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A request to all the young teens out there
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14 April 2009: well i have realised that in the past few weeks there are so many young girls coming up with just one problem thats PREGNANCY.. why are the young teens underage(11-17) so unaware of the consequences it is soo sad that at the age of 13 or 14 instead...
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Boyfriend treats me badly and I worry that it will continue after I marry him
Q. hi I am 23 year old and I know my boyfriend since primary school. our parents are friends and we became friends as well .we are in a relationship since 10 grade. the problem is ,he sometimes abuses me , makes me cry for some stupid nonsense stuff an...
A. 18 May 2015: There are red signs staring at you and you refuse to see Cuz you seem to be so "blinded" by what you call is love but huni its far from love atleast for him! I can understand the trauma because I lost my grandma early this year as well and I was de... (read in full...)
Why am I still single at 25?
Q. Hi all, So my dilemma is that I'm 25 and still single. A little about me: I'm a design student and working and I also practice fine arts. I'm considered very attractive and I'm a classic introvert. Usually, I work/study from morning to night...
A. 18 May 2015: Hi, I think we sometimes in our walk of life find a "comfort zone" we think this is safe and do not want to experiment it may be for many reasons may be because we think it's easy or it's the right thing for your self or various other things! ... (read in full...)
My ex is too involved in my life. What should I do?
Q. I broke up with my ex legally and she too agreed but I have left my phone with her so that we could contact as normal friends but before some last month's it seems that this is going wrong as she still acts as my girlfriend. ..We broke up due to our ...
A. 11 May 2015: Well we cannot tell you if you can forget her or not it all depends on how much cared for this person and if your really ready to move on in life!
Sometimes we get so attached to a person we think we cannot have a life without them and there was ... (read in full...)
My ex is too involved in my life. What should I do?
Q. I broke up with my ex legally and she too agreed but I have left my phone with her so that we could contact as normal friends but before some last month's it seems that this is going wrong as she still acts as my girlfriend. ..We broke up due to our ...
A. 10 May 2015: Hey,
First off giving her "phone" was a bad move..if you both amicably decided to part ways then why leave your phone behind!its not healthy..when the two of you have decided to move on it means "move on" not leave things behind to communicate by w... (read in full...)
Lonely and friendless and looking for advice
Q. I'm a young female and my problem is I don't really have any friends. I never had a lot of friends even back when I was in High School. I had maybe 3 or 4 friends but they ended up turning on me and started bullying me. My High School was actua...
A. 7 February 2014: Dear OP,
I think its pretty normal sometimes to lose touch with friends you went to high school with.. I think I barely talk to 2-3 of my friends from school via text and not too often..I'm not a people pleaser so I come off a little too strong for ... (read in full...)
Why is He Sending Mixed Signals? Does He Like Me?
Q. Hey....That guy that asked me to homecoming? He's sending tons of mixed signals. I have no idea what to do. I overheard him talking to my friend that he's gonna ask me out to be his gf at homecoming, but idk anymore. He usually isn't on his phone, ...
A. 26 September 2013: Dear OP, You're just thinking too much into this, whether he likes you or doesn't, time will tell.. you definitely don't need to ask him.. what if he's nervous or confused or even changed his mind about it?..why don't you give him time, don't wa... (read in full...)
Dating dilemma - online friend
Q. Ok quick question ... The man I have strong feelings for has another woman that he has been chatting with for over a year and chats with online daily but claims it is just friendship. It came out by chance and he did try to keep it from me. I have ...
A. 26 September 2013: Dear OP, Until you're exclusive you don't really have a say in it ... probably they are just friends or he wants to get to know her more, either way its up to him.. If you have a problem with that you should talk to him straight up and tell him tha... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my drunk love!
Q. My name is Ishita .i m 20 years old.i am in a relationship from last 3 years.earlier my boyfriend was alcoholic at all . But after his vacation to Bangalore with his brother he has started drinking in access.he takes in 5 beers a day.which leads to ...
A. 19 September 2013: Hey ishitha, First off if you think ur boyfriend has no control over how much he drinks and its affecting his work and studies then he should definitely get help..by help I mean professional help..as a girlfriend you can urge him to stop but if i... (read in full...)
He told me the timing was off but now he's contacting me again! What do I do?
Q. Hey Guys! I'm very confused right now. 3 months ago I started dating this really great guy. It was very laidback and we saw eachother like 2 times a week and it was very nice. After 3 months my feelings became stronger and I wanted some pers...
A. 16 July 2013: Dear OP, He just got out of a relationship,probably the guy is ready to start dating again but he wants to wait before he emerses himself in a relationship!and I think its only fair he takes some time..you don't want him to hurry with you than reg... (read in full...)
We made plans, he didn't text, didn't show up and now I have to work with him tomorrow!
Q. Hi guys, okay so I'm 21 and work in a warehouse office which is we're I met this guy :) we have been talking a lot for about 4 months on Facebook and texting and of course in work. So to be honest he was the one doing all the chasing! Texting me ...
A. 4 July 2013: Dear OP,
This guy was soo persistent you come,and when u say yes he takes a back seat..(Very wierd) you called/texted he doesn reply..I think the guy was wrong,if he couldn't make it the most decent thing to do would be saying he can't make It whic... (read in full...)
We've been dating but she can't give me a straight answer! Do I keep trying?
Q. I've dating a girl for the past 3 month and seen her occasionally. This is the 3rd time in a 4 year period we've attempted to date. I'll stick to the details of this 3rd attempt. Sorry if it's too long but I need to blow some steam. So after 5 dat...
A. 2 July 2013: Dear OP, You know what 'you' want from her,and now your adamant to get it from her as well!that's just being selfish.. When such things happen either just to keep the partner happy the person would give in and say things that the other wants to h... (read in full...)
Part of me wants to stop seeing this manwhore, part of me wants to be with him.
Q. help me...i just started seeing this guy and we havent done much just fooling around but i told him am not ready for sex and that we should take things slow...so yesterday a friend of his commented something about being a manwhore and when i askd ...
A. 16 June 2013: OP, Your playing with fire here!how long have you known this guy? What if you tell him your not ready for sex until you get married,will he still stick around? Everyone has a past,and if he has realised his mistakes and is making amends and is now... (read in full...)
Is it charming or tacky to give daily Online updates about your relationship?
Q. OK, so my friend and I got into a argument today. He started dating this girl, a real looker. I'm subscribed to his facebook and in the past two months it's like every post is about her. Her photo, stuff she said, places they went. He's my bu...
A. 10 June 2013: Dear OP, Everyone has a different way to show express their love to their partner! Some hate PDA but the minute they get some 'alone' time they are in full form! While some other love PDA..you can't really say what's wrong or right and if its tacky... (read in full...)
I broke up with my bf of 7 years but I miss him so much. Please help?
Q. Hi .i recently posted about my bf not speaking to me 2-3 months at a stretch after a fight. I broke up with him. But im not able to forget about him. I miss him every single moment. I have not eaten for a week and a half. I feel like calling him and ...
A. 27 May 2013: You'v been together for 7 years and I'm sure it must be really hard to suddenly not have that person around anymore! You haven't really mentioned on what led to the break up?was it something serious?is there a possibility of fixing things..... (read in full...)
How do I warn my friend about my former FWB without reliving my story?
Q. Dear cupid I was in FWB for around 3 years on and off. He was my collegue at work and I was in love with him. Long story short he was very abusive towards the end and dumped me a month ago. We see each other at work, he carries on as if I don't ex...
A. 22 May 2013: Dear OP, I'm sorry to hear about the traumatising experience you had with this guy! First off it was wrong of him to call you a whore and a slut,the arrangement you'l had was mutual but that's how it is in a FWB the person can just want to end it o... (read in full...)
He's 24. He was texting me. Then he just stopped. What can I do? Because I am aggrieved.
Q. I'm a 22 year-old woman who had been harbouring initial feelings of fondness for a man who happens to be two years senior to me. We had been Facebook friends since a long time, but had conversations once in a blue moon. A fortnight back w...
A. 3 May 2013: Dear OP,
Things seem to be going very somooth for you until this man decided to take a 360 turn..!
May be two things OP,
First) he doesn't want to go too fast,may be he wants to take it slow and decide for himself if he wants this friendship t... (read in full...)
How do I get him to come out of his depression and share his worries?
Q. hiii i have been in relationship with my friend from past 2 years... what hurts me a lot is that he does not share his worries with me..... he keeps very silent even though i ask him wat happened with lot of love..... when that silent we...
A. 3 May 2013: Dear OP, Its not up to you to 'get him' to open up,cuz if he doesn't want to share no matter what you won't help! Yes you can encourage him to share his feelings with you,you can tell him your here if you need him,you can tell him to not stonewall... (read in full...)
I prioritised my exams over diner date with GF, was I wrong?
Q. I wanted to share my little problem im having with my gf. On sunday me and my gf organised a dinner date with her friend at 7.30pm. That day i had my cpr and first aid certification school untill 6pm. So i spent all day doing cpr certific...
A. 23 April 2013: OP, Sometimes you can't have control of everything especially time..and just like you I tend to give more priority to studies and work! And I'm glad I did it at that point cuz whatever I have achieved today is because of the sacrifice that I had to... (read in full...)
My controlling Aunt wants us to change the date of our wedding. How can I deal with her reaction?
Q. Recent events have upset me and dare say ruined my wedding ...Please read... My aunt (my dad’s sister) has always been a bit controlling. I remember when I was a child she'd always have tantrums and cause arguments if things didn't go her wa...
A. 21 April 2013: Dear OP, Your aunt is being unreasonable!its your wedding and you have every right to pick a date that you and your fiancee decide..I can't believe your aunt can stoop down to such a low level and act so juvenile aand make such nasty comments... (read in full...)
His friends are rude to me and know too much of my personal business
Q. How would you deal with your boyfriends friends being rude to you? I've found that I'm not really comfortable at all around my boyfriends 5 main best friends. They all make very rude comments to me and even just make rude comments about our relation...
A. 15 April 2013: Dear OP, What your boyfriend's 'friends' think of you is how your boyfriend has potrayed you to them! So based on what he has said,based on what they have heard they will make assumptions about you! If your boyfriend had a problem or dint like how... (read in full...)
I met this guy and I like him. Would meeting for coffee be a good idea?
Q. Hi people! I met this guy on Friday night, he was really nice and we talked/had alot of drinks together. I ended up back at his house for a drink - note we were both drunk but i was sober enough for it not to go any further (i am not like that at ...
A. 14 April 2013: Since you've asked him for coffee already,I think now it's his turn to take charge! I doubt you need to text again,you may come off as 'needy' or 'trying too hard'.. If he reciprocates then good,if not, 'MOVE on' Good luck... (read in full...)
I'm Sikh, my boyfriend is Sikh - My parents don't agree :(
Q. Hi, I'm a 17 year old sikh girl and I've had a rough past that my 22 year old sikh boyfriend knows about and he still loves me despite whats happened. Me and my bf have been together for 7months in total. We were planning on telling my parents about ...
A. 13 April 2013: You have a longg way to go to even think about culminating this relationship into something!
Your 17,you live with your parents and they don't aprrove of your man!
You can do 2 things
Either talk to your parents and ask them to meet your boyfrie... (read in full...)
My mom is sleeping with a guy my age!
Q. My Mom is Sleeping with a Guy My Age. Advice? My mom is 45 and she's sleeping with a 21 year old guy I knew while growing up. I'm her only son (only child) and I'm 20. I don't think this is right, or appropriate at all. I think she should act h...
A. 8 April 2013: I don't think there is anything you really can do about it.. Your mom is an adult so is he,you can voice your opinion(only when asked) I doubt they would take that into consideration tho..right now they are in the 'honey moon phase' and anyone c... (read in full...)
What is the best and worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Q. Pickup lines have been used on both men and women. Some are good, some are very, very bad, but we can all agree that they’re pretty funny. Share with us any good or bad ones you've heard. Feel free to list more than one!...
A. 8 April 2013: The worst pick up line used on me would be
'Hey do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk again'?!
The best (atleast for me)that made me blush
'You have beautiful eyes,I could stare at them all day'
This other time I was at a club a ... (read in full...)
Do guys normally hold out a few days before making contact?
Q. Hey guys, last Saturday a guy who I got friendly with at a club overseas took my email address and I haven't heard from him yet. Does that mean his not interested? Or do guys normally hold out for a few days?...
A. 4 April 2013: It depends on the guy OP,
Some do wait like a week or two just soo they don't seem too keen or 'too interested',they want to play it cool..
While some others would text you right away and drop many hints to show your interested!
I like such me... (read in full...)
Why is my friend reaching out to my enemy?
Q. I "broke up" with my former best friend Margo three years ago. There's no love lost and I am very happy to have her out of my life. Not getting into the details, I truly believe that I was completely in the right to permanently cut off all contact ...
A. 30 March 2013: Honestly that should be the least of your concerns... You ended friendship with Margo which you thought was best for both you; you didn't need any negativity so you let her go! Now what she does and who she talks to shouldn't concern you at all! I ... (read in full...)
Dilemma--ex girlfriend pregnant wants me back but I'm dating someone else now
Q. Well, in late nov I met this rlly cute gurl n we really hit it off and we had sex for first weekend and we had sex again a week later n she told she took birth control. And she had her period in the same week. And then she blew me off n hurt me n we ...
A. 29 March 2013: First off you need to get the test done to know if the baby belongs to you! You can't just take her word it’s better to be safe and get the test which will tell you if it’s yours or not! Now this ex gf broke you heart into a million pieces a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is becoming more annoying!
Q. hey (: okay basically me and my bf have been together for nearly 9 months we are absolutely perfect together, but recently he has been more annoying around his mates he brings up stuff like when I texted him quite late at night ages ago but he ...
A. 28 March 2013: OP, To me it looks like 'the both of you were never perfect together',you assumed you were perfect,and wanted it to be perfect! What's important now is you sit your boyfriend down and have 'the talk'.. Tell him you don't like the way he potray... (read in full...)
Where was his chivalry? I was so disappointed!
Q. I went out on a date with a guy I met online..he is insanely hot,the pictures don't do justice,anywys when I saw him first I wasn't disappointed but I was really disappointed with his actions! Where is the chivalry these days?it seems dead to me! ...
A. 26 March 2013: I agree with cindy cares,cerebrus is being very unjust to OP!
You can't go on record and write off OP as superficial and demanding..
Every person has certain things she or he looks out for in a person that doesn't make them demanding at all..!
... (read in full...)
Drunken one night stand with the friend of the girl I like. How do I discourage this girl nicely?
Q. Hello all, Firstly, I'm a 22 year old guy currently studying at University. Recently, over the past 2 months of so, I started chatting to and hanging out with a girl I'll call Rita on my course. We'd just do stuff like get coffee and talk, which ...
A. 26 March 2013: Hi OP, Quite a mess eh!well make things clear with sophie but don't mention rita..because turning her down for another girl would really hurt her self esteem! When things happen with rita it will,you don't need to announce it to the world! And ... (read in full...)
She text me and told her not to text her again, but should I text her back?
Q. Hello i,m a 52 yr old man, haven,t had much experience with women, find it difficult to read the sign,s/ signals, i have been on 2 dates with a 51 yr old woman, but 6 days ago she txt me and said, that she finds me childish, and have i got mental ...
A. 25 March 2013: OP, This woman is not beating around the bush,she being honest and tell you 'don't text' so I think there is no requirement of reading any signs or signals,because what she's saying is not a sign its a clear statement 'she doesn't want you to text'... (read in full...)
I have no experience -- help me read the signs that might tell me she wants me to make a move
Q. hi, i have met this girl through a mate and we are kind of getting with each other privately just to see how it goes, we allways get off with each other, snog and stuff, but i would like some advice on taking it further... im still a virgin so ...
A. 24 March 2013: Dear OP, First off how long have you known this girl,if your not sure yet as to if this can lead into a relationship or not I'm guessing it hasn't been that long! Take her out on dates,spend more time and tell her exactly how you feel OP,trust be... (read in full...)
Please, can you tell me a way to forget her? She's moved on. I have not. And Still I do love her so much.
Q. I am finding I am experiencing a very hard time in forgetting a girl who I loved. We were very good friends and I had told her about my feelings. She was not sure that time. However after sometime we had an affair. I had initially thought she love...
A. 24 March 2013: OP, Its not my place to judge someone,but from your post it comes off like she wanted the best of both worlds! Now you clearly told her you liked her,she wasn't ready but still had an affair,so she' played' you! Then she moved on to another man ... (read in full...)
Why do I behave this way when it comes to guys?
Q. Why do I behave this way when it comes to guys? Why do guys say I'm hard to get? Like they'd text me and I will reply back hours later when I'm free to talk or sometimes won't answer cause I'm not in the mood to talk or I'm just busy. Ive jus...
A. 24 March 2013: Dear OP,
When I read your post,I was like wow 'I went thru this phase'..I did everything that u mentioned OP,take time to text..but honestly its only later I realised in this process of 'playing hard to get' as it might across to the men I lost out ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my science teacher and I think me might like me too?
Q. i have a huge crush on my science teacher mr m....... because, his irish, his only 23, he has nice blue eyes and brown hair, and he is really nice to me. i think that he might have a crush on me too because everyone else who he teaches has that his...
A. 23 March 2013: Dear OP, He's 23 your I'm assuming 14 or 15!its quite normal for girl your age to have crushes on your teachers BUT you should limit urself to that! Now since you like him, you might be misinterpretating all his signs and that makes you think ... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much of people? I want to stay the way I am but I want to be valued as myself.
Q. This is the most craziest question to ever find on a love advice column... Right... I’ve loved Bollywood, bindis, mendhi tattoos, especially the jewellery and fashion and I love the karma sutra and their beliefs since I was a small girl. I try...
A. 23 March 2013: Hi OP, If you're fascinated by another culture I don't see anything wrong in it! My friend who is American as well loves Indian food and their culture and wants to fall in love and marry and Indian woman, lol. It's one of his many fantasies! I do... (read in full...)
On a trip I had a drunken hookup, is it time to end things with my boyfriend?
Q. I went away on a university trip abroad and (very drunkenly) hooked up with one of my classmates. I have a boyfriend of two years, and have been having doubts about the relationship for a while but cheating just further assured me - is it worth ...
A. 23 March 2013: OP, If you were unsure of your relationship you should have spoken to your boyfriend about it long time ago,rather than tagging him along the 'fantasy' he had of you to together! And definitely cheating dint confirm anything OP,you weren't ready fo... (read in full...)
Two months no contact. Did she ever really love me?
Q. Help please, It’s been two months now I haven’t received a call or text from my girlfriend, we were together for three months, during the first month all was fine... Two months back she started complaining about having insufficient airtime...
A. 22 March 2013: 2 months and no contact? OP you have the answer right here she doesn't want this!although its very immature of her to disappear without saying anything!
May be her priority is 'college' now,I think you should take a few steps back and let her make... (read in full...)
Should I leave him? I can't get the bad memories out of my head!!!
Q. I don't know if I should leave my boyfriend of almost 4 years over this... (This is going to be long but please bear with me!!!) When we first started dating I was struggling very much with a deep depression and self-esteem issues brought on by my...
A. 22 March 2013: Dear OP, When you boyfriend didn't accept in your 'worse' stage,what makes you think he deserves you when your 'recovering'. Istead of being with you,supporting you and helping you thru he only brought you down,treated you like a door mat(which y... (read in full...)
Should I keep seeing this guy? He doesn't contact me for 4 days and then addresses me by my friend's name?
Q. Not sure if I should see this guy again. (Or maybe I expect too much) I have been seeing this guy for about a month now. It is very casual. He has shown interest in me. He would text every two days or so which is fine with me. This week he didn't ...
A. 22 March 2013: Well OP, you'v clearly shown him that you like him and want to spend time with him,whether you like it or not the ball in his court! Now calling you by your friends name? It might be a slip up but I would get a little annoyed..! So I don't blame yo... (read in full...)
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