: I dont really think thats snooping. Like the other aunts suggested she didnt know he was ur ex probably said the flowers were nice and then he said he didnt send them and she didnt want u to get upset esp cuz she didnt know. Now my mom snoops. I ... (read in full...)
What do you do in your bedroom? I need some idea's!
Q. Hi! So im just curious about how others or what others do in their bedrooms. I wouldnt say im trying to spice my sex life, but i would like to try something new that i havent thought of. I dont get much out of dressing up so its more for him. But i ...
A. 9 August 2012: We usually have sex 4-5 times a week sometimes more, occassionally less as we have kids ages 2 and 15mos and we both work. The thing is i am looking to keep my self wanting it. When i want it i really want it when i dont i do it but it doesnt feel ... (read in full...)
He didn't offer to take me home first, that is rude right?
Q. I met this guy at a club. I am not his date,he invited me to come over his place to watch movie together. so I came to his place and had a small conversation with him suddenly he invited his friends and left me alone. he ignored me and just h...
A. 8 August 2012: First i must stress how dangerous that is and could have been. You met him at a club didnt know him and went to his place. He invited his friends. You could have been gang raped. I know you probably think im exaggerating, but thats reality. You ... (read in full...)
When is flirting crossing a boundary?
Q. I've been with my bf for several years. There's something that bugs me about him. When we're out, if he sees an attractive woman he'll let her know she's hot with his expression. He'll raise his eyebrows and do something with his eyes, and the woman ...
A. 8 August 2012: That is disrespectful and if i was in your shoes or if my fiance did that to me, i would leave. Its rude. Im guessing hes in the same age bracket and is acting like a thirteen yr old boy with his hormones raging. I actually know thirteen year old ... (read in full...)
Difficulty in meeting other single people either for dating or friendship
Q. I have plenty of friends but they are all in one aspect of my life, the theatre. So, see each other a lot when rehearsing but much less when we are not. Mostly because they are all coupled and mostly with kids (because of our ages - we're all in ...
A. 8 August 2012: Ok so idk what part of england you are from but i just googled singles clubs in london and it gave some pretty good results, so try that and see how it goes.... (read in full...)
Why does he get angry when I don't want to socialize with his friends?
Q. Why does my bf get angry when ever his friends phone and make arrangements and I decline for good reason yet I'm not stopping him from joining them?I've been with him five years and we have major issues which he won't address like no sexual ...
A. 8 August 2012: Hes upset because he wants you to be apart of his life and share time with his friends. He wants to share his social life with you. Im sure you could come to a compromise, go out with them every so often, not all the time regardless if you like them ... (read in full...)
I want to become a stripper!
Q. I know people will read this and may think this sounds like a sleazy kinda job, but I really want to become a lap dancer (stripper) or my biggest dream is to be a burlesque dancer. it has always been my passion, I am an intelligent girl and left ...
A. 8 August 2012: I understand that you are craving attention. I did too growing up and at your age, even now i want to be admired looked up to and liked, but who doesnt? However in that type of environment they wont be admiring you or love you, they will be lusting ... (read in full...)
Does he regret marrying her and breaking up with me or is he just trying to be nice?
Q. okay so my ex of 16 months that i have a daughter with, him and i broke up 4 months ago he's married to a girl that he had been dating a month they've been married a month. he claims he is over me and has no feelings and that he is really in love ...
A. 7 August 2012: First off he has no license, wrecked her car and got pulled over... I can understand her dropping him off and picking him up. He is trying to buy diapers and things you may need to support you and his child, probably to avoid the legal system as far ... (read in full...)
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