Boyfriend has still kept nude pics of his ex despite being with me for 4 years and 2 kids together
Q. So I was trying to get photos off of my camera and save them to my external hard drive using my boyfriends computer. I Accidentally clicked on his porn folder (I don't care that he has porn saved to his computer) my eye was caught by a photo of...
A. 18 April 2017: Hahaha am with Chi girl on this... (read in full...)
Torn between two and don't know what to do
Q. I am 28 and my boyfriend Brad is 31. I work in healthcare and he is formwr military that has a good job. He and I have been dating for five years and it has been very, very rough kn those five years. We started as fwb and I saw other people. Right ...
A. 31 March 2017: From everything said here sounds like your partner is a real douche. You aren't married, no kids and he doesn't want any in the foreseeable future.
Wow so what are you wasting time with this guy for? You don't seem happy and your heart has alre... (read in full...)
I want our first kiss and it's a now or never situation. How do I plan it?
Q. Hi, The situation: in new york, upcoming third date, "now or never" kiss her or become friend zoned; afterwards, I leave the country for three weeks. She is gorgeous, smart and kind, and says a tad serious while attracted to guys who make her l...
A. 25 March 2017: Hey stop over thinking the whole thing! Just be relaxed, spontaneous and focus on having fun. It’s gonna be ok, and when you wanna take a kiss be a man and go for it. Promise she will love that you're taking charge of the whole situation. ... (read in full...)
Whose last name do I give to my baby?
Q. My mom thinks I should give the baby the fathers last name but I don't think I should because I'm not married to him and he isn't in the picture. Won't that be an issue at school for my son and wherever I take him, if we have different last nam...
A. 22 March 2017: If the child's dad isn't in the picture then he doesn't deserve the honor of having his last name given to the child. Give the baby your last name! ... (read in full...)
Will he freak when he finds I'm a virgin?
Q. Guys... what do you think if you get with someone who's a virgin? Ive met this guy and things are going well but he keeps turning things sexual. And well I've never done anything and still a virgin. I'm afraid when I tell him. He will freak out? ...
A. 1 January 2017: Hey it's OK to be a virgin and even more important to stay safe via abstinence, protection and getting each other tested ... (read in full...)
Should I try dating her again? She's a good friend but she's played me in the past
Q. I am unsure what to choose. I have know a girl for over 4 years. In the first year I met her, I knew she was seeing guys (mostly footballers), and basically having fun. I bided my time to wait until she stopped seeing guys and wanted something...
A. 28 October 2016: Dude am sorry to say this but you're a certifiable wuss!
The kinds of behaviors that you have been exhibiting are generally unattractive towards women. Trust me I have been there.
She's acting stressed out over you seeing another woman be... (read in full...)
Guy wants me to swing with him
Q. Me and this guy have been, not dating, but exclusive FWB. He been wanting a threesome. I ask what his other fantasy is. Sex in public. Lesser of two evils, I agreed to try. So he's been dragging me to sex shops. 6 months into the "relationship", he ...
A. 28 October 2016: Sorry sister but I think your relationship has come to the end of the road. You now have a choice of either walking uncharted territory or going your separate ways. Make a decision for YOU! ... (read in full...)
What compels him to still be asking about me considering we broke up so long ago?
Q. I'm just wondering what compels an ex-boyfriend to ask an immediate family member "how you are" almost 16 years after you broke up? I am led to believe that said ex asked specifically about me, and his current partner was present when he asked. ...
A. 28 August 2016: Why do you care after all this time? Keep moving on with your life unless you still have unresolved feelings for him... (read in full...)
I really do want to stop hurting my husband and my lover's wife. But how can I stop?
Q. If you want to judge, please stop reading this right now. I need advice, not lectures. I have been married for nearly 20 years now, no kids. I have never felt the need to seek fulfillment elsewhere since me and my husband have been truly happy...
A. 18 August 2016: You fall in that category of very selfish and self centred women I have met in past. What do you mean him not knowing you're cheating and exposing him to what health and emotional risks is not in his best interests? So you wanna scratch your... (read in full...)
I really do want to stop hurting my husband and my lover's wife. But how can I stop?
Q. If you want to judge, please stop reading this right now. I need advice, not lectures. I have been married for nearly 20 years now, no kids. I have never felt the need to seek fulfillment elsewhere since me and my husband have been truly happy...
A. 15 August 2016: If you genuinely felt love for your husband as you say this wouldn't be happening. I don't know what positive advice we can give you at this point. You haven't told us how long the affair has gone on as that can help us accurately share our thoughts ... (read in full...)
Nurses are nasty! I'm a nurse facing surgery and fear I'll be treated badly by other nurses!
Q. Im going into hospital soon for small surgery and worried the staff andnurses will treat me badly? The surgeon and anaesthetist know I'm a nurse as my own Dr told them! so now all the staff and nurses will know I am a nurse, I cannot even hide tha...
A. 27 July 2016: Hey try to be strong and stay composed. All will be well. It's surprising and funny that nurses can be seen universally in such dim light. My country is no different. But you will be ok. Take heart, and try do for yourself whatever you can muster ... (read in full...)
My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?
Q. Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...
A. 27 July 2016: Oh come on! This is such an old cliché story. The sex may be awesome but have you wondered why he is doing this to his wife? Why is he not giving her this great sex that all women crave. Surely is he not causing her great hurt whether she's aw... (read in full...)
I feel I need to discuss the contact my girlfriend had with my best friend while I was away, in order to rebuild trust!
Q. When I was overseas last year my best friend began texting my girlfriend and making excuses to call around and visit, they both didn't tell me at the time, just before I got back my gf told me about it, she said some texts where inappropriate ...
A. 5 March 2016: I think you should let her go and move on. Not really worth the hustle ... (read in full...)
Beautiful girlfriend makes me feel worthless
Q. I really need help. My girlfriend is threatening to break up with me and it seems all I do is not enough. Right now she's telling me she's broken up and that she doesn't want me. But come later that may change. It's the same yesterday. We agre...
A. 29 February 2016: Brother never let anyone, man or woman have you by the balls and squeeze them till they turn blue. She will never respect you! You know what I did when faced with a similar situation? I walked away. And guess what? She came back begging and sayi... (read in full...)
How do I accept, let go, and move on?
Q. How best can I accept an apology I never got (and never will), let go and move on? I am trying very hard to let go of the anger I feel- but it comes in waves- and unexpectedly. So many negative feelings- anger, disgust, resentment, guilt, shame. How ...
A. 5 February 2016: WHAT HAPPENED! We can't advise without knowing what is bringing on those feelings, what led to the break up? Who initiated it? Did you know that he was married? Etc etc etc. Talk to us!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend hinted that her ex was large!
Q. Okay, my gf claims she was a virgin. We are both just turned 18. I have had doubts stemming from us sleeping together the second time we were in a house together after being official for a couple of weeks, her mentioning her ex having a panic attack ...
A. 5 February 2016: Don't speak to her about it. DON'T!! It will only show your insecurities which won't do justice to your relationship. Trust me. Instead find a male buddy or more experienced guy to talk to,advise and teach you. Never whine or complain to your ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him a year ago. Is it okay to wish him a happy birthday this year?
Q. I dated someone for three months a year ago. We had a wonderful relationship but realized we wanted different things in life. We ended up having a serious talk on his birthday and I ended up breaking up with him. It was on decent terms but he was ...
A. 5 February 2016: No,leave him alone lest you dredge up painful memories yet he has moved on and forgotten the hurt you Caused him long ago.Just let it go! Don't know why, but l have a feeling you won't. All the best... (read in full...)
I'm dating 2 women and I'm afraid the first one will find out about the second one
Q. I am in love with two women,the first one we hav dated for 1year 6months and the other one just for 4months,bt am scared the first woman can find out...what should i do help?!!! ...
A. 21 January 2016: Dude the simplest thing to do is tell both of them and get them to understand that you are madly attracted to both of them, and that they should just learn to get along already.
You are risking the health of yourself as well as the two ladies w... (read in full...)
Are my dreams trustworthy?
Q. I am a 39 yr old married man. Few years ago I was abroad for 3 years with my wife for a work assignment where I met this single woman of my nationality who was working in the same organization as me and 10 years my junior. We became good friends, ...
A. 11 January 2016: Dude the dreams are just your loins speaking to you about this lust you feel for this lady.
Before we can attempt to dissect your issues kindly provide some information about your relationship troubles.
Ps- don't do anything stupid that you ... (read in full...)
Why couldn't he have come back in my life before I got married
Q. I feel my life is a movie right now and I need help please. Years ago when I was 22 (I'm now 34) I met and fell in love with this guy, my age and we were together almost 2 years. I was convinced he was "the one." He then got an opportunity to s...
A. 11 January 2016: This goes to show you really never fully or truly loved your current husband. What to do you ask. Well for one just be still and listen to that inner voice inside of you. How open is your communication relationship with your husband? Because... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of bad odor caused by too much sweating?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 and a girl. I've got a really bad problem. :( It's about sweating! I sweat a lot! The climate here is about 25'C on average. I can still handle the sweating part, but the odor not at all! I get it from my dad's side of the family...
A. 28 December 2015: Deodorant/ anti-perspirants n regular baths but ohh you don't like water! I think I have run out of suggestions for now. But as a side note; have you read about use of natural items like lemon, vinegar or bicarbonate of soda as home remedies for ... (read in full...)
Why can't I leave this pill popping pot smoking drunk?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and he's a major pill addict and smokes pot and is an alcoholic. Trust me I had no idea he did all these things when we started dating. We now live together with my ...
A. 28 December 2015: Seems you're madly, absurdly attracted to him, because for the life of me I don't get why you keep coming back. Maybe you have a better reason why?... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my ex! We talk all the time and I just can't move on. Advice?
Q. I had been dating this guy who I met online back 2014, we talked FOREVER and got to know each other so well, we got along, we agreed on everything, he was perfect for me.. He admitted he loved me over the phone (during those 5am calls that lasted 10 ...
A. 21 December 2015: why don't you get back together as I see no big bad red flags. It will help both of you learn each other and decide how relationship compatible you both are with each other... (read in full...)
She took the presents and ran
Q. Hello was dating this woman for a short time. I just gave her Christmas presents, then next day she broke up with me. Should I ask for them back?...
A. 20 December 2015: dude why are you showering her with gifts and you haven't known her that long. It sets a bad precedent and sends the wrong message to any woman. At least in my experience ladies prefer not to be given gifts after knowing one for so short a period ... (read in full...)
Am I a sexual interest or a potential friend?
Q. There is this married young lady who quite recently joined our workforce. From the first day she's been very friendly with me. I only work some of the day there as I go out every day to other places to do work. When I am in the area with her, our ...
A. 20 December 2015: dude I wouldn't take it seriously coz I'm used to such in my office but DUDE she's married!!! Stop entertaining such thoughts let alone asking about it ... (read in full...)
I had an extra marital affair and am wondering if I should go and see him or whether I'm becoming a stalker
Q. Extra marital affair (both married)- he broke up after 5+ years for the right reasons to be with his family and what we had right now is not enough. The love is pure there is no doubt. It's been a tortourous month..I messaged him for his last ...
A. 3 November 2015: Hey just wondering , have you considered leaving your husband?... (read in full...)
Why do some men turn really nasty when they dump you?
Q. Why do some men turn really nasty when they dump you? I had a bad fall out with my ex. We had only been seeing each other a short time but after a few months we fell out over a misunderstanding and he dropped me - just like that - no warning, noth...
A. 20 September 2015: Hey could you give us a little info into what the falling out was about? This could better help us trying to dissect his thinking and respond better to your questions ... (read in full...)
If you have a nasty partner, is it cheating if you find a few hours of solace and happiness with someone else?
Q. If your partner is nasty and doesn't miss any chance to belittle, criticize,and hurt you, is it considered cheating if you find a few hours of solace and happiness with someone else? I feel it isn't. ...
A. 20 September 2015: Why don't you just leave the nasty partner, what's holding you back??... (read in full...)
I faint sometimes when having sex
Q. i some times faint when having sex, due to my penis. it doesnt happen too often. some women don't know wot to do. i heav tried all sorts of creams and listen to many ideas. i do yoga and lots of sportss, and it never happens then. does it hurt ...
A. 28 August 2015: Ok ray I'm assuming you blackout as you ejaculate right?
Well that's not too crazy as I have that happen to me occasionally.
The women definitely won't mind the size so long as you use it well and know how to turn them on and get them wet
... (read in full...)
Could she be sleeping with other men, or intending to do so?
Q. My long term friend with benefits recently told me that she needed some space, and she was emphatic that I respect her wishes. Here's the confusing part: we still have sex a couple of times a month, and when I do leave her alone she will reach out ...
A. 17 August 2015: Hey who cares whether you are the complete package or not? Because at the end of the day you can't control what a woman thinks or feels BUT you can control what you think and feel and how you react. She wants space? I'd say give it to her, and h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is so insecure he is constantly accusing me of cheating and I haven't!
Q. I have a major problem. My boyfriend is 4 years younger than me (he just turned 20) and is SO insecure! I havent cheated on him yet from the very beginning he's accused me of it. He always says sorry when we fight about it, and that hes just ...
A. 12 August 2015: Hi sorry about what you go through with him. He is still immature and doesn't understand a lot. How you put up with him is beyond me unless the sex is really really really good. I used to be like that but struck out with so many chicks that I to... (read in full...)
He's 30. Should I try to enjoy some fun with this guy or back off?
Q. So, I met this guy and feel like there was an attraction between is. Since then, we've been chatting on Facebook and I feel well probably do coffee or something at some point. I know I'm getting a little ahead, but I've been thinking if I sh...
A. 26 July 2015: Is he 30 years old or 30 years OLDER?!... (read in full...)
How do I get confidence to make a move on him without alcohol?
Q. im feeling like a teen again - me and my friend have talked about having a relationship, we like each other in that way , we are in our 30s both shy but because of our shyness none of us have made a move on the other. we flirt, spend time with each ...
A. 15 January 2015: Hey that's really cool. Well me and my current girlfriend are both in our 30s.
Liked each other from the get go. She asked me out to a party she was hosting and well.... Let's say I picked up on her cues and took lead in nurturing the ... (read in full...)
Update: I Verbally Abuse My Boyfriend so He Will Pay Attention to Me
Q. Here's an update. After verbally abusing my boyfriend he broke up with me. But we hung out last week, and everything seemed to be back to normal. Should I ask him if we can get back together? Or should I just let it flow?...
A. 14 January 2015: Let it flow.... Good luck ... (read in full...)
My Mom got drunk and talked nasty when she met my boyfriend.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 9 months. We meet on a trip I did to Cuba. My sister and mom went to Cuba recently it was my mom first time meeting him. My sis already meet him. My mom really embarrassed me. She got drunk like always and she ...
A. 12 January 2015: Hey, that's usually tough and I will be straight with you, it probably won't get any easier and there is no answer on how to handle issues with your mom.
She will just have to deal with it as you have decided on being with this guy.
You can't ... (read in full...)
Will I always regret not sleeping with someone else if we do marry?
Q. I was brought up in quite a religious family and was taught not to have sex before marriage. While all my friends were having a varied sex life during uni I was with another guy who had similar values. We broke up and I have now been with my cur...
A. 11 January 2015: Hey, I know what you are going through having been raised in a very religious family, but honestly I am glad at having experienced the sexual things that I have, even glad my current girlfriend had gone through the relationships that she had, hurt ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make up for 13 years of not having sex with my ex how spicy can it get?
Q. Dear cupid ,I think I am going to get my wish seeing my ex/daughter's father I am so happy yet really nerves I haven't saw him in 13 years I haven't had sex either within these years I have been celibate.What can I do to make this a hot month for ...
A. 10 January 2015: Hey you haven't given us much info about you and your ex for us to advise you best. Why haven't you been together for so long, what has changed now, how did you begin communicating? etc etc ... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back but my friend says to move on.
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating since September 2014 in foods one day I talked to her and she broke up with me I talked to my best friend about it he helped me that happened with him before but then a day later my ex girlfriend tells me she ...
A. 3 January 2015: I'd say take his wise advice and move on ... (read in full...)
She left me at Christmas
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been off and on the past year. Everything seemed alright she had been staying at my house for the past week. She got a DUI and has been worried, Christmas time makes her depressed. Any way I woke up at 5 am and she was ...
A. 28 December 2014: Hey man, so sorry about that.
Personally I have principles and boundaries which if a girlfriend crossed, SHE'S OUT !!
Stay calm, don't react negatively or angrily whether alone or when you see her. Pack her things neatly into a carton box and ... (read in full...)
Is he really into me?
Q. I recently met a guy through okcupid.com. We went out three times so far. The first date was good, we had plenty to talk about. The second time, he came over to my place and we ordered in. We made out, but no sex. The third time we went out for ...
A. 24 August 2014: You're under no commitment whatsoever, so I see no problem dating other people, Cerberus is spot on about this guy but only you can make the final call.
I honestly don't see him NOT dating other women over the month he's away, and it's probably ... (read in full...)
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