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writes:I fell in love with a guy... and he is a player.. I know that he is a player. He is my good friend.We met online. I know him from 4 months.I am 16. And He is 23. He helped me to come out from my last break-up. We do sex chat. (We don't do on cam we only chat). I do because I love him. I don't know any reason why I love him. He never say that he love me. He made it clear that we are friends and I can share my problems with him and he will be there for me. But he also said he loves some other girl. He hasn't told her yet. If he love some other girl, why he is talking about sex with me?. Can he ever fall in love for me? Now he is asking me to show more of my body on cam I can't show my body on cam. I can't do. Please help me. I'm in love with this player. If its wrong how can I stop myself? How can I forget him? What should I tell him?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 oh you poor dear girl. A player is the worst most soul destroying guy to ever be involved with. To a player you are just another mountain to climb. His only goal being to climb that mountain, then shut the door, and move on to the next mountain.
To a player you are just a challenge when he has not yet had sex with you.
Once you have had sex with him you are no longer as interesting to him. Once he has tired of you he will shut the door on you, and break your heart when he does so.
To a player you are just sexual exercise. Once he's had that sexual exercise he will have to find another willing girl to soften up for his next sexual conquest.
Even if he DID tell you he loves you i would not believe him. Because players have this driving need to make as many pit stops as they can. Each stop a different girl.
If you want to see how interested he really is then turn off the web cam for six weeks. And turn off the sex chats for six weeks.
If he was truly interested in you then being unavailable for sex chats and web cam would not matter.
He loves another girl.
Please respect you and who you are more highly. He will move on to another as sure as the sun will come up in the morning.
Please do not put yourself through all this hearbreak over a guy who is not worthy of you. And is unavailable to you.
You do deserve a more committed available guy than mr webcam
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for replying...
@ Mybutthurts... Yes I know him from 4 months I call him my good friend because I feel that he is good and he always tries to get me out from depression. My last boy-friend was older than me. He used me. And I used to wait for him daily online. And I used to shout in chat-room his name and say that I will die if you not come.. He saw that and He used his name and chatted with me... He tried to help me. There's many thing about him. We haven't met but we talked on phone.
@ Abella- I told him about my feeling I have towards him. He said that he is feeling gulity because he care for me. He don't want me to get hurt. We both want to do sex in real. I know that I can't have him. But he told me about him, He didn't lie. And I'm madly in love with him. I can do anything for him. In future, I don't want to get married and have boy-friend because each time I fell in love I got hurt. He said that he want to fuck me in real and keep sexual relationship for all life. And he will stop whenever i say. And he will not force me.Should I wait for him? If his love say no to him? Do you think he will come to me? He said that even if his love say no to him. He can't marry to me. Its hurting me. I'm confused. I'm madly in love with him.
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reader, Abella +, writes (1 May 2011):
at 16 you think you can handle anything. But he is seven years older. Has much more experience. Plus he's a player. His behavior is not respectful either. Trying to get you to reveal more on the webcam is compromising your standards.You clearly have higher standards.He has lower standards.And he will never be satisfied with just one or two girls on the side, if he is a player.He may even invent another girl, just to keep you keen, but with no hope of more.Because he's already confided that you are not the 'one' So he is exploiting you for his own sexual satisfaction. Send him an email when he is asleep.Then turn off the web cam.And turn off the computer.Delete your existing email account and start up a new one under a different carrier. Get out in the sunshine. Go walking. Visit the gym. Visit some local friends. Reconnect with the world.Volunteer for something useful in the community.An online relationship is difficult to sustain even if the couple are very committed. But you are a mere diversionTo this shallow man.Find yourself a nicer more genuine real man. Not a cyber player.Then you will have a chance of being cherished and appreciated and adored. All things this player cannot offer you.And nor does he want to offer you this genuine love. Players just love the chase, then they get bored. And move on to their next conquest.Turn off the web cam
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reader, MyButtHurts +, writes (1 May 2011):
You've only know a guy 4 months and already you call him your good friend? Have you even met him in person?
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