My friend is trying to get pregnant on purpose. Her b/f doesn't have a clue..do I tell him?
Q. My friends from school (lets call them sarah and matt to make it easier) have been with eachother for 9 years and from what I can see, their relationship is on the rocks. ? sarah confided in me last night that she has stopped taking her ...
A. 31 July 2013: tell him NOW before shes like 'hey Im pregnant now deal with it. you were too late!!'
you will probably lose sarah but shes too selfish to be a good mum if shes trying to get pregnant to trap her bf.... (read in full...)
He won't give me a straight answer about the break up
Q. My boyfriend of over two and a half years broke up with me out of the blue recently and he's excuse is that he hasn't been happy and he doesn't know if he can give me 100% in a relationship. But when I ask him questions about what went wrong with ...
A. 31 July 2013: i agree with iAHTHY because hes given you his reason but you dont like it so you are pressing for more and thats making him more unhappy.
Im thinking you will just have to accept it and move on.... (read in full...)
What gives? I have this urge to cheat ...
Q. Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for close to a year about, and I've always felt, or rather, thought about sleeping with other people, but I guess it's normal to entertain the idea even if you're in a relationship, so long as you don't act on it. ...
A. 31 July 2013: 'I don't think I would ever do it' goes against your 'I know it would never be serious with the other guy. I'm not attracted to 'bad boys', or guys I can't get, this is actually a first). It would only be a one time thing as he lives in another ... (read in full...)
Happily married men do porn???
Q. My husband just came home from a 2 week business trip. I noticed the Internet history on his laptop was full of porn including a site called " F@$ and k women locally" and it gave a web address of our home city. I was so shocked when I went to look ...
A. 31 July 2013: those ads are everywhere and they are almost as hard to get rid of as an std. he doesnt even have to be on porn for that shit to pop up.
most people watch porn at some point. doesnt mean they arent satisfied with real sex.
you should have an o... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is planning a weekend away with a female friend
Q. Id like some honest advice from men and women to see if I am just being over jealous or if anyone else would feel the same as me. My boyfriend of a year has a 4 year old girl from a previous relationship. He has lots of female friends which I ...
A. 31 July 2013: you should have been asked to go because its not like your a new gf.
the holiday idea is nice for the kids but it is a little suspicious that you werent automatically invited.
if it was a day ago maybe he hasnt remembered to ask you yet. if ... (read in full...)
If a guy 'likes' a photo of a woman in a bikini, does that mean he likes the woman?
Q. This is likely just me over-thinking things again, but a little input would be lovely anyway :) So, a social media question - I recently put a photo of me in a bikini at the beach on Facebook (which I found tremendously difficult to do. I've had...
A. 31 July 2013: i like pictures if the girl looks nice whether its hot or she just looks nice
have fun at the party but dont get drunk with him because youll regret it.... (read in full...)
Ex blew his chances. Whats the next step?
Q. Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago, due to him being a serial cheat. We had been together for 5 months, having a one month break up in the middle. We broke up due to him both sleeping with someone else and sending pictures and flirting...
A. 31 July 2013: Read this ~ http://www.dearcupid.org/question/traumatic-past-haunting-your-present-and-threatening-your.html its by iamheretohelpyou and i think it may help you with your new bipolar diagnosis and letting people go ectcetra
he was a class a bum an... (read in full...)
Should I have told my girlfriend that I've been with men?
Q. I am an m2f crossdresser and pass well as a woman. My girlfriend of 5 years is totally fine with my crossdressing and is really in to it to a point that she prefers that I crossdress when we go out. She recently asked me if I ever wanted to or ha...
A. 23 March 2013: your biggest problem is that you lied. be honest with her but i dont think you should be allowed to date men at the same time. Cooper... (read in full...)
Should I call off my engagement? He is possesive but my family need his money....
Q. Hello all, I would really be grateful if anyone can guide me through this problem I'm facing. Iv met my current fiance 1 year ago, we've started talking and we directly clicked, he's a really really well off business man who is much older than me,...
A. 23 March 2013: i get where you are coming from but a job is very hard to get and 30k wont last as long as you think. save at least 10k of it and only get a small place. stick to the necessities for a year or so after you leave - no more extravagant living. i th... (read in full...)
Is a 17 month relationship too early to be thinking about babies?
Q. Hey everyone, So this basically is a question to ask your view on the situation I am in right now, I am a 23 year old woman and my partner of 17 months is a 26 year old man, the past few weeks we have discussed having a child, please do not think th...
A. 23 March 2013: you know youre committed now but havent you seen the number of people with problems on here because their "committed" partners walked away but they were sure they wouldnt because they said so but wouldnt get married?
Cooper... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend I don't have money for an Ipad, then he stopped talking to me.
Q. Dear cupid My bf of 3 years is asking me to buy him new iPad for his birthday, I don't have that kind of money and I cannot afford it. He never bought me anything for my b'day and I never really made an issue out of it. I told him I cannot ...
A. 23 March 2013: What should I do now
ignore him. if he doesnt call you in a week without you getting in touch with him then you walk away
hes sponging and doesnt give a crap about what you want. hes throwing a tantrum and you shouldnt stand for it.
if yo... (read in full...)
Can a single mom with 2 kids consider a military job?
Q. I apologize that this question isn't about dating. I'm not currently dating, as I'm focused more so on my future. Here's my situation: I'm 31, divorced, two kids... and contemplating joining the military. Is that crazy??? The job market is rough and ...
A. 23 March 2013: Im considering the military but that would be before i hve children. where would your children live while youre away?
as suggested see a professional to work out the details.
Cooper... (read in full...)
Can making a song help me get over my crush on my teacher?
Q. i have a huge crush my my science teacher mr m..... and i think i need to get over it. i have to sing in every assembly and mybe i should sing a song like "what i go to school for" or "i have a crush on my teacher" what do you think? would singing ...
A. 23 March 2013: erm... NO!!
if you do you will cause:
humiliation for yourself and your teacher
awkwardness for your teacher around you
a possible investigation in to inappropriate conduct risking his job
embarrassment for your boyfriend beca... (read in full...)
How early is too early in a relationship for the following?
Q. How early is too early in a relationship for the following? 1. Love bites 2. Ear kisses 3. Being topless together 4. Boob/nipple kisses 5. Being in underwear together 6. Being in bed in underwear together 7. Having a shower together 8. Bein...
A. 23 March 2013: i hate love bites because they look weird. i think ear kissing can be alright after a few months in. i think the rest should only be done when you're ready to do then, because it all goes hand in hand most of the time. Cooper... (read in full...)
I am a fem dom. Can I convince my man to be my sub?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a very attactive and girly girl feminine woman. I appreciate the beauty of a woman but am not sexually attracted to women. I am sexually attracted to men but I will not allow a man to have intercourse with me in a traditional ...
A. 23 March 2013: no self respecting man would change that much for a woman because if she truly loved him the way he was then she wouldnt want him to change that about himself.
therefore you are going to find a man who is transgendered and is happy to engage i... (read in full...)
Is a 17 month relationship too early to be thinking about babies?
Q. Hey everyone, So this basically is a question to ask your view on the situation I am in right now, I am a 23 year old woman and my partner of 17 months is a 26 year old man, the past few weeks we have discussed having a child, please do not think th...
A. 23 March 2013: if you wouldnt be able ot get married first then i think having a baby is a bad idea. its not because im old fashioned but its too easy to walk away if there isnt a binding commitment in place that gives you more to think about before leaving each ... (read in full...)
I cheated with a married family friend and now feel crushed that he has ended things
Q. I made the bad decision to cheat on my husband but I don't know what makes me feel worse... The fact that I cheated or that the other guy broke it off because he doesn't want to hurt his wife. We are all very close and have been friends for years. ...
A. 21 March 2013: cheating is one thing... keeping it from your husband is rubbing salt into the wound.
you made your bed and now you have to lay in it...
you made a mistake if you cheated once but you repeated it... that's a choice. as soon as you made that ch... (read in full...)
My daughter was bullied into sending a nude photo to a boy. What should I do?
Q. Ok, so my 13 year old daughter comes to me in the middle of the night crying because she did something really bad. She said she was pressured into sending a photo of herself nude to a boy in her class. He was being really mean and bullying towards ...
A. 21 March 2013: iamheretohelpyou is right. I knew a girl who did this at fifteen and the boy who was my mate at the time told everyone about it because the girl didnt want to tell anyone it happened. dont make the same mistake that girl did. if you want this th... (read in full...)
"The one"???
Q. How do you know if someone is "the One"? Just generally....
A. 21 March 2013: if there was only one for every person then people who lose their spouse to an illness or other natural causes would never find love again. there may only be one 'the one' but that doesnt mean you would never find love after that if something hap... (read in full...)
Do guys think experienced girls are hotter?
Q. Do boys think girls are hotter when they find out that they have 'done stuff' with another boy ?...
A. 21 March 2013: NOOOOOOOO!!!! sure the fantasy is a girl that knows what shes doing but i wouldnt want a girl to feel pressured into doing stuff just to make a guy like her. take your time sweety dont rush things because a guy wont respect a girl who gives it up ... (read in full...)
I am 3 months pregnant but my boyfriend pulled that "I am scared" crap. What's the next step?
Q. I am confused wether I am being lied to or not by the guy Ive been seeing for 6 mnths and am now 3 mnths pregnant too. When i told him i was pregnant he was happy but we had an argument after being in each others company for too long as we have both ...
A. 21 March 2013: I agree with iamheretohelpyou. no more babies until youre in a stable marriage and use as much protection as possible after this child is born and up until you are married (not engaged or before) but see a doctor to find out what will maximise the ... (read in full...)
I am 3 months pregnant but my boyfriend pulled that "I am scared" crap. What's the next step?
Q. I am confused wether I am being lied to or not by the guy Ive been seeing for 6 mnths and am now 3 mnths pregnant too. When i told him i was pregnant he was happy but we had an argument after being in each others company for too long as we have both ...
A. 20 March 2013: Well you could try to write down things that will help you see whether you are mentally and emotionally and financially and physically and realistically capable of raising this baby on your own.
Theres always adoption but some people cant go throu... (read in full...)
How many things should you have in common?
Q. Hey guys, I'm just wondering but in a relationship, how much things should you have I'm common with? Should you "think" the same way and have every interest or hobbies the same to make it work...
A. 19 March 2013: I read your past post. move on from him because he doesnt want to be with you. you dont have in common what he wants in a relationship.
dont obsess over him so much because it stops you moving on.
Cooper... (read in full...)
My mom has been talking about wanting to see me happy with someone and have a child, which makes me feel conflicted!
Q. Lately I've started to wonder if something is wrong with me. I'm 25 and I've never had a boyfriend. From the way things are looking now I'll probably never have any kids either. As a child and a teen I was bullied a lot, which made me very wary of ...
A. 19 March 2013: get your issues sorted out through therapy or self help books.
get a boyfriend and baby later if you ever want it.
you come first and deep down thats all your mum wants. she wants you to be happy and right now she doesnt see that from you be... (read in full...)
How do I get someone I care about to stop smoking?
Q. I need some serious help. I feel like such a terrible person because I can't control my own emotions. Recently my friend started smoking and its crushed me, I've cried everyday since, just knowing he does it upsets me and I'd give anything in...
A. 19 March 2013: peoples opinions change op. I smoke and i dont think its a great health choice but Ill stop if and when i feel like it not when someone else asks/tells me to no matter how good their intensions are. you cant change what he wants to do. peri... (read in full...)
I'm really falling for him again, but the problem is that he is still with his girlfriend.
Q. Hi! So this is a very long story about and old crush. In 2009 I met this guy and I totally crushed on him for about 2 years in total. I never told him how I felt, but we were both really great friends. He once asked me out but I took at as a j...
A. 19 March 2013: No contact or no girlfriend. At the very leest(least?) you need to distance yourself until hes single.... (read in full...)
I am 3 months pregnant but my boyfriend pulled that "I am scared" crap. What's the next step?
Q. I am confused wether I am being lied to or not by the guy Ive been seeing for 6 mnths and am now 3 mnths pregnant too. When i told him i was pregnant he was happy but we had an argument after being in each others company for too long as we have both ...
A. 19 March 2013: Can you be a: - Single parent getting child support? OR - Woman who aborted her child. At three months you should have been using double contraception because, clearly, your relationship is too new to handle something this lifechanging. I... (read in full...)
Is it ok to for me to kiss her goodbye? Is that going too far?
Q. So I am in love with my best friend. She knows this, but she can't let herself like me because she has a BF that goes to a different college. I've told her that before we get out for summer break (Which is a full 4 months) I will kiss her goodbye. ...
A. 18 March 2013: dude he might be the worst a$$ of them all but she doesnt care and she wants him not you. this means youre gonna have to move on now without a kiss.
Cooper... (read in full...)
My best friend, who has a long history of mental health problems and low self-esteem/anorexia, is claiming to be in love with a guy in his 40s who she hardly knows (who has a girlfriend) although she can't explain what she likes about him when I ask
Q. My best friend, who has a long history of mental health problems and low self-esteem/anorexia, is claiming to be in love with a guy in his 40s who she hardly knows (who has a girlfriend) although she can't explain what she likes about him when I ask ...
A. 18 March 2013: this guy is a cheater but he hasnt lied to your friend about his motives. she knows what he wants but wont accept it. it doesnt make him any less of an a$$ though.
if he knows she has such serious mental health problems and still continue... (read in full...)
Why don't my relationships last?
Q. im 18 and started dating when i was 16. Its funny but sad anytime i think about my current relationship as the 8th relationship im in now. And worst still i dnt see it survivin next one mouth. I dont really know what my problem is, all i hope since ...
A. 18 March 2013: i had about 8 relationships in two years... thats why they didnt last coz there is only so much space in two years for 8 different relationships to fit. thats an averige(average?) of three months each but that gives you no time to get to know them ... (read in full...)
What is the appeal of threesomes?
Q. My girlfriend of over a year (who I am very close to) suggested that we have a threesome and I declined immediately. We have wonderful sexual experience together. The thought of another guy even touching and kissing her in the bedroom physically ...
A. 18 March 2013: In theory there are lots of fantastic pros but even as a guy i can tell you its unlikely to end well coz of too many rotten variabbles(?).
Cooper... (read in full...)
How do you tell your boyfriend you don't really like his family?
Q. I recently spent time with my boyfriends family and realised they're sexist, racist, ignorant and rude, and it's very hard to bare now, my boyfriend on the contrary is caring, loving and understanding and we've been together years. I plan on ...
A. 18 March 2013: Im not sure. I have a crappy family dinamic(dynamic?) so im sure it will come up many times in my future relationships. if hes different from his family he probably knows how difficult they are when it comes to their opinions so maybe you could ... (read in full...)
How can I learn how to control my anger that turns in to grudges !
Q. Dear Cupid. I have five siblings I am the second oldest girl my mom had three girls,two boys.For some apparent reason the youngest girl and I just never could meet eye to eye even when we were kids I was older and she was the baby. I truly hated her ...
A. 18 March 2013: iamheretohelpyou it right. theres a lot of problems in my family but it was even worse when my uncle died and his brother suddenly regretted never making up for all the sh1t they put each other through... dont be like that...
Cooper... (read in full...)
Did he behave this way because there was someone else? And why would he say he regrets what we did?
Q. There is this boy I met on holiday and through the holiday we got close and things started going somewhere, then on the final day he started getting touchy feely, an he told me he really liked me so that night one thing led to another and we did ...
A. 18 March 2013: I had a mate who did this. Got with some girl on holiday for a couple of weeks and made her feel like they had a shot then got home and forgot all about her after a couple of months.
The unfortunate lesson to learn here is that if you give you... (read in full...)
I need to protect my child from the stranger that is her father. Advice?
Q. Had a one night stand with complete stranger five years ago. That night resulted in a baby. I informed the guy i was pregnant but he cut all contact with me. Now i knew his name, address, where he worked and stuff about his life because there was a ...
A. 18 March 2013: Crappy sperm donor or not your daughter deserves a chance to know her bio father.
You risked everything when she was concieved and this is just the so called karma coz he was not a good man and now she is past the messy baby things he wants to... (read in full...)
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