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Any solutions possible? I have a difficult time trusting women because of a past ex
Q. This is a whole pretty complicated story, I'll try to explain it as quickly as I can. My mother has been putting a lot of pressure on me lately to start dating, especially since I've been out of college for a year. I want to be able to date,...
A. 17 April 2016: Temper your expectations. You're missing out on the fun factor if every time you connect with women you expect that it would move in the direction you want it to go and at the pace that you prefer. Focus on building a good relationship rather t... (read in full...)
I've developed a crush on my straight boss! Help me get my feelings under control!
Q. Hello all, I have developed a crush on my straight boss and any tips on how to handle it would be welcome. We are both in long term relationships (5+ years, homosexual in my case, heterosexual in his). Apart from being extremely handsome, h...
A. 17 April 2016: Perhaps it's the idea of having someone like him as a partner as opposed to the one that you have. As you've mentioned you have issues with your current beau. That leaves you vulnerable. Address that either by ending the relationship and bringing ... (read in full...)
I have tried everything but to her I am dead!
Q. I have only had one girlfriend in the past which was a LDR from my state to another state, a 14 hour drive. I was with my ex from the age of 19-24 and we had a lot of ups and downs. I was going through a bad time in my personal life with the de...
A. 17 April 2016: I have exactly someone like you in my life. Its been 18 years, we have families of our own, but he just can't let go. I don't get it, really. All I can tell you, for your sake, is that there's no point in convincing her because maybe she has moved ... (read in full...)
Should I wait an extra year before I can vacation with my young son?
Q. I have no one to ask this question to but this website. I am in a relationship for the past year and we were dating for a few months prior to being in a relationship. Outside this relationship I have a child who is around 19 months old. I wa...
A. 17 April 2016: OP, there's such a thing as expressed breast milk. If the baby-mom says she won't be able to store enough to last during your whole vacation, you can suggest that you both go to a paediatrician to seek advice. Your son is no longer an infant. He's a ... (read in full...)
Threesome gone wrong and I feel so cheated! Help me please...
Q. I have an issue that I can't get over and I don't know what to do. I have been with my husband for approximately 10 years and he has always been my best friend. We have always joked about a threesome but were never really serious, although secretly ...
A. 17 April 2016: I wouldn't want to dwell on the specifics because even as an outsider, I feel the weight of what transpired. I'm actually biting my tongue as I write, focusing only on the end view that you wish to have and that is to save the marriage. Get anger... (read in full...)
Could this mean I'm not 'the one' for him?
Q. My fiance and I are getting along really well these days, however I recently keep thinking back to the first couple of months of our relationship over 3 years ago. It was very passionate and sexually charged. But my fiance at the time didn't want to ...
A. 17 April 2016: The thing with rational people like him is that they're cerebral. In relationships, it couldn't be all about love. They have this certain formula in their head for a relationship to work. That's pretty much like all of us, isn't it? Except that for ... (read in full...)
Should I marry him even though it would mean that I would be stuck in a life I would hate?
Q. Ive going to marry soon this year and im having dillema about my future. I think its normal to worry about my future life and im not telling or discussed this with anyone. Its making me depressed by the time pass and it keep worse. We have been t...
A. 13 April 2016: Let me get this out of the way. I am outraged why, despite the resources available to you and your family, you have not been empowered. I understand that you have certain traditions to keep and to abide, I get that, but this is the 21st century ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's great, but I'm still obsessing over my ex
Q. I just wanted some advice on my current situation. I have a boyfriend we've been together for about 8 and a half mouths. He's amazing. In my eyes he's the definition of what every guy should be and if he had been anything less I wouldn't have go...
A. 12 April 2016: It's a destructive path and I hope you get to see the pattern in the series of unhealthy relationships. In the first one, you were the willing victim. In the second, it's your current beau. You are the central figure and you are the one in control. ... (read in full...)
I got drunk and revealed too much of myself to him and now he's ignoring me
Q. Hello. I've been feeling really miserable and need advice. The guy I really like was in the city for some work. We planned to meet but he got stuck somewhere. I waited for 3 hours alone despite him asking me not to. We finally met and it was good. ...
A. 11 April 2016: Don't beat yourself up. It does take a little practice to master self-restraint. I'm sure you won't be committing the same mistakes again. For now, stop doing damage control because if you're thinking there's still a chance to make this work, and ... (read in full...)
He wants to move close to his baby mother! Am I overreacting?
Q. During a conversation with my boyfriend of 2 years, we were discussing areas of our city where we would like to live together. (We currently reside our parents) I told him that I wanted to live in a more central area where condos were being built ...
A. 11 April 2016: Oh, boy. The house seems to be divided on this issue. Before I settled down, I decided I cannot see a guy who doesn't share the same lifestyle and doesn't belong to the same religious denomination. I didn't want the drama and the complications th... (read in full...)
My ex contacted me and then I found out he's living with a girl. Should I just tell him and cut all contact?
Q. Well this is kind of a mess of a story but about a week ago my ex boyfriend randomly contacted me through facebook and for the past few days we've been just catching up and chatting about old times, our family, etc. Nothing sexual or flirty ...
A. 11 April 2016: I won't give him the satisfaction of knowing he still has some form of power over me especially in this case where he doesn't seem to be forthcoming. He has his own reasons for opening the communication lines again, but it's something you should not ... (read in full...)
Would you be thinking there's more to the story here or just a guy wanting to get away at a casino, all by himself?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 2 years. We have been arguing a lot lately and have broken up some but then gotten back togther. I have never doubted his faithfulness to me. And I know he feels the same about me. So trust has never been an ...
A. 11 April 2016: One, he had to lie about it. Two, he spends the whole night out in a casino. Three, you have been arguing a lot lately. Not a good mix. I would let it slide for now, but not without keeping my antenna up. How different was this rough patch from all ... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend should help me out with money for this vacation?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 2 years. We both want to go on vacation in a month or so (our first trip together). He makes about 4x the amount of money I make. So you can imagine that he is not concerned about money on vacation for ...
A. 10 April 2016: I think he will appreciate you more if you can be honest not only with him, but to yourself. That said, I do feel that the resentment is unjustified at this point. Sometimes we forget that people aren't able to read minds. You have to state your ... (read in full...)
I'm not ready to be engaged but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend and turn down his proposal
Q. So my bf of almost 2 years recently proposed to me. It's not that I wasn't happy to know that he feels so strongly about me, it's just that there's a few things keeping me from saying yes. I've been 'engaged' once before when I was younger. I u...
A. 10 April 2016: Reading your thoughts and I instantly feel that you tend to second-guess yourself. That is usually the case when you have an over-critical family and get into situations when they turn out to be right. But I think you are honest, intuitive, and have ... (read in full...)
How could people be so rude about my wedding?
Q. Hi, I don't know if I can post on here but I really need to vent and feel so upset. I got married in October and my husband and I were on a really tight budget, even though we had been saving for 2 years, making sacrifices and working every ext...
A. 10 April 2016: I'm sorry you had to go through that, but I had to commend you for many things - one, for showing up at your cousin's wedding even though you know a part of you is going to hurt; two, for being responsible enough to plan a wedding well within your ... (read in full...)
Shy or just interested
Q. I'm 27 and the guy I would like to be with is 29 (he also has a 4 year old child) but there's a twist. We work together and I've had a lot of ppl tell me that trying to date someone you work with is not a good idea. Yet we work on different floors ...
A. 9 April 2016: When a guy wants you, he would go after you especially in your case since you already have shown him something he could start with or follow-up on. The next move is his, not yours. I would, however, caution you that it's not the best of ideas not ... (read in full...)
Do I say anything to this man or just wait until my life is straightened out?
Q. This is a complicated story but I will try to make it as simple as I can. I have been married but things haven't been working out due to many reasons. We have been to therapy, try working on our marriage and eventually got to the point where my...
A. 9 April 2016: I think it would be wiser if you could avoid the other guy in the meantime that you're sorting things out with your husband. That would be fair not only to these men, but to you also because you deserve to have a happy life whether it's with eit... (read in full...)
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