Should I tell my b/f I don't like his haircut?
Q. My boyfriend got a TERRIBLE haircut, it looks ridiculous and I'm not tying to be mean but it's the worst haircut I've ever seen. I didn't tell him I think that either. He doesn't really like it either but he's trying to grow a man bun, and I ...
A. 7 October 2016: You will find at your age (the teenage years), people do lots of daft things & try out many different hairstyles, fashions etc until you eventually settle on a better look as you get older.
Your boyfriend probably has a silly hairstyle now - bu... (read in full...)
10 years later my ex writes me to say she's sorry. Do I ignore?
Q. A random question here .. about 10 years ago with my first gf ,, we was going out for a couple of months and then she ended it and spread loads of bad things about me .. which tbf didn't help me and probably hasn't helped me to this day .One thing ...
A. 29 September 2016: I am writing from your ex's perspective. I know what it is like to have had a bad fallout with someone and for there to be some bad blood between you & hurtful untruths thrown around. But at the end of the day - it sounds like she is genuinely ... (read in full...)
Would it be a bad idea to text him? There was no formal goodbye to our relationship
Q. I dated someone for a month, which ended two months ago. There was no formal goodbye. The communication just faded on his end. I never reached out again but I find myself thinking about him all the time. I was very attracted to him physical...
A. 18 March 2016: There would be no harm in texting him a 'Goodbye', it's good manners if nothing else.
You are obviously still thinking of him & a month afterwards isn't too long to wait to say it properly. The only thing is, if you only dated for a month, he prob... (read in full...)
What can I say to my long term partner who has given me Gonorrhea?
Q. My long standing partner has given me gonorhhea as far as im aware and i can suspect where it came from! It makes me sad rather than angry and i realise he has been directing a lot of anger towards me lately. I dont want to see him now anyway becau...
A. 3 October 2015: If he is your long term partner - how come he was sleeping around without you suspecting? At your age (or any age really) you should never enter into sex until you are sure of your partner's full commitment to you & until you are sure - you should ... (read in full...)
He dumped me and then died suddenly a week later, I'm hurting badly!
Q. He was my first love. He broke my heart and then he died one week later very suddenly. He ended things with me and I was crushed. He wanted to get back with his ex. I had moved to his city 3 months before our break up so I was especially hurt ...
A. 25 September 2015: So sorry to hear this. I always say a breakup is like a bereavement & in your case you have both, so I can imagine the pain.
Is it the fact you never managed to talk things through before the end? I guess if you had split without him passing away... (read in full...)
One date, one week later and haven't heard anything. Did I ruin things?
Q. So here's how the story goes I met a guy recently who happens to be a pro athlete. We were friends via social media after a mutual friend suggested we follow each other. One year later he liked some of my posts and I reached out. Since then we'...
A. 25 September 2015: It sounds odd this has happened - especially seeing that you were getting on so well - & seeing he was treating you like a lady. Could he be ill at all or busy with work?
The only disturbing thing I can think of here is that he was treating you well... (read in full...)
Why do guys give the promiscuous flirty girls so much attention?
Q. Do guys usually like the flirty and promiscuous type of girls? I need some advice because I hate to say I'm a little jealous of this girl I know who gets so much attention from my guy friends and just a lot of guys in general. She sleeps around wi...
A. 20 September 2015: Hi - I have been in the same position as you. I am quite shy & won't sleep with a man until I know it's gonna be serious & have been dating a while. I lost out to a man who wanted to date me - I wanted things to go slowly - but I had a female ... (read in full...)
Guys, would you rather date Girl A or Girl B?
Q. Girl A: -quite "generic" -long hair, decent sized boobs but slim, wears dresses and hardly ever trousers and a lot of heels -doesn't wear makeup -bit of a goody two shoes, always annoyingly nice to everyone, comes off as fake, ridiculousl...
A. 18 September 2015: Why do education results matter? Surely the fact you both have had an education is the important thing. Come to think of it - why should breast size & makeup matter either?
This sounds like the criteria people used to look for in beauty comp... (read in full...)
My friends all have better lives than me!
Q. Why is everybody looks so happy with their life although i know they might have their own problems but i feel like a loser seeing my friends life. Im 25 yo. Have a longterm boyfriend that proposed to marry me but im still waiting for him to be mo...
A. 8 September 2015: You have a good husband - be grateful for that! Many people may see that & think how lucky YOU are!!!
Facebook & Instagram only show what people want you to see. We could all put up a picture of a sunset or a sports car & say this is "my life".
Th... (read in full...)
His looking up his ex is a problem in our relationship
Q. My boyfriend looks up his ex when he's having a rough day. We've had problems relating to her before and it has made me insecure so sometimes I snoop. I trust him and I know he's not going to hook up with her or anything but I worry about what this ...
A. 5 September 2015: He's looking her up because she is still on his mind. Whether he thinks positively or negatively about her doesn't really matter - it's the fact that he IS thinking about her & can't move on that is the real issue here.
I agree with the others -... (read in full...)
I got back from a trip to find another man's pair of underwear in my bed. Do I believe my wife's story?
Q. came home from a week long trip found a pair of men's underwear in my bed that weren't mine. Was told they got mixed in laundry and got there when she made the bed. What's the answer? ...
A. 3 September 2015: There is a slim chance that it got mixed up in the laundry - so don't dismiss your wife's theory just yet - but even if it I did - why would it end up in your bed? Surely it would be in the laundry basket?!! Having said that - surely she wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
Friends to keep, or not keep? Should I just back away?
Q. I thank GOD that I have you guys to go to.i have gotten good advice before and need help again,i have been friends with a woman from school days back in the 70's she is a very soft hearted person. Her husband is very controlling,and she loves hi...
A. 1 September 2015: Yes - let her go. I always say if someone wants to be your friend they will be it and not be dictated to by anyone - not even their husband!! Your friend is an adult. She is in a controlling relationship because she lets herself be in one. If sh... (read in full...)
Boyfriend found out I cheated while messed up and ended things. Will I ever be able to make him forgive me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together three years and we got engaged last year. We then went through a rocky patch, but then things were great again. Until two nights ago when I ruined everything. I was at a rave, and was off my face and took a ...
A. 1 September 2015: You say you don't blame the alcohol or drugs for this & your boyfriend probably thinks the same.
I'm afraid a betrayal is betrayal. I have been to many night outs & parties where the alcohol has been flowing - but I have still always known what I'm ... (read in full...)
I've been in search of the right girl for years but haven't found her. What should I do?
Q. I am looking for a younger girl to start a family with. I am in my mid thirties but rarely feel any chemistry with girls this age. Nor do I feel that it would be wise for a girl of 34 to start having children. I am an artist and a musician. Ive ...
A. 25 August 2015: Blimey - you don't want much do you?!! I am a single lady who can play a bit of piano and loves her music - but I am over the age of 34 so would not fit your requirements!! I could be the lady of your dreams and so could 100s of other women - bu... (read in full...)
How do you get popular?
Q. How do you get popular in life? I see people on facebook get so many likes meaning that peple like them. I know it's shallow to think or shallow way of thinking but why are some people more popular or well liked then others? Just wondering. What'...
A. 11 August 2015: In addition - I must just add that as long as you are a nice & trustworthy person - you will always be popular! X... (read in full...)
How do you get popular?
Q. How do you get popular in life? I see people on facebook get so many likes meaning that peple like them. I know it's shallow to think or shallow way of thinking but why are some people more popular or well liked then others? Just wondering. What'...
A. 11 August 2015: You're right - it IS a shallow question.
Firstly remember - Facebook is a shallow place. Some People have 100s of friends - but only have ever met probably half of them at most. Also - not everyone is a friend - I knew someone who set up a Fake acco... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll be alone always. Is there any hope for me
Q. sorry to ask this but, im a 25 old old male and its been a while since i've had a relationship with anyone. i always worry that one day i'll never end up in a relationship ever again, and i'll wind dying alone and simply dont want that to happen to ...
A. 10 August 2015: Yes - I agree with the people telling you not to be so negative.
When I was a teenager I used to look at other teenagers who had already started dating & said to myself "It'll never happen to me" & so my first proper boyfriend wasn't until I ... (read in full...)
He didn't explain what made him angry and now he's sending me more abuse. Did I do the right thing by leaving him?
Q. Can someone please tell me if I did the right thing? I would love responses from both sexes! I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, it was very on again, off again, mainly because of his verbal abuse. I would forgive him and go back ...
A. 9 August 2015: I have a female friend who is in a relationship like this - she is totally blinded by him & thinks he's the sweetest guy one minute, but he calls her a whore & a liar the next when he gets upset about something.
This kind of relationship seems very... (read in full...)
Can a man live without sex in a marriage?
Q. Can a married man in his mid 40's stay happily married if his wife doesn't want sex anymore? And I'm talking years now? Can a man live without sex in a marriage? ...
A. 30 July 2015: You can both 'live' without it & stay married without it - it's whether you can be happy or not without it - is the real question.
This is where the question of 'love' comes in - if you 'love' your wife, you will put up without the sex because you ... (read in full...)
Fears about having children. I am not sure I want to bring children into this awful world.
Q. Dear cupid, My wife and I originally got married with having kids as a possibility but 100% sure. We have since changed our minds back and fourth several times throughout the years. She went for years thinking that we would and then just a fe...
A. 24 July 2015: Like you - I have no children either - not for the reasons you give - but because I was never particularly maternal.
However - in recent years - I too have been thinking like you & thinking it could be a blessing I haven't brought kids into the worl... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to keeps talking to your ex when your breakup is fresh?
Q. I broke up with my ex boyfriend 2 days ago but we've been talking ever since like we're still dating. I ended things because of who I became dating him(I was sad and not my self). I know it's hard for him and he probably thinks am joking as this w...
A. 22 July 2015: Yes - this seems a funny set up!!
Firstly - Why did you stop talking to your friends, just cos you had a boyfriend? And Secondly - if you have split from your boyfriend why are you still chatting away to him?
Either you still want him in your lif... (read in full...)
Are there no gentlemen left? ? My dating has left me not interested in sex, though I have had sex
Q. I'm 20 and I've got this problem with boyfriends. I only had four of them when I was in HS. "Matthew" was a relative of a friend and he was nice, but he annoyed me because he would just show up at my house without calling first or else he would...
A. 21 July 2015: Yes - there are gentlemen left - but probably not the type you want to date. Most girls tend to go for 'Mr Popular' or 'Jack the lad' so being a 'gentleman' is rarely on their minds as it may make them seem less of a Jack the lad.
First of all -... (read in full...)
All my friends do sleep randomly with anyone. I don't because it concerns me. Am I too sceptical thinking it's dangerous?
Q. Is it dangerous to sleep with anyone randomly? Because all my friends do that and nothing happens but I'm very sceptical? I need answers because I'm struggling....
A. 18 July 2015: Oh - and I forgot to add - Just cause you say 'nothing happens' to them now - it doesn't mean 10 years down the line it will be the same. Pregnancies, cervical cancer & STDs don't just happen overnight you know! ... (read in full...)
All my friends do sleep randomly with anyone. I don't because it concerns me. Am I too sceptical thinking it's dangerous?
Q. Is it dangerous to sleep with anyone randomly? Because all my friends do that and nothing happens but I'm very sceptical? I need answers because I'm struggling....
A. 18 July 2015: You do right to be concerned - not for them but for yourself! If they want to sleep around & not care about unwanted pregnancies, heartache & STDs then that's up to them! Don't follow them - know your own mind! Why does it bother you what your ... (read in full...)
Virgin, 19, Anxious, and worried about how, when and where I'm ever going to meet someone and have a relationship. What can I do to resolve this?
Q. This is my first time trying something like this but I feel like I need to get it off my chest. Okay, so I'm a 19 year old male who is still a virgin which is one of the things bothering me. I broke up with my ex nearly 2 years ago and since th...
A. 18 July 2015: To me 19 is still a child! You have many years (decades even) to find that special woman!
Plus why do you need to lose your virginity to them? What's wrong with just getting close to a girl until the time is right for other things? Just beca... (read in full...)
I am almost certain my boyfriend is back in touch with his ex, but he won't admit it. How can I know for sure?
Q. I have a strong gut feeling that my boyfriend is in touch with his ex the last couple of days through Facebook. He admitted that he looked up her profile yesterday but He has denied talking to her but I'm 90% sure because I trust my gut feelings ...
A. 14 July 2015: That's the trouble with internet social sites - you just DON'T know for sure what people are up to, who they are talking to or when it is happening, unless you are watching them all day or have access to their account!!
To save you going mad with... (read in full...)
Have I messed things up with guy I met online?
Q. Hey guys..... So I met a guy online and I'm totally new to the online dating thing, and not sure If I'm entirely comfortable........ So we went on a couple of dates and things seemed to be going well, he said he liked me and I do really like ...
A. 14 July 2015: Hi - I feel your pain as the same thing (more or less) happened to me, only my guy was seeing other women at the same time (unknown to me) which made it worse & when I brought it up - he didn't like it & blocked me.
Like WiseOwlIE says - he was l... (read in full...)
Will it be leading this girl on if I text her? I know she likes me but I don't want to date her
Q. I used to work with this girl at work and she has a very strong crush on me(workmates all know and she expressed her feelings of love many times). Quite awhile ago she left for another workplace, making sure I got her number to chat with her. I d...
A. 30 June 2015: It is nice to see a guy who actually cares whether he leads someone on or not!!
So many men on social media - just use it to chat up whoever & sod the consequences!! So well done for thinking it through first!
Personally, just to be polite, I wo... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex's girlfriend that we made out and had oral sex?
Q. I was recently in my ex's hometown and we hung out even though he has a girlfriend. He called me as soon as I got to my hotel and we had drinks. Within two hours we were making out, and fooling around (oral sex, boob sucking, dirty talk) he wanted ...
A. 26 May 2015: Why would you tell her? Just to stir things up?
If anyone should tell her - it's the boyfriend! But believe me - if he's cheating on her with you - he'll be cheating on her with other girls too - so I'm sure his girlfriend find out this soon enou... (read in full...)
I like him but am too scared to ask him out.
Q. I've liked the same guy for a while now and we talk alot of thhe time, sometimes more to each other then our close friends. I really want to be in a relationship with this person but am too scared to ask him out and (if he did like me) then same for ...
A. 23 May 2015: I was your age once & remember having lots of crushes on guys from a distance - but being too scared to ask them out! Sometimes I wish I'd been bolder - but looking back I'm glad I didn't now - as it can save a lot of humiliation.
First of all - yo... (read in full...)
It is upsetting to know I have been used by him.
Q. How do I get over a break-up. I've been seeing this man for over a year and he was my world. I loved him and I did anything I could for him. We talked everyday non-stop and I thought he felt the same. He has now moved away due to work so we have ...
A. 23 May 2015: I don't think he used you. I think it did sound like he really cared for you in the beginning.
The fact is - he has a new job in a new area - anything could've happened. He might be overly stressed with work, he might be out enjoying the sights or h... (read in full...)
Should I be feeling guilty? She got offended because I WANTED to use a condom
Q. I really am losing faith in humanity. Here goes: I’m 26, and a mature(ish) student at University. I recently got with a girl who I’d had my eye on for some time. We’d been hanging about in the same group of friends for several months and would fl...
A. 19 May 2015: Not only did you only do the right thing - but you also had a lucky escape!!
If my partner was going to react so immaturely about something which could actually have serious consequences - I would tell him where to go & sod the sex!
She's lucky sh... (read in full...)
He is no longer interested in me. Do I give up? Or try again?
Q. HELLO EVERYBODY!!! I'm just going to come straight out and say it. I had sex (several times) with a guy who I only now realise I really, really freaking liked. The sex wasn't fantastic (for some reason sex is never that great for me), but he clim...
A. 16 May 2015: I was going to say I usually skip long winded questions - but this has got to be one of the best written ones on the forum. I guess you must be studying English? Don't let this guy interfere with your studies. You are young and will have plenty of t... (read in full...)
My old friends found out I got engaged and I am afraid to say ''yes'' I am to them
Q. I'm 20 soon to be 21. I had a hard time in school for 2 years because I got tangled into the wrong group of friends. I left school at the later than average age of 19 and a half because I done an extra year. The friends i had at the time were ...
A. 16 May 2015: Yes - you have moved on from them for a reason - so don't go back - they are probably just looking for gossip! Over the years I have known 1 or 2 people who are just nosey or pure nasty and I have learnt to distance myself from them. Luckily with... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me for another women. What can I do to stop thinking about the situation & being jealous of her?
Q. My ex fell out with me and dumped me for another woman who is still a friend of mine on Facebook. I know he was seeing her before we fell out - hence the argument - although she always maintained she didn't know we were still together. Howeve...
A. 9 May 2015: It is one thing to be betrayed by your ex, but to be betrayed by a girl you thought was your friend as well is doubly bad. It's no wonder feelings of hurt, jealousy & mistrust arise.
We are all human at the end of the day. Hopefully time will heal... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 months. How should I respond to her very hesitant attitudes about sex? She's a virgin and aged 36.
Q. My new girlfriend of 2 months is a virgin and found this out when I tried to take our relationship a little further. She started crying and said that she would find it embarrasing to have sex with me and just kept on saying that she says that whe...
A. 9 May 2015: She sounds like she has low self esteem - so try to reassure her that she won't be dumped!
Maybe there are religious reasons too why she is unwilling - so maybe chat to her a bit more & see.
At least you are concerned enough to care. Good luc... (read in full...)
Could our friendship really be over just because of an argument?
Q. I have a really stressfull problem. I was friends with this guys for years and always liked him. As far I was aware he didn;t feel the same as we stayed very close friends (although many people thought he liked me as did I) ... Afew years later we ...
A. 9 January 2015: Just seen this now - a year late!! Hopefully you will have sorted your differences out by now & if not - well it wasn't meant to be!
I am in a similar position with a guy who went off with a girl and they both used to be friends with me - but now ... (read in full...)
Why show he was really interested in person, and now, the silent treatment? Is he playing hard to get?
Q. A guy I have known for a few months just recently let me know implicitly that he was very into me. He never said it verbally but it was all in the eyes, and the tons of questions he asked me. He gave me his business card and repeatedly asked me...
A. 7 January 2015: I agree with the person at the bottom - if he has recently broke up with a girl, he probably is just looking for affection & needs his ego boosting.
I just had a guy who had broke up with his girlfriend & he was chatting up all sorts of women look... (read in full...)
I want to separate but b/f keeps calling me!
Q. Hi, my problem is my boyfriend. I want to go our separate ways but he keeps calling me and i don`t want to be rude so i answer. The reason i want to spilt is because he gets angry over little things, is controlling and borrows money and never gives ...
A. 2 January 2015: Hi. if this guy is being controlling and wanting money then you are within your rights to not reply or have contact with him. Don't feel obliged. Why should you?
I was with a guy who was always asking for money & handouts - I was infatuated with... (read in full...)
We had a good date, kissed goodnight, but this morning I am blocked!
Q. Hi, hopefully going to be a short question! If not forgive me. So I started talking to this guy a few weeks ago. I know him through my ex but they aren't good friends they jusy know eachother. He asked when he could take me out we chose frida...
A. 20 December 2014: That sounds awful. If there is one thing worse than getting dumped - it is getting dumped and blocked with no further contact - the heartache can be worse not knowing what's going on!! However, if there was another girl on the scene - chances ... (read in full...)
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