How realistic is it for me to want to date only uncircumcised men?
Q. I know this may make me shallow, childish, immature, but it's how I feel: Three years ago I was engaged to a man from Europe. He was uncircumcised; it was not my first experience with an intact man. I loved it so much, and he was so gentle wi...
A. 4 October 2012: I actually have always thought that your line of thinking has great merit.
Personally, I have often been praised for my passionate style 'between the sheets' which tells me, uncircumcised guys need more to get them off than uncircumcised. (I am UN... (read in full...)
Is physical pleasure the most important thing about sex and does sex turn men into horny, unthinking animals?
Q. I feel alienated from people because I don't believe in casual sex and favour intimacy over physical pleasure. I've been told that my views come from immaturity and that once I have sex everything will change and I will become nothing short of a sex ...
A. 4 October 2012: Short - but factual- answer, you have a low sex drive.
Nothing wrong with that, it's just not how the 'average' bloke feels, that's all.... (read in full...)
Could my comforting her have started something?
Q. So there's this girl on my Cross Country team I really like. She's pretty quiet and never really initiates conversation, but she's really nice when you get her started. A couple weeks ago, she fell apart after a race (took a wrong turn, and she's ...
A. 29 September 2012: So - nothing's changed, then???
The only thing I can gather from your strange post is that you've developed a crush on her.... (read in full...)
How can I be falling for someone 40 years older than me?
Q. Is there something wrong with me? I am 21 and I believe I am falling for someone 40 years older than me! How is that possible? ...
A. 25 September 2012: It's VERY possible, in my experience. Quite HOW it is possible may be dependant on many factors. Maybe you lacked paternal love, maybe you've had bad relationship experiences with guys your own age, maybe older guys offer a high degree of security, ... (read in full...)
Could he have acquired something that looks like a love bite from a fight?
Q. My boyfriend was in a fight and got beat up bad but he has what looks like a love bite on his neck would this be cause from the fight ?...
A. 23 September 2012: Ask him if it was the result of a "Bed Fight".... (read in full...)
What exactly does 'take a break' mean?
Q. What does "do you want to take a break" mean?? My boyfriend and I are having some ups and downs at the moment, and he asked me this. I don't even know what that entails. ...
A. 21 September 2012: It means that the person who said it, wishes to end the relationship but hasn't the guts to say so.... (read in full...)
I'm very insecure about my size
Q. Hi everyone. I feel very insecure now that I bought a girdle for football. I am a 19 year old male that is teenager cup size that is small. I feel very insecure about that. Am I under developed? My size is 4 inch erect and 2.5 soft. ...
A. 21 September 2012: Average size erect is generally thought to be around 5 - 6".
So you're slightly below average, some guys are above average. So long as it works, I don't think most girls are worried about the size, if that's what your concerned about.... (read in full...)
What can I do so that he wont know I am not a virgin?
Q. Hi, m 21yr old indian girl..had been in a relationship wid a guy approx for 1yr,bt he ditched nd left me,as i trusted on him...i was in physical relationship wid him...but before 1 nd a half year... Nd now m going to marry wid anothr guy......
A. 20 September 2012: This begs the question: So why are you so keen to marry him if you know he's prepared to ruin your family relationship and treat you like shit - just for being honest?
I can only surmise that he has something you so desperately want - like wea... (read in full...)
What can I do so that he wont know I am not a virgin?
Q. Hi, m 21yr old indian girl..had been in a relationship wid a guy approx for 1yr,bt he ditched nd left me,as i trusted on him...i was in physical relationship wid him...but before 1 nd a half year... Nd now m going to marry wid anothr guy......
A. 16 September 2012: If you can't choose your partners more carefully, at least have the guts to say to your present one that you had a previous relationship. He MAY actually appreciate your honesty. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone relate to this? Being told by a friend that her desires extend past our boundaries?
Q. hi. very nervous. my dear friend of 12 years just started confessing that her desires extend past our very comfortable, very intimate boundaries. we're both dykes of a similar stripe: as per gender-performance, priorities in life, vulnerabilities, ...
A. 13 September 2012: "'Tis far better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all" Lord Tennyson, English poet.... (read in full...)
Should I acknowledge my ex's birthday?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years. It was a mutual agreement as the relationship wasn't working out. We haven't spoke in 3 months since the break up. (we both decided never to speak again) Her birthday is coming up soon and I'm ...
A. 13 September 2012: Yea, it's a tricky one. I've kept polite contact with exes in the past, until one of us got in a relationship again. Nothing wrong with politeness and after all, 4 years IS a long time.
However, given that you both agreed never to speak again, I... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he wouldn't go out of his way to protect me! Should I get rid of him?
Q. this is probably really stupid but i was talking to my bf and before we hit the city, was joking about getting mugged and asked if he'd protect me. he said he wasn't going to go out of his way if it'd put himself in danger. i was like, so you'd ...
A. 12 September 2012: You should ask yourself - "Would I do that for him?"
To expect a boyfriend to lay down his life for you is a pretty tall order!
Well, would you, for him?
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Why do people hold such views?
Q. I am lesbian. Been with my girlfriend for nearly 6 months now. Most of my friends are fine with it, however a handful of my friends don't seem to understand and realise my sexuality. They say that lesbian sex isn't 'real' sex as there is no male to ...
A. 12 September 2012: So long as you and your partner are enjoying the relationship, who cares what others think? You obviously DO care You may be making the mistake of foisting your relationship/ orientation onto others. This is something guaranteed to make most 's... (read in full...)
Do men get intimidated by beautiful women?
Q. Do men get intimidated by beautiful women? What are your thoughts on this? I've seen this question elsewhere and thought I'd ask the users here....
A. 10 September 2012: Life in general and some experiences in particular have taught me to be wary of beautiful women, not sure I'd use the word 'intimidated':
The more beautiful the girl, the more high-maintenance she usually is.... (read in full...)
How do I now cope with fact he's slept with 10 girls since we had our partial break-up 7 months ago?
Q. My boyfriend and I split up 7 months ago, but we remained close and still had a physical relationship. (not the wisest decision I know). However recently, he told me that he has slept with 10 different girls during the 7 months, one of which wa...
A. 2 September 2012: What's to forgive? You split up by mutual consent so don't start imposing sanctions after the event!
Live with it, or leave. But LEARN from it!... (read in full...)
My instructor touched me when I don't think he needed to, what does it mean?
Q. I'm sorry this is terribly wrong, but I need help... every time I meet him at the corridor or out of college, he will raise his eyebrows twice,lowers his eyelids and smile, there, he did it again today. The way he raises his eyebrows are som...
A. 1 September 2012: Jeez - and they say older guys are the worst? This is like lechery in reverse! Your imagination is more fertile than Percy thrower's garden! Personally, I often raise my eyebrows to acknowledge someone without using words. A lot of people do. ... (read in full...)
Our anniversary is on a Thursday but he wants to go out on Saturday. Why?
Q. it's me and my boyfriends 1 year anniversary next month. I mentioned it and he said he'd already planned to take me to a certain restaurant I like so I'm happy that he's put some thought into it. our anniversary falls on a Thursday but he wants to ...
A. 30 August 2012: I couldn't agree more with you - once the day is gone, it's gone. It was THAT date that was so very special - not the nearest convenient date.
You're far more likely to get a weekday restaurant booking than a weekend, so that's no excuse. And the ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking I'm in love with my coach
Q. I think I'm in love with my coach. every time I see him, I just get so.. excited.. my heart skips a beat. He is so attractive, and really nice. Everyone knows him, and everyone likes him too.. just not the way I do. And I can't tell anyone I feel t...
A. 29 August 2012: I know just how you feel, so you are not alone. I used to be in love with my car - when no-one was looking, I would trace my fingertips along the chrome side strip, circling around the sidelight trim and generally caressing the metallic red ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my brother to give up on being a lawyer?
Q. My brother wants to be a lawyer I doubt that he can become a lawyer because he did so poorly in highschool. No one in the family has ever become a lawyer or doctor so why does he even try He signed up for community college. He study's all da...
A. 27 August 2012: Wether your brother succeeds or not, he will always be a winner because he has the right attitude and determination whereas you my friend, more or less by your own admittance, will always be a loser.... (read in full...)
Our first date I offer to pay his says I can get the next bill..is that odd?
Q. I am looking for some advice. I was talking to this for like 2 weeks I came across online. We hit it off so much we had a date tonight. He wasn't what I expected to be honest. It's not that he's not good looking. He almost looks too good looking. I ...
A. 25 August 2012: That's an easy one and a line I use myself - meaning - he wants to see you again! Simple!
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is this really a 'break'? Or is this essentially a 'break up'?
Q. My GF initiated a 'break' five days ago. She insists she loves me and sees a future with me but has lost her sense of identity during our 2+ year relationship and thinks a 'break' is the only thing to do to regain her sense of self and save ou...
A. 24 August 2012: Sorry son, time to face facts. There's no such thing as having a break from a relationship. It's dead, over. Like saying I'm having a break from breathing, as the air is so polluted. Total bollocks. She's taken the coward's way out, left you ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is a professional liar and cheat. How do I tell both new ladies about each other, without leading back to me?
Q. I am an ex of boyfriend who is professional liar and cheater... I left him after 18 months, but then I was shocked to accidently find secret accounts, dating site membership. Membership to secret email...(he left his IPAD open accidently in bathroom...
A. 24 August 2012: As he is, as you say, a professional liar and cheater, I wouldn't worry about it and just let it go - it's his job, after all - he's being paid for it!... (read in full...)
I'm having inappropriate sexual thoughts. How can I stop this?
Q. Currently I have been extremely turned on and have been craving oral sex. My boyfriend is the best I had ever had, but recently I have been having awful thoughts. For some reason I am craving being gone down on by someone with full lips and I ...
A. 24 August 2012: Could you, in a roundabout way, be asking for us to condone actually performing the physical act of cunnilingus with your brother?
Sorry if I'm incorrect on that one but you sound religious. Most religions frown upon pre-marital sex. Indeed, ... (read in full...)
Gents, is your 2nd erection/orgasm as good as 1st when in quick succession?
Q. Guys, When you have a 2nd session of intercourse in quick succession do you feel same/similar feelings? We often go for a 2nd round and though I enjoy it it's HERE near as good as the first round. Maybe it's to do with timing and I need a bigg...
A. 23 August 2012: If I haven't seen my lady for a few days, then usually three times in the first hour is a necessity for me, I just have to have her again and again. The third orgasm is a bit of a struggle to reach, however but I know if I leave it, I'm going to ... (read in full...)
What makes big boobs more valuable?
Q. I have small breasts nd I hate them. I mean, they're healthy, and that's cool, but despite my feminine body still at 23 people say I look like a 10 year old boy. I don't. I have a defined waist, wide hips, a curvy butt, thick legs... I've never seen ...
A. 19 August 2012: Well Miss, I live in China and I have to say that I LOVE the Chinese female look, I think some of the most beautiful looking women in the world are here, all around me!
Of course, Chinese women tend to be very small-breasted and I LOVE their sm... (read in full...)
Driving accident wasn't my fault. Should I pursue it?
Q. I was driving home tonight from town and i was on the stretch to my house when i turned a corner slowly and as i was coming up the road a car passed me on my side and broke my wing mirror. i was was really shocked and nearly shit myself. the drivers ...
A. 19 August 2012: To be honest, if your insurance 'laws' are the same in Ireland as in England, I wouldn't bother.
If I was the other driver, I would say ok, let's do this through the insurance, knowing full-well you won't pursue it as you would then have to stump... (read in full...)
He can't stay hard now. Is he losing his attraction to me?
Q. Hi Me and my boyf have been together for about 4 months and have been having sex for about 3 months. At first we were doing it a lot! Around 3 times every time we saw eachother! But recently we start having sex and his penis goes limp, its happened ...
A. 19 August 2012: No, he's not become less attracted to you, at all. It's a psychological thing - and definitely nothing to do with having too much sex either. If it was, he wouldn't be able to get it up at all or if he did, he wouldn't be able to come. That's the ... (read in full...)
Does my Bf just say that I'm "fine" even though I am overweight, just to be kind?
Q. Im over-weight and my bf says he loves me just how I am. He's the tall, dark and handsome type with not an ounce of fat on him. He calls me beautiful, says Im perfect just how I am even though he knows Im trying to loose weight because I cant s...
A. 19 August 2012: Tackle one issue at a time. Ok, you recognise that you're overweight and you can't stand being that way. So, don't just TRY losing weight - DO lose weight - just DO it! So many people in life wish for this and dream of that but do bugger-all about... (read in full...)
Is there a different way of handling this situation or should we just go our separate ways?
Q. I've been with my bf for 2yrs now. We have a lil girl thats 9 months, We have a great relationship good communication great sex everything is good! A few months ago he asked me how many partners have I had I told him 10 including him. It was too ...
A. 18 August 2012: He was probably hoping for, and expecting, a different answer from you. A lot of guys think and react the way he does - we see it on this site all the time. It's a stupid question to ask and he obviously has a job dealing with your answer as it was ... (read in full...)
About my brothers gf
Q. I really like her. I don't know why I feell this way towards her, but last night we had a party and got a little drunk and we like to hang out with each other always joking around saying we love each other like a brother and a sister but here is ...
A. 13 August 2012: Just because it irks you to see a guy yell at a woman does not qualify you to pursue her for yourself.
As usual, I'll be blunt. What goes on between couples is none of your business - even more so that the third party is your brother, for God's sa... (read in full...)
Issues between the co-worker and I. So how do I avoid attending her birthday lunch being organised?
Q. My co-worker and I been working in the same dept. for a long time. We get along ok all these years and I consider her a friend at work. Few months ago, she made a "very offensive" comment about me to other colleague. I was very upset and offend...
A. 11 August 2012: Yea, these situations are never easy but, have the courage of your convictions and make an excuse why you can't go. Personally, I'd say I have an appointment at the bank/ dentist/ opticians/ and it doesn't matter if she thinks you're lying - at ... (read in full...)
I need some advice about having sex while on my period.
Q. For the guys out there; Recently me and the guy I'm dating had sex and he knew I just got off my period (literally the last day of my period, going to his place I was off my period) and its been a little while so we took the opportunity and went for ...
A. 11 August 2012: It always makes me laugh how when a question is directed at guys here, a torrent of female answers ensue!
Anyway, from a guy's point of view, provided I knew and loved the girl, then definitely not a problem at all. In fact, if a girl is that at ... (read in full...)
Is gaining 10 lbs going to make a man lose interest in a woman?
Q. Alright so about a month ago I had to put my dog to sleep and since then I have gained about 10lbs and I am super paranoid about my husband cheating on me. I feel like he doesn't find me attractive anymore and he's been completely ignoring me. I've ...
A. 11 August 2012: First of all, you don't gain weight from just being depressed. Depression can lead to 'comfort eating' and this seems to be the cause of your weight problem. To be blunt, I hate to see a woman who has let herself go. Your husband is used to ... (read in full...)
In the five years we've been together, she's not ever given me so much as even a card, for birthday's, anniversary, or any other special occasion. Do I have a right to be upset?
Q. We've been together for 5 years now, and during those 5 years I've not recieved a thing from her - Not for birthdays, Xmas', Valentines or even Anniversaries. Now I'm a romantic and try not to be materialistic or superficial about anything, ...
A. 10 August 2012: No, I'd be hurt too - in the extreme!
What's all this 5 language stuff? 5 languages of CRAP!
She's just a plain, old tightarse, sorry. She seems to be one of life's takers, again sorry to diss your lady but I'd have to have a word with her. I... (read in full...)
What kind of topics are good to talk about with a girl?
Q. Hi, I was wondering. I have a girl that I like. She is a peer in my university. We were in the same class this summer. What kind of topics are good to talk about with a girl? I dont know much about her such as her likes or dislikes. I have...
A. 10 August 2012: When I was a teenager, I had much the same problem 'til an old and wise man gave me some advice that has stood me in good stead ever since: Talk to her about her favourite subject - herself!
In other words, her ambitions, her education, her musi... (read in full...)
How can I tell my parents that after I finish university I want to pursue a career in playing guitar?
Q. Hi, this isn't a relationship question but I'd really like some outside opinions on this problem. I am currently attending university, studying criminology and going into my 3rd year. However back when I started 1st year I had started to play ...
A. 8 August 2012: Oh man, I wish I had a son like you! I've been a semi-pro guitarist on and off for years. I did the marriage/ family thing, forsaking a life of rock & roll. Then decided I was too old to return to my first love - oh how wrong was I?!
Well,... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend that I need a break?
Q. Hi I have a question about how to tell my girlfriend I need a break or more space. .I've being feeling very trapped for the past two months. . I've being with her for four years and we just moved into a apartment together and I thought it would be ...
A. 3 August 2012: I have never heard of needing a break meaning just that. It means that the relationship is over - dead - just needs burying.
I think you have a commitment problem, maybe not generally but certainly with this woman. The reality is far removed ... (read in full...)
It's early days for us. So am I worrying for no reason, over his reaction to me touching his phone?
Q. Am I concerned for no reason? Its fairly early days for me and another guy I met online but we have now met up 3 times (have known each other now for a couple of months). Last night we slept together he stayed at mine. He left his mobile phone ...
A. 27 July 2012: Touching anyone's phone is a violation of their privacy, in my opinion. Why would you feel the need to switch off his alarm on his phone? Something to hide or not, I think he had every right to be "overly bothered".
Look at it from his point of... (read in full...)
Do girls masturbate?
Q. hi i reacently talked to a good friend whos a girl and she addmited to me this got me wondering.... do other girls masturbate too?...
A. 27 July 2012: Mostly.... (read in full...)
He knew I had feelings for him and I"m the only one he's told that he's gay. It hurts being friends with him!
Q. I have been in a very difficult situation lately. I met this guy almost two years ago and almost immediately we were in contact every day. It wasnt long before I developed really strong feelings for him, to be honest I thought I had finally met the ...
A. 22 July 2012: The guy's obviously a selfish, unthinking user. Dump him and when he asks why, tell him to work it out for himself, if he can be bothered.
Reflection is a good way to learn. In time, when feelings hopefully subside, you both may well end up being... (read in full...)
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