Should I have to beg this man to see me?
Q. Hi. I would really appreciate some objective advice as I am feeling very confused and stressed. I started seeing a guy 4 months ago. It was going well until he met my 25 yr old daughter who took an instant dislike to him and made it clear ...
A. 24 November 2016: If someone is interested in you they will always make time for you. To me, it sounds as if he is keeping something, are you sure he hasn't got a girlfriend?
I understand he works a lot, but why not suggest he goes to work from yours? Maybe in... (read in full...)
Should I have given this guy a third chance to meet up?
Q. This guy contacted me on a dating website and he was originally from my area. He is a good listener, has a good sense of humor, and actually knows how to use a phone unlike other guys on the website who seem to like to hide behind texts. We hit it ...
A. 24 November 2016: No point trying again Hun, you've tried twice, what will be different next time? You done the right thing for telling him to message you when he wants to meet, but by then you might not want to, which is fine.
I suggest you speak to more people, ... (read in full...)
I don't want my being a virgin to put him off
Q. I am 22 and haven't had much luck with men, I always seem to fall for the wrong guy and I guess I just haven't met Mr Right. I've been on tinder for about 18 months, been on about 6 dates and have had mixed feelings about them all. I have finally ...
A. 22 November 2015: It's not been that long since he has come out of his relationship. Take it very slow until you're content at the fact that he is over his ex. If you two get into a relationship after that and you're happy with the way things are going then do what ... (read in full...)
My long distance girlfriend accuses me of being abusive
Q. I am on a long distance relationship I find her that she wouldn't tell me everything she does until the last moment. It upsets me a lot and I tend to think she doesn't trust me. Last week she would buy dress, she only told me after wearing it...
A. 21 November 2015: Speak to her about it and ask her why does she feel like that, there must be a reason why. After you speak about it you will know how to go on about it. If she still throws cause you're abusive answer, and you sure know you're not, then I will wait ... (read in full...)
I don't entirely trust their friendship
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks. I really like him but I am not sure about his best friend who is female. She is bipolar and seems to rely on him a lot as her husband is not a great communicator. They have known each other 20 years and he ...
A. 21 November 2015: Meet her, see what she's like, observe her behaviour etc. Cause if he is saying they're just friends and have been for years, then they must be. From there you can make your decision on whether you're ok with them being friends. For him to be ... (read in full...)
His family set him up with another girl while we were broken up
Q. Hello everyone, so I have a little dilemma. A few months ago me and my boyfriend broke up. I was angry and ended things with him. I continued my life, even though it hurt so much that we weren't together because I still loved him. While we were ...
A. 21 November 2015: To be honest, you can't blame the cousins. A man is going to do what he wants to do, just because they introduced her to him, it was up to him on whether he wanted to carry on seeing her, so that's all on him. The most you can do with that side is ... (read in full...)
Now that I've been intimate with my ex I'm worried he'll lose interest
Q. I rekindled with my ex boyfriend and we have since become intimate. He was beautiful and very passionate. I was really surprised as I did not think he felt like that about me after all this time. Its been nearly three weeks since we last me...
A. 21 November 2015: The best thing to do right now is to get out of the unhappy relationship you're in now, after that is all dead and gone you can rekindle yours and your ex's. Your ex is doing the right thing by letting you get on with it until you're out of the ... (read in full...)
He's being distant and going to spend the night at a female friends that he's slept with before. Should I worry?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together a month now, before that we were good friends. It took him a week or so to come round to the idea of us being together but we made it official and things were good, up until last week. normally we would make ...
A. 21 November 2015: He doesn't sound like he's taking you as serious as you're taking him. What's the need for him to stay at this friends house? And how did they come up with the conclusion that staying over whilst the guy has a girlfriend is also ok? You're being too ... (read in full...)
Bi-Curious But Not Sure How To Explore This...
Q. I'm a girl, in my early 20s. People say I'm ok looking (get asked out a lot by guys) but I'm kind of introverted and focused on my studies etc haha so never had a boyfriend before. However I realised recently that I might be into girls too. Not s...
A. 21 November 2015: Go places and explore. There's a lot of same sex bars and clubs, go there and see how it goes. When you're in places that encourage the idea of certain things, you tend to feel more comfortable. By doing that, you'll be able to understand yourself ... (read in full...)
BF lack of ambition is starting to scare me.. how do I help him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he's 27. He spent 10 years of his adult just watching movies with mates and getting high. I fell in love with him him because he's a good guy. He got a customer assistant job in a shop in the beginning of ...
A. 21 November 2015: There's two types of people in this world. One that will work for someone and one that works for themselves. None of them are bad, it's just the differences with people. It seems like he doesn't like the idea of certain jobs, so ask him about what ... (read in full...)
Could the dream I had about my boyfriend and Christmas be pointing to our future?
Q. I don 't dream much and I do believe I'm a little psychic. My ex boyfriend came to me in my dream after over 20 years. A few weeks later we have had some great meetings. Not long ago I dreamt that we spent Christmas together. I hate Christmas m...
A. 21 November 2015: Dreams do have meanings. This dream shows its in your subconscious mind, so something that you want to happen and you dreamt it subconsciously. The best thing to do is to follow your dream :) ... (read in full...)
His ex is driving me crazy
Q. My boyfriend lives with me, and I am completely in love with him. I am looking forward to our future and possibly a marriage (They were separated when our relationship begun).But his ex wife is crazy! She makes up lies about me and tells their 4 ...
A. 13 November 2015: His ex clearly seems like she isn't accepting the fact that you guys are together. And if he's not dealing with it properly, personally I would put an order against her, cause she seems too out of hand. Let the police know that she harasses you and ... (read in full...)
I'm pale but my genitals aren't.
Q. I apologize as this is quite personal. I am a 21 year old Caucasian female. My vagina lips are very dark, almost black. My anal area is the same but not as bad. I'm not sure why this is going on or how to lighten the area, it's quite emb...
A. 13 November 2015: That's quite normal. You might have to get a hard scrub and scrub it very effectively, gradually it'll go lighter.... (read in full...)
Can't get over the one who got away
Q. I was in love with a boyfriend of two years. After a while jealousy came up and ruined us. I saw that he went to prom with a girl i was hurt. Little did i know she was actually just a family friend nothing more. At the moment i did what i regret the ...
A. 13 November 2015: No point thinking about the what if's and the but's. There's reasons why it's ended up like that, maybe he genuinely weren't the one for you. I understand why you're mad at yourself, but it's all done now. All you can do is learn from it and move ... (read in full...)
Why does this happen?
Q. Every guy that i date for a long time after the break up they always seem to find a new girl thats actually the one. Its like im cursed or something. Its really sad because its every guy that i date then shortly after its the next girl other then ...
A. 13 November 2015: People come in your life as a blessing or a lesson. You were clearly the lessons in their life. Be patient, your blessing will come soon.
You can help yourself by changing the type of men you date, is there something similar about all the guys you... (read in full...)
How long should a break last?
Q. So my problem is that my boyfriend of 6 years ended our relationship last week. I had noticed he'd been acting a bit strange for a few days, distant and things, but didn't really think much of it until he started ignoring me. It went on all day,...
A. 12 November 2015: I say take the NC way for this break for 30 days. So no contact for 30 days and see where it goes from there. Within that time you both will be able to know if this is what you want to do. I feel like there's personal reasons to why he has cold feet ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for us, despite how badly he's treated me?
Q. My name is Kate,I'm 42 and my husband,Stuart is 31 .We've been married for 8 years now but we've been a couple for 13. We don't have kids because he never wanted any.Our relationship has always been difficult due to our age gap as well as our ...
A. 10 November 2015: Both of these men are taking advantage of you in different ways, and gig know what they say "the things you take for granted get taken" and that's exactly what's happened, you ended up with another man whose just as bad as your husband. There's r... (read in full...)
The silence is killing me! Why did he stop responding?
Q. I'm desperate for closure. Wel..I met a guy on a massaging app.initially I wasn't that attracted to him. He somehow managed to charm his way to my heart! He would initiate most of our texting and all I did was just answer. He made me believe he was ...
A. 10 November 2015: Don't jump to conclusion. Something could've happened to him. Just wait for him to come round, if by another week you get no message then leave it there, and move on. ... (read in full...)
Should I be suspicious that all is not well between us, based on his actions?
Q. My boyfriend of 9 months and i usually spend the weekdays together and he stays over at my place and then leaves in the morning to go to his place to get ready for work. on fridays he doesnt come for dinner and goes out for drinks with his friends ...
A. 10 November 2015: There are reasons for you to feel a bit suspicious. Have you confronted that his actions are a bit out of place? Maybe that's a way to go around it to start with, if he starts saying you're paranoid and over thinking, or "crazy" there could be ... (read in full...)
Hiding his phone and being uncommunicative. Time to break up?
Q. I started dating this guy and we hit it off pretty well. although, these last two weeks have been rockey with him and I. A two weeks ago I told him that we should take a break he said No there is no point. The week after that I said lets take a ...
A. 10 November 2015: When you feel like there is something wrong, more time there is. No point staying in an unhappy relationship, and it's good you called it off. If you feel like the relationship is not solvable then leave it there. But if you feel like it's due to ... (read in full...)
Has he changed or is he still the player he was before?
Q. I'll keep things simple. I met this guy a few years ago. We got along really well and I started to like him as more than just a friend(but I never told him how I felt). He said he liked me and wanted me to give him a chance. Life got in the way a...
A. 10 November 2015: For a guy to admit after all those years that he was a player, it seems like he might be a changed man. No point admitting where you went wrong if you still do it right? Ask him what's the reasons to why he's changed, dig a little deeper. There's ... (read in full...)
My ex want to get back with me but the new guy is so nice and I'm torn between 2 worlds!
Q. My Husband and i split 6months ago. (I left him) We have a beautiful 1year old. Ive recently started seeing someone new and he is everything I wanted my ex husband to be. But now my ex wants to talk about gettinf back together. I feel so conflict...
A. 9 November 2015: Never stay in a relationship for the sake of the kids. That's really unhealthy. When you two end up arguing the child will feed off of your negative energy and it won't be good for the child's development. On top of that, he doesn't make you happy, ... (read in full...)
I want some me time and some us time but my husband doesn't seem to get it
Q. Hello everyone. I'm in need of some advice on how to handle or approach this situation that I found myself in. First off, I'm married to a very wonderful man. He's a true gentleman with a heart of gold. We have two beautiful amazing daughters ...
A. 9 November 2015: Sounds like you guys are in need of spending time together. There's different ways of doing this and doing it through surprises.
Maybe book a weekend away out of town filled with a spa weekend, ask grandparents or family members to take the kids... (read in full...)
My potential fiance has insecurities due to past experiences. Do I wait for her to heal? Or do I move on?
Q. My potential fiance is scared of being hurt and her insecurity is a result of her past and currently refuses engagement. Her mother calls me a great guy and the 'right one' for her and her siblings i get along with. I did not get a chance to meet ...
A. 7 November 2015: I would say interact and reassure her as much as possible, taking away a woman's insecurities can only be done by herself but you can suppress them. Make sure you let her know how important she is to you and you'll not hurt her intentionally. L... (read in full...)
Should I ignore, confront or just walk away, after what she's done?
Q. Here's my dilemma. I just found out that my g/f of 2 years has been emailing an ex. She initiated the conversation and then, over the course of five or six emails, mentioned that she still thinks of him often, then ended the last one with by calling ...
A. 7 November 2015: Don't ignore it. Speak to her about it. It's clear its made you not happy, and you should address it to her. See her reasons for why she spoke to him. She might try flip it on you, with the whole snooping through her things at first, but don't give ... (read in full...)
Is my mother ashamed that she had a daughter? She praises her sons, not me.
Q. Im 25 woman and have 2 younger brother with 3 years gap respectively. We live with our successful and happy family. Everybody will think that our family is beyond perfect. Many thinks that my parent succeed raising us. Otherwise. Theres a differe...
A. 7 November 2015: It sounds like a culture thing. Men tend to be favoured more than women. But do not take it to heart. Speak to her about it, tell her how you feel. Disregard the things she says that you don't like, if it's not positive thoughts, then block it out. ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to get back in contact with my ex - and offer to just be friends?
Q. I'm happy in my relationship now but miss my ex, as a person, not who I want to get back with. Is it OK to get back in contact to be friends or not? He's the only other person I've been in love with and after 3 years I still can't get him out of m...
A. 7 November 2015: I think the answer is simple, if your boyfriend was in your predicament, would you want him to be in contact with his ex? From there make your decision. But do not go forward with contacting your ex if you do without telling your boyfriend. It will ... (read in full...)
How could he let another woman come between us?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have 1 daughter together. Our relationship started going downhill ever since I caught him talking inappropriately with another woman. I trusted that he wouldn't continue doing it but in the back of my mind ...
A. 7 November 2015: Sounds upsetting, it really does. But you rather be able to go bed now without the fear of someone cheating on you or someone making you unhappy. He isn't in your life, and he chose to leave it as that. Why grieve over the relationship when he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves me but made it clear we will never marry. I'm heartbroken!
Q. Hi, in really confuse, sad and needed an advice. I have a boyfriend. I love him so much, he said he love me too. Im too serious in our relationship and im hoping that this wll lead us to marriage. Today i make a joke to him about getting married, ...
A. 7 November 2015: Ask him why he doesn't want to get married, speak it out and come to a mutual agreement. There must be reasons behind it. Everyone has different opinions in relationships but that doesn't mean it's wrong. You will just need to communicate on a ... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much wanting affection more than once a week?
Q. Hi all.... I have a question that Im betting a lot of women have out there. Ive been with my guy for over 3 years now. At first for awhile we had sex ALL the time. But for some reason ( not on me ) it has now become an average of once every 5-6 ...
A. 7 November 2015: Hmm. Sounds like he's making you feel bad. Men tend to do this when they're feeling guilty.. Is there any reason for him to feel like that? ... (read in full...)
Would you break up with your boyfriend over taking secret nude photos
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years. I always thought we got along great. We have a lot in common. He is always there for me in my time of need. We have been talking about getting married. I needed some pictures off his camera, so...
A. 6 November 2015: Speak to him about it. Breaking up without talking about it will leave you with a lot of regret cause you've had thoughts of getting married. It seems as if your boyfriend is infatuated by beautiful sceneries and likes to capture them and save them. ... (read in full...)
Bullied at home by the whole family - help!
Q. Hi, Aunts, Okay, this is not a love question. This is a family question, so it might be the wrong website, but this place is where I get the fastest responses. Recently I've stopped school for health reasons (social anxiety overload!) and a...
A. 6 November 2015: Sounds like you're going through a rough patch. I understand why you feel the way you do. The thing is, parents tend to think teenagers are going through so much phases and they're very indecisive with their thoughts and feelings, which could be why ... (read in full...)
3 year limbo: close but not together and now there's a new guy
Q. Here's the thing. I met this guy three years ago and we got into a relationship pretty quickly. Longo story short, we broke up after 3 months (he gave me no explanation). Since then we have still stayed close and have been in a limbo stage w...
A. 6 November 2015: 3 years is a long time. He strings you along cause he knows he can. Remember people only treat you the way you allow them to. And he's being rather unfair. I personally feel as if you shouldn't have any loyalty towards him - in regards to what you ... (read in full...)
To me he's the perfect guy. How can I encourage him spend time with me?
Q. Hi, Aunts, I'm a freakishly shy, eccentric tomboy, often mistaken as being lesbian because I don't flirt with guys. What they don't know is that I don't flirt with random people because I have been eternally dedicated to a boy for 6 years- a boy w...
A. 6 November 2015: Seems like you've got to come out of your comfort zone. Do spontaneous things to get spontaneous results. You can't be hiding forever especially if you want him to know how you feel about him :)... (read in full...)
Why does my husband always defend his mom but won't back me up?
Q. Hello aunties, The past year has been stressful, hurtful, and downright annoying for me. The reason I am experiencing these emotions is because my husband has been neglecting to acknowledge my feelings but sticks up for other women who are go...
A. 6 November 2015: He seems like he has a very close bond with his mother. This could be due to him being baby'd until an old age by his mom. It's difficult to distance such a strong relationship. To start with, explain how you feel and make sure he can see it is ... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much wanting affection more than once a week?
Q. Hi all.... I have a question that Im betting a lot of women have out there. Ive been with my guy for over 3 years now. At first for awhile we had sex ALL the time. But for some reason ( not on me ) it has now become an average of once every 5-6 ...
A. 6 November 2015: People end up becoming rather complacent which is why they don't do things they used to do. For instance the amount of time you both get intimate. I understand it might get frustrating. By the sound of it, it seems as if he is upset with work and ... (read in full...)
Could our feelings be mutual?
Q. Are our feelings mutual for each other? After a long day, I like to go to my local coffee shop and just chill there and do some reading online. There is a barista there who is always flirting with me by complimenting me on something. He would te...
A. 6 November 2015: Sounds like the feelings could be mutual. He definitely has an eye for you. Carry on making small talks when you can and see where it takes you if you like.... (read in full...)
I'm a selfish idiot but one who needs help!!
Q. I got married when I was 19 and had two kids by the time I was 22. Also divorced at 22. Rebounded into a relationship with the wrong person for a year and then met my ex 3 years ago. I was 24 she was 19.She is beautiful and has a huge heart. She ...
A. 6 November 2015: Well first step is acknowledging where you went wrong, and it seems like you have done that, which is good. Now you have to make them changes. She isn't going to take you back straight away, as you already know you've put her through a lot. The only ... (read in full...)
My Bf was in bed with another man. I'm distraught. What can I do now?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 18 months now and it's been great he's so caring our sex life is amazing and we really seem to click. But this came crashing down at the weekend, I came back from a girls holiday and found him underneath his best...
A. 5 November 2015: Best thing is to get yourself checked. And confront him about it and see what his answer is. I wouldn't give strong advice such as dump him cause I don't know the depth of your relationship. But it definitely needs to be brought to the surface and ... (read in full...)
To me he's the perfect guy. How can I encourage him spend time with me?
Q. Hi, Aunts, I'm a freakishly shy, eccentric tomboy, often mistaken as being lesbian because I don't flirt with guys. What they don't know is that I don't flirt with random people because I have been eternally dedicated to a boy for 6 years- a boy w...
A. 5 November 2015: You said his birthday is coming up, plan something for him if you like. Tell him you're planning something and to ensure that that day is free! Maybe a nice dinner, or a bar, or just a place with a nice scenery. During the time you're with him, ... (read in full...)
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