Is this the fate of women as they get older? Their husband staring and leering at younger more attractive women?
Q. My husband and I have been married over twenty years . I always try to take care of my appearance and keep the fun in our sex life yet everywhere we go he is constantly staring at you get it attractuve women. He never compliments me or seems to ...
A. 19 June 2015: Glancing or even a single good look - yes, he's bound to do that, whether or not she's particularly attractive.
Staring and leering is just plain rude. He should know better. That sort of thing not only does you a disservice, it makes him look a c... (read in full...)
Are there men out there willing to use condoms?
Q. I'm having a bit of an issue with birth control and I'm looking for some advice. I have tried so many types of birth control over the years: the injection; the implant and 4 different types of pill, and each of them have played havoc with my ...
A. 18 June 2015: Not to contradict anything already said (I agree with the preponderance of advice already given) I'd like to inject a different, but relevant perspective.
I lose my erection whenever I put on a condom. It's guaranteed. If, hypothetically, a GF (ma... (read in full...)
Online: what do you think I am for him?
Q. I have met a guy around one year ago online. He says he has time for me and there is no limits for me to cross for him. whenever I text to him he will answer even when he has exams. But he said he's not good at starting a conversation,eve...
A. 18 June 2015: Truth?
I think you are a source of confusion for him. I think he's not sure what to think about you. Men are just as unsure, insecure, and confused as women. We make it all up as we go along, and hope no one (especially not a girl) figures ... (read in full...)
He said he "was thinking about me while getting his lapdances,"and thinks it's not cheating. Should I give him another chance?
Q. My bf, J (23) and I(25) are both military and have been together nearly 3 yrs, mostly long distance (we're 10 hrs apart now). At the start, we made boundaries for cheating. Since we're both jealous, we said kissing, flirting and all the various ...
A. 18 June 2015: Ah,
I missed that statement. Sorry. Re-reading it, yeah - definitely dump his sorry ass. He's not worth the pain and aggravation. That kind of statement really opens up your eyes to what you can expect in the future, which would be more of the s... (read in full...)
He said he "was thinking about me while getting his lapdances,"and thinks it's not cheating. Should I give him another chance?
Q. My bf, J (23) and I(25) are both military and have been together nearly 3 yrs, mostly long distance (we're 10 hrs apart now). At the start, we made boundaries for cheating. Since we're both jealous, we said kissing, flirting and all the various ...
A. 18 June 2015: We are ALL capable of both great good and great evil. It is our CHOICES that make us who we are.
He CHOSE to behave in the way he did. IF he got drunk and ran over someone in his car, the excuse of "I was drunk" or "I have a bad side" would no... (read in full...)
He said he "was thinking about me while getting his lapdances,"and thinks it's not cheating. Should I give him another chance?
Q. My bf, J (23) and I(25) are both military and have been together nearly 3 yrs, mostly long distance (we're 10 hrs apart now). At the start, we made boundaries for cheating. Since we're both jealous, we said kissing, flirting and all the various ...
A. 16 June 2015: Normally, I'm the guy who steps up to defend this sort of entertainment as pretty much harmless.
However, Honeypie is absolutely correct. He thought he was too clever for you, and found a 'loophole' in the agreement the two of you made. If this ... (read in full...)
I was clear that I would only move if we got married ...
Q. Hi, my name is rebecca, Age 40 and from the USA. last July i moved to Sweden to be with my bf, 38 who is from Sweden. I have been in sweden for 1 year now and sadly he hasnt asked me to marry him yet. It was something i was very very clear with ...
A. 15 June 2015: Have you asked him to marry you? Why is that his job? Why can't you propose to him? If he says no then you know right where you stand, and can come back to the states and start looking for the real relationship you are after. If he says yes, then ... (read in full...)
Why do people offer remarks like "men are visual" as excuses to dismiss the feelings of those who take issue with objectification of women in pornography?
Q. Why do men expect women to be ok with being categories into body part in porn. Like big breast , small breast , big ass, skinny , young , old , black , white , Latino etc. The list goes on . Yet besides a reasonable sized penis , are men ever cat...
A. 15 June 2015: And yet again, you are also factually incorrect in your assertion that -only- females are categorized by appearance.
There are searchable categories on many sites, and in many video stores for men meeting the following descriptions:
Big dic... (read in full...)
Why do people offer remarks like "men are visual" as excuses to dismiss the feelings of those who take issue with objectification of women in pornography?
Q. Why do men expect women to be ok with being categories into body part in porn. Like big breast , small breast , big ass, skinny , young , old , black , white , Latino etc. The list goes on . Yet besides a reasonable sized penis , are men ever cat...
A. 15 June 2015: ROFL
I don't think you're jealous. The pic I posted a link to was just supposed to be a laugh. Nothing more.
And yet you fail to even begin to address the remainder of my points.
You aren't taking an 'ethical' point of view. You are certain... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my husband when this girl is around?
Q. I'm married almost 6 years to my husband . We are both similar age and have two children together. I'm with my husband since i was 21 and im begining to worry. He is always been a flirt to others it is his personality i've grown to accept because it ...
A. 14 June 2015: Your husband will be attracted to other females. You absolutely MUST accept this as FACT, or you will drive him away with your jealous insecure and unrealistic expectations.
However.
It is PERFECTLY reasonable for you to expect him to modulate ... (read in full...)
Why do people offer remarks like "men are visual" as excuses to dismiss the feelings of those who take issue with objectification of women in pornography?
Q. Why do men expect women to be ok with being categories into body part in porn. Like big breast , small breast , big ass, skinny , young , old , black , white , Latino etc. The list goes on . Yet besides a reasonable sized penis , are men ever cat...
A. 14 June 2015: http://global3.memecdn.com/jealousy_c_271741.jpg... (read in full...)
I need advice please? It's the same girl, but things have changed.
Q. So this is the third time i wrote here asking for questions... And its still about the same girl, to begin things change and doesnt go quite as planned... About four months ago i posted a previous question about asking my highschool crush out ...
A. 14 June 2015: You, sir, are behaving like an asshat.
MOVE ON.
Find some other girl with whom you are compatible. 90% of love isn't "finding the right one" it's "Being right for the one you're with".
That's not to say attraction, common interests, belief... (read in full...)
Why do people offer remarks like "men are visual" as excuses to dismiss the feelings of those who take issue with objectification of women in pornography?
Q. Why do men expect women to be ok with being categories into body part in porn. Like big breast , small breast , big ass, skinny , young , old , black , white , Latino etc. The list goes on . Yet besides a reasonable sized penis , are men ever cat...
A. 14 June 2015: This is the third thread you've started on this topic in the last month alone. I've read back through some much older posts, and there are some that sound very much like your written style on this same soap box for years.
Do you really feel lik... (read in full...)
I slapped him, he slapped me back, what should I do?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend *lets call him Tyler) for 3 years. He proposed to me last month but since then we just seem to argue. He purposefully does and says thing to get reactions and when i snap he goes in a really childish ...
A. 14 June 2015: Honeypie is exactly correct that violence only begets more violence. Being female does not give you license to hit him.
I'm of mixed opinions about slapping you back. On the one hand, I tend to be a pretty non violent person. On the other hand, th... (read in full...)
He says I'm being stupid. How do I get him to talk about our problems, instead of ignoring them.. and me? 2
Q. How do i deal with a fiancé who just wants to ignore problems and never talk about anything? My boyfriend and i just recently got engaged and for about the last month i've felt ignored. I've tried talking to him about it but whenever i bring...
A. 12 June 2015: By giving the ring back.
Seriously. If he's too withdrawn and unresponsive to engage with your emotional well being now, that's not going to improve when you exchange vows.
If he told you you're being stupid because you feel ignored, and the... (read in full...)
What do I do? I feel so alone in this relationship
Q. Hi everyone I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a son together who is 6 months old. Since our son has been born my boyfriend has changed. He goes to work till 4 comes to mine at 6 we don't live together we have tea he goes then I get ...
A. 12 June 2015: Does his work support you? IF not you're getting the shit end of this stick. If so, then he has a very old fashioned, outdated even model of relational give and take.
I bring this up because a lot of guys see their role as "great provider... (read in full...)
Gym is packed most of the time, so how do I go up to him and start a conversation? Scared of rejection.
Q. Okay so I have been going consistently to the gym since january. Back when I was freshly single. I spotted someone very cute but I looked awful cause I go to work out not look at guys but something about this guy makes me want to go talk to him. ...
A. 12 June 2015: rejection hurts. No lie there. However, there is something that hurts worse than rejection - regretting what might have been.
you will be rejected. Many times. That's a guarantee. You will not be hired for a job, a boyfriend will dump you, a b... (read in full...)
How can I start talking to her? Or should I just give up on her due to her being in High school while I'll be at college?
Q. So I just graduated high school ,but there was this sophmore in my spanish class. I always thought she was cute and I felt like she would be different from the girls I've talked to recently. The problem is I never talked to her and I really think...
A. 12 June 2015: I would advise you to be cautious. While the difference of two years doesn't seem like a big deal to you, the law doesn't agree. Even if the age of consent is less than 18 in your state, most states have a statutory rape clause that boils down to ... (read in full...)
Am I being unrealistic wanting a fairytale ending?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 months. We hit a rough patch.I take medication for anxiety and depression and I've only just started them the doctor told me that they take a few weeks to kick in and that my anxiety and depression will get...
A. 11 June 2015: I'm not suggesting love isn't worthwhile. Nor am I suggesting anyone should give up and settle.
The fairytale is when it's all good, and no bad. There are a lot of people who learn about love via stories. Those stories always tell you that onc... (read in full...)
Am I being unrealistic wanting a fairytale ending?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 months. We hit a rough patch.I take medication for anxiety and depression and I've only just started them the doctor told me that they take a few weeks to kick in and that my anxiety and depression will get...
A. 11 June 2015: I'm afraid I've only got bad news for you.
First thing's first, your BF is being a jerk. Maybe it's just his personality, but if he's in a relationship with someone who TELLS him she needs more emotional input, and he can't bring himself to help ... (read in full...)
I need help coping with betrayal by my longterm partner, as I'm stuck living with him!
Q. I am looking for some advice... I am a 29 year old female, I've been with the same person long term for years now, having lived together with eachother for the past almost three years. In January of this year, after some investigating, I caug...
A. 10 June 2015: Ouch.
Your story cuts to the bone, and yes, there are some of us out here who have survived this.
How do you survive it? One day at a time, baby, until you can afford to think on longer terms.
An old marine friend of mine taught me something... (read in full...)
Is he too young for me?? 33 versus 25
Q. After seeing the previous question posted about ages, it made me want to ask my own. I am 33 and fallen in love with a guy who is getting ready to turn 25. I've never had a thing for younger guys but he's absolutely amazing. He's everythi...
A. 10 June 2015: No, his mind and emotions do not work the same as someone ten years his senior. That doesn't make him lesser, nor does it mean he isn't a good match for you.
The real consideration I point out to people in mixed age relationships is the end game... (read in full...)
Should I send this woman a message? My husband has deleted and blocked her
Q. Hello, I have a really hard time getting over jealousy. Before my husband deploy to overseas he used to have this female friend who would call, text, email, facebook message him and she will talk for 4-5 hours just complaining about her boyf...
A. 10 June 2015: First, -MAD PROPS- to your husband for taking the moral high ground, and eliminating something from his life that is trying to threaten the stability of his primary relationship. My hat off to that man!
Did your husband explain to her that thi... (read in full...)
What does he behave like this? I feel disrespected. He surrounds himself with porn and girly pictures.
Q. What is his problem? Stacks of girly magazines, pictures on the wall, lesbian porn DVD's (a lot) and will look at anything that implies he might get to look at woman. I hate it, fed up, neglected and disrespected, just want to know why? BY the way ...
A. 10 June 2015: Compulsion. Possibly out of his direct conscious control. Does that make the behavior ok? no. Does it help categorize and put it in to context? Possibly.
Porn is like any other human activity that activates the pleasure or reward centers of the h... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend never let's me finish when we make love. Am I doing something wrong?
Q. This is my first time every doing anything like this, because i can usually solve problems myself, so please bare with me. But, this is different for me. My question is Ive been seeing this girl for almost 2 years it's crazy how we met but she's...
A. 10 June 2015: "But that's got nothing to do with what the OP is asking or what Chigirl said? Nor can you state that because the man ASSUMED it was ok and the women ASSUMED it was not, that one is more right than the other. That is a communication issue that both ... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend never let's me finish when we make love. Am I doing something wrong?
Q. This is my first time every doing anything like this, because i can usually solve problems myself, so please bare with me. But, this is different for me. My question is Ive been seeing this girl for almost 2 years it's crazy how we met but she's...
A. 9 June 2015: "Firstly, nowhere did the OP say she 'blew up' at him. "
I know that - the "blow up" was a play on words to Chigirls's reference to a blow up doll. Just a play on word.
"Either of the two of them can stop sex at any time for any reason - end... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend never let's me finish when we make love. Am I doing something wrong?
Q. This is my first time every doing anything like this, because i can usually solve problems myself, so please bare with me. But, this is different for me. My question is Ive been seeing this girl for almost 2 years it's crazy how we met but she's...
A. 9 June 2015: If she gives him the green light to enter her, she doesn't then get to "blow up" at him if he climaxes.
If she doesn't want him to climax inside her - I agree, she has every right to make that decision.
She does, however, need to TELL HIM SO. ... (read in full...)
Just how close has he been to this girl? And when? Is he confused or being confusing on purpose?
Q. So, I've been friends with this guy for almost four years. Less than 2 years ago he admitted he had feelings for me since he met me, I admitted I had previously felt similarly, but at that current time I didn't feel the same and we continued just ...
A. 8 June 2015: A nugget to take with you through life -
- We're all just as confused as you are.
Male, female, rich, poor, it doesn't matter. We're ally just doing what it looks like we're supposed to be doing, making it up as we go along, and hoping no on... (read in full...)
Should one rely on male friends for emotional support?
Q. Human beings are social animals. We all like to be appriciated, loved and to be in good company. Of all relationships marriage can be most rewarding as well most punishing. When one goes through emotional turmoils, it very natural to find solace i...
A. 8 June 2015: You spoke to the human as a social animal, so I'll appeal to that logic specifically.
Yes, the human is a social animal. We're pack hunters, specifically.
That being said, you must understand that the instinct to multiple mates is strong in bot... (read in full...)
He just blows me off and then I don't hear from him for a while. What's his problem?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy lately. I have no clue what we are, at this point I think we are just hook up buddies I don't know. Anyways, every time he would ask to hang out or go out and I say yes he blows me off and I won't hear from him. ...
A. 8 June 2015: This is how he keeps you emotionally available, and thus, physically available. He has no real interest in you, romantically. Players use this tactic to keep you hanging on the edge of their next call.
The unpredictable, in charge, unapolog... (read in full...)
Why would this be? Having a hard time getting turned on by my boyfriend
Q. Lately I've been having a difficult time getting turned on by my boyfriend. We have not have sex yet, and dont plan on it anytime soon. We do do other things, you can probably guess. But recently, it's been hard for me to want to do anything with...
A. 8 June 2015: its boredom with the same thing. You used to get aroused by this behavior, it was new, exciting, and taboo. Now, it's fairly humdrum, and so not only not exciting and arousing, but kinda annoying.
This is a natural progression, and is the base cau... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend never let's me finish when we make love. Am I doing something wrong?
Q. This is my first time every doing anything like this, because i can usually solve problems myself, so please bare with me. But, this is different for me. My question is Ive been seeing this girl for almost 2 years it's crazy how we met but she's...
A. 8 June 2015: The other aunts have it pretty well nailed, with one exception...
Have you TALKED to her about this? TOLD her how it makes you feel?
A good, healthy sex life (or love life in general, for that matter) absolutely DEPENDS on open, honest com... (read in full...)
I feel worse than what I felt when we broke up with him!
Q. I wanna share my pain with u and I need a good advice I dumped my love 2 weeks ago He cheated on me and he was playing around , I was living a lie Our relationship lasted for one year I loved him so much but I couldn't tolerate his lies ...
A. 6 June 2015: Time.
Only time can heal this wound.
You may want to consider letting him back in. Do not do this. Be strong. You have made a painful, but correct decision.
The pain will heal over time. This is like when you hurt your foot in tight shoes... (read in full...)
Can a married man fall in love with another woman, yet never leave his wife?
Q. Can a married man fall in love with another woman he has been with for 2-3 years but never leave his wife?...
A. 6 June 2015: No.
Love, real, romantic love is about intimacy. Sharing. If he is still married, then he cannot bring his whole self to the sharing. He is leaving the part that loves his wife and his life with her safe, that part is sacred, and too special ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about the other guy, and the fact that we kissed, nothing more?
Q. Okay so I have been with my boyfriend now for 14 months and I practically live with him cause I stay over all the time. I do love him and I know that he really loves but we have been arguing a lot over the past month. The arguments can be from lit...
A. 6 June 2015: Owle, as usual hit the nail straight on the head.
I only have a couple of things to add.
1: the patterns and behaviors he lays out are pretty true for hetero couples as well.
2: I would have willingly killed to have had a confession from my... (read in full...)
I like girls but like to watch gay porn and don't get turned on by girls. Am I gay?
Q. I still like girls but i like to watch gay porn and i dont get turned on by girls alot am i gay?...
A. 6 June 2015: Human sexuality exists on a spectrum. That's why the LGBT community has adopted a rainbow for their main symbol.
On one end of the spectrum is "super mega straight" where the very idea of accidental, incidental, non sexual contact with a member o... (read in full...)
Are there guys out there who actually don't like strip clubs?
Q. Are there guys out there who actually DON'T like strip clubs? I live in a mining town and strip clubs are starting to pop up everywhere, and since mining is a very male dominated field, guys go there after work to bond, and blah blah. I've been tol...
A. 5 June 2015: There is nothing 'judgmental' about looking after your health.
Now - I'll be one of the first to defend a person's right to sexual entertainment, as well as a woman's right to work in the industry if she so chooses.
Do bear in mind that -NO- m... (read in full...)
Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare?
Q. Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare? Especially when recent research has shown that almost 90% of porn shows violence against women . Is it ignorance, because it serves their agenda to not acknowldged it or because ...
A. 2 June 2015: Porn can be addictive, just as -ANY- human behavior can become compulsive. You seem to insist that the porn itself is at fault.
Yours is the same logic that blames alcohol for drunks, and blames lotteries for gamblers going broke.
If you ... (read in full...)
Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare?
Q. Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare? Especially when recent research has shown that almost 90% of porn shows violence against women . Is it ignorance, because it serves their agenda to not acknowldged it or because ...
A. 2 June 2015: A snip from the other thread:
As a woman I reserve the right to control my own sexuality. I will not engage in sexual behavior I am not comfortable with. This includes expecting my partner to refrain from attempting to force the issue when I a... (read in full...)
Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare?
Q. Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare? Especially when recent research has shown that almost 90% of porn shows violence against women . Is it ignorance, because it serves their agenda to not acknowldged it or because ...
A. 2 June 2015: Wow you just can't give it up. Talk about selecting only the data that serves your agenda. You didn't come here to ask questions, you came here to grind your anti porn axe.
That's fine. Porn is evil and every woman acting in it is an abused s... (read in full...)
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