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How do you find something better than perfect?
Q. hi there, please help! me and my partner are currently on a break so he can figure things out and decide whether or not a relationship is for him, so i have moved back in with family to give him space. The problem is i cant stand how thin...
A. 7 June 2012: You're suffering from separation anxiety. You're attached to him and now he's not there so you feel bad. Your body wants you to go back to him but obviously you haven't. People are always worse than you make them out to be, the whole blinded by love ... (read in full...)
B/f has domestic charges and child endagerment against him. Should I be concerned?
Q. I have a new boyfriend that I have been dating for a few months now. He's really nice to me and treats me well. He recently told me that he has a domestic violence conviction. He tells me it was a male roommate who he got into a fight with. After he ...
A. 7 June 2012: Sounds VERY scary, ditch him and do it carefully... (read in full...)
Fight for something we both can see coming to an end? Could it change?
Q. How do you let go when you cant? ive had my fair share of idiot boyfriends in the past but this is is lovely, weve been together for a year and a half and he is lovely, kind, sexy and gorgeous, he treats me like a princess and i know he feels th...
A. 7 June 2012: Having doubts? you could just move on. You're 18, go out and have fun if that's what you want to do.... (read in full...)
Guy with girlfriend keeps trying to string me along!!! I am nobody's puppet!!
Q. HELP!!!! This guy friend has a girlfriend. BUT he keeps trying to string me along!!! I told him I have feelings for him. He told me he has a girlfriend. So that should be the end of it, right? NO!!!! He just keeps giving me hope and then he...
A. 7 June 2012: Sounds like he's on a power trip, he feels like he's losing his manhood by settling down with one woman so he's using you as a way of proving to himself that "he's still got it". Ignore him and tell him where to go, if you know what I mean.... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so awkward? I need to learn how to talk to boys. But how?
Q. There's a boy at school who I have some history with. I have liked him for about 6 years. Our mums are best friends. He was my best friend then found out I had feelings for him. This didn't stop us being best friends though. He didn't ignore i...
A. 6 June 2012: Nobody can tell whether you love someone or not, only you know for yourself. I'm sure that if you locked up any 2 16 year olds in a house unsupervised, things could get heated. He's probably either scared and uncertain of how to react/behave or ... (read in full...)
B/f doesn't want sex but swears he's not gay
Q. i'm a plus size girl dating a nice looking black man. he's been in prison and has an extensive background, but nothing in the past 4 years. we met online and been dating a year and i would swear he's gay. he's 46, works construction and always on ...
A. 6 June 2012: Think maybe something might have happened while he was in jail and he doesn't want to talk about it? He might just be protecting you. IF you know what I mean.... (read in full...)
Loses his erection and don't know what to do
Q. Right I have a lovely sweet,kind boyfriend that I love dearly we have been together for 1 1/2 yrs and we live together due to a difficult situation we are both only 17 and live with my parents I have a worrying matter in my head that I'm doing s...
A. 6 June 2012: HE should really get it checked out at the doctors because if he's always had problems and he's still so young, he might have a developmental problem or hormone problems. And if you don't get those sorted out early on, you could have problems for ... (read in full...)
Why won't he video chat with me?
Q. So i have been dating this guy online for about 2 months.. We knew eachother a long time ago via facebook. There was a break in the middle and we started talking again. And few months ago he told me he wanted something more than plain friendship and ...
A. 20 May 2012: Sounds scary, don't meet him alone. ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to his wife? Or just break with him? He has lied all the way
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man who is 20 years older to me. We met at work. He got transferred to our office from another branch. Initially we never really spoke much to each other, probably just say a good morning when we would pass by...
A. 19 May 2012: He's using you. Leave him now and make sure everyone at work knows, maybe even file a complaint. Also tell his wife and ruin his marriage, he deserves it. And she deserves to know.... (read in full...)
What can I say to just make her stop?
Q. Hi all.. Last weekend my friend and I got into an argument. It wasn't the first one and I was overall fed up with her bullsh*t, so I told her I'm done with her and got an app on my phone to block her. Well, I can still see what she says as long...
A. 17 March 2012: Talking is usually the best way to resolve problems. Otherwise, if their pestering you isnt actually affecting you, then just let them do it until they turn blue, they'll get bored eventually.... (read in full...)
I'm constantly in a nervous state when its time for a family dinner.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year an a half. Obviously you get past that phase where you're so wrapped up in love you think eveything is wonderful and now I'm seeing some problems. We have big family dinners every 2nd month in my fa...
A. 17 March 2012: Sounds like a douche, he's either addicted to fags and booze or he's just an ass. Either way, I don't like him.... (read in full...)
Why is my friend being so cruel?
Q. So I am separated and during my separation one friend has been there for me through all my hard times..she was also separated...but for the past year ..she has taken a bit of a personality that ..she is constantly belittling me...I thought it was my ...
A. 4 December 2011: She hates herself and making you feel awful makes her feel better because she's insecure.
Tell her to cut it out and if she doesn't, you don't need a friend like that.... (read in full...)
He wants to meet me in person, but I am afraid he would not still like me!
Q. Hello, I have been communicating with this guy online for about two months, and he has expressed that he wants to meet me in person over the Christmas holiday. I REALLY like him; he seems like a great guy. –But I have two concerns; 1)...
A. 4 December 2011: It's christmas, give it a try :) you only live one and all that. Better to find out now than later that you guys dont work.
Be safe though! never meet alone and all that internet safety stuff!... (read in full...)
I don't understand my boyfriend emotionally
Q. hey there ..i'm 19,a student..my boyfriend who is 21 has a lot of financial problems at home...he has many loans and commitments of his parents and his own to look after...he's very stressed out.he has a job which he likes but not earning much yet ...
A. 8 November 2011: My advice to you, lose all those ridiculous elipses, it made the terrible punctuation and grammar barely legible.
Secondly, just do what you feel is right, many people his age are in not so ideal financial situations. His choice to vent anger on t... (read in full...)
2 month dating and we want to always be together. Do I move to his army base?
Q. Okay , so I have been dating this guy for about two months now and he has already told me that I am the one he wants to be with for the rest of his life . I also know that I want to do the same . He is getting back into the army and wants me to move ...
A. 8 November 2011: That is a terrible idea. DO NOT go live on an army base, you barely know him.... (read in full...)
I really want to hook up with her and maybe be her friend! Help me!
Q. There's this girl who lives at my sister in-law's place, she is probally at the age I am, she started to live there few weeks ago, she didn't grew up there she is only a relative, her purpose of coming to live there is to look after and stay with ...
A. 29 July 2011: Go ask to borrow some sugar and accidentally comment on her bodacious hips or something :) Just try talking to her, whats the worst that could happen?... (read in full...)
Any advice for my situation? Never had a girlfriend and need some new social outlets.
Q. I've been going through a bit of a rough spot, maybe some of you will have some words of wisdom. I'll try to keep this as concise as possible. I've been having a really hard time meeting girls since graduating from high school. I'm a fairly qui...
A. 29 July 2011: You could try a night club, a social event such as an art expo /music expo. Join a gym, a social club, a cribs club, a green bowls team, anything.
You find love in the oddest of places, you just have to be somewhere first ... (read in full...)
Spotting but still no period, am I pregnant ?
Q. hey i need some help urgently and i would really appreciate if someone answered this. okay so im 17 and i had sex a week ago(28th june). i was supposed to get my periods around the 4th to 7th july (my last period was on the 4th june). On the 7th of ...
A. 9 July 2011: Don't worry yourself yet. The odds of conception are lowered by his withdrawal method, but not down to zero. YOu are only 17, you will most likely experience changes in period length until your early twenties, especially if you arre ... (read in full...)
Will my parents let me take the gymnastic lessons?
Q. Hi, sorry if this question seems stupid or something but I'm really nervous. So I'm an incoming freshman, and me and my two friends want to try out for cheerleading next year. I already told my mom my plans for becoming a cheerleader, and...
A. 9 July 2011: Just ask, parents don't want their children wanting for things they don't have. They'll probably support you fully. Don't be worried, just ask.... (read in full...)
My nine year old son told me he has sexual feelings about me, and both men and women
Q. I have a son who is almost 10 years old and he resently told me that he's had sexual thoughts about me as well as men and women. What or how should I handle this.....I am concerned that he's thinking about men and myself in that way, but I don't ...
A. 9 July 2011: Freud would love this xD
He's 10 he's probably just been hit with his first wave of hormones. You just need to be there for him but don't start implanting ideas in his head about sexualities. Children are very vulnerable at this age and may dwel... (read in full...)
Is there a subtle way to suggest trying bondage?
Q. This is going to sound strange, but I want to experiment with bondage. I love being controlled in the bedroom and I want to ask my boyfriend about it. What is the most subtle way I can suggest this to him? Is there a subtle way to do this?...
A. 9 July 2011: You don't need to be subtle. Just throw him a pair of handcuffs on the way to the bedroom. It's nothing to be ashamed of :)... (read in full...)
Questions about dating, religion and kissing.....
Q. Ok here we go, first of all ive met this guy but the problem is im totally in love with him but i cant be with him even though i want to... this is because i am christian and in our religion we only date others in our religion? anyway i really ...
A. 6 July 2011: If your religion teaches that everyone is equal and loved by god, then why are people who worship in a different way seen as not good enough for you?
I don't see why you would let somebody else dictate to you how to live your life.
Relig... (read in full...)
Was he turning to me as a friend, or does he want to get back together?
Q. First- my ex n i talked a little the other day about hanging out soon, and made plans to go kayaking n hiking "if it was ok w/his girl" which he "hoped it was :)" When i asked if he thought she would be ok w/it or not, (we've only been broken up ...
A. 5 June 2011: Have you met his girlfriend? She sounds fictional. He's probably still harbouring feelings for you, and you telling him that you're breaking up with your boyfriend is like throwing him a bone.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend Kissing Problems
Q. hello, i have been going out with this girl for a week short of a month and i really like her. The problem is that she hasnt had alot of serious realtionships before and is SUPER shy when it comes to kissing. we havent even made out yet. i am 16 and ...
A. 31 May 2011: She's young of course she's shy. Just hold her hand through the situation and make sure she isn't scared of it. And don't just dive in there tongue blazing like some kind of sick 80s romcom. Soft kisses to the lips, not the back of her throat f... (read in full...)
He lies about his whereabouts!
Q. Okay, I'll try and keep this short and sweet and thank you to those bothering to help 3 I've been with my boyfriend 7 months, both 16 years old, and we got together in a way some people may think as wrong. He was with a girl for a month, but they ...
A. 27 April 2011: Just relax, that's all you can do.
If he wants to go see his family then you shouldnt be bothered by that.
Try and find something other than him to fill your time with.
Like a hobby, may I suggest fingerpainting, or pokémon white?
Just kiddi... (read in full...)
My gf talks about her guy friends all the time
Q. Hey Ladies and Gents, Here's the scope. I want advice on what I can do to get over this or just not let it bother me. I have a gf(yea!!) and she talks about other guys(boo!!) in conversations with each other. I understand its okay for her to have ...
A. 6 April 2011: She's probably doing this to make you think she doesn't need you, it's like reverse psychology. She thinks by making you believe she doesn't need you, you will go out of your way to make her need you. It's quite a shallow thing to do, are you sure ... (read in full...)
How do you treat Thrush???
Q. I have all the symptoms for thrush, but I don't know how to treat it? Do I have to tell someone? Or can I sort it myself with nobody else knowing? I'm really rather embarrassed by it and don't want to tell me mom or go to the doctors.. Is there ...
A. 3 April 2011: Every girl gets thrush at some point, its natural.
You need to just go to the supermarket or chemist and just pick up some thrush cream. I believe there are some pills that you can take too. The only one I can think of from the top of my head is C... (read in full...)
Should I make a fake account to check on my boyfriend's facebook?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a beautiful, sweet and happy relationship but then I had to leave him after four months of being together in a relationship. But he insisted to have a long distance relationship so I agreed because I really love him. We were ...
A. 3 April 2011: You shouldnt go back to him. keep out of the relationship, you can do better i'm sure :)... (read in full...)
Do you fantasize about other girls or your girlfriend?
Q. This is a question for the males. For those of you with girlfriends/fiances/wives/partners etc do you always think of them when you think of sex and your fantasies? So when your maybe daydreaming or watever it is that gets you thinking, who a...
A. 25 March 2011: That is an interesting question. As a guy, i've always thought about the girl who i'm most infatuated by at the time. Since being with my current girlfriend i've never thought about another girl. :)... (read in full...)
Fiance got a job away without even consulting me!
Q. My boyfriend and I were living together, got engaged last year and planned to marry this year. 5 months ago he got a promotion and went to work in another city 400 miles away. He also accepted the transfer because it would mean he lived closer ...
A. 25 March 2011: Possibly, he just assumed you'd be behind anything he decided because you're officially his future wife. Still, it was hurtful of him not to consult you first but he might seriously miss his daughter and feel that its very important that he's the... (read in full...)
During argument I told BF he was with me just for sex and now he won't have sex with me!
Q. hey I'm in this relationship since 4years and we both love each other alot and everythin was great until we had a breakup 2months back it was becoz of the family issues now we are together again and everything is the same as it was before but when...
A. 25 March 2011: Guys HATE it when girls say "You're only with me for sex". It is the single most infuriating thing a girl can say. If he just wanted sex, he'd go pick up easy girls at the local bar that he didn't have to buy birthday presents for. Relationships are ... (read in full...)
How do you respond to "tell me more about yourself"
Q. Hi guys i was on a dating website and Girls have this auto reply message that always comes back with " send me a message, and tell me more about yourself" like what am i supposed to write? is there any ways to get her attention in the first m...
A. 25 March 2011: I'd imagine your about me section is more factual like "I work in a bar, I drive a corvette" etc so tell her things that you like in relationships and be specific. You might quirk her intrest. Tell her something intimate like "I love it when girl... (read in full...)
How will I know he is cheating on me?
Q. I met this guy online.. we chatted for a year now..and we are in a long distance relationship..we haven't met e yet..but he has plan to see me soon..but then we broke up.. because i think he is cheating on me.. i am wondering why he is invisible ...
A. 25 March 2011: If a guy doesnt care that you've broken up, it means he isn't emotionally involved anymore. Move on :)... (read in full...)
How do I get him to chose ME not HER?
Q. the guy i am seein right now has a girl and there relationship according to him has no future that is why he started a new one with me we been together a bit over a month but now i am in too deep and i do not want to fall any deeper so fast what do ...
A. 25 March 2011: Ask him to leave her for you officially. That will show you he loves you :)... (read in full...)
I want to surprise my boyfriend for birthday!
Q. My spring break is the week of my boyfriend's birthday and he has no idea I am coming to see him for his birthday. I told him my break is the week after, What is a good way to surprise him when I get there?...
A. 25 March 2011: Make him a home cooked meal, or if you can't cook to save your life, buy take out. The way to 95% of mens' hearts is via the stomach. The other 4% need Video games and that last 1% need help :)... (read in full...)
My agressive partner ran away with my mother, now they have split up I miss him loads.
Q. My ex was aggresive and suffered with depression and alchol problems! we had a very on off relationship and have a daughter together! Our relationship was fine until i was about 6 months preganant. Then he started smashing up the house, shouting at ...
A. 25 March 2011: You don't need him. You do need his money. You probably don't miss him, you most likely miss the IDEA of him. When you hear him on the phone you only think of the good times. But those bad times FAR FAR FAR outweigh anything nice he ever did. NEVER ... (read in full...)
Should I make a fake account to check on my boyfriend's facebook?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a beautiful, sweet and happy relationship but then I had to leave him after four months of being together in a relationship. But he insisted to have a long distance relationship so I agreed because I really love him. We were ...
A. 25 March 2011: He doesn't sound like husband material and he doesn't sound like teenage boyfriend material. Tell him you have trust issues and see how that goes. You don't need someone who doesn't love you enough to tell you the truth.... (read in full...)
Is a week too early to have sex?
Q. Ok i have a boyfriend and weve been talking for a week now...I want to have sex with him real bad but i dont know if its to early i dont want him to think im a whore...
A. 25 March 2011: It's not too early. He would probably LOVE to have sex with you, but is showing his sensitive side by not moving in for the kill immediately. Just have a romantic evening and suggest you "retire early tonight" or anything else nice and cliché. Play ... (read in full...)
Interesting and unsual date ideas?
Q. Hi. I was wondering if anyone has any fun or romantic date ideas. My boyfriend and I have been together just over 10 months, and we're both 17. I was hoping for things beyond the usual movie, cinema, ice-skating, dinner sort of things. Not that none ...
A. 1 March 2010: Couples paintballing! shoot him in the gonads! :D... (read in full...)
Period comes twice a month.
Q. I have my period twice a month, what should i do? ...
A. 1 March 2010: You're only 16/17, leave it for a little to see if it settles naturally, jumping straight for hormones is not good advice. Its true, the hormones in the pill COULD balance you out, it could also make them heavier, more frequent, neverending or make ... (read in full...)
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