My boyfriend and I are in a good place, but his mother doesn't me!
Q. Hi all. It might be a long one so I'm really sorry. I'll set te scene a little bit. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. We are saving for a house but are both currently living with our parents. A while back (probably 6 months ago) we had ...
A. 28 February 2017: I think at this stage it's better if you have a meaningful conversation with your boyfriend and try and understand what's really happening with his family. I have no idea why his mom dislikes you and it's unlikely because of the day of the argument. ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to hint to a guy that you are not interested?
Q. I went on a few dates with a guy, but I just didn’t feel a connection with him. He seems so enthusiastic about our next date, but I don’t want to date him anymore. So is there a way I can hint to him that I’m no longer interested? ...
A. 28 February 2017: Your behavior will speak louder than words. Decline everytime he invites you out and i'm sure he'll get it. In case he keeps on chasing you, then you can tell him politely that you have amicable chemistry towards him. Plain and simple. ... (read in full...)
How am I so bad with women?
Q. I'm at a place now where I'm rejected 100% of the time. It's mind boggling how awful I am at attracting women. They're put off my me almost immediately and if they're not, I get their number and they stop talking to me. It takes talent to be this ...
A. 28 February 2017: I honestly think that your failed dating attempts have shaken your confidence in that department and made your energy a bit "off" with women. I'm not sure how you're approaching women and what's your strategy but it appears to me that it's all in ... (read in full...)
I am a married woman who has sex with strangers when I travel for work!
Q. I am a married female looking for some help. This is going to sound crazy but I have always had a high sex drive. I met my husband and everything was great. We had two kids, and he is such a good man. Provides well, if I had to honestly rate hi...
A. 28 February 2017: Honesty is key for any successful relationship/marriage but i think you definitely should not tell your husband about your business trips adventures cause it will ruin not only your marriage but also children.
I think the fact that you're admi... (read in full...)
Should I ? I'm tempted to contact the other people involved and ask them
Q. Looking for some advice here.. About a year ago, I found out that my fiancée and two of her (our?) friends had been exchanging intimate photos - and had even been together a couple of times. I confronted her, she broke down, told me that the o...
A. 24 February 2017: I see no harm in you contacting the people involved and asking them because it's eating you up and she obviously concealed some truth here. ... (read in full...)
Not his girlfriend? How do I talk to him?
Q. Hello I haven't been on this site in a long time but I need some advice. I have been seeing this guy for about 7 years off and on. He doesn't even consider me his girlfriend bc he says I don't do anything a girlfriend does. I spend the ni...
A. 24 April 2015: Hi Kat, I know exactly what you mean and how you feel as I’m going through the same thing for the past 3 years. The confusion gets the best of you and you feel angry and unfairly treated. It’s not easy to leave as well because you're stuck and it f... (read in full...)
Long distance and little effort
Q. I have been seeing this girl for 3 months. Now we are long distance. I suddenly had a job meeting in her city so I took a flight and got suddenly there. Upon leaving I told her I was coming. She said she was busy but she ll try to see me that night, ...
A. 16 October 2012: How was the relationship going? Was she consistent? Was there a plan to see each other anytime soon? Is it a cyber relation? Do you have feelings for each other? Cause it's not normal for a woman who's having a LDR to go to the gym instead of ... (read in full...)
Is my Gf into a new guy? I'm not a jealous guy, but something is not right. Any suggestions to resolve this please?
Q. I know this may sound bad but I think that my girlfriend is into some other guy. They always seem to be laughing and having the time of their lives (which I do not mind) but it seems like there is something else between them. She has recently been ...
A. 16 October 2012: You need to be more specific about the things she's asking him to do for her.
Did she change wih you? I suggest you talk to her openly and frankly about it and tell her that friendship with that guy is making you uncomfortable. And if her beha... (read in full...)
I pushed him away and now I want him back!
Q. I'm very confused and maybe someone can help me. Okay, so let me kind of summarize my relationship with my ex. We'll call him Nick. So, Nick and I were together for about 5 months. I love this guy, and I've never been more confused in my l...
A. 9 October 2012: Ok... So you guys haven't been in touch for over a month now, and he posted that status on twitter.. Hmmm there might be two scenarios here: A- he met someone else and is expressing his love and enthusiasm. B- he's doing that on purpose to upset... (read in full...)
Is he playing games with me?
Q. I went out with my ex last year for two months. I didn't know why he broke up with me at the time, as he just stopped contacting me without any explanation. We bumped into a few times after that last year, and asked how each other was. I have a new ...
A. 9 August 2012: Hello, I don't think he hates you to be honest , It's just that he's not that into you to start with. The man broke up with you because you were hard work? Really? I wish you laughed at him when he said that! The guy is a complete mess! I think the ... (read in full...)
Is he going to ignore me forever and will I never be able to get any answers?
Q. I was seeing a man for 4 months. I found out he was doing a few things to me behind my back. He had lied about his age, he had another women he was spending time with. He never took me on dates,i just felt hidden. It all began to add up. I ...
A. 17 March 2011: I think you did the right thing by sending him that text! wow 4 months of that behavior , you were really patient , my point is he lied to you in more things than one , red alarm ! dump him and don't regret the text you said, especially that he was ... (read in full...)
I need help to stop chasing men!
Q. Hello, I have a problem chasing men. Somehow I find myself being a bit of a doormat, waiting for calls and text messages all day. I have wasted years of my life doing this only to not have been in a real relationship since I was 23. I am 28. T...
A. 27 January 2011: you can flip the table by stop chasing men and making them your priority! you have to focus on loving yourself and your life, and to do so you need to ameliorate your life style, never isolate yourself, you're 28 still very young, go out more, work ... (read in full...)
Made a fake page to see why he broke up with me
Q. I created a fake page after 2 weeks of breaking up with my ex boyfried to view his facebook which he has blocked and never added me as a friend before. The thing is I did it twice when we was together created a fake page and he caught me twice.. ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hey sweety, he already told you taht he can't give u the attention ur asking for and he's not the one for you, he was blunt but honest, i know it's very hard but as you said it's getting better! don't send the request and stay away from his ... (read in full...)
He keeps texting other women! Am I overreacting?
Q. I have a story to tell and then some questions, I ask for any insight. So, my husband went away for work for 5 weeks, two of which went great. Then, he stopped calling to say goodnight and I noticed him texting a particular number ALL the t...
A. 17 October 2010: Lots of men don't consider light flings as cheating as they seperate between love and desire .
I think u should confront him and discuss it with him and have a heart to heart conversation with feelings put aside, as you need to know why did he lie ... (read in full...)
An ex of my husband wont leave us alone on facebook
Q. Hi, my husband and I have been married for about 3 months now. and he just recently got a FB account. about 2 weeks ago his ex (with her 4 years were engaged) friend requested him as well as all of his other close friends. so it annoyed me she ...
A. 10 September 2010: she's obviously a trouble maker and a jealous ex, who won't miss an opportunity to spread her poison on ur entourage, she feels that ur jealous and insecure cause that's her exact aim, she's upset that he ex is now married to someone else. don't ... (read in full...)
Is my coworker interested in me? I really like him
Q. I like this coworker at work badly...we have each other's num..i got his num through one of his friends with his approval. i am always the one to initiate the texting and he replies..i sent him a text on thursday asking him if he would like to ha...
A. 5 September 2010: ur welcome, be strong and friendly with him , don't mess up your professional relation.... (read in full...)
Is my coworker interested in me? I really like him
Q. I like this coworker at work badly...we have each other's num..i got his num through one of his friends with his approval. i am always the one to initiate the texting and he replies..i sent him a text on thursday asking him if he would like to ha...
A. 4 September 2010:
His behavior is not encouraging at all sweety, if he was interested he would have called and texted instead of limiting it to simple replies. PLus he ignored ur thursday text and didn't come to say hello on friday . It's obvious dear. Just forg... (read in full...)
Why is he saying he doesn't deserve me?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years and recently he has been sayin that he doesn't deserve me. He keeps saying that I should break up with him and everything. I don't know if he doesn't love anymore or he wants to find some one new....
A. 31 August 2010: He probably wants out and doesn't know from where to start telling you his decision, might be because of a guilt he's unable to cope with or he realized that u love him way too much and you're not on the same wave length as his. not good sign . ... (read in full...)
What's it with the guys who go so crazy for you and then drop you with some bs excuse?
Q. What's it with the guys who go so crazy for you and then drop you with some bs excuse?? I met a guy online, we went out and he seemed to be head over heels for me. Even said he was 'hook, line and sinker' for me. He then went away on business but ...
A. 30 August 2010: He surely met or had someone else on the side, maybe a complicated relation or something like that. extra premature care and attention is red flag in my opinion. better now than later . xx... (read in full...)
Shocked by threesome suggestion!
Q. My Fiancé and I have been together for 2 ½ years and have a very happy and loving relationship. We have talked about threesomes before and came to an agreement that if were to have a bloke then he would choose who and when, and if it was female then ...
A. 26 August 2010:
If you haven't approved once on the whole concept and accepted it if the female was chosen by you then maybe he wouldn't have mentioned it this time, as for the girl, i believe him when he said that she crossed his mind because you girls were taki... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from getting lonely, missing him then contacting him? I keep getting weak.
Q. Hi all, I ;ve just sadly come out of a 3 month relationship that was not making me happy- basically the guy had emotional issues, and stared acting withdrawn, both physically, and emotionally, and was playing games with my feelngs E;G - not taking ...
A. 25 August 2010:
The guy has clearly big emotional issues! Don't get in touch with him as ur making it worse and letting him take you for granted more and more. be strong and show lots of dignity and strength. You need a man who makes you happy otherwise what... (read in full...)
Boyfriends lack of contact is getting on my nerves.. what do I do?
Q. Me and my bf have been together for over 6 months things are going ok but he is rubbish at keeping in contact when he is away, its always been the same since we first met. He was away at the weekend at a festival, came back on Monday and text ...
A. 25 August 2010: Some men are like this, i was with someone who had the very same attitude and when i faced him he said he's like that. But this is not normal sweety, even when he's busy he can still reply and explain to u that he's busy and that he'll get back to ... (read in full...)
Was he only acting this way to get me into bed?
Q. I could really do with a few questions answering, as I'm driving myself crazy and getting really upset. I'm 18 and upto a month ago, I'd not kissed a guy, had a proper boyfriend and obviously hadn't had sex. This used to frustrate me every single ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hello sweety, it's normal feeling that way after your first sexual experience, all the fears all the doubts all the insecurity, especially that ur intimate moment was shared with someone u barely knew!
Since u don't know the guy much, u met him at a... (read in full...)
Are his reasons for breaking up with me ridiculous?
Q. My bf broke up with me and the main reasons were that I get insecure because I've been cheated on in the past, I understand its not good and fair to treat him that way because of my ex bfs' doing and I was trying to work on that.. But now he say...
A. 21 August 2010: wow the boyfriend of yours is really something :)
Listen sweety insecurity is such a turn off and people do break up because of that specific reason, however when someone wants to break up and end a story he doesn't lead the other person on by plan... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid or is this really happening all over again?
Q. I just on here for moral support really, 3 years ago just before I became forty I found out my husband had been cheating with someone he new had tried to befriend me. For months I knew he was having an affair but just didnt know who with. Anyway to ...
A. 19 August 2010: You're not paranoid at all, you trusted the man for years and he deceived you so you have every right to be suspicious especially that you found her messages on his phone. However you didn't tell us if the messages between them were lovey dovy or ... (read in full...)
Before she met me she sent a picture of herself to another guy, should I be mad at her for this?
Q. Should i be mad at my girlfriend for something she did in the past? Me and her were not together at this time but she did something that really bothers me. She sent a pic(nothing dirty) to a guy because he kept asking and asking, he kept bugging her ...
A. 19 August 2010:
I don't see why this small insignificant detail bothers you dear!
To start with , this happened before you met her so you have absolutely nothing to do with it , plus she sent an innocent picture so i don't see the harm!
If you want to have... (read in full...)
I hate my boyfriend... but I love him more than anything else in the world.
Q. i hate my boyfriend but i love him more than anything in the world! what shud i do? we've been together for about 3 years now. which is a pretty long time. im 15 and hes about to turn 18. when we first me everybody told me not to talk to him or g...
A. 18 August 2010: I believe you have given your boyfriend too many chances and if he was to change it would have happened long time ago.
It's really hard to advice you leaving the father of your 2 month daughter ,it's hard encouraging you to disrupt a family BUT ... (read in full...)
Why would she go back to her ex?
Q. The story of my life is a pretty common one but still i needed to tell someone that is objective and doesnt know me so he/she will not judge me as harsh as my friends did. I had a relationship with a girl that we go to the same university for 3...
A. 17 August 2010: So sorry to hear that , it must have been a dreadful shock a day before the vacation!
Well it seems that your girl is emotionally overwhelmed by lots of attention around her, i mean her boyfriend ( you) loving her to bits from one end, her ex as w... (read in full...)
Why do men always choose to ignore me or disappear instead of explaining themselves?
Q. So my q is why do some men choose to ignore or disappear instead of say whats going on or explaining. I dated this guy(2-3 mo)who was head over heels into me.We hung out daily,he contacted me daily.He chose to hang out w/ me instead of his f...
A. 17 August 2010: nice guys do exist , women always mistake their fears with narrowing their perspectives to bad persons, i've been there and i realized that the more value and self esteem you give yourself the more they come back to you amazed and dazzled by the new ... (read in full...)
He beats me up... but I always forgive him.
Q. I HAVE A BOYFRIEND BUT HE IS ALWAYS ATTRACTED TO OTHER GIRLS.WE HAVE BEING TOGETHER FOR 8 YEARS AND HE BEATS ME UP.AND WHEN I LEAVE HIM N GO OUT TO STAY WITH MY COUSINS HE CALLS ME UP AND BEGS FOR FORGIVENESS.WHAT SHOULD I DO?I LOVE HIM SO MUCH SO I ...
A. 17 August 2010: OK so let me get this straight, not only he cheats on you but he also beats you?!? and you've been putting up with this for how long again ? 8 years?
Does everything i just stated above ring a bell sweety? So sorry for being harsh but come on woma... (read in full...)
Falling in love with my "non-serious boyfriend."
Q. [OP original title] Back Story: I met this person at a bar. Went home with him. Slept with him. Hung out the next weekend. Had the conversation that neither of us was looking for anything serious. My reasoning: I was freshly out of a mar...
A. 17 August 2010: I completely agree with youwish! to him you are Mrs right now not Mrs right, you have nothing to lose sweety by sharing your feelings with him but this guy has no serious intentions towards you or your family members! however flush it out of your ... (read in full...)
She says she loves me but doesn't want a relationship, do I even have a chance with this girl?
Q. my question is that you are in love with this girl and she tells you that she loves you but she is not ready for a relationship and she wants you to be there for her and yet you want her to be near her but you get hurt because she say she loves you ...
A. 17 August 2010:
Well you haven't told us the girl's social status, is she in a relationship? or just got out of one? on/off with someone?
it's very important to know where this girl stands emotionally as it's your barometer to measure and evaluate how she feel... (read in full...)
He wants to be with me but has a girlfriend! I don't even know how I should be feeling....
Q. This guy I like has a girlfriend he tells me he wants to be with me and that he wants to give it a shot he will NOT however break-up with his cheating girlfriend after dating three weeks sh has not! kept it in her pants, and I told him no cheating ...
A. 17 August 2010:
Hmmm i think you definitely need to watch out, no doubt that this guy likes you but why would you accept to be 2nd option while he already prioritized his girlfriend claiming that she deserves a chance! what if things work out between them agai... (read in full...)
I'm in love, but I know he talks to other girls! How do I get him back?
Q. ive been with this guy for bout 10 months. I grew to love him. ive been there for him since day one. everything was fine between us. when he needed help with anything i was there. if he ever cheated i never knew because i didnt want to feel hurt and ...
A. 17 August 2010: Well dear , i think your guy is a big flirt , he's definitely been cheating on you and flirting with other women behind your back while you're loving him and maintaining your emotional link and saving your relationship with him, i'm totally against ... (read in full...)
I felt sooo low when I saw my ex and his new girlfriend today!
Q. I don't know how to begin exactly... My Ex... well he was an abusive, liar and a cheater and he took my virginity. I loved him, and I do know that I loved him because I never felt so alive while with him. I know your thinking lucky escape, he's you...
A. 15 August 2010: Sweety height ot tattoos are definitely not a value measurement tool!!!!!!! why would you cry over a woman who obviously has no self respect, if she did she wouldn't be laughing at you, on the contrary this should be your living proof that the ... (read in full...)
Is she no longer interested or does she want me to do something special?
Q. Dear Cupid, I need help with handling a relationship situation. I recently met an american, latina girl in Pennsylvania. She just came back from visiting the University I attend in South Africa. I am an african from South Africa. We are bo...
A. 12 August 2010: Hello isaac, without any doubt the girl is attracted to you, from what you wrote about how you look at each other, she seems upset and rolls her eyes when you chat with her friends, she surely likes you , however she was very straightforward with ... (read in full...)
Is he just that busy? Or just blowing me off?
Q. I've known of the guy in question for several years. He is pretty close friends with some acquantinences of mine. (they are just acquantices, i dont feel comfortable making them privy to this, so asking for their help is OUT OF THE QUESTION) All ...
A. 12 August 2010:
From what it seems the guy has a crazy job and hectic schedule but sweety let's face it you asked him out then you followed up, he never called back then he promised to call you when he's free to set a date and he didn't so far, we can't jump into... (read in full...)
Confused and hurt
Q. im 17 and very mature for my age, last year i was in a relationship for about 2 months with a fella who was 21 at that time. we broke up as he got back with his ex girlfriend and we havent spoke since to recently until about a month and a half ago ...
A. 10 August 2010:
Well he's done it before and doing it again. If you're sure you haven't hurt this guy in any shape or form then it must be his old habit surfacing again, perhaps his girlfriend knew about it and wasn't happy or maybe decided to stay away caus... (read in full...)
Why would he send me nude pictures of himself?
Q. This guy i like knows i like him and he likes me and wants me to be his gf, i have told him i am ok with being his friend soi giess he is ok with it since we still text, but just recently he ignored more for a week and i texted but no response, then ...
A. 17 July 2010: Maybe someone had hold of his mobile, or maybe it was stolen. ... (read in full...)
How will I cope???
Q. I was in a relationship for 8 years with the father of my 2 kids. he said we must break up, cause he had a new girlfriend. We broke up 2 years back and it was hard for me. its been two years since we broke up, but i dont find a great man 4 me. i ...
A. 15 July 2010:
As he found himself a fiancee you'll definitely find yourself a soul mate when the right time comes, don't project his life and the time frame of his new relationship on your life, i know how frustrating it must be for your ego but hey , didn... (read in full...)
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