No pleasure for me, Only doubted relationship with horrid sexual memories. Help!
Q. I am currently at a loss right now. I have serious issues within my marriage its not funny at all. I have been married for almost three years will be three years on March 16th. Personally I am unsure as to where to start. First my husband and I have ...
A. 10 March 2013: Your story touched me because as a woman, wife of 16 years, and mother who has had varying degrees of feeling discomfort, turned off, under-appreciated and just plain sick (outside of my control). I feel I can relate. I am not sure how I'd feel if ... (read in full...)
How do I put a stop to this flirting with me by a married man?
Q. Well, here we go again! The married man I posted about before is no longer an issue for me, even though he is still very interested. A situation seems to be developing with this man's co-worker who I see almost as often as I see this aforementio...
A. 21 February 2013: R1, You have a point, I suppose, when you say I need to "man up" to be seen differently and hopefully respected. Perhaps I will try that.... (read in full...)
Frustrated that online guys only want sex.
Q. I am extremely frustrated in my dating life! I seem to be attracting guys who are just interested in me for sex. I am not sure what it is, it could possibly just be my ethnicity. I do not dress scantily, or act flirtatiously or inappropriately. When ...
A. 17 February 2013: My heart goes out to you. I feel I know your pain! I have similar experiences with men and it is very discouraging because it may seem you only encounter animals and wonder where the human beings are! LOL My suggestion would be to try finding a new ... (read in full...)
How do I put a stop to this flirting with me by a married man?
Q. Well, here we go again! The married man I posted about before is no longer an issue for me, even though he is still very interested. A situation seems to be developing with this man's co-worker who I see almost as often as I see this aforementio...
A. 17 February 2013: So far, it appears all responders are women. Please tell me you know that once men (of a certain character) who find you attractive know your name or encounter you on a regular basis, they will try to have a conversation with you. If you are not ... (read in full...)
How do I put a stop to this flirting with me by a married man?
Q. Well, here we go again! The married man I posted about before is no longer an issue for me, even though he is still very interested. A situation seems to be developing with this man's co-worker who I see almost as often as I see this aforementio...
A. 17 February 2013: R1, I am a woman most men go for; married as well as single. I find it intersting that another female would suggest I will get a reputation because of other people's behavior. But I will not have a reputation for flirting with men, leading them on, ... (read in full...)
How do I put a stop to this flirting with me by a married man?
Q. Well, here we go again! The married man I posted about before is no longer an issue for me, even though he is still very interested. A situation seems to be developing with this man's co-worker who I see almost as often as I see this aforementio...
A. 17 February 2013: so_very_confused, thank you. I am not the flirty type. I only flirt when I am interested and usually long after a man has my attention. I normally do not respond to men's advances. Perhaps I am shy in that way, or just a lady.. Either way, I ... (read in full...)
How do I put a stop to this flirting with me by a married man?
Q. Well, here we go again! The married man I posted about before is no longer an issue for me, even though he is still very interested. A situation seems to be developing with this man's co-worker who I see almost as often as I see this aforementio...
A. 17 February 2013: AuntyEm, thank you. It appears he is testing the waters to see if I will play along. I offer no encouragement at all. I do not flirt with this man. I am a client, not a co-worker and always conduct myself appropriately. These unsolicited compliments ... (read in full...)
How do I put a stop to this flirting with me by a married man?
Q. Well, here we go again! The married man I posted about before is no longer an issue for me, even though he is still very interested. A situation seems to be developing with this man's co-worker who I see almost as often as I see this aforementio...
A. 17 February 2013: Anonymous, thank for your comments!... (read in full...)
Our Families are close. So how do I cut my ex out of my life? He still wants sex.
Q. He told me a couple months ago he was coming to my state to see his father and wanted to see me. This gave me anxiety because he made sex comments on Facebook a few weeks earlier. He has been trying to get to me for years!! We have a very mess...
A. 2 January 2013: Please note: I do not have feelings for him outside of friendship. We never had a sexual relationship. But he has always wanted to have sex with me and still cares. He broaches the subject with me nearly every time we speak to one another. I am not ... (read in full...)
All of his feelings for me came pouring out but I don't feel the same, so he expects us to carry on like normal! What can I do?
Q. So a while ago i posted a question, which asked whether or not a guy and a girl could actually be friends without it being compromised by physical attraction or it ending up in one or the other falling for the other. I asked this based on a ...
A. 2 January 2013: This may not be helpful, but it appears friendships with men and women they are attracted to can never truly be platonic. This has been my experience which spans several decades. If your friend wants to pretend his confession never happened, you can ... (read in full...)
My head is telling me that I have to stay with my wife for the sake of my daughter. My heart is telling me that I have found my soul mate with another woman.
Q. Should I follow my head or my heart? I have been married for five years now, but for the last year things haven't been going to good in my marriage. I am in the military and since my last deployment my wife has withdrawn herself from me. We have...
A. 29 December 2012: Well, you seem to feel very strongly about your connection to this other woman. So have you read our suggestions? How are you planning to handle this situation with your wife and daughter? Are you prepared to possibly enter into a custody battle ... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 22 December 2012: Candid Cally: THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!! I was beginning to think I was in a war zone or the Twilight Zone (not sure which is worse). LOL FINALLY, a well-thought-out response that was sincere and extremely helpful!!! I say it is an affair ... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 21 December 2012: UPDATE: He came by to see me today. I am like a drug to this addict who refuses to seek treatment. Again I ask, why? Is it love? Few people have even remotely attempted to answer my question. Anyway, he asked to come in and I said no. I didn't say ... (read in full...)
Why are married men drawn to me?
Q. I really have the hots for this guy that works at my place of business but he is married well actually the both of us are really feeling each other. I know this is wrong but why does this happen to me? it's seems like I attract men that are taken an...
A. 21 December 2012: Not sure what messages you may or may not be subconsciously sending, but I have similar experiences with married and single men. My experiences have taught me that men like who they like whether you are into them or not. Being married doesn't seem ... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from falling in love with someone I can't be with?
Q. Hi. About a week ago, I posted a question about how I still had lingering feelings for the ex-girlfriend of a friend of mine. I was having trouble dealing with the fact that she was in a loving relationship with another guy and had simply chosen to ...
A. 21 December 2012: You seem to be a hopeless romantic like me. :-) It is too late, but I wish you did hadn't communicated with her on Facebook. You are opening a wound that may have otherwise began to heal with a little more time and space. Please do not make yourself ... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 21 December 2012: HE pursues ME, NOT the other way around!! I am not alienating his affections, he is voluntarily throwing it on me!! HE wants ME because he feels something with ME he hasn't felt before. HE continues to choose ME, though I refuse to give him what... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 21 December 2012: I am having a hard time reading your comments. I am having legitimate struggles. Because there are far too many details to any relationship, there is no way to fully communicate what this is like for me. I did nothing to encourage this man, but rat... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 19 December 2012: We ran into each other, as we so often do. He stalks me on the job (undercover) and always seems to know when and where to find me. He and his wife have a son and she is very well-off financially. He seems to be wrestling with the thought of losing ... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 19 December 2012: ImmortalPrincess: Girl you are hilarious! I told myself the same thing! I said, "he probably said the same thing to other women." Thank God I am not foolish enough to believe that if he and I were a couple that he would NEVER cheat on me. No, I am ... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 19 December 2012: Thank you, Honeygirl! Chile, NO! I am not in need of anybody's sloppy seconds. Honestly I am just curious to know if of all the women he has cheated with, am I the woman he truly loves. It does not mean he can have me, but I just want the truth. I ... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 19 December 2012: Dear So_Very_Confused:
You use very strong words and there is a lot of truth there, so I thank you. However, I never said we were having sex, nor that he alone was to blame. I do not in any way feel powerless. I am taking responsibility for my p... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 19 December 2012: Dear Candid Cally: Thank you. I recognized my words immediately. I am not pursuing a relationship with this man nor having sex with him. But we do have an intense chemistry and he seems torn about not being with me wholeheartedly. I have a... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my brother in law's wife.
Q. Dear Cupid! Sorry to bother you. My problem still sustains there and now i need your help very desperately please. In my previous questions i asked you about a lady but almost all answers were very good and i tried my best to control myself b...
A. 18 December 2012: Are you just a horny toad? Perhaps you need your hormones checked. If your testoterone levels are too high, you may have a hard time resisting beautiful women. Men have been losing their minds over me lately and really struggle with strong urges and ... (read in full...)
Why am I anxious whenever I don't hear from her?
Q. I've been friends with this girl for a couple of years. I first met her as the girlfriend of one of my friends. Their relationship has since ended and I haven't heard much from either of them. We've hung out on occasion and speak to each other ...
A. 18 December 2012: Have you tried to reach put and tell her how you feel? That you miss hearing from her? That is one place to start, but you have to identify the source of this anxiety you now feel. Separation anxiety can occur when you miss someone dear to you in ... (read in full...)
My head is telling me that I have to stay with my wife for the sake of my daughter. My heart is telling me that I have found my soul mate with another woman.
Q. Should I follow my head or my heart? I have been married for five years now, but for the last year things haven't been going to good in my marriage. I am in the military and since my last deployment my wife has withdrawn herself from me. We have...
A. 18 December 2012: Infatuation is like a drug. It makes you feel all mushy inside over something fresh and new. Are you sure it is love? How does she respond to you? Also, you have not been married very long and may not have been prepared to be apart so early in the ... (read in full...)
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