Helppppp! How can I get him to trust me again?
Q. i did wrong, i admit. currently in a relationship, my bf doesnt want his family to know ANYTHING about me and him. so obviously i cant mention it to anyone related to him. recently, his eldest brother (who lives in ghana) who has 3 younger brot...
A. 5 October 2011: @ Aunt Honesty; reason why he doesnt want his family to know is because apparently his culture (ghana) hates having their kids having a bf/gf, they just dont like it; for eg: his parents met in their late 20s and it was both their first date :S
a... (read in full...)
My bf wants to do oral on me, but I am afraid it will be too salty for him down there. What can I do?
Q. how do i explain this. my boyfriend wants to do oral on me soon, but i have only recently found out that the juices my vagina makes are salty (i had to taste it). im scared and i know it will put him off! i only got a matter of a couple of days ...
A. 15 August 2011: thank you guys; he did the oral on me :D lol he didnt even care, he said he loves salty food lol. now i feel alot more confisdent about myself; thnk you xx... (read in full...)
How can I stop snoring?
Q. hey guys.. i been on residential trips before, and all my friends and family tell me i snore like a donkey :( that was a while ago because i had breathin problems.. however i stopped snoring a few months ago and i was really happy.. but now...
A. 6 March 2011: thank you guys.. @ anonymous, i never thought of it that way.. @ C.Grant, i am not overweight, i am an average slim person, i am only 62kg. i recently went abroad, and, as i went with around 20 family members, some had to sleep in the same room, a... (read in full...)
Can I get an STD by having unprotected sex?
Q. Hey so I lost my virginity to this guy that I'm not even dateing . And he fucked a lot of girls and I didn't no that till after I had sex with him .. And we used no condom twice .. Is that bad?? He told me befor he cumed tho but I dnt want to get a...
A. 19 December 2010: hunny, that aint even a question; if he screwed other girls without using a condom, hes bound to have something nasty. so, if what u telling is true, he came inside you, u best get checked out asap hun.
one more thing, tell him to do the same :/
... (read in full...)
I HATE my body... Help!
Q. I hate my body, it's horrible and one sight of myself can make me deppressed. I have a boyfriend and i'm scared to sleep with him because i don't want him to see my body. I weigh 10 stone and my stomach is much bigger where as my legs are thin. I ...
A. 7 November 2010: darlin, even if you did have bits and bobs here and there. your figure is important, but your personality even more.. why do u think this boyfriend of yours chose you??
i understand where you come from when it comes to losing weight, we all want... (read in full...)
How to get rid of acne quickly and naturally?
Q. Dear cupids, I am getting really upset about my acne, no girls like me because of it and it depresses me, I wash everyday and wash my face 3 times a day with soap and water, I don't want to use cream etc as I've tried them already, I just ant to ...
A. 7 September 2010: its true, creams and all that rubbish dont work; but i'v been using a wierd combination of things that REALLY dont give you any such luck. However...
i recommend Garnier Skin Naturals 'Pure Active'.
all you have to do is wet your face with close to... (read in full...)
Help me translate what he meant by his comment!
Q. Hey, so I need some help to translate a comment this guy made. I know him through work, he asked me out at the weekend, had a great time, went to a movie. Then asked me out again last night. Again, had a great time. He sent me a text saying ...
A. 7 September 2010: im guessing he is being appreciative. he says thanks not just for the night, but for the company. this could mean that he was always alone, lonely, maybe even as a child. and that maybe you are kind and caring, almost like a motherly figure upon ... (read in full...)
Do I need to just bite the bullet and do this to make her happy?
Q. hey everyone, this is an issue thats been bothering me a lot recently. basically, i'm gay and have been in my first proper gay relationship for about 6 months now. our relationship is long distance and sometimes its hard not seeing eachother...
A. 7 September 2010: oh you never know, it can be really fun. you are all girls so i cant imagine why they would blank you. im sure you can hit it off with them like they've been friends since forever...
as for the other girl ur gf used to like, who cares?? your pres... (read in full...)
Was her behaviour unacceptable?
Q. hi , please help me. I met a girl about 4 years back, we met on yahoo messenger chatting room. she is from another country. we kept talking like friends for two months, but after two months i proposed her, and she also accepted. Everything was...
A. 7 September 2010: i feel so sorry for you, you dont deserve this kind of treatment...
i think that, even though you love her, you should leave her; i mean, how can she be faithful a wife let alone a girlfriend by lying to you??
you'd only known her for two months w... (read in full...)
This all just seems too good to be true!
Q. Hey, My question might not be too clear because, truly, i'm really worried and I just want advice on what to do next. So, I'm a guy, i'm fourteen and I just started year 10 today. For a few years now I have known that i'm gay but I am still in the c...
A. 7 September 2010: just a question in mind... dont worry, even if you were, i wouldnt tell anyone, im not a snake...
good luck :)... (read in full...)
Does my father need time to accept he will be a grand dad?
Q. I am 20 years old. My husband and I been happily married for 1 year now and the other day I found out I am pregnant with our first baby. We told our families and they are so happy and thrilled, except my dad I felt he wasn't very happy. My husband ...
A. 6 September 2010: spend more time with him and tell him the benefits about being a grandfather. tell him that when the child is born he will feel proud of him/her and then IT can be his little girl/boy..
it will take him time to get used to it, like it should with... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not let me see my friend!
Q. THis isn't really a relationship question but I really need some help and guidance right now. I have a friend whom I met in Uni, (a girl) - lets call her Lola. She is wonderful. I have such a great time with her and over the years I have come to ...
A. 6 September 2010: you are you and you get to make your OWN choices now. you should have a right to see who you want because im sure you see him with his best mates every day.
if, like sab123 suggested, he is only doing this for your protection, then yeah, i gues... (read in full...)
Should he pay for the trip? is he using me?
Q. I'm 17, 18 in a few months, I have been talking to this guy in Washington since around April, he is 20. Anyway he wants me to come over to see him, hes in college and drinks a lot he says, my life is pretty bad at home right now and I see it as the ...
A. 6 September 2010: i think its best that you dont go at all.
from your word im guessing he may be a total stranger, theres no way you should even consider going.
if you want to free yourself abit more from your family then just go out more with friends, do some ext... (read in full...)
Do you think my body type will attract guys?
Q. im a little fat.... but im shapely and i have a close to flat tummy and 40 C boobs. i am worried everyone will just think im a fat lard lol. my middle skewl friends say thee are alot of REALLY fat people. im starting middle school tommorow and im ...
A. 6 September 2010: well if you had attracted your boyfriend then of course you will attract other boys. im in the exact situation, i HATE puppy fat. thing is there is that well known saying that it doesnt matter whats on the outside, but whats in the in..
then agai... (read in full...)
This all just seems too good to be true!
Q. Hey, My question might not be too clear because, truly, i'm really worried and I just want advice on what to do next. So, I'm a guy, i'm fourteen and I just started year 10 today. For a few years now I have known that i'm gay but I am still in the c...
A. 6 September 2010: i am so jelous. i know how hard it is to start a relationship with same sex, especially with a very observant school :(
just a question, do you by any chance go to lbts?... (read in full...)
Friendship or something else?
Q. hiii. i am a college going student.. i have many girls in my college... i had a particular interest towards a girl... we began to become vry close friends.. whenever i used to go out i used to call her , she to came with me.. both our parents became ...
A. 6 September 2010: it started off as friendship, and ended with a relationship; if she let continue your business and went along with it, then its obvious she liked you too.
but dont worry, you still have your friendship between you..
good luck :)... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel? The last time I did she treated me like crap
Q. I have this friend that I've been in love with for a while now and I think she may be developing feelings for me also. I notice every now and then she's sorta staring at me. I think that i would have a fair chance I guess if I asked her out but one ...
A. 6 September 2010: in my view; no. it could just be coincidence that if you tell her again she will treat you like crap again. the best thing to do is wait for her turn, you're not gonna fall for it again. only will you be sure she likes you when she fesses up too. ... (read in full...)
I told him I didnt want sex, was it rape?
Q. i had sex with my boyfriend i wasnt sure about it and told him i didnt want it but he did it anyway was it rape?...
A. 6 September 2010: if this is so then you should consider leaving him for good and following the other agony aunts advise :)
good luck... (read in full...)
Is this guy straight or gay?
Q. I recently turned 17 and I am almost certain that I am gay. I am not out of the closet yet. If I ever do come out soon, I would want only my future boyfriend to know. I have never been in a relationship before with another person of the same sex, ...
A. 6 September 2010: it might just be a chance that he is wittingly funny and likes to exciten the atmosphere..
but in my honest opinion, he wants you all over, because it looks like he is most comfortable with you than anyone else. he gives away such flimsy signs that... (read in full...)
My g/f kissed her ex while he was in the hospital
Q. Well my girlfriend went to visit her ex in hospital and she ended up kissing him. I'm not mad I'm just confused and I think that she may still have feelings for him. She did come out and tel me this. What do I do?...
A. 5 September 2010: i wouldnt react too negatively..
she may have just been comforting him after whatever accident he may have had, and so she wanted to come clean to you..
if this keeps going though, you should confront her if this relationship is going 1 step for... (read in full...)
I'm using the toilet too often!
Q. hi im really annoyed because i need to use the toilet anthing up 20 times a day, wat can i do please i need help!!!...
A. 5 September 2010: are you drinking alot? if you're drinking as much as you're peeing then you need to drink less. another thing that can reduce the amount of toilet visits is working out, the more sweat you shed the less you pee :)
if this doesnt work then maybe you ... (read in full...)
I told him I didnt want sex, was it rape?
Q. i had sex with my boyfriend i wasnt sure about it and told him i didnt want it but he did it anyway was it rape?...
A. 5 September 2010: this depends on how certain you were about having sex with him. if you let him do his business then this could have reassured him that you did, after all you are in a relationship with him, no? if you kept pulling him off or trying to push away but ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I trust myself around my friend
Q. I live with my boyfriend of three years whom I love very much. I would never leave him, he is my life, and have always felt extremely strongly about how I would never cheat on him. However recently I found out my friend from work has feelings for ...
A. 5 September 2010: if this sudden attraction was recent, then you will get over the feeling, so long as he doesn't try and hit it off with you.
if you really have that strong urge not to cheat on your boyfriend, then just try and ignore your friend, try not to pull... (read in full...)
Should I forget about my LDR?
Q. Hello, Well i am 15 and in a long distant realationship with my girlfriend. I have been seeing her on Saturdays for 30mins after footy but when i get home i cry and cry because i love her so much it sucks being away from her. I need some advice on ...
A. 5 September 2010: why is it that you can only see her every saturday after footy for 30 mins? is it because you two live too far from each other or you're just very busy?? seeing as you are young, this may have been your first relationship, and in that one you tend ... (read in full...)
Its killing me not to be able to tell him how I feel
Q. I know you probably get a lot of questions like this on here, so I regret to tell you that this is another one of them. I apologize if this seems a little long winded, but I need to get this all off my chest and I've always thought that it's ...
A. 22 August 2010: i think its best that you tell him the next time you sleep over.. its obvious he likes you, there's nothing stopping you from telling him your feelings, you just have to find the right time and place where you will both have each other at peace with ... (read in full...)
Being sexual harrassed by my moms boyfriend
Q. ok, this is going to be long but please read and answer i need help! im 17 now but my mom started dating her current bf when i was 12. for about the first year, all was well and we got along fine. in summer my moms bf (lets call him john) would pick ...
A. 22 August 2010: omigod you need to tell your mum right now, if she says that you are going crazy then try and film it or find proof of evidence. if that doesnt work out then i consider u call police 4 him to do lie detector.
good luk and tell me how it goes :(... (read in full...)
How do you know when you are in love with someone?
Q. just want to know How do you know when your in love with someone ? because i think i might be but i`m not quite sure...
A. 22 August 2010: seeing as ur young this may be your first time, lets say when you fall in love, something in you sinks whenever you see them. you tend to avoid them but you always find yourself around them.
you tell yourself that you wont make a fool of your... (read in full...)
Did you ever end up with your perfect man or someone completely different?
Q. Hey. I'm 18. I'm just wondering who people have ended up with. I have an idea of what sort of person I can imagine myself being with but is this realistic? Has anyone ended up with someone completely different to what you expected? Or have you found ...
A. 22 August 2010: as a matter of fact, i am. my type of man would be dark eyes, brown with abit of volume, abit quiet but has a lot of shocking secrets, heehee i fantasise too much. now i found myself with a blond/ honey [ the hair i never would have went for] and... (read in full...)
He cheated on me with 5 girls and no one ever said a thing to me!
Q. What a bad day. I was dating this guy, Paolo. Since 2007. It was the first guy I ever loved, ever slept with, ever saw naked. To me, he was so important. We dated for 2 years before we tied the knot just last year. I was a missionary on another ...
A. 22 August 2010: it is often that men, even women, cheat close to special occasions or at random events. from what your telling me, he had all these cheats BEFORE your marriage, so from my opinion he was abit of a playboy, having a few girlfriends here and there, ... (read in full...)
Had protected sex everytime with my BF, he going off to war in few weeks,Period late by 2 days...could it be due to stress?
Q. Ok so i am 24 years old, have been seeing my boyfriend for the last few months. He is in the army and is going to horrid Afghan in a few weeks time. We have had protected sex everytime and a condom has never broke, as i have been told it is obvio...
A. 22 August 2010: its ok, it has to be the stress, all the pressure on your shoulders can delay it for more than a week, by what happened to my bessie, and she still had cramps, but if you're that worried about becoming pregnant, then get checked, but there is only ... (read in full...)
By your standards, how many sexual partners is too many by age 19?
Q. When I was younger, I could not get laid--could not even get a date--to save my life. I never went to any dances, never went to proms, nothing. This year, however, I lived in Africa for 3 months and when I came back to college, somehow, things ...
A. 22 August 2010: um well, i wouldnt jump into great social and sex life so quickly, cuz u might regret it. take things one thing at a time, cuz people out there may start thinking ur being promiscuous, and then youll loose ur friends as quick as u lost ur ... (read in full...)
What might be the reason for his sudden change in behaviour?
Q. What can be reasons for a change in a guys behaviour....for example day to day/week to week change. Like one minute they will talk to you as if everything is fine and the next he will sit there talk to everyone else about anything but for some rea...
A. 18 August 2010: well, if he's known you for a long time, then maybe he likes you -.- it may be akward for him to speak to you; thats my first suggestion...
if not, then maybe hes just having a bad time, maybe a personal problem, and so is just tryin not to enga... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the loneliness?
Q. I'm so loney right now.my boyfriend is so farway from me.it's so hard leaving him we been through so much and everynight all i do is cry no friends and no one i can talk to,what can i do to make the pain go away? ...
A. 18 August 2010: hi, i am currently in the same situation :'(
i dont know when you're certain of seeing him again, but if it is soon, then just dont worry, be excited and probably even buy a gift/card for his arrival, dont mourn over it.
if you're not seeing h... (read in full...)
Tampon trouble!
Q. hey guys so i am a soon to be swimming instructor and seeing as i am a 15 year old girl , once a month i get my period , but the problem is i havent yet learned how to use a tampon and i cant be getting in and out of the water with no protecti...
A. 16 August 2010: um, lets say that it is a small hidden hole below the 'hood'. first thing's first, get the right size tampon, because.. .well lets say when i first tried, it was a little too big and i couldnt sit down for the whole day :S when you have the tampon, ... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to kiss me and want me more?
Q. My bf loves me very much an me too.... i'm 100% sure he loves me and cares for me... he doesn't hide things with me.... it has been for 4 months we are still together. We have never fought, never argued, we both are emo... if he's sad,i'll be SAD. ...
A. 16 August 2010: yay, an emo!! i thought i was the only one :(
i know you're not getting much out of your relationship, but ur man has a point; now is the time to focus on studies so that after you can both live a successful life together :)
if you truly love eac... (read in full...)
Why does he do this?
Q. There's this lad- he's 17 I'm 15. He keeps telling he loves me and that he'd do anything to be with me! So I get my hopes up and then he goes and gets a girlfriend and ignores me. Then he'll come back to me a few weeks later and be like I'm sorry ...
A. 13 August 2010: sorry babe, but this guy is not right for you. he is just one of those millions of playboys that, when their (temporary) girlfriends expire, they go back to the innocent ones, just to keep his reputation up and probably even use you. to him, you are ... (read in full...)
I was taken advantage of so I dumped my boyfriend. Not sure if he's moved on or not!
Q. about four months ago i was at a party and got drunk and my boyfriends friend took advantage of me and had sex with me but never 'popped my cherry', i never told my boyfriend because my friends told me it was for the best that i dont, my mind was ...
A. 11 August 2010: It's understandable that your guilt had driven you to dump your boyfriend, but you have to follow your conscience, and that's to tell him the truth. i think it would be unfair for him to suddenly be dumped and im not surprised that he's still ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused, is he cheating/has he cheated on me?
Q. I Have been with my partner for Two years, and its been great and i have never loved someone so much in my life. we are now expecting our first child together im currently 7 months pregnant with a baby boy. we have also just moved in together and ...
A. 11 August 2010: aw sweety it must be gutting, but maybe its just all the stress lately. i know what you're thinking, but try to be positive, you have a story in your mind that he may be cheating on you with this man, but you cant jump to conclusions. there is ... (read in full...)
We had broken up, but she still considers it cheating, what should I do?
Q. me and my fiance, recently broke up and I moved to another town, i went out with another girl while I would visit my fiance thinking we could work it out. we have since reconsiled but she refuses to admit that we were broke up even though w...
A. 11 August 2010: But, if you were visiting her, thinking that you could work it out between you, why did you rush into another relationship, say it did work out, then what??
i dont really aprove of what you did, you could have waited; your fiance could also have... (read in full...)
I love him but he flirts with other girls, can I trust him?
Q. I am absolutely in love with an idiot and i don't know what to do. I don't want to dump him because i know i cant live without him but i think it would be better for me if i did leave him. but i cant. I think he takes me for granted. he gets off ...
A. 11 August 2010: You may think you're in love with him, and maybe you ARE, but you'll be most likely to laugh about it in the future and think, 'what did i see in that jerk?'
what i would do is leave him, because im pretty sure you two got together just by his 'cha... (read in full...)
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