I really like this girl!
Q. Hi everyone, I was talking to this girl on a dating site and we had been talking for nearly a month. We were getting on really well and we had similar interests, she even admired that she really liked me and I liked her a lot too but I feel really ...
A. 17 July 2013: Hi,
I wouldn't try to think about what she said and any of her reasons. Maybe she is genuine, maybe not. Don't bother now.
You don't need a 7 day a week person. Go back on the site and start making friendships with other people. They do come alo... (read in full...)
How do I make her love me?
Q. i am in class 10th and love a girl who is a year younger than me.. The problem is that she hates me a lot. Once i had proposed her but she said no with a reason that she thinks me as her brother.... I can't take big steps because it's school days so ...
A. 11 July 2013: Hi, You can't make anyone love you. Greek mythology had phials of potions that Tristan and Isolde drank, and Romeo and Juliet drank a love potion. Narcissus also looked into a river and fell in love with his reflection. For you, this is real life ... (read in full...)
My online guy is giving me the silent treatment
Q. Hi, Guy’s I hope you can help. I met a guy online. We have been talking for two months now. He asked me if we could become exclusive since we got along so well. I said yes. We haven’t met yet because he lives long distance. I have asked hi...
A. 11 July 2013: Hi, you don't need this sort of person in your life. Get out now and block and ignore him. Remember you are facing your father's illness and this can bring you to want the company and love from another man because you fear losing a man.(your father) ... (read in full...)
Worried that ex friend is vengeful after she found me on facebook.
Q. Hello dear Aunts, Thank you for being here for every problem all of us have. Well my problem is about an ex-friend of mine. She was mean and abusive (both psychological and physical abuse), so i ended the friendship and moved away about a year and...
A. 2 July 2013: Hi,
Block her. Go to your privacy settings and block her. ... (read in full...)
We're going to be long-distance and I'm afraid of it ending badly
Q. I have been in relationship with my girlfriend for nearly four months. She knew I would be moving away (1hour drive) yet she continued to meet me. I told her it's getting too strong and we shouldn't if I am going to move away. She says she h...
A. 30 June 2013: Hi,
One hour is possible. It's not too far and with technology such as emails, texts, skype etc it will all help.
My only thoughts here are that you don't seem so keen on her. You see, if you were really interested in her, you would go out of y... (read in full...)
Would it be alright to buy presents for the son of my ex?
Q. I dated a lady for 20 months, I got her with one child a son. Her son loved me a lot and now we broke up a month ago and pn the 30th pf june is this boy's birthday. What I will like to be help on is, can I buy this Boy some presents for his birthday ...
A. 24 June 2013: Hi,
It depends if you have any ulterior motives? Is the gift simply a gift for the child? Or, is the gift an opportunity to get back into contact with his mom? Ask yourself these questions and give an honest answer. If it is to get back with your... (read in full...)
She broke my heart and she's expecting me to wish her a birthday message
Q. Hi, My ex- girlfriend that broke up our four year relationship would be celebrating her birthday in some days time. The fact is 4 months ago she broke up with me and recently she's been finding different means and tactics to get us talking,...
A. 24 June 2013: Hi,
You do not need to do anything. You have ignored her since, so carry on doing so. You can block her and change your numbers if needed. You have the decision whether to do this or not. If you are finished with her then stay finished and don'... (read in full...)
Was I dumped on Valentine's Day and I just didn't realize it?
Q. I've been dating a woman since Nov 2012 and we are intimate. I sent her a Valentine's day card where I refer to her as my girlfriend and tell her how I appreciate her. She never responded to my Valentine's day card even though she did receive it. ...
A. 4 March 2013: Hi,
I'd let this go now.Don't bother with any more communication. You sort of had a fling with this girl and now it's over. Delete her details and don't respond. She went on holiday, needs space, feels overwhelmed....this says, "I'm finished with... (read in full...)
Am I finally over my ex? Because I don't feel anything or even care about him anymore
Q. Does this mean i'm finally over my ex? I've stopped thinking about him as much as I used to, which was a lot! I can think about our memories and him and i don't tear up or feel sad, but just think of how it was a happy point in my life. I don't fi...
A. 26 February 2013: Hi,
Yes I believe you are. Now delete and block everything that you have of him. Thanks. ... (read in full...)
Is he bored with me? I caught him yanking off in bed next to me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man who was married for over 20 years. The last 7 years it was a sexless marriage. We happen to have sex very often but there are times where I find porn on his phone and have caught him a few times masturbati...
A. 26 February 2013: Hi,
Are you exclusive with this man now? Is he still married? Also, do you know for sure it was sexless? I ask because I'm not quite clear after reading your post? Thanks. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop hoping my ex will get back to me?
Q. I met the girl of my dreams last summer. We hit it off quickly and it wasn't long before we changed our status on facebook to 'in a relationship'. We live in different towns, but would meet up a couple of times a week. Then we stayed at each other's ...
A. 28 January 2013: Hi,
She told you by email not to contact her anymore and she was also cold towards you face to face. I feel you should now leave her alone and not contact her anymore. It is my belief that this is all over. Even if she did split with the new guy,... (read in full...)
He ended things without a word and now I have to see him. How should I act?
Q. Has anybody ever had to deal with a situation like this, i'm sure it's happened many times but I don't know how to react or what i should do or say when i see him... There's this guy who I was dating for nearly 6 months, a long time! He's not m...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi,
Well it's terrible behaviour from him to just start ignoring you and not call. Especially after dating. Awful.
Although I don't necessarily believe in stopping my self from doing things because of other people etc. I would consider just not... (read in full...)
A weekend away together, he grew cold on the way home and now has totally frozen me out. Why?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 2 months. Things were going great. Just two weeks ago, during my drive home after hanging out with him, he sent me a text that said, "I think we should take this relationship to a new level, will you be my facebook ...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi, You did nothing wrong here. You did everything right for the situation and meet up. You have had some great advice already. Very good. Your situation reminded me of similar thing that happened to me. Same sort of situation and fantastic ch... (read in full...)
Why is she not picking up clues that I like her?
Q. i am really confused on my situation here..i am attracted to a girl..she always treats me as a friend only even though i make her laugh and i be with her to support her in her difficult times and she enjoys a lot when shes with me but even after ...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi,
I'm afraid she just doesn't see you as boyfriend material. There is no mystery. You ask what you should do? Well I'm afraid for you, it simply means no longer thinking of her as a possible girlfriend. You will find that if she saw you as a po... (read in full...)
An affair that I never wanted to begin ended badly. I am shocked to the core at how he could do this to me!
Q. I understand that I will be judged for what I am about to ask, but please understand that nothing that can be said is comparable to the guilt and pain I am putting myself through. I had a male friend for about 2 years with whom I went to school. ...
A. 22 January 2013: Hi,
I'm sorry for your state now. Yes, it's terrible for you.
Looking at some of the other posts, they do speak of the wife finding out or knowing anyway. So, when he said his wife knows, I would say that was the first piece of truth he has spok... (read in full...)
Did I sent the wrong text message in regards to a job?
Q. i walked into a salon yesterday for a job and got a position for a receptionist. i knew her from before and I was really excited for it as i was looking for it for a while. the manager there told me first i can come in from tomorrow but then said ...
A. 21 January 2013: Hi, All OK. Text was fine. Perfect for the situation and shows your care and enthusiasm. I hope you get it!!!!... (read in full...)
Should my husband go to the funeral of his ex girlfriend's father?
Q. My husband's x-girlfriend's father passed away. They have two children together. She tried to trap him into marriage.. Didn't work. She has also tried to cause many problems between us.. She hates me.. Should he attend her father's funeral? I ...
A. 21 January 2013: Hi, I'm just going to say they should go purely due to the two grandchildren. But I do hear your concerns about her trying to break things up. However, try to dig deep at this time and let the day pass. Thanks. ... (read in full...)
An affair that I never wanted to begin ended badly. I am shocked to the core at how he could do this to me!
Q. I understand that I will be judged for what I am about to ask, but please understand that nothing that can be said is comparable to the guilt and pain I am putting myself through. I had a male friend for about 2 years with whom I went to school. ...
A. 21 January 2013: Hi,
Sorry for how you feel. I just wanted to add that you ask how he changed so fast from talking about separating and dividing up assets. My intuition makes me believe that he didn't change at all!
He was never doing or thinking of any of the t... (read in full...)
Have I lost her forever?
Q. i met this girl 8 months ago and we have been going out for the past 6 months. i loved her and she loved me back, we had a great relationship we really cared about each other's feelings. we both had never been in a relationship before she is 24 and ...
A. 21 January 2013: Hi,
I think the best thing you can do is to let her have her space. She has asked for it so let her have it. Do not go into what ifs or what might happen or other guys. Just simply distance yourself and let her have her space. If she wants you,... (read in full...)
How do I get over a guy, one who's also a best friend? He feels nothing romantic for me.
Q. How does one get over a guy? I am in love with my best friend yet sometimes it just really hurts me to think that he doesn't want me - he ignored my love confession - and is probably out with others. Yet, i love our friendship. I just don't k...
A. 12 January 2013: Hi, I'm afraid from personal experience, the best thing for me was to pull away. I find trying to go down the friend route is torture. Be honest with yourself and accept that you want "all or nothing." If that's the case, "all" is not availabl... (read in full...)
I'm an uncircumcised virgin. My penis swells after masturbation and it has me a little concerned.
Q. Okay I have a little problem and it's kind of embarrassing. But ever since I could, whenever I masturbate my penis gets all swollen afterwards. I don't know why it does this. It's not like I do it a lot, I don't. And I don't do it too rough either. ...
A. 20 December 2012: Hi,
This would be a medical question. My only advice would be to see your medical doctor. (GP) best wishes.... (read in full...)
Was she testing to see if I'm actually interested? Should I ask her out? Or was she just bored?
Q. I have been talking to this girl I have known for two years. We have been chatting a lot recently and she has been asking me to meet her. I have been busy so have not been able to. She has been texting me a lot and hints she wants me to take her...
A. 30 November 2012: Hi,
Stop the second guessing. You had a meet up at 7pm, she was there, you was not. However, you have the elusive second chance. I believe if you re-arrange another meet-up and also apologize to her for your misunderstandings then I think you will... (read in full...)
I dumped him because of the dating sites, but he's still on them meeting new people! How do I overcome my anger?
Q. I have broke up from a 2 year relationship. It was my decision. He would not stop visiting datimg sites and always lied to me about it or said he went on them because I nagged him all the time. Now, the same account he said wasnt his is still there ...
A. 30 November 2012: Hi,
You have the right to feel how you want. They are your emotions. Why not wake up tomorrow and decide that for Saturday, "I am going to have a good day." Be mad on Sunday or Monday, but make the decision that for Saturday, it is Good Day time... (read in full...)
We were getting along fantastically until I told her how taken I was with her, now I don't hear from her.
Q. You guys have prevented me from making some monumental blunders in the past..see some of my past posts..But I've NEVER needed your help more than I do now! Scenario: I live in Wash, DC. I'm cycling back from tennis practice when I hear, from acr...
A. 30 November 2012: Hi,
She may have been thrilled to have found a tennis practise partner. Her happiness was to do with playing tennis and that's all. As far as you say, she didn't ever mention romance or anything like that. Did she ever say or do anything to do with... (read in full...)
Is she playing hard to get? Or she's just not interested?
Q. Ok so here's my question... At the beginning of this academic year at uni, when we had our introduction party, I met this girl. I saw eying me from across the room a few times and after a while I decided to join the conversation she was having. ...
A. 29 October 2012: Hi,
My first thought is I'm not sure either way. The thing that struck me here though is her relationship loss. Perhaps she just needs a "friend" that she can talk to. I think you should just continue chatting and see if things develop. The fact... (read in full...)
Is it too late to send a gift to a friend who helped me in a bad time?
Q. i recently got a divorce and don't have alot of friends but one of my friends here offered me to stay with her. i lived with her for a month crying and moaning about everything but did not even get anything for her, just a card and i feel really bad ...
A. 29 October 2012: Hi,
I think it's a great idea. Simply include a card with any gift and say something like "I know I've left things a bit late but I feel a little better now to think straight." That sort of thing lets her know you wasn't thinking straight as you ... (read in full...)
I'm planning on taking my 15 year old car on a 4 hour trip. What concerns should I have?
Q. This isnt a quetsion about sex or a relationship, its just a common worry. My car is a 98 ford, and im planning on taking it on a 4 hour trip, and im kind of antsy. ive never taken it more then 20 miles, but i dont have any problems with it. I ta...
A. 28 October 2012: Hi,
Based on what you say, the car sounds looked after. It doesn't sound like you would have mechanical problems. Just note, do you have "breakdown cover?"
Have you checked spare tyre? Do you have GPS or roadmap? Check oil before you drive of... (read in full...)
She blows me off when I try to talk to her. Should I keep trying to talk to her?
Q. Okay, so about 3 years ago (10th grade) i met a girl that became my best friend, we would do everything together and supported each other with everything. When my birthday came this year in march i planned for me and her and my good friends ...
A. 24 October 2012: Hi,
No I wouldn't bother anymore. She just pays you lip service. Does the talk but doesn't want to follow up with it. Time to let go now I'm afraid. Especially after the party incident. ... (read in full...)
Is she protecting my feelings or is she using me?
Q. So I've known a girl for a few years now and when I tried to let her know I had a crush on her she told me she thought I was just a friend. We have hung out, just the two of us since then. I also picked her up from work early when she was sick. Then ...
A. 19 October 2012: No, she doesn't want you as a boyfriend and never will. She doesn't keep in regular contact with you because she doesn't want to string you along. Don't hold a hope she will want you because she wont. You need to write her off fast. Do not call her ... (read in full...)
He's a good guy but soooo boring!
Q. I ve met this really nice guy, who I date now for 6 months. He is everything any woman can wish for: handsome, has a good job, good natured, we managed not to have a single fight, gentleman. But, I can't believe I m actually saying it, he i...
A. 19 October 2012: Hi,
Sadly he is not the one for you. He sounds great and a good catch for a woman. But, he is not the one for you at this time. ... (read in full...)
Could it be that working with so many women (aged 30 to 50s) that is causing me daily angst? Should I change jobs?
Q. alright im a young male and i just got a job with 40 "mothers." All but one of them in there late 30's to early 50's. I've noticed that lately i have been worse. When i had just hit puberty I was horny all the time to where masturbation didn't d...
A. 19 October 2012: Hi,
I think this is a natural thing to feel horny around so many women at your age. Also, I wouldn't give the job up at the moment. Jobs are hard to find. I think you should accept it is a part of growing up and then just take each day as it come... (read in full...)
We aren't together because of distance but she's still talking to her ex. Where do I go?
Q. We met abroad, 9 months ago. We were together and seeing each other for 5, and we have been separated for 4 as we live in different countries and are finishing our last year of university. I fell in love with her, and I want to be with her after I...
A. 17 October 2012: Hi,
I think all you can do is accept what she says. She says she doesn't want an LDR and to see what happens when you both finish Uni. There is not a lot you can do seeing as she doesn't want to commit at the moment. She has her reasons and we can ... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but hardly ever see her. Should I continue when I feel this disappointed?
Q. I have started seeing this girl and its been going on for about a month. When we're together its really nice but thats the problem. She never wants to see me. shes always too busy going to parties which i never get invited to. We arranged to meet...
A. 11 October 2012: Hi, You ask if you should "walk away from this." Well yes you should. You are not getting anything from this. She is clearly not interested because all this "busy" business is just an excuse to not see you. Do not waste another moment, just don... (read in full...)
We were getting close after she broke up with her boyfriend but now she's said she isnt sure if she can love anyone else. What is going on?
Q. So here am I in a new dilemma... The situation is like this, she isn't with her bf anymore because he betrayed her.. She had a 5yr relationship with him.. But now she ended up with him! Its been 5months we have been with each other.. (not in ...
A. 26 September 2012: Hi,
It's sad but I believe you were her rebound. During the rebound people will appear to be the most amazing person ever. Then suddenly the whole thing stops abruptly. I believe she has gone and I wouldn't waste another moment trying to get her ... (read in full...)
My married lover has moved on to another girl and I am so hurt, what should I do now?
Q. I have been cheated by my married Lover, he has moved on to a "new girl"(another victim).he has completely removed me from his life,We both are in the same office, spend 8 hrs together, sitting besides each other, but we dont speak at all. he cut ...
A. 26 September 2012: Hi,
There is not a lot you can do. You got involved with a married man and that will bring it's problems along. He is on to someone else because that's what he does. His wife suffers and now you suffer. You have had an escape believe it or not.... (read in full...)
I thought we hit it off but I haven't heard from her in a month
Q. When u meet a woman and hit it off for 2 weeks in San Diego, then you go back home To Colorado for a month and a half and she decides to come visit you in Colorado for a week, you have a great time traveling around and then she goes back to San ...
A. 25 September 2012: Hi, It's hard to say. She may have been on a rebound, she may have changed her mind. I think it's just plain rude to just walk off without any communication. Sadly there is nothing you can do. Just remember that is was fun what you did and now clos... (read in full...)
Once someone has moved on will they ever come back?
Q. Once someone has moved on will they ever come back? The reason I ask is me and a guy were seeing each other. There had been signs he'd like me for years but always said he didnt, and when we got together it seemed like everything was falling into ...
A. 14 September 2012: Hi,
I'm afraid you are caught in a "what if..." sort of situation. Your past had someone that could have been for you but things just didn't get together. They didn't happen but the mind keeps going back to it and hopes for another chance. Sadl... (read in full...)
My true love moved away to find himself. What do I do now?
Q. The guy I dated for over 2 years moved about 3,000 miles away a month ago because he wanted to go find out what a makes him tick. He told me when he made this decision to move is that he didn't want me to think he was trying to run away from me, ...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi,
Let it go. However hard and sad he didn't want to further things. ... (read in full...)
Should I acknowledge my ex's birthday?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years. It was a mutual agreement as the relationship wasn't working out. We haven't spoke in 3 months since the break up. (we both decided never to speak again) Her birthday is coming up soon and I'm ...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi,
I'd just let this go. By letting it go, you are moving on and the pressure will be less at Xmas and next year. ... (read in full...)
Should I send him a 'goodbye' letter after he broke up with me?
Q. He broke up with me more than a week ago. We were together for one and half years, spending the first six months together and another one year long distance. He's european, I'm asian. He's 22. I'm 29. Not the easiest situation huh. He tol...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi,
You are going to have to move on I'm afraid and not contact at all. Letters reek of neediness. However hard, no contact. ... (read in full...)
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