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Boyfriend bought presents for everyone except me and I'm the one who helped him!
Q. BF of 9yrs has just recovered from a broken leg and has bought thank you gifts for those who helped him-apart from ME!!!! God I helped him the most and no gift required but in view of the others receiving something I just feel bloody hurt!! Would ...
A. 5 November 2014: Considering a lot of holidays are right around the corner I won't mention it til they are over. He could possibly be setting yours aside. But if u get nothing special it's okay. Perhaps in his mind he knew n expected u to be there n not them. But ... (read in full...)
Wife caught her best friend propositioning me?
Q. My wife caught her best friend saying very sexually leading comments to me. She confronted her friend on the spot and made her leave our house. Her friend called me in tears asking what she could to to fix it. I really don't know what she can do. ...
A. 8 August 2014: No way hosea. Friend definitely crossed the line. And if she is too a middle aged woman than she clearly if not should have considered the effects of such betrayal. She is now considered a threat by your wife. And we generally keep threats away. ... (read in full...)
Why are some friends never happy for you? Am I wrong to be hurt by this?
Q. why are some friends not happy when you share good news..? envy? jealousy? nastiness? are they "real" friends at all? I dont mean boasting or bragging.. or being " hey look at my news" just sharing that a happy event has occurred. Or should we nev...
A. 8 August 2014: I think your friend either didn't believe you or it just didn't interest her. All things are not interesting to all people. She very well may be your friend but she doesn't necessarily need to leap at your news. A friend listens and give advice ... (read in full...)
My anger is turning into depression - I want my husband to leave
Q. I have been married for four years. My husband has been emotionally abusive. He ignores me, wants me to plead for attention, for sex, calls me a whore, tells me he cant kiss me because am disgusting and all sorts of stuff. I have kids, and he does ...
A. 6 August 2014: Please leave at least for your kids sake. You are being a poor example right now. It will be hard but staying in this and the effects on u n the kids will be even more detrimental. End this by walking away. ... (read in full...)
I was afraid for my life but now I'm known as a snitch
Q. So am I a snitch? I've now got the reputation of a snitch and people say I acted like a "white girl". This was a break and we were in the classroom, with no teacher. My friend and this girl were having a verbal fight about throwing paper at ...
A. 10 July 2014: You did the most right thing to do. And on something like this that you know you're right don't doubt yourself. And don't give in to negative peer pressure. It may be cool or popular to hold out on information but what if the situation escalated ... (read in full...)
My sister is having an affair and I've about had it
Q. I am 35 years old and I have three older sisters. The middle one is 45 years old and twice-divorced. She has been having an affair with a married man from her work for almost three years now. He says he has to stay with his wife for the kids but...
A. 2 May 2014: Honestly just back away from that disrespectful individual until they come to their senses. It won't last and she'll regret the neglect of her family especially her mom. So let her make her mistake she has to in order to learn. But back away from ... (read in full...)
After no training, and lack of support I feel I have been unfairly dismissed. I am left with absolutely nothing including no income, what can I do?
Q. Hi guys, I posted last weekend about beng made to feel like I'm thick since starting my new job, heres the link - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/since-starting-my-new-job-i-feel-like.html. Well I appreicate that everyone I spoke to in pers...
A. 30 March 2014: Instead of reflecting on what didn't or did happen get on your grind by looking for another job. Use your phone or computer Internet to search and apply for jobs. Don't let this define you. So it didn't work out with that company, well you jeep ... (read in full...)
I'm a good employee but my manager is giving me less & less shifts. How should I approach this?
Q. I work in a restaurant. After I came back from winter vacation abroad and back to school, I filled out my February schedule as available Weds/Thurs/Fri evenings. My manager scheduled me Thurs and Fri evenings which was perfect. For March, I filled ...
A. 28 March 2014: Oh the restaurant chains. I've worked at a restaurant chain before. In fact it was a fortune 500 rated fine dining food chain. I'll explain their madness. Fast food chain have a high turnover period. They're always looking for some with a bright ... (read in full...)
When is the time to stop lending money to a boyfriend?
Q. When is the time to stop lending money to a boyfriend? My bf and I have been together for 4 years, not living together. He pays maintenance for 2 children, I don't have kids. Over the past 3 years he has borrowed money almost every 2 to 3 months ...
A. 2 February 2014: If you met him and he was in this situation then you should have left him single. As a couple who is not married you should not absorb the cost of his bad choices. Unfortunately now is a bit late in the game. Your behavior of always giving has ... (read in full...)
My best friend always goes after guys I like!
Q. My best friend always goes after the guys I like. Knowing this, I try not to tell her who I like. This guy Cruz and I made it obvious that we had a thing. One step from dating. I wasn't sure that I had feelings for him until two weeks ago, during ...
A. 21 January 2014: Then she is not your best friend. Either tell her about all this and see how she finally responds when you two meet a guy. She may think she looks better than u or have low self esteem and pulling your guys boost her confidence. Just explain your ... (read in full...)
He said, she said, so what should I say?
Q. Ok so basically this is what happened my crush called my sister a tramp and he was like I shouldn't be mad but then he went on to say that he don't like people calling him ratchet . I did at some hurtful things to him but he said some rude things as ...
A. 21 January 2014: You should say nothing because he say she say is heresy. No facts just fuss. Not worthy of attention. Didn't read post but rumors are always best ignored. ... (read in full...)
I hate my life but love my kids!
Q. I am a 41 year old woman married for 22 years now with 2 kids. I have spent 22 years with a man that cannot love,care or give affections. I live a cold and lonely life and spend it fighting with him all the time to acknowledge this. He says he is ...
A. 21 January 2014: I'm sure your kids are old enough now. Now it's time to do something for you. You'll be gaining something by leaving as well as losing some things. If you're ready for this and whatever stress and opposition may arise then go for it. I wish u much ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her?
Q. I wanted to ask why a guy would check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her? I went on a date with a guy who was interested in me in the beginning he complimented me constantly and told me how much he liked the way I look, but ...
A. 21 January 2014: It really doesn't mean much. Just thought of u and that is all. It's natural. Sometimes the dumpers of relationship will call or look back at ex photos doesn't mean they want them back. The person is just on their mind. And it's possible for him ... (read in full...)
She told me she didn't want a serious relationship, then turned around and started dating someone else!
Q. So this girl was dating for a few months ended things with me over Christmas. She at least seemed to be a really down to earth and nice girl but broke up with me after SHE missed one of our dates. So a few days we talk and i tell her that i'm...
A. 18 January 2014: For whatever reason that stoner may be the type of guy she's used to or wants in her life right now. She may just be with him for the exciting rush she may get without any major commitment. Who knows really. .? I would forget about her like ... (read in full...)
He never wanted us to travel there, but now he's going to a conference??
Q. Hello everyone, my boyfriend´s told me he applied for one work conference that´s held in New York and I really got mad at him. Why? Because my all-time dream is going to NYC and everytime I asked him if we´d go there, all he ever said was "hell no, ...
A. 17 January 2014: I'll break the tie. You're not overreacting. He is expecting certain standards of you while he is allowed to apply to go. I think since he knew he would be going the least he could have done was plan another trip there with u because he cares ... (read in full...)
Should I move across the country with someone I used to date?
Q. So I recently started talking again with an ex I dated briefly. We only went out for a few months and then broke up because she was too busy for a relationship with her job and also being a single mom. A couple months passed without speaking and ...
A. 8 January 2014: I totally agree with cerberus and iamheretohepyou" on this one. She's ignoring your concern but wants you to consider and agree with her to move. How insane. She's doing a horrible job of selling the trip. If you have no kids and a stable track ... (read in full...)
Why is it bad to send ex a hate letter?
Q. I wrote a 3 page letter telling my ex how much I hate him. He had records of cheating and every time I forgave him and took him back. He's a liar and never changed. I'm so pissed and don't deserve after what I've done for him. So people said don't ...
A. 7 January 2014: Still thinking of sending that letter?... (read in full...)
I can't get over my ex.
Q. Hello readers, I am having trouble getting over my ex girlfriend. We have been together for 2yrs and over that time we have had our ups and downs. Ultimately though I have been happy but she said she hasn't been. Since our break up I have been s...
A. 7 January 2014: For whatever reason she may miss you too but know that it will only last lovely for a while. It is really not what she wants you both miss each other but there is not enough for her to want more. There's incompatibility. No contact is best to heal.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always puts his job before me
Q. Dear all, so I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, his currently serving in the RAF so were semi long distance and only see one another weekends (mostly)the problem is I feel he always puts his job before me. Without sounding...
A. 17 June 2013: If u are unhappy then u should express it, regardless of how clingy or needy u seem. Discuss this with him bc it could be u two are incompatible in that realm. He can't put work first all the time n he can't put u first all the time. Maybe u should ... (read in full...)
Roommate is bringing cats into the home -- but I already have a dog
Q. I need your advice yet again agony aunts. Its not a relationship problembut rather a friendship problem. Ok, so I have 2 roommates and 1 is my best friend since I moved here. I also have a dog who loves people but can be picky with other dogs. Well ...
A. 14 June 2013: If its her place as well as yours then she is allowed to have her own pet. ... (read in full...)
My husband seems to be too flirty with his male friend. Am I being totally crazy?
Q. I need some advice, I need to know if I am overreacting. Me and my husband have been married for a year and have a 1 year old. My husband has this male friend, my husband self employed and this friend sets up work for him. This friend has a ...
A. 3 June 2013: I'm sorry for seeming petty but i notice some discrepancy with the post. You say life has changed since your child's birth and he is entirely too chatty with his male friend/business partner. You replied and stated things changed after u had your ... (read in full...)
I found a receipt for heart shaped jewelry, so whose got it!
Q. My husband and I are going through a very rough time in our marriage. About a year ago he came to the conclusion that "marriage just wasn't for him". Although things were not great, this totally took me by surprise He later filed for divorce, but ...
A. 1 February 2013: I would check his bank statements if he has online banking and see what his purchases are. Make sure u keep all evidence u have. N if u haven't one, start looking for a job and a place to stay bc this may be the end of the road for ur marriage.... (read in full...)
Why do people have to make comments that are hurtful?
Q. Dear Cupid, The other night I was talking to this guy that I know fairly well but is still considered an acquaintance. We were texting and he asked "why do you wear so much makeup? Not to say you look bad but i'm sure you're pretty naturally...
A. 30 January 2013: There are billions of people in the world, and not all of them are positive or have ur best interest at heart. And even when someone do care about u they may still say something they u may receive as being negative. U can't change people, but u can ... (read in full...)
Is this ok to leave your partner at home and travel overseas with your ex?
Q. My partner wants to go away with his ex without me, even though they have been friends 15 years i struggle with this as his friend waited till we were in a solid committed monogamous relationship, then he behaved badly and chose to not get to know ...
A. 18 January 2013: I couldn't have said it better mrswaldhauser. O.P, I second that. All in favor of mrswaldhauser....... (read in full...)
I like a girl who's in a relationship. How do I find out how she feels about me?
Q. I met this girl, she has a girlfriend, but we went on a drunken night out and ended up sleeping together. We then have had a couple of times where we nearly slept together again, but both stopped it as it wasn't fair on her girlfriend. Problem is, ...
A. 18 January 2013: How do u find out if she has feelings for u? You don't, she's taken, which means off limits. Regardless of whether she sends u signs, tells u she's unhappy or whatever else. The point is she's taken. ... (read in full...)
Do you think he really does just hate technology, or does he not care enough to stay in contact more?
Q. My boyfriend used to text loads and basically stay in touch loads when we were first going out, but these days it feels like he forces himself to contact at all? He says he hates texting and doesnt really like phone calling or emailing much ei...
A. 15 January 2013: I honestly think the flames have died down and you're not that exciting to him anymore. It's somewhat normal after about six months to start giving each other a little space. However it seems u guys are in a long distance relationship, which means u ... (read in full...)
He abused me for years. Then he found a new Gf. Now he is ill he wants me back. What do I say? I said "no" but he's not listening.
Q. I was in love with this guy in my early teens and he was 16 at the time. We were together for many years had two kids and then he winds up being over protective very mentally, verbally,physically abusive toward me. The abuse started after I had ...
A. 13 January 2013: Congratulations on ending the abuse. Your ex only wants u bc his current isn't nurturing him. She's probably like hell I can't afford to take care of someone else. I'm really proud of u, stay strong. This man be it sick or not is still trying to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend arranged for his 4 year old daughter to live with us without talking to me first
Q. I am a 24 year old dating a wonderful 32 year old man. I've known from the beginning that he has a 4 year old daughter from an ex- girlfriend. We live in Colorado, and the daughter lives with her mother in Florida. My borfriend visits his daughter ...
A. 4 January 2013: Who moved in with whom? Is it your home or his home? In any event, he doesn't need ur permission to have his daughter temporarily stay with u guys. That's his daughter, not a friend. First time for everything n u really should grow up. If he wasn't ... (read in full...)
It's legal in my country to marry a cousin. I seek your thoughts on my ideas about marrying please?
Q. I think the West may frown on this but I don’t care . I don’t live there anymore. In my country not being married by age 30 is weird n nor normal generally. I’ve been in relationships and they have failed in part because of immaturity and ...
A. 3 January 2013: Dito R1 and Serpico responses, its not healthy if u intend on or unintentionally but successfully producing offsprings. Talk to some Genetic Doctors about this. ... (read in full...)
How do I salvage a friendship that I miss so much?
Q. I'll try to make this short and sweet. I've known this women for 4 years...up until a few months ago, we hardly saw each other. Back in may, we went to a concert and had a great time. We had a couple drinks after and had a nice conversation in ...
A. 3 January 2013: Things are probably going great in her relationship with her bf. He's probably being such a dear, and she's probably eating it up like yogurt dice he probably doesn't make her feel special often. If u can stop loving her, she's emotionally ... (read in full...)
Am I getting my life back on track? What could I do better?
Q. When I was 16 I had my first relationship ever and it turned out pretty awful, the guy was terrible/abusive and the whole thing left me in a terrible state where I was taking drugs till I tried to kill myself and I failed school, getting an 8 out of ...
A. 3 January 2013: I think as long as u are doing your very best at your highest potential is what counts. I wouldn't consider anyone else and compare them to u. Simply bc ur situation is unique, you've been through a lot and u are on the rebound handling life and not ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my friend if shes involved with a female?
Q. I'm starting to think my best female friend might be in a relationship with another girl, and I don't know if I should ask her about it or not? Ever since I have known her (nursery school), she has been desperate for a boyfriend. She has no problem ...
A. 24 October 2012: If you really don't care, then really don't ask. If she seems happy simply let her be. She is entitled to her privacy. ... (read in full...)
Ladies only: would you decline to have sex with a man with erectile dysfunction resulting from surgery?
Q. This one is for the Ladies here ONLY!I am asking this for a friend of mines. Thanks Ladies,Say if you was to go out with a guy you met and things became hot and heavy between the 2 of you,then the 2 of you end up at a place that you have picked ...
A. 8 September 2012: Answers will vary greatly, depending on the female expectations, age, understanding, and so on. My age bracket may be a little put off by it. A younger age bracket may never accept that. A 30-40 may give or take it. A 40 plus age bracket may not be ... (read in full...)
Is it too much fir me to want my wife to wear a little make-up?
Q. I really need advice.I have been maried for 18 years.my question is we have one dissagrement I would really like it if my wife would wear a little mascara, eye shadow and lipstick.Not everyday just like three or four times a year.l love her she is ...
A. 26 July 2012: Forgot to add, if when you two met 18 years ago she wasn't wearing make up. Don't expect her to change. If she hasn't worn it throughout ur marriage already then its just not her. It has to be something she's into. And threatening her with the noti... (read in full...)
Is it too much fir me to want my wife to wear a little make-up?
Q. I really need advice.I have been maried for 18 years.my question is we have one dissagrement I would really like it if my wife would wear a little mascara, eye shadow and lipstick.Not everyday just like three or four times a year.l love her she is ...
A. 26 July 2012: If you understood she doesn't like it then you would've drop the issue. It's a bit selfish of u to request it knowing she doesn't like to wear it. What if she thinks platform boots are sexy on men and ask u to wear them knowing it was something u ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or is he being heartless?
Q. So I want to try to make this as unbiased as possible, sorry it's so long. My boyfriend and I are searching for an apartment in an expensive city. We are currently long distance, but have not always been. We agreed on a reasonable budget. We are b...
A. 23 July 2012: In a relationship there always have to be compromise and understanding. If one or the other just don't understand then there can be no compromise. This will be a testament of ur relationship if the two of u can surpass this test. Right now though it ... (read in full...)
Are cold sores herpes?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit stupid but please bare with me. I'm 20 years old and I've just found out I have herpes simplex type 1. I haven't been tested, I've been told that cold sores are herpes? I've had cold sores since I was a baby and I didn'...
A. 17 July 2012: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/coldsores.html Cold Sores Also called: Fever blister, Oral herpes Cold sores are caused by a contagious virus called herpes simplex. There are two types of herpes simplex virus. Type 1 usually causes ora... (read in full...)
My husband insulted me in front of his friend
Q. Dear all, my husband fought with me in front of his friend and insulted me by tellin me that he will hit me and I should shut up...I couldn't believe that he could say such thing in front of his friend...what would any of u do if u were in my ...
A. 16 July 2012: It would worry me more that he said it in the first place, the friend presence is not even a factor. The verbal abuse is the deal breaker. Talk with him let him know that verbal abuse will not be tolerated. Drop the in front of friend issue. It ... (read in full...)
I am confused by my male friend
Q. Hello everyone, I am so grateful for this wonderful site and would really value your advice on a new contact I have made. I will outline my question and then maybe you well meaning folk out there can tell me if I need to be worried or not. I'm a ...
A. 12 July 2012: I'm with you OP this character's behavior does sound sketchy. I caution you to listen to your instincts, they're there for a reason and are being triggered for good reasons. Listen to them. He hasn't given a definite answer to when you can visit nor ... (read in full...)
Should I take a part time living arrangement in order to see more of my boyfriend?
Q. i will be 28 and never lived with roomates or anything..the closest thing was my ex and being there a few nights a week. I met someone who is around my age and is having bad luck right now..it's been 5 dates or so but we have been talking for a ...
A. 11 July 2012: Stay put at home with ur parents bc this resonant problems from all angles. If he leaves u then it just wasn't meant to be.... (read in full...)
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