What to make of a woman who has confusing behavior
Q. I've been giving (hopefully useful) advice on Dear Cupid for a while, now I have a question myself. When I walk my dog I occassionally bump into this woman jogging. This has happened at least five times. The first time she actually saw me havi...
A. 18 June 2013: I've been replaying this is my mind. She very well might have been a bit intimidated because I felt very confident while she was (a bit) nervous. Note that young people (I'd give her 24) become increasingly more ackward in real life because of all t... (read in full...)
What to make of a woman who has confusing behavior
Q. I've been giving (hopefully useful) advice on Dear Cupid for a while, now I have a question myself. When I walk my dog I occassionally bump into this woman jogging. This has happened at least five times. The first time she actually saw me havi...
A. 18 June 2013: Note that she was walking and I walked with her. She usually is walking instead of jogging.... (read in full...)
Will it be weird if I'm the only one wearing a long dress?
Q. Im going to graduation soon and i bought this white long dress to wear during graduation. It looks really nice to me but all of my friend says they are going to wear knee length dresses. I want to know what are your opinions and advices and should i ...
A. 16 May 2013: You will stand out. Be proud.
Ignore anyone who might have negative comments about it. That would be lame really.
Any guy you fancy? This will help get his attention.... (read in full...)
I'm a nice girl -- why don't other girls ever like me?
Q. Why don't girls like me? Is there something wrong? Girls don't like me at all. Everywhere I go. Gym, college, work. I'd meet a bunch of girls and just one will be friends with me and the rest would just look at me funny and not talk ...
A. 15 May 2013: Groups of people have a tendency to display herd behavior and act negatively towards someone who doesn't fit in.
An extreme case of herd behavior is when the group starts rioting.
It's also a fact that women can be very jealous. So if you combi... (read in full...)
Haven't seen her for two years, so how do I initiate contact?
Q. so im a junior in highschool and theres this girl that ive really liked, but the last time we talked was the last day of freshman year and she was expecting me to ask her out.... but i didnt go through with it. I didnt see her at all last school ...
A. 15 May 2013: Well, you did talk with her before so you guys are not like strangers to each other.
I would approach her and just ask her how she's doing. This will be a conversation starter. Then ask her if she's seeing someone.... (read in full...)
Can you be happy and have fun in life if you don't have any friends?
Q. How can you be happy and have fun in life without having friends? Is it possible? I've always been kind of a loner, and I don't really know what to do with my free time. I feel really lonely and I feel like you have to have friends to be happy...
A. 15 May 2013: Well, I'm a loner and can certainly also be lonely at the same time, mainly when there's no gf in my life. So being a loner and being lonely doesn't have to be mutually exclusive.
I actually just started volunteering which gets me out there an... (read in full...)
Am I correct, that she's using me? I'm so depressed and stressed because of her
Q. Hello everyone! I have this friend whom I've known for years. She has always been so bossy and always trying to control my life. I've reached a point where i can't take this anymore. She's very selfish, only thinking about herself. She cal...
A. 11 May 2013: You feel being used? You definitely ARE being used!
Is there anything positive about her? Do you still like her at all?
Someone needs to be ditched by you and it's not your cousin...... (read in full...)
Have made no new friends in this new place.Would it be better to stay here and continue with my job, and hope things get better? Or move back with my Bf?
Q. Thanks for reading. I will make it as brief as possible :) I'm 20, and have been in a long distance relationship for around 4 months. Previously was living with my boyfriend (25) but have moved interstate to live with my mum for awhile. I fou...
A. 11 May 2013: Do you life in a remote place with little activities?
Have you already investigated what's going on in your area?
Do you have any hobbies?... (read in full...)
Is it a crime to have an opinion that goes against the grain?
Q. I happened to say on Facebook that a remake of a legendary film-maker's movie was way, way better than the original one. I said that the original was over-hyped and I didn't really see anything special in it. And scores of people pounced on me from ...
A. 11 May 2013: Don't be afraid to behave different from the norm.
I do it often deliberately because I like to be different from the brainwashed sheeple. I don't care what people think.
Don't get upset but be proud of your own opinions.... (read in full...)
I will delay going out with him until I'm 15. But my question is, is 2 years too big of an age gap?
Q. So I've met a guy at a group I go to. We both clicked instantly. We both love books, poetry, politics and basically are quite nerdy. We have the same sense of humour and always make each other laugh. If anyone in the group makes a joke, we always l...
A. 11 May 2013: The age difference shouldn't be a problem especially since you guys click so well.
I'm actually impressed about the topics you guys are talking and even debating about concidering your age.
If he's special I would hold on to him and start flirting... (read in full...)
I really don't know how to approach my crush
Q. Hey there, Basically I am really confused and do not know what to do. I'll give you the basics. Im an 18 year old girl, and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years. I love him to bits, he is the kindest and most sweetest person ...
A. 9 May 2013: Agreed with what has been said except
"if she is gay she isnt going to be interested in a girl that likes men".
Why would she have a problem with someone who is bisexual?
I wouldn't mind a gf who happens to be bi.... (read in full...)
I'm scared of having sex because I can't stand pain!
Q. i hv been in a relationship up to a year and nw my patner is suggesting we should hv sex and meanwhile am still a virgin. Am afraid it might be hurt like hell becaus i hv never had that kind of experience before in my entire life...
A. 8 May 2013: Do a little test: if you can insert two of your fingers then you have nothing to worry about.
If it doesn't fit then you could practise by inserting just one finger regularly. Once you get used to it then try two fingers.
You could ask him to g... (read in full...)
We don't have much in common nor much to talk about. If breaking up seems too difficult what can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm really confused with how I'm feeling. I've been with my boyfriend about 9 months. He seems to be crazy about me, like he's always said I'm his soulmate an that he would move in with me right away if I asked him and that he wants to be with...
A. 5 May 2013: You guys are obviously incompatible. He might really only want you because of sex and just being together but that's not enough.
It won't work between the too of you this way.
Is he affectionate at all?
You felt sorry for him and was afraid t... (read in full...)
Should I approach my crush, or just get over her?
Q. Hi all sorry if this is long, I need your advice on how to get over a crush. To start off with I am 28 and the woman I have a crush on is 40. I have never been out with a bloke before so obviously as you can tell I am very introverted, or ...
A. 5 May 2013: You already know she is straight so you know it's never going to happen between the two of you.
If it really gets to you then you should probably let her go and avoid her.
You seem to be just an acquaintance to her which is another sign she rea... (read in full...)
We'e only seen each other once and when I talk about seeing each other he gets mad!
Q. A year ago I met my boyfriend through my friend who lives in Texas. I have only met him once. Every time we talk he says he loves me and misses me and he can't wait till he gets to see me again but every time I bring up him visiting me up here or me ...
A. 5 May 2013: You only met him once and he became your bf right away?
This sounds very rushed and unhealthy to me.
Looks like he isn't taking it very seriously too.
I would move on.
... (read in full...)
I want to tell my boyfriend that I kissed another guy but not sure how to do it?
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend and kissed someone when I was drunk I feel bad, he's cheated on me in the past but I felt worse that he had lied to me I want to tell him but I don't know what to say...
A. 5 May 2013: You were drunk so didn't know what you were doing. Just tell him that.
Considering your husband's history he should forgive you or else he's a hypocrite.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend I let another girl give me oral sex?
Q. I have seriously messed things up with my girlfriend and I need advice on how to put things right. Basically a few weeks ago I went out for my friend's birthday, my girlfriend didn't come as she couldn't get the time off work. I was annoyed ...
A. 5 May 2013: Well, if this was just an incident then there's the option of not telling your gf if you really don't want to lose her.... (read in full...)
I know that I’ll never know this guy’s intentions unless I go for it, but I’m nervous and don’t want to end up hurt. What should I do?
Q. There’s this shy guy at my work who at first would not say anything to me, but now seems to be making attempts to say hi and stuff to me. He’ll stare at me and if I stare back, he’ll like fumble around. I don’t get it because at first he wouldn’t ...
A. 30 April 2013: Agreed with the response below. I also was shy once.
I had a crush on this girl. Then one day our eyes locked from a distance when we were walking towards each other in the crowd at school. We just kept staring at each other (for at least 3 seco... (read in full...)
Is he interested? I'm not sure what to do next!
Q. Hi guys, I am ordinarily a well put together 36 year old woman but find myself in Unchartered territory. I have recently been having a flirtation with a guy (which is an alien concept as I have been on my own for a long time) in person he is ...
A. 30 April 2013: I'm in your age group and I too very much prefer IRL contact over texting so you can laugh together, flirt, see body language etc. It's simply more intimate.
I would arrange a date next and why don't you just ask him what he thinks of texting.... (read in full...)
Is he more into this relationship than he's willing to admit?
Q. An old relationship is in the process of being renewed. He says he wants to keep it casual, but is constantly saying and doing things that don't define casual. He comes over several times a week, sometimes, twice a day. If I don't call him, he ...
A. 26 April 2013: - Actions speak louder than words - How long is this renewal of your relationship going on? Give it a bit more time.... (read in full...)
This cute guy is all I want but I'm too shy to talk to him, it's killing me!
Q. Why can't I get him out my head? This is killing me:(? My ex boyfriend lied cheated and dumped me and i lost all my confidence so I decided to join the gym and I'm in the best shape in my life. Guys all say I'm attractive. But there's ...
A. 24 April 2013: Well, it seems like he might be suffering from the same problem as you do. He get's quiet because he really likes you.
Why don't you ask him if he would like a walk or a drink together? That would be a nice intermediate step before asking him out ... (read in full...)
Will a shy guy ever ask a girl out?
Q. I really like this shy guy, but with his line of work, i am a 'client' so it makes the situation a lot harder to court him (thou i am not a direct client of his). I have written a question on here before and i get the impression that he does like ...
A. 24 April 2013: Women can be very jealous. It's very likely this colleague gives you dirty looks because you are competition for her.
This would be even more motivation for me to pursue him if I were in your shoes. (evil smiley).
I'd say that it's better to be... (read in full...)
How does the average couple afford children?
Q. Does anyone else worry a little that they will never be able to afford a child? I am still on the younger side so I know I have a couple of years to figure it out before my clock starts ticking, but I wonder how we will ever get there. We do okay ...
A. 24 April 2013: You should think twice before having children really. There are so many negatives about having kids.
Search for 'The Top 100 Reasons Not to Have Kids (and Remain Childfree)'... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out? Or is the age difference too much?
Q. So a bit of a random question, I have moved offices at work and now am at a office closer to home. Of which is next to a bakery.. over the past few months I have been in for my lunch and have met a nice young girl, who seems nice and has a nice ...
A. 15 April 2013: What's critical here is how mature she is. Try to find out things like:
Does she have a serious attitude? Does she know what she wants? Is she a party animal? Is she impatient? How are her friends etc.... (read in full...)
Why do girls like guys with attitude? Why can't they admit they don't like swet guys?
Q. I’m in a relationship with my current girlfriend for the last 14 months. Before that, I was in relationship twice : for two years and one year respectively and I was dumped because I was too sweet and loveable boyfriend. Before entered into...
A. 14 April 2013: You overdid it. You tried the other extreme.
If you love her, your next move should be to do something really nice to/for her.
She will probably appreciate it very much and possibly cry because she's not used to being treated well by you.
... (read in full...)
First time sex and a big member.
Q. My boyfriend has an abnormally big dick and it is physically too big for me? -I've sat on it lubed up and it would take alot of force to make it go in, were both still virgins but feel ready, how do i go about making this as less painful as possible...
A. 14 April 2013: You may want to practise first with two fingers in there or a dildo so you get used to it. You will have to relax, very important.... (read in full...)
Her mother caught her doing a hand job on me and I had to leave.
Q. My girlfriend and I were at her house we were cooling about and she was giving me a hand job her parents are strict and against us doing anything however, while she was giving me a hand job her mother saw and called josie out of the room said that I ...
A. 14 April 2013: Are the parents strict against you guys doing anything in their house or even anywhere?
If the former then always respect it.
If the latter, well, that's none of their business. People your age do things like handjobs all the time.
But obvio... (read in full...)
Low sex drive? How do I be a normal woman towards my husband and want sex like other women do?
Q. I have been married for 3yrs now and with 2 children, but right from time I have been that kind of girl who doesn't usually get moved by sex. Right from my university days I have been so protective of myself and the fact of not getting used mad...
A. 12 April 2013: I would go to a doctor and have a general checkup and your hormones checked out.... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I crave sex more than we have it?
Q. I'm currently in a relationship with someone who I love very much. Not only is he smart, quirky and good-looking, but he's wonderful in bed. I always find myself thinking/fantasizing about him. My only complaint within our relationship is that we ...
A. 12 April 2013: I'm a firm believer in the power of desire. It's very healthy to long for someone/something.
If you overdo it then you run the risk of getting bored with sex. So my advise would be to do it just a bit less than you would prefer, so you keep long... (read in full...)
My supervisor flirts with me but I just found out he is gay!
Q. I have a supervisor at my job who always seems like he is flirting, I mean he will come stand me and starts singing songs, asking me dumb questions, and trying to joke with me like guys normally would do if they are trying to get a girls attention. ...
A. 12 April 2013: Could it be that the person who told you your sv is gay, may have a little agenda? Is it a she? Could she have an interest in him?... (read in full...)
I felt betrayed when I found out my girlfriend had told me I was her first boyfriend but I wasn't!
Q. Alright so this is going to be kiiinnndd of a weird question. It's water under the bridge now, but I just want to see if my reaction to my girlfriend a while ago was reasonable. So here goes: My gf and I are in 10th grade in high school. All the ...
A. 12 April 2013: Well, you got some strong answers now. At least it's positive you figured you were overreacting and took the time to consult us here.
Now, you know what to do next don't you? You go to her *in person* and tell her (in tears) you are deeply s... (read in full...)
Low sex drive? How do I be a normal woman towards my husband and want sex like other women do?
Q. I have been married for 3yrs now and with 2 children, but right from time I have been that kind of girl who doesn't usually get moved by sex. Right from my university days I have been so protective of myself and the fact of not getting used mad...
A. 12 April 2013: Have you guys tried experimenting in new sex positions? If not, then that might help. Do you have orgasms from sex?... (read in full...)
Is it possible for 34 year old man be interested in 26 year old woman? I am separated with 3 children.
Q. Ok so I'm a 26 year old single mom of three young kids. I've been seperated from my husband for a year and a half, we need to save money for a divorce. Anyways i jus met a 34 year old man about 2 weeks ago but only been talking for a week. i me...
A. 11 April 2013: To answer your main question: sure he may be interested in you.
I'm 37 and currently interested in a woman who is around 24 (don't know her exact age yet).
I will never dismiss a woman upfront who is at least 21, because she might surprise... (read in full...)
My girlfriend admitted to masturbating to her male friends of hers. Is this normal?
Q. My girlfriend admitted to masturbating to certain male friends of hers. She even told me which ones. I appreciate how honest she is and regret that I even asked. She claims her fantasies don't reflect real desires- that she really doesn't want to ...
A. 10 April 2013: She's obviously broadminded. They are/were probably other signs of this?
What's most important is that she is honest. I'd say changes of cheating are actually lower like Euphoric29 said.
Maybe you can 'solve' this in a fun way, like have you gu... (read in full...)
Is it bad to daydream all the time?
Q. Is it bad that I'm daydreaming all the time? I'm a college student with average grades, a waitress, have decent family and friends, and I'm single. However I'm constantly daydreaming about my imaginary life. My boyfriend and what we did for ...
A. 10 April 2013: You're not alone in daydreaming. I do it a lot.
I'm kind of a hopeless romantic. Love nature, old music, longing for past times, daydreaming about what I long for.... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and hopeless with girls!
Q. I'm 22, I am hopeless with girls. I have never been with one and now I am too scared to even try. I am a male model (physique, underwear etc) so objectively I am pretty good looking at the very least, very hot at the most... which almost compounds ...
A. 10 April 2013: Have you tried speed dating? This would be a good way to practise.
If that's too scary then you could try dating websites. Your good looks will attract women.... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and hopeless with girls!
Q. I'm 22, I am hopeless with girls. I have never been with one and now I am too scared to even try. I am a male model (physique, underwear etc) so objectively I am pretty good looking at the very least, very hot at the most... which almost compounds ...
A. 9 April 2013: OP, do you have any hobbies? You might want to take a look for girls elsewhere.... (read in full...)
Does this staring contest mean anything?
Q. I caught this girl staring at me last week and when I caught her she didn't look away so I kept looking until she did. I won that staring contest. then yesterday I was listening to my music and doing my work in art and I was just zoning out in my ...
A. 6 April 2013: Well, she probably likes you. I would smile back at her. See what happens.
When you get the chance I'd start a conversation with her.... (read in full...)
I rejected him, and now I feel like I've lost a friend. How can I fix this?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've met this guy at the beginning of my senior year. At first I just thought of him as a great friend because we always hang out together in groups and had a great time. Aside from that we would talk on the phone for hours at night, the ...
A. 6 April 2013: You gave some compelling reasons why you don't want him as a bf + you don't seem to have romantic feelings for him + you guys would be seperated and heart broken anyway. So you guys have the choice of both of you with broken hearts or just h... (read in full...)
I don't think I want a boyfriend anymore, I just want to be alone for awhile. How can I tell my boyfriend this?
Q. my dad has just passed out recently and my boyfriend has been supportive and all that but I just feel like I d0nt need him in my life anymore.i wanna be alone not being involve with anyone is the way I feel normal or not coz I have been moody around ...
A. 6 April 2013: Simple question: do you love him?... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and hopeless with girls!
Q. I'm 22, I am hopeless with girls. I have never been with one and now I am too scared to even try. I am a male model (physique, underwear etc) so objectively I am pretty good looking at the very least, very hot at the most... which almost compounds ...
A. 5 April 2013: Girls who makes it a problem that you're inexperienced aren't worth it really.
The girls you are referring to are they models too?
Maybe you should take a look at less demanding girls?
My general experience in life is that there are always peo... (read in full...)
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