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I've added some new quotes today (but also kept the earlier ones below)
And the next two quotes are from a wise Uncle on this site called BrownWolf http://www.dearcupid.org/people/brownwolf
“I very thankful for the ounce of common sense I have...because sense is not that common. :) “
"Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you."
That quote about foolish people from BrownWolf is so true. A weak person cannot be trusted. With a strong person you have more certainty, they are not afraid to stand up and be counted when they are needed.
And I especially like BrownWolf's first quote above on common sense and so I asked BrownWolf for permission to replicate it here. BrownWolf then generously offered the second quote, above, as well.
When you meet a person for the first time, then imagine they are facing their biggest challenge ever:
With this mind-set it reminds us to be kind and use empathy because we can never truly know the extent of personal challenges a person is currently facing.
Badgering a person and humiliation with unreasonable demands for "I have to know" is more likely to harm than help. We do not "have to know". Be kind. Listen carefully and remain supportive. Then the person will willingly reveal more and feel safe to reveal more again.
We can never assume that things are much easier than things are for ourselves.
It encourages one to listen carefully and employ empathy in our dealings with others.
In life we face many things. But with each challenge we can grow a little stronger. When you meet a person with great strength of character it is possible that they grew that strength as a result of some very tough obstacles and some personal tragedies.
Never underestimate such a person.
Strength does not imply brutality nor cruelty and often not even physical strength.
A truly strong person will never seek to harm another. They know their strength and they know that kindness will move mountains more easily than brutality.
Then there is one of my favourites: Sun Tzu.
The wisdom of Sun Tzu is still as fresh as the day he wrote it 4000 years ago:
“A leader leads by example not by force. “
And now some less well known quotes:
“It is much more valuable to look for the strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections.”
by Daisaku Ikeda
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
by Maya Angelou
“Challenges are what will make us stronger.”
by Zainab Alsaati
Respect other people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them. (quoted by many, but generally considered to be by 'unknown')
'As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.'.....Andrew Carnegie
I also respect the Chinese idea of "face" - there is no need to humiliate people. It demeans the one doing the demeaning. there are better ways to call a person to account with dignity. Focus on the Issue when there is a problem rather than be accusatory to the person
'Spilled water is hard to regain' (fù shu nán shou)
"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate." .....Albert Schweitzer
'A sunny disposition is worth more than fortune.
Young people should know that it can be cultivated; that the mind like the body can be moved from the shade into sunshine'. .Andrew Carnegie
"We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds." ... Author Unknown, from A Great Life Lesson
“It always seems impossible until it's done.”... Nelson Mandella
"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." .....Mother Teresa
"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." .....Franklin D. Roosevelt
'Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.'...Andrew Carnegie
what's your favourite quote?
But all is not sweetness, kindness and light in this complex world.
There really are afflicted and inadequate people in this world who get their pleasure from deliberately trying to hurt others.
They do this out of an inflated sense of their importance in the scheme of things. They feel entitled to be mean to others. They have become arrogant over the years.
Yet they are not the strong individuals they think they are. Instead they are passive aggressive bullies.
There are those afflicted with traits that are so petty and unkind that one wonders what has happened to make them that way?
Their arrogance will not allow them to step back and get help for their afflictions.
Instead, like a bull in a china shop, they just keep on head butting harder and harder, using the same tactics they've been using for years to try to get their own way.
What traits cause the problems for such insecure arrogant persons with an inflated sense of entitlement?
Here are a few of the afflictions that continually cause problems in their relationships:
Negativity?
Passive Aggression?
Being Hate filled towards those they see as ''less'' than themselves = everyone?
Envy
Jealousy
For those afflicted with those horrible traits all I can feel for these tormented souls is pity that they are beset with such inadequacies and negativity.
The traits result in them concocting a lie that they are the victims, when in reality they are instead the bullies, the overly judgmental and nasty arrogant persons who enjoy hurting others.
Just feel sorry for them and their inadequate responses.
Then go forth and find things to enjoy in life. Find the positive, find ways to be supportive and kind to others. It is win win in every way on all sides.
Turn your back on cruel unkind and bitter people. Leave them to scheme alone. Their negativity causes their faces to betray their bitterness within.
Their hearts harden and they wonder why others can be so unaffected by all their schemes to hurt others. They are the losers who think their nastiness towards others is justified. |
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A. 13 June 2011:
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A. 12 June 2011: hi
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t might not just be you. Does he have a history of troubled relationships? So he's been hurt before?
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Healthy mom or sick dad?
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H... (read in full...)
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Perhaps you want answers that tell you what you want to hear. But answers should try to reflect the truth.
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Was he never interested or is he trying to make me jealous?
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If he was just a lovesick guy younger than you then perhaps he could like you.
But you said he was a lo... (read in full...)
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Try to establish if she really wants to lose weight.
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My boyfriend wants to join the Army but I really don't want him to go....
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Be honest. Tell him truthfully why you don't want him to join.
Because he will have already sensed you don't want it. Ask him why he wants to join. Work through ... (read in full...)
I've been in love with this woman for the last 8 years of my life while she's been trying to figure out what she wants...
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A. 5 June 2011: take some strong manly action.
She wants YOU!
Don't pussy foot around any more. Declare your obvious love for this woman and propose marriage. There are clear bonds between the two of you. She has dropped enough hints that she really likes yo... (read in full...)
Come on, sister, get your own life!
Q. i've been married for a long time now and have 1 huge complaint about my husbands sister. Honestly, she calls him at least 10-12 times everyday and I find it extremely annoying and would love to tell her so; i have dropped hints by the tone in my ...
A. 5 June 2011: Doesn't this sister have a life? She sounds very dependant, clingy and insecure. If she is currently facing a life threatening illness and is severly worried in hospital I will of course soften my suggestions, and suggest a caring compassionate ... (read in full...)
I think he loves me, but I feel like I'm just a replacement for his crippled wife!
Q. I am married for 4yrs now, my husband works 800km away from home and occasionally comes home for a day or two, we have been friends with our neighbours for 2yrs. My neighbour and myself have grown close because he keeps an eye on me (safety sake) ...
A. 2 June 2011: love has nothing to do with what this man is doing. It is just opportunic cheating on his wife.
He may well have cheaated before, despite his boastful assertions, saying he could have cheated, but has not. If you stop allowing the affair to cont... (read in full...)
I think he loves me, but I feel like I'm just a replacement for his crippled wife!
Q. I am married for 4yrs now, my husband works 800km away from home and occasionally comes home for a day or two, we have been friends with our neighbours for 2yrs. My neighbour and myself have grown close because he keeps an eye on me (safety sake) ...
A. 2 June 2011: you are not being a good friend to this man's wife. You are abusing the trust of your absent husband. And you are abusing the trust of this poor woman.
He is wrong to take advantage of the situation, where your husband is away working hard.
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I just wanted to be one of the them sitting there with all their attention on her! I strangely felt out of my comfort zone?
Q. Last saturday night i went out with my two best friends and when we were out we saw a group of guys that we knew and are quite good friends with. And again like every time when they see me, they called me over, we all had banter and caught up. They ...
A. 2 June 2011: if you have a small niggling jealousy gene trying to get a hold of your psyche now then get a handle on it now, and toss that emotion out the door now.
All through life you will come across situations where someone or some people has more of some... (read in full...)
10 Situations that Scream, "He's a Player!"
Q. Happy New Year! I hope all of you enjoyed a very Happy New year and that you have stuck to the resolutions that you made during this period. I simply hope that your resolution for the New Year wasn't to give up on men because by condemning all men ...
A. 17 May 2011: I am recommending this fantastic article to an OP along with several of your other articles. You continue to provide a wonderful resource in Dear Cupid with great articles in DC like this one
Thank you for your great advice
Regards
Abella... (read in full...)
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