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writes:My boyfriend is cheatin on me nd he is denaing it pls how cn i catch him redhanded Reply to this Question
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 Depends on how you think he's cheating? On line?....Or in person? If he cheats on line, you could set up a fake profile and then come on to him via email or through a website you know he frequents. You would have to become someone else while chatting (be sure you don't use any normal phrases he's heard you say before) and see if it takes the bait. If it's something he's doing away from homme, you might have to follow him or if you can afford it, hire a detective. But a word of caution. If your snooping yields nothing, make sure he never finds out. He'll never trust you again. And if your snooping proves he's trash, dump him without a word. He still doesn't need to know how you figured out what a slime ball he is. Some secrets are better kept to yourself. Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 May 2011):
If you are sure he's already cheating, then leave him. Don't waste your time trying to catch him out, because you won't.
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (1 May 2011):
 do you have proof that hes cheating?
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reader, MelissaT  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 honey i understand your fear and the feeling of denial. no woman can just pack up and leave a relationship based entirely on suspicion. you need proof before you can make a rational decision so as to not regret this in the future. i say follow the bastard, take photos, make a journal of his movements. if he is cheating, it is important to not confront him with evidence immediately, now you need to ask the where he was at specific time and with whom, if he lies then you need to be prepared to leave. DONT CONFRONT UR BF WITH EVIDENCE IF YOU ARE NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO LEAVE!!. it would also give you a sense of closure if you wait outside a motel or the other woman house and confront him. this works every time!!!!i know from experience. his behavior infront of you both will reveal to you who he really loves.best of luck to you. but most importantly, be prepared emotionally to withdraw.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 hello OP,If you already distrust your boyfriend then this is extremely corrosive to your relationship. Just as any infidelity is always toxic for a relationship.If you have some very good indications that he is cheating then it would be best to end the relationship now.Whereas if what you feel is jealously, unfounded, but with no proof, then thatSuspicion and jealously will slowly destroy this and other relationships youmight enter into.Don't even think of actually trying to catch him out red-handed. That is too humiliating for you. And it lacks dignity.Value yourself. Expect the best for you. Walk away from any partner who ever dares to cheat or lie or abuse you. You are worthy of much much better than a lying, cheating, or abusive partnerBest wishes for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): beware, unless you are certain about this you could be destroying your relationship, noone likes feeling untrusted. if you are certain, then just leave, there is no need to drag out the relationship any longer, its just going to cause you pain, if you really believe he is seeing someone else, walk away, if he loves you, if you really matter to him, he will chase you, if he doesn't you have your answer Dupsy and then you can move on with your life, find someone who deserves you, who will treat you right, and who you will always trust with you're whole heart.
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