What does emotionally raped mean?
Q. A girl told me she felt she was emotionally raped by another guy. What could this possibly mean? ...
A. 3 April 2012: I found this explanation in the urban dictionary.
Emotionally raped is a person who feels absolutely violated, mistreated and abused in a non-physical contact manner. Its the improper treatment that stirs the soul into a breakdown mode.
I hope... (read in full...)
How can I be pain and flashback free after being abused?
Q. I'm 23 years old and Been with my boyfreind for 11 months we first start getting sexual with each other three months in to the relationship which it took a lot off trust and understanding on my bf part because I was sexually abuse when I was younger ...
A. 2 April 2012: I was sexually abused as a child, and I ahve also experienced the same sort of reaction in sex, flashbacks and pain. I can tell you from my own experience that it takes a lot of time, patience and therapy to get to a point where you don't flashback ... (read in full...)
I don't want my dad to die, he's all I have!
Q. hey everyone, i just want to tell you all my life story cuz my friends don't get me. they're not mature enough to understand what i'm going through. ok im from africa, i came to america 2 and a half years ago, i live with my dad, i though...
A. 31 March 2012: Hello sweetie. I know how hard it is and how scary it is to think that your Dad may not get to see you grow up and be all the things that you have both been dreaming of for you. When I was 14, my brother who is 14 years older than me told me that my ... (read in full...)
Surprise 50th birthday party and his wife didn't invite his Mother, how to deal with her!
Q. Hi Guys I have a situation which isn't about a relationship, it's more a family situation and I was just hoping you guys might be able to help me. My brother just turned 50 years old, and his wife put on a surprise birthday party for him, and she...
A. 8 February 2012: Thanks to all. Youwish, your right, I didn;t know about the comments until my SIL told me about them herself in front of her husband, he didn't know about them either until that point, so we couldn't react to that. As soon as she said that, my ... (read in full...)
Surprise 50th birthday party and his wife didn't invite his Mother, how to deal with her!
Q. Hi Guys I have a situation which isn't about a relationship, it's more a family situation and I was just hoping you guys might be able to help me. My brother just turned 50 years old, and his wife put on a surprise birthday party for him, and she...
A. 8 February 2012: I have found out the reason from my SIL and my brother, she had come to visit my Mum a few weeks before, and whilst chatting to her, my SIL started talking about our 5 year old nephew (son of one of our other brother;s) and told my Mum that she ... (read in full...)
Surprise 50th birthday party and his wife didn't invite his Mother, how to deal with her!
Q. Hi Guys I have a situation which isn't about a relationship, it's more a family situation and I was just hoping you guys might be able to help me. My brother just turned 50 years old, and his wife put on a surprise birthday party for him, and she...
A. 6 February 2012: Thankyou all, I appreciate all your help. I have no intention of letting this come between my SIL and I. My brother called this morning because he was hurt that we were not there. I took your advice and told him simply that we didn;t know the party ... (read in full...)
Surprise 50th birthday party and his wife didn't invite his Mother, how to deal with her!
Q. Hi Guys I have a situation which isn't about a relationship, it's more a family situation and I was just hoping you guys might be able to help me. My brother just turned 50 years old, and his wife put on a surprise birthday party for him, and she...
A. 6 February 2012: Thanks for your responses, since I posted I spoke to my cousin who was invited and attended, it was a family party, the rest of the siblings and various family members attended, My sister-in-laws family attended. When asked why Mum and I were not... (read in full...)
Ladies, how would you rather be approached by an interested man?
Q. As a woman, which way would you rather be approached? A. At my university, I see an attractive woman, so I say to her, "Excuse me, do you know where building F is?" She then shows me where it is and I say, "Actually, I know where building F...
A. 4 February 2012: None of these approaches would work for me, sorry. I would assume that your looking for any girl who would respond to one of these cheesy pick up's. A simple Hi, my name is _____
I was wondering if you would like to join me for a coffee?
Goo... (read in full...)
Is it fair for me to chase after this sweet guy knowing I don't really want him?
Q. Right now, I'm facing a connundrum. I'm a college student so most people want to tell me to focus on school and not a relationship. But I'm under so much pressure I feel like I need someone I can lean on and trust and who isn't looking for forever ...
A. 25 January 2012: I'm sorry, but no it wouldn't be fair of you to chase after a guy when you know you don't really want him, that would be using him and nobody deserves to be used. Try to find someone who will make you happy and who you want to be with. It may take ... (read in full...)
He treats me well but my parents don't think he's wealthy enough. Should I stay?
Q. Hiya :) Hope you can help me. I will try and keep things brief! I am 31 and have had 3 relationships, only to which they have used me and treated me badly. My parents however loved one as they thought he was financially stable for me and co...
A. 18 January 2012: I understand your fear I have been through it myself. I understand your parents concern, but emotional support and love are more important than financial support. If you feel he is the man for you, then go for it, but make up your own mind.
I mys... (read in full...)
A Good News Story!
Q. Hi everyone, Having been a member of this website for quite a while now, I've found it genuinely heart warming and pleasing when someone who has asked for advice comes back with a happy ending. So I thought I'd do the same in the hope it might br...
A. 17 January 2012: Congratulations, I am so happy things worked out for you. Thankyou for sharing this with us.... (read in full...)
How do I get a second date?
Q. I went on a first date last week, with a guy I met online. Everything seemed to go well. Now it's almost the weekend again, but he hasnt asked me out. What should I do?...
A. 12 January 2012: Call him and ask him out. He might say yes, he might say no, but at least you know either way. I know it's easier said than done, but I have asked a guy because I really liked him, and it was the best thing I have ever done. Give it a go and good ... (read in full...)
A moral friendship question?
Q. Ok. I'm cool with a guy who was really close with this girl who just recently passed away of cancer. I didn't personally know her. The girl who died was married. Ok. I'm really interested in getting to know her husband. He is also cool with my guy ...
A. 12 January 2012: My friend's wife died about a year ago and a woman who had been interested was trying to figure out how long before making a move and trying to see if a friend could hook her up with him. Luckily no-one did and she made a move on him herself about 6 ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my ex about what she said or let it go?
Q. Hi everyone, my girlfriend and I broke up about 1 month ago now, we broke up because she didn't feel the same way. She had sent me a text that was meant to go to her ex saying that she was glad when I wasn't around the day before though. But today I ...
A. 6 January 2012: No don't confront her it won't achieve anything at all. It could hurt your friendship with your best girl friend though. Learn from this and move on. Let it go.... (read in full...)
Why does he choke me or restrain me during sex?
Q. The guy im having sex with will start to choke me or pin me down right before im going to orgasim. if i push his hand away from my neck or move away from his hold he will stop and hold back for a bit. then it starts all over again. he wont let me ...
A. 6 January 2012: You need to find a new guy to have sex with. He isn't respecting when you say no and it's a very dangerous situation to be in. He doesn't respect you because if he did he wouldn't be doing this when you say no. For your own safety you should end ... (read in full...)
Our texting has faltered. Am I worried without good reason? He wants to wait until his surgery before he sees me again.
Q. i have been talking with a guy for a few week and he was calling and/or texting daily and then we had a little conversation about him not saying sexual things to me i told him it was a little innapropriate at this point and then he said he was hurt ...
A. 6 January 2012: Don't worry about him not messaging much. Having any type of operation is scary and he is just feeling the pressure people feel when facing an operation, it's stressful and he just needs a little time to concentrate on that. Wait until after the ... (read in full...)
Was it wrong for him to change my password?
Q. Heyy, well to start with my boyfriend knows my facebook password and i know his, today an old friend of mine was talking to me and he was saying some pretty inaproprate things to me, my boyfriend saw them and got mad i begged him not to say anyt...
A. 31 December 2011: Your boyfriend was wrong to change your password on you, he doesn't have the right to do that. I suggest you both change your passwords and do not tell each other what it is. This is controlling behaviour and shows a lack of trust. He should h... (read in full...)
How much help is too much help?
Q. A guy I met online is coming to town and he's asked me to help him rent a bedsit so I did. The thing is the bedsit is in bad shape and there is basically nothing habitable about it. He'll be arriving late on Saturday ( no shops will be open on ...
A. 30 December 2011: In this case I would at least have a kettle, toaster, loaf of bread and some marg/butter and spread there for him to use. It's a nice gesture and helpful for a friend to do that. ... (read in full...)
Wife cries and gets upset from a song, Wont tell me why .
Q. if been married to my wife for 6months , and dated for 2years. My question is....do i have a right to know why a particular song sets her off ? ....why she cant bare to hear it because it brings her back to a bad time which i Dont kno very much ...
A. 28 December 2011: It isn't about the words in the song, have you thought maybe it was playing in the background when she was raped. I was sexually abused as a child, raped as an adult. There is one movie in particular that was playing when I waas being abused as a ... (read in full...)
Why is my g/f online asking for advice and won't tell me why?
Q. my girlfriend is asking advice at web sites like this one. I asked her what kinda questions she is asking and she wont tell me! i;m not a woman i dont know how they think. what does this mean. is she trying to hid something. please help....
A. 28 December 2011: It means that she is confused and just wants other people's advice. It may simply be something that she feels is personal and she isn't ready for you to know. It doesn't mean she is hiding anything, just that she may be confused and wants to sort ... (read in full...)
My grandfathers party is on the same day as my girlfriends! What should I do?
Q. I need a question answered. My girlfriend goes to church and I go with her most of the time. and they invited me to their Christmas party because of my GF. I promised my GF that I would go with her. But today I found out that my Grandfather's part...
A. 28 December 2011: Personally, I would go to your grandfather's, you have said you don't know how many more he will have. You will regret it when the time comes that he is not around to be able to share these times with. My nephew never came to any parties my fathe... (read in full...)
I have the perfect boyfriend but I feel like I never want to have sex and don't get turned on by the thought of sex
Q. Hi, I am just writing as I have been with my boyfriend for four years. I love him more than anything. We fit perfectly, have loads of fun and joke around all the time. All my friends and family constable say how lovely he is and hope we always stay ...
A. 26 December 2011: Many women, about 99% of women do not and never orgasm from sex. It's actually very hard to orgasm from sex, so there is nothing wrong with you at all. Being intimate and even having sex in a loving relationship is not always about the end goal of ... (read in full...)
I wish I was beautiful and that guys gave me attention, but sadly I'm not like that
Q. I'm ugly, and that means guys pass me by, ignore me, don't approach me, or when they do it's obviously a momentary thing just 'cause they're desperate for sex (believe me, I can tell, I've learned to tell!). My friends are really pretty, and they ...
A. 26 December 2011: The first thing that came to mind for me, was situation between 2 friends of mine, one was stunning looking and a great girl once you got to know her, but she had huge self-esteem issues, and quite shy, the other of our friends was not that good ... (read in full...)
I'd like to confront him about the false message he gave me
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, I hope you're enjoying the holidays! So, there was this guy that I used to like. Let's call him T. T is somewhat of a ladykiller, he has a ton of friends who are girls, and he's dated a lot of people. Recently, I was leaving ...
A. 26 December 2011: Don't confront him at all about this, it will just cause more drama that you don't need. Just leave it as a lesson learned that he is not the guy for you.... (read in full...)
I was sneaky about meeting up with an ex, but it was only as friends and now I don't know what my boyfriend suspects!
Q. Is hanging out with an ex a terrible deed? this is an ex of mine from 4.5 years ago, the one prior to my current boyfriend of 4 years. It wasn't even really a relatonship, it was more fwb. but it ended because i found myself developing feelings ...
A. 22 December 2011: Yes hanging out with an ex is a terrible deed when you are being sneaky and keeping it from your boyfriend. You say you did it this way because you were trying to protect his feelings, if that was really true you wouldn't have done it at all. I am ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me after I miscarried our baby and now I am furious
Q. Hi. I posted on here a few weeks ago re my situation but things have changed. Me and my bf have always had a tricky relationship but our love seems to hold us together. I have had some mental health issues that go back a long way, back to my ...
A. 22 December 2011: I am sorry for your loss. I have felt the pain of miscarriage in the past, I understand the devastation that you are feeling, and the anger at your ex, my ex also treated me terribly after the miscarriage, and broke up with me. Yes your ex was ... (read in full...)
I thought she might like me, but then she made sure I seen her kissing another girl!
Q. A couple of days ago I met a very nice girl in a disco, I liked her so much. I saw her again another day, we talked and we took a few drinks together but I didn't ask her out. Last Friday I saw her there with other girl; she looked at me and I was ...
A. 21 December 2011: Maybe she is bi and likes both men and women. I can't tell you why she did it, except she must have wanted to at the time. Next time your talking to her, just ask her how her girlfriend is? see what she says, if she says what girlfriend, just say "I ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when you can't forget your first love?
Q. What does it mean when you can't forget your first love? We only dated 2 years, but I still think about and miss him every day. We have been broken up for almost 2 years also, and have very little contact.I have dated many people since, and things ...
A. 19 December 2011: I can't say whether or not you ahouls settle, or whether you 2 are meant to be, but I can share my experience with you. I had a man from my past that I just couldn't shake, I had lived my life and had even stopped all contact to forget him. It ... (read in full...)
I would prefer to see him on Sunday. Am I being mean by telling my boyfriend to get over not feeling well?
Q. hey everyone! Do I have the right to be miffed or am I in the wrong?! Any help is much appreciated!!! I'm going away on vacation Wednesday for two weeks and, thus, won't be here for the holidays. For the past two weeks, my boyfriend and I ...
A. 19 December 2011: Firstly I am sorry about your Grandfather's passing. I understand why you are going away, and yes it is right to be with your family at this time.
With regards to your boyfriend, I am sorry but you are still being harsh.There is nothing wrong wi... (read in full...)
Do I tell my brother I'm dating a guy 5 years older than me?
Q. Hi everyone1 im 17 and dating a guy who is 22, he is my first bf and im crazy about him but here is the problem. i live with my brother and he dosen't know about it. He asked so many times if i was dating and i said no, i think if he finds out that ...
A. 17 December 2011: You should tell your brother, he may surprise you and see that your honesty shows maturity. On the hand if he finds out your keeping it from him he may see that as a sign that your not mature enough to date this guy. It's best to be honest with and ... (read in full...)
Can I ruin his porn videos without visible proof?
Q. Okay so, my boyfriend has recently stopped watching porn out of respect for me. I just recently found his old porn stash of dvds and he doesn't know that I know about them. I know I'm going to get a lot of responses about how I should talk to him ...
A. 17 December 2011: Are you sure you really want to do this? Apart from it not being your property and you have no right to destroy anybody else's property, including your boyfriend's, it show's a complete lack of respect for him and his property. My friend did this ... (read in full...)
She wouldn't give me her phone number but someone else gave it to me. Should I call her?
Q. i met this girl at school,she is 16,while I'm 19,i asked her to be my friend,which she agreed to,but,she have refused giving me her phone number,although, i got the number from a guy she gave it,please,help me,should i call her,since she wasn't the ...
A. 17 December 2011: Do not call her, she didn't give you her number, so she will most likely not appreciate getting a call from you, and it may scare her off. Just be a friend and relax, take it slowly and see if it leads anywhere once you get to know her better. ... (read in full...)
Spicing up your sex life!
Q. Sight is a major part of good lovemaking. Look after your skin, use moisturisers, dont overdo the makeup, unless you are being a character in a little sexual scenario you are playing out together. Your hair must always be utterly clean. Who wants to ...
A. 15 December 2011: This is an awesome article thankyou for sharing it. I learnt quite a bit from this and have become more confident with some things that I did naturally but wasn;t sure I was doing right. thankyou so much, it's brilliant.... (read in full...)
We like each other but he has a girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. i have a guy that i think he likes me around me and i like him too and he has a girlfriend what do i do ...
A. 15 December 2011: You like this gut but he has a girlfriend, what do you do, NOTHING. He is in a relationship and therefore is not free to get involved with you. Look for someone whi is single and free to be with you. Either be a friend and forget about him in that ... (read in full...)
Do women want powerful, wealthy men more than considerate, nice guys?
Q. I know nobody wants a wimp. But do all women prefer the self-absorbed jerk with power over the nice, middle class guy who is considerate of a woman's feelings? Is the law of the jungle and the law of human love really the same?...
A. 13 December 2011: I personally would rather a man who treats with honesty and respect, and is kind and considerate rather than the richest man in the world who is self-absorbed and treats me like garbage. Thats just me, I know other women who are interested in men ... (read in full...)
How can I get past abuse and enjoy sex more fully?
Q. I'm twenty three and in my first sexual relationship :) which am really pleased about. I love my bf and we took things slow. I sometimes find it hard to enjoy sex totally because I was sexually abused when I was younger. And sometimes I just can't ...
A. 12 December 2011: I was sexually abused when I was child and it took a lot of work to teach myself that sex was safe and that I had a right to enjoy it. Have you had any counseling for the abuse? My counselor helped me realise that it was ok to enjoy sex. The ... (read in full...)
Would you be willing to be friends with a transgender?
Q. I suppose this is more a question than seeking advise but as a person that is transgender I am curious to know how people really view someone like me. I'm female born in a male body. I've never known anyone els like me and friends from my youth put ...
A. 7 December 2011: I have been friends with someone who was transgender and I was completely comfortable with her. I say was because sadly she passed away in an accident. I was proud to be her friend, and I miss her greatly. For me it never mattered at all, She was a ... (read in full...)
Should I sent my ex a card with a necklace in it that I had given to her before?
Q. I have a question about sending an ex girlfriend a christmas card/gift. I broke up with her in july and havent seen her since. She contacts me once every few weeks just to talk. I regret leaving her and i wish i never did. Whenever i dont talk to ...
A. 6 December 2011: No do not send her the necklace. If my ex sent me a necklace he had ripped off my neck when we broke up, I would be reminded of why i DON'T want to be with this man ever again. If I did ever give him another chance he would have to climb mountains ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband that I was raped when I was 16 years old or bury the secret?
Q. I need someone's advice. I'm 26 yo and just recently I got married, me and my husband have together 10 years he's the only guy in my life and love him more anything and I never lie to him no matter what. but during this time I had a secret that I n...
A. 4 December 2011: I have been raped myself, and I know how difficult it is to tell someone you love what happened to you. From my personal experience I can say that although it's hard to tell him, it is the best thing to do. Just remember when you tell him that he ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have two wives?
Q. I have 7-year old wife to whom I have loved somuch and trust but later I realized she had had hidden lot of past history, for which I have gone through the hell and got fed up with thinking about but not able to leave her and go away and I had many ...
A. 2 December 2011: As Chigirl said, you need to find out if it is legal in India before you think any further on this matter. If it is legal then you need to discuss it with your wife before looking for someone, it has to be a joint decision because you will all be ... (read in full...)
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