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I'm Indonesian living in Singapore. Teaching is my career which i enjoy so much. I really grateful to my Mom & My late Dad. They introduced Music as career path. My hubby is a caring guy. Whenever hv time,we'll travel overseas to explore, relax.
I'm a breast cancer survivour under remission 4yrs. After surgery,doctor asked me to hv chemotherapy to get rid undetected bad cells for 6 months(16 injections) plus radiotherapy& hormone therapy(5yrs). With determination& family support,i endure the pain, hair loss& hot flushes. I wore a hat and juggle to work, eat healthy diet plus exercise regularly.
My motto: I'll come out ALIVE frm this misery. I'm not afraid as I'm still young & don't want to lose the battle.I face it.I survive. Yes..yes,I did it!
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How do I handle embarrassing visits to the doctor?
Q. My mom took me to the doctor to get a referral for X-rays for my injured knee that I damaged when running during practice for Track. So there was this Medical Assistant guy and he was the one who checked my weight and stuff like that. He also asked ...
A. 12 May 2012: they'r doing correct procedures. but not done in professional way and respect the patients privacy.Oh,dear.
Please voice out to doctor to ba attended by other nurse. if this fail, please go to other clinic... (read in full...)
We argue all the time and it always seems to be my fault! Should I postpone our wedding? How do I fix this without breaking up with him?
Q. Hi guys, I'm 20 years old and have been living with my boyfriend for a year. Everything was amazing up until a month or so ago, we have been arguing a lot and I'm finding my self taking the blame for every thing bad in our relationship as I am ...
A. 11 May 2012: Please cool down. one of you need to give in by apologizing to the other partner.The purpose is to patch it up,leave unhappy moments behind and start new.Come on! Put ego in closet.Do it!
Is wedding preparation make you stress? How abt marriage... (read in full...)
Ladies- What It Means When A Guy Says: "I'll call you" And Then...He Doesn't
Q. Now, barring any reasons such as a family tragedy or any other personal situation that may prevent a guy from calling, a guy may not call because... #1. They just may not be that into you. I know this may hard to hear, and many women may not wa...
A. 11 May 2012: Hi Daniel.Glad to read your valuable articles again
I'm married.Just to share my experience during courtship.I did encounter the guy,exactly like case no 2. Though only meet once,he says he'll call but never. I think he's not interested as it'd ... (read in full...)
Is this normal, that I'm missing my parents so much? They're just on a 2 week trip!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm really bummed out and i feel ridiculously lonely. My parents have been planning a 2 week trip to Italy for the longest time and they've been so excited to go. Well they finally left this morning and the day is dragging on and ...
A. 11 May 2012: Hi.You're so sweet.No wonder your parents dote you. well,you can sms or call them.It's your choice. Why not? sometimes I do feel lonely.But growing independently since young,i learn how to kill the time. easy one is Online...google ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that someone like my ex can change?
Q. Hey, everyone :) This may be a bit long so please bear with me. I'v just come out of a three year relationship. We lived together the majority of those three years. Resons why we broke up: -he was extremely paranoid and jealous- constan...
A. 11 May 2012: No,he won't change. You're a very patient gal to stay 3 yrs with him and bear with it.
You already make a Stunning &Brave decisions. Isn't it a relief now and feel freedom? Keep it strong.don't look back!
Great,you're already step closer to your ... (read in full...)
Fiance blames me and calls me dumb
Q. Dear Cupid, My partner and I have been together for 6 years and recently, we are engaged and going to get married soon. However, things been up and down and I've been feeling really confused and depressed and started to doubt. I'm afraid, worried ...
A. 10 May 2012: You've to voice out.Try to reason him out that you're not happy with his remark"dumb" and flirt. Ask If he's on your shoes,would he be happy if being treated that way by your partner? can he still smile? Pls respect that. Marriage is more ... (read in full...)
My moms health is getting worse and she refuses to see a doctor?
Q. Hi, I could really use some advice. My mom is not well. She has some kind of mood disorder which causes her to cry, lash out in extreme anger, and then be perfectly fine. Sometimes all of these moods happen in the same day. I have asked a doctor, ...
A. 10 May 2012: Kindly don't move out. This is the time your parents really need your support and care.
try to explain to your Mom that seeing doctor isn't always because of illness but to consult & hv different views frm experts.I hope it'll help. Keep your min... (read in full...)
She won't go out with me because her friend likes me. I'm fed up of considering other people's thoughts!
Q. I have finally met another girl I really like after I had a bad experience 6 months ago. We get on really well but when I asked her on a date recently she replied. "I would love to however, one of my friends really likes you. I knew this before...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi.Let's understand her character first,which is a kind soul. She always put other people interests beyond herself.She concerns alot of others feelings, helping each time.When in love,she needs to fight for her happiness,not to give way for others. ... (read in full...)
How on earth did she find me on Facebook?! Should I accept her friend request?
Q. Be honest men i'd rather your opinion on this from a guys perspective. Or if a girl answers, flip the role around so it's you in my situation with a guy..... I met this girl out one night near the beginning of university, so were looking at nearl...
A. 4 May 2012: Hi.Do you like the girl? If yes,pls respond her on facebook.Now is global world,twit is common.isn't it?
well, it's proven she's a Smart gal. If she likes you,she'll do anything to get your attention. at the same time to judge if you're keen to ... (read in full...)
Why did my girlfriend suddenly break up with me and how do I deal with it?
Q. My girlfriend suddenly broke up with me (and started the process of moving out) this past Saturday. We had been dating for about 7 months. We had taken a wonderful trip the weekend before and had a nice week together prior to Sat. I started ...
A. 4 May 2012: sorry to hear it.She seems bit confused. she has issues to settle that bothering her. The current situation already make her depress &resricted. Now she expects frm you enough time,space & freedom. she's not ready
Don't grief anymore.... (read in full...)
I told my best friend I love her, and now she doesn't speak to me.
Q. Hello, im a guy whos 16, and had a very close relationship with a friend who was a girl. We were really close, and as we grew closer, i started to like her in a different way, so i tell her how I feel. She says that our friendship was too great to ...
A. 4 May 2012: Hi,Macho man. You've done first step.That's good.there's always hindrances blocking on the way. don't step back but think what you can do to win her back. Beat that guy! You can DO IT!
seem like she's extreme shy to make first move. so you've to b... (read in full...)
He hasn't told his daughters about our engagement, and I'm getting nervous.
Q. My husband passed away 4 yrs. ago. I started to date a man 2 yrs. ago and we have enjoyed each other alot. We travel and go out alot. My question is he told me he wants to marry me and in that excitement we told my son and daughter and my sister ...
A. 4 May 2012: Hi.Pls give him time. but you can always hint him the issue.
Is there anything that bothering him? Spend nore time and talk with him. Express that you're Happy and really looking forward to Engagement Day.
First,we need to let everyone kno... (read in full...)
Why is my ex bad mouthing me?
Q. My ex and i dated for about a year. He was the one who broke it off not really giving a reason. We have been broken up for about three months and i haven't spoken to him since February. My question is why is he bad mouthing me to others saying im ...
A. 30 April 2012: Reasons: he's so afraid that the truth come out. so he takes action first,telling lie to people. All bad things is you and he's the victim. If you deny, people might not believe you.WHY? cos he already badmouthing behind you. What a scheming person ... (read in full...)
My parents cant stand the thought of me having a boyfriend! They want me to marry a good Indian boy, but I'm old enough to decide what I want
Q. Hi, I'm 24 years old. I've got a degree, job and unfortunately for Indian parents a boyfriend. I've tried my hardest to tell them I was in a relationship. I would tell them then the next time they saw me they would act like they had forgotte...
A. 30 April 2012: You're in tough spot.Sometimes things doesn't turn out as you wish but there's always a solution.
Is there any relatives that you can ask for helping hand? Uncle or aunty or someone else older, to reason it out toward your parents? so they unde... (read in full...)
I don't think my husband is cheating but we don't have sex very often - he says he is too tired from work What should I do?
Q. I don’t think that my husband is cheating (though he has before - and so have I) but we don’t have sex very often. My husband and I are both in our middle 40's and sex began to slow down somewhat a few years ago. We usually have sex two or three...
A. 16 April 2012: Hi.Calm down! sometimes It doesn't turn bad as you think.ok?
His shift exactly the same as my hubbby.Sometimes i don't see him at all. when i go work in the morning and he only on way back home after night shift.Anyway he likes the job,... (read in full...)
I cry way too much!
Q. I know this website's for relationships, it seems to be a great help for almost any problem. So here's mine. Although I don't know what kind of answer I'm expecting, it's more to get it off my chest. I have a problem. That problem is, I cry way too ...
A. 16 April 2012: there's nothing wrong doing mistakes. why? cos mistakes is part of life and essential for life growth.Instead LEARN frm it and DON'T do it again! Correct it! Believe in yourself. You can do it.ok ?
Happiness comes through good judgemen... (read in full...)
What kind of person breaks up with someone twice? Do I stay or go?
Q. Hey, so I really need help! My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. Around this time last year I broke up with him because I was not "in love" after all that time and I've always wanted that "amazing" feeling as everyone describes it. I ...
A. 16 April 2012: hi there. I feel you are a kind person. Not to hurt his feeling by going back with him.
But at the same time. you need to search your Soul clearly what you want in this life. Is current relationship that you really want for life committed marriage... (read in full...)
How do I start talking to this gorgeous girl, when there are things I regard as impediments to starting a relationship with her?
Q. alright, kind of a long question here. There is this girl in my class at university who is really cute and i want to get to know her/ask her out, but a few things, first, i am really really shy and usually have problems starting conversations with ...
A. 2 October 2011: If you want to date her, pls do something. Put word "shy" in your closet and get your COURAGE. You CAN DO it! In order to impress, pls dress well with perfect hair-do and speak confidently. Be daring and Smile pls. Talk somethings like weather,fas... (read in full...)
Why am I treating this girl so badly?
Q. Please can you help me.I have been with my partner for 2 years she was my soul mate my best friend and my lover, we had planned our life together, and I was going to ask her to marry me. I have had a very difficult 3 months, with work and my health, ...
A. 30 September 2011: fears had been torturing your minds. Operations,feeling pain, no income,unable to work and boring making up all these desperate situations.you're down
but Think Positive. Get yourself well soon. You'll be back! all problems will solve. ever... (read in full...)
We work together, fight all the time. Should we get a divorce?
Q. I'm married for 4 years and since there i had good moments and bad moments too, like every marriage is. But the last months it's getting hard keep the balance. Work, finance, family, relationship, pressure to have kids, i dont know if i'm up to ...
A. 30 September 2011: No...no. Don't ever think abt that. Every marriage face sorts kinds of problems. it's the matter how to tackle it, solve it sooner or later.
That's life. People don't always agree with you. They've their opinions. You've yours too. but which on... (read in full...)
Ladies: Do You Think ALL Men Are The Same?
Q. Are you ready for some shocking news? ALL MEN ARE DIFFERENT. I know it's possible that you've been cheated on, lied to a lot, or any other reason that caused you to curse out men. I know it's also possible that you've been in relationships with a ...
A. 30 September 2011: Hi. Great to read your articles. I enjoy so much.Thanks, Daniel... (read in full...)
He is ignoring me and I feel miserable, please help me!
Q. We met on a dating website 7 months ago and have been meeting and chatting in a regular basis but never more than that. Few weeks ago he was very sweet, more than usual, and I thought things were getting better. Then he disappeared from the chat, I ...
A. 30 September 2011: That's Life. You need to be careful, know his character, personalities before you can put TRUST on him. Learn from here.
Pls carry on your normal life. See different picture and social more. pls do it for yourself
... (read in full...)
I don't really want any contact with her, but I feel I should wish her a happy birthday
Q. In a nut shell my ex's birthday is coming up and part of me wants to wish her a happy birthday and the other half doesn't because I don't want any contact with her, but im not a horrible person and I don't want to feel like a bitch because I didnt ...
A. 30 September 2011: If my ex sms me, I always have these questions. Is it real? does he still care after broke up with me? What's for? Why?
It's just a coutesy if i decide to reply back. but i choose to ignore it. do u get it? ... (read in full...)
My family thinks I'm too young for this marriage
Q. hello i need someones opinion. im getting married in November but my family does not think that is the best choice. they say that if i get married im going to be miserable that im going to want to I've my life later on in the future and im going t ...
A. 30 September 2011: You have a correct views. That's GREAT.Keep it always!
Time will reveal who is right on this matter.(don't tell fiance as this's negative thinking). Don't debate as I'll make you stress and worry all time.
Instead carry on marriage plans & prep... (read in full...)
Poor relations with my Father have corrupted every aspect of my life and I don't know what to do with Myself
Q. Hey everyone, I've had things a little bit rougher than most people in the developed world and I just discovered why. I have conquered many challenges in life but the task of being an adaquite son for my Father was a challenge that ultimately ...
A. 22 September 2011: sorry to know about your situation. It's not your fault being born with autism. parents went thru all troubles to raise you up.It's being hard and not an easy road
Focus on yourself to develop maturely. Put hatred behind. be confidence and get ... (read in full...)
Should I believe in the fortune teller?
Q. Hello everyone here in Dearcupid, I had something which is hard for me and make a decision. I went to met a fortune teller yesterday because i some people said he is famous at seeing people destiny, and he say a lot of bad about my future, he said ...
A. 22 September 2011: HI.sorry to hear you had this problem. Most people go to fortune teller is out of curiousity and know the future, marriage,jobs, etc. More important is what do you think? Do you believe it? what do you want to do? You can prevent your doubt mind ... (read in full...)
Friendship to Relationship doubts
Q. Hi I was wondering If you could help me. I lived with two guys this year and was really attracted to one of them. We ended up sleeping together occasionally, but I knew I wanted more. Eventually when it came to moving out of our house, we were going ...
A. 22 September 2011: Actually it's good that this incident revealed out his true colours and also his points of view/thinking regarding this coutship so far. Listen and give him time.Take things easily. If it's yours, He'll go back to you. all the best... (read in full...)
How do you move on from past heart ache?
Q. How does a person move on from a past heartbreaking relationship? About five months ago the man I was involved with chose to abandon me after I went through what I consider to be the most heartbreaking excruciating time in my life, of which he was ...
A. 16 September 2011: Cool down first! Put all hatred and misery behind.It's all past now.pls don't cling on it,as you won't be able to move forward. You won't feel happiness and not good for health. The more important now is how to get out frm this. Can you do that? ... (read in full...)
Should I let go of him, or should I hang on... I can't decide..
Q. Right now, i am caught in a dilemma of whether i should keep on hoping and fighting inside, by keeping up with NC and expecting with strong belief that my ex boyfriend will come back to me. I am gay, 17 years old. I posted this question some ti...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi.Since you know clearly that you're moving nowwhwere, frustrated on this situatuion,please do something. Noone can decide for you. We here give helpful solutions with lots different perspectives. but decisions simply rely on your hands. You've to ... (read in full...)
Why he can't leave me alone like he said if he doesn't care or doesn't love me?
Q. My exboyfriend and I have been seperated for almost four months and we were together for almost four years. the first time he wanted to end the relationship was september 2010 and after two months he came back says he missed me. we were ok at that ...
A. 16 September 2011: What's the point he cares for you but doesn't want to be with you? You end up get nothing but misery.
Look at brigher side. Keep an open mind & pull yourself up!Tell yourself that "you will pull thru" out of this misery relationship. Future i... (read in full...)
I like him a lot. Should I wait before I tell him?
Q. So i like this boy in my class a lot. My friend asked him what he thought of me he sid he hd strong felings for me but he just doesnt know if their relationship or friendship he said i was cute but right now we need to stay friends until he figure ...
A. 15 September 2011: come on, girl. You've to do something to get your dream Boy. Take 1st move to express it to him,ok? sure a suprise how he'll respond back to you. Be more adventurous.Good luck!... (read in full...)
Husband has been acting really shady lately
Q. I need some advice... My husband has been acting real shady lately... He'll be on his phone in another room, and then jumps when I walk in the door. He carries his phone into the bathroom with him, won't go anywhere, even in the house, without his ...
A. 12 September 2011: Agree,something fishy going on.
Do you know his friends/colleagues? You can ask their help.
A family is build up frm Love between two persons.Apart frm trust,confidence, respect and sharing are important things. Pls tell him across that you res... (read in full...)
My g/f doesn't have good legs and I'm not sexually attracted to her!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 years. Unfortunately, try as I might, I haven't found her sexually attractive for some time. We have marriage plans, and I'm sure she would be a good life partner, mother, etc., but I don't know if this can work ...
A. 12 September 2011: Wow,you really hv fantasy.
How about invite her to Slimming centre? They can fix this problems: flat tummy,slender legs and thigh,etc.
Point is not to offend her appearances/feelings but to put things "Beautiful" in your prespective. Explain ... (read in full...)
Can you be married and fall in love with another person?
Q. Is it possible to fall in love with someone else when you are married?...
A. 12 September 2011: Possible,But is it right thing to do as a married woman? Please don't run wild. but think straight. Think wisely. Don't you suppose to be faithful and loyal to married husband/family?
It's a mindset. please divert it to other thing. you CAN DO IT! ... (read in full...)
He said once he wasn't ready to date but maybe now he is?
Q. I've known this guy for about four or five years. He's been my best friend. Since the first night I met him I've had feelings for him but he made it clear he did not want a girlfriend so I moved on and met someone else. After 2 years of dating, our ...
A. 12 September 2011: Yes. He's now happy having you as a girlfriend.He already gave you a HINT. Do you get it?
Please take few steps forward. Don't lose this chance. Call him as "Boyfriend", involve him in family outings/activities/thanks givings/christmas, etc. Espr... (read in full...)
What criteria do I use to choose which guy? I like them both. They know each other.
Q. A few weeks ago i met a guy and we've been getting on well and he's been taking me out over the past few weeks and it's been nice and it's obvious he likes me but he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend (I know it's only been a few weeks so i guess ...
A. 12 September 2011: Then don't do it, my dear. Watch out and think carefully before you do.It's your future.Don't ruin it! You might end up hurting yourself. It isn't wise to date both guys, especially they knew each other. You could landed in difficult position... (read in full...)
My husband is hiding packages from his ex and other women's phone numbers....is it just me?
Q. My husbands high school ex girlfriend, that he reconnected with through facebook, sent him a package in the mail with old love letters and old pictures. He did tell me that she was gonna send them but he had to because ive got the only mail key to ...
A. 11 September 2011: Good job! You already done a good solutions to call coworker(under man's name) and sort it up.
Regard the packages, pls ask him to SHARE it. as there's no secret in the fammily & everyone is sharing.I respect you and i want you do the same thi... (read in full...)
How do I tell if this sweet tall guy likes me? And if he does like me, what do I do next?
Q. i am 14, and i have never had a boyfriend. but the guy i like has never had a girlfriend. the thing is i don't know if he likes me back though. i mean he is just a very quiet normal guy. he puts no emotion into what he says to anyone. we've also...
A. 11 September 2011: Does he shows any signs he cares more to you than the other girl? You've to compete and be the WINNER. Don't be shy to talk. Create opportunity to get near him. During Valentine/Christmas, Get him something he likes.
other points to espress it out.... (read in full...)
What does he mean by "What's the next thing after like, that's how I feel about you"?
Q. hello ive been seen a fellow for a year now and everything was fine when i first met him he said he didnt want a relationship and i was seen him a weekends now hes saying i dont ever invite him out to my house and its not going any where and when i ...
A. 11 September 2011: simply to know more about your family &life. He's checking on you,cautious person. Pls take first move to invite him to see your family. Clarify with him if you don't understand anything next time. Pls brush up communicate skills... (read in full...)
What criteria do I use to choose which guy? I like them both. They know each other.
Q. A few weeks ago i met a guy and we've been getting on well and he's been taking me out over the past few weeks and it's been nice and it's obvious he likes me but he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend (I know it's only been a few weeks so i guess ...
A. 11 September 2011: check for characters, behaviours & respect. Does he follows your decision or forces his idea to you? what's his interests? Is he a planner? does he talk about future relationship with you? Is he saver or spender? Does he respect and cares about ... (read in full...)
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