How do I stop myself getting so attached to guys?
Q. Hi there, agony aunts. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on avoiding getting attached to guys. I am recently out of a long term relationship and very much playing the single card, but every time I get with somebody, for example, making ou...
A. 16 May 2011: Wow, thank you so much. You have no idea how much I appreciate you taking the time to respond in such great detail. It will take me a while to read over this post properly so that I can really take it all in, so as of right now I don't have much ... (read in full...)
Is the first kiss always the best?
Q. Not so much a question as I need peoples opinions. Okay, first kisses. The first kiss you have with someone, is that always the best? With my boyfriend, the first kiss had so much build up. And when it happened, my belly was literally doing ...
A. 29 March 2011: No, the best kiss does not have to be the first. My first kiss with my ex of 2 years was absolutely dreadful, and I almost considered not seeing him again!
In fact, one of the best kisses I could remember with him happened when we have been tog... (read in full...)
Together three years and she didn't give me a birthday present.
Q. ME and my girlfriend have been together for over 3 years now and my birthday just past a month ago. She did not buy me anything for my birthday. I always buy her stuff for her birthday. Is this a bad sign?...
A. 28 March 2011: Perhaps it was just the way we were, but my ex [we were together for 2 years] always bought me amazing gifts for my birthday, beautiful jewelery and such, and so for his birthday I always rivaled his gifts. It wasn't like it was a competition to us, ... (read in full...)
Will our different religious beliefs clash too much? And would he compromise his beliefs about sex?
Q. Hello there, agony aunts. (: I have had a relatively close male friend who I have known for several years. We went to high school together and have always gotten on great. Almost the whole time I knew him, I had been with my ex boyfriend (who I...
A. 9 February 2011: Thank you so much for all your helpful answers. (:
I believe that sex is at least 40-50% of a relationship, if not more! It is a beautiful and intimate thing, and I don't know if I would be able to wait til marriage -- not that I'm getting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend through me into the snow during an argument! I'm not sure what to think!
Q. I was walking outside with my boyfriend of 6 months, when we got into a small disagreement. We were holding hands, when he suddenly flung me across his body and into the snow on the side of the road. I landed, unhurt, but shaken. He is much stronger ...
A. 8 February 2011: If he's doing it now, he WILL do it again, and he WILL get worse. 6 months isn't that long... get out.... (read in full...)
Why don't I get pleasure from sex?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been having sex and I'm just wondering why I don't get pleasure from it. He's on the big side and when he takes it out it feels great but I can never come and I don't want him to feel bad about it. So what positions ...
A. 7 February 2011: Hi, I got in a relationship with my boyfriend when I was 16, and the whole time I was with him I never orgasmed until I was 18. It's about experimenting and seeing what's right for you. Most girls can't orgasm from intercourse alone. Perhaps you ... (read in full...)
Protocol on going to strip clubs
Q. Hello guys, do u think is it ok for the guys while they are in a relationship and want to go strip show club either with you or his friends and let u go with your female friends too? and also i asked him if he go to striptease club before a...
A. 7 February 2011: I think it is okay if he goes with his mates, just as long as it's not him who's dragging his mates along! And just so long as he's not getting any private shows or lap dances.... (read in full...)
I'm in my own world, will I ever get a guy?
Q. I am almost 16 i never had a boyfriend or a date is there something wrong with me? I only had one kiss and it was with a guy i did not like at all but i guess he liked me but i didnt want to kiss him he just kissed me. and i know everyone has talked ...
A. 6 February 2011: some guys will find a girl who is really quiet hard to approach. Maybe try coming out of your shell a bit, involve yourself.
Other than that, just wait. Your time will come. (:... (read in full...)
She said she loved me. how was she able to move on so soon?
Q. So my ex and I have been broken up for a few months now. And the breakup has been really hard for me because I loved her very very much. When we broke up she stated her reasons for the breakup was that we were different people. This issue never ...
A. 6 February 2011: I'm sorry, that must be hard for you. There is no real answer to that question, but you wouldbe best to move on. (: you deserve better.... (read in full...)
He's confusing me, agreeing to dates then cancels. What's he up to?
Q. A while ago I was at a house warming party and I met a guy there. We didn't talk much that night but we exchanged information. We talked for months on gchat before meeting for coffee. We ended up talking for about an hour and a half and it went ...
A. 6 February 2011: Hm, that is confusing! If I were you I'd probably just keep doing what you're doing, just write him off -- he sounds like a time waster.
Maybe, if he asks again, you should say in a friendly joking way, "Haha, as long as you promise to turn up ... (read in full...)
I found out she's a loose easy fluzzie.She's not wife material.
Q. Evening everyone. I'm in need of suggestions on how to break it off with a woman I've been seeing since this past August. I want to do in a way that won't insult her or cause her self esteem to go down. For the most part we've got on pretty well and ...
A. 6 February 2011: I know you have your mind made up, but maybe you are being hard on her.
We all make mistakes and people change. The reason she tried to hide it all from you was probably because she was ashamed. Poor woman.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend prefers having guys as friends rather than girls
Q. Hey guys, ill try to make this as short as posible. Me and my girlfriend (my first) have been dating for 9 months, we were friends for a few months before we started dating. We love each other to pieces, best thing in my life, and same with her. ...
A. 6 February 2011: There is nothing wrong with you, you are just jealous. It is completely natural, but it can be toxic in a relationship -- I know, it was one of the factors which ended my relationship.
Short of telling her to stop txting them or breaking up with ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, but has now put new photos of me on FB. What does he want from me?
Q. We were together for 2 yrs. Broke up 2 weeks ago as he was stressed with Uni and isn't doing well. He's 27 and I'm 23. We have not spoken at all since. By the looks of things on his facebook he seems to be moving on by always saying he's going out ...
A. 6 February 2011: If you want him to remove the bad photos, just calmly send him a private message and ask him to take them down, nothing else. If he then replies no, just ignore him. If he replies yes, just say thank you and leave it at that. He may try to use this ... (read in full...)
Does his ex still mean something positive to him? Or does he just not want to see her again?
Q. Ive been with this guy for a year now, when we first got together he admitted to having sex with his ex but he said he only did it once and that she made him do it etc. he was only 16 at the time and she was around 14. Eventually he admitted to ...
A. 6 February 2011: If he's been with you for a year, he obviously likes or loves you, and i doesn't matter what happened between his ex and him, so long he isn't cheating on you with her or something.
He sounds like a very fragile boy and I just think you need to ... (read in full...)
Will my morals go out the window?
Q. hey, can someone help me figure out who i am? im 18 and a virgin, the only guys ive kissed are ones ive got with while clubbing (too many to count) the problem is im going off to uni in september, and im not sure what ill end up doing. like even ...
A. 6 February 2011: It is all up to personal opinion, if you consider it "wrong" to sleep around. Yes, it could be perceived as being slutty and some people won't like it, but so long as you aren't getting with people's boyfriends, there's really nothing wrong with it. ... (read in full...)
Horrific noises during sex are really embarrassing me!
Q. So, I'm in a new relationship and he's the biggest I've ever been with. He likes to eat me out, or go down on me or whatever, but whenever he does, my vagina makes this farting noise. It's completely embaressing for me, and completely takes me out ...
A. 4 February 2011: Haha, the first time I ever had a fling (as in sex that wasn't in a relationship), it happened to me. I was with this gorgeous guy and he was licking me out, and all of a sudden I did this massive queef! I was shocked and so was he! I think he ... (read in full...)
Is watching porn while your in a relationship a form of cheating?
Q. Is watching porn while your in a relationship a form of cheating? I've found out my boyfriend has watched porn a few times and confronted him about it. I told him that I feel degraded when he looks at that stuff because he has ME, so why should he ...
A. 4 February 2011: My boyfriend did the same thing. I think it's a kind of male curiousity that's natural for them.
For me, it doesn't bother me because he's looking at other naked women, I don't know why. It bothered me because I felt like he was being immature... (read in full...)
I cant get over what she has done in the past...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months and her past and what she has done haunts me and maked me want to throw up and call her a whore and leave her. I cant do this though the thought of not being with her hurts me and I know that I ...
A. 4 February 2011: I can't stop thinking that exactly what you just said is what my boyfriend used to go through. I have been with 6 men [including him], and 3 of those were flings -- I'm ashamed to say one of them even had a girlfriend. I was my boyfriends first ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being a crazy girlfriend?
Q. Ok there's a million things leading up to this, but here's what happened today: Tomorrow is the 6 anniversary of someone very close to me dying. This morning I texted my boyfriend to talk to him about it. I was feeling positive about it, and w...
A. 4 February 2011: I don't have any advice for how to be more patient, it's something I struggle with myself.
But... You're not the one who's in the wrong here. Just saying.... (read in full...)
Help with my problems - he no longer is sexual, or sweet or tells me cute things!
Q. Okay hello ! Well me and my bf have beentogether over a year now and when we first started dating he was suprr hmm how do I say this sexual and then like we latly its like he barley ever wabts to like if hes iver itll happen no doought but like he ...
A. 4 February 2011: It was like that in my relationship too. The honeymoon period is over for him, and one day it will be for you. This is just when you settle down and are happy to just be together, and are no longer completely overwhelmed by how strongly you feel for ... (read in full...)
Creative advice needed!
Q. I am in need of some help from those who are creative. I have an on going "battle" with my gf for doing little things for each other that are out of the ordinary. so I am looking for self made crafts or creative ways to tell her how im thinking. ...
A. 23 January 2011: I don't have any suggestion, but kudos to you for being creative. (: Not many relationships do things like that, and not many guys would be thoughtful enough to go on the internet searching for ideas.
Good on you. (:... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable for me to expect my boyfriend to be over it by now?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he is very lovely and we are happy together. in the first stages of our relationship i "cheated" on him with this guy we'll call Harry. By "cheated" i mean we used to email eachother all the time, ...
A. 23 January 2011: Normally, I would say, yes, he should be over it by now. But you actually still have feeling for the guy, so obviously your boyfriend has every reason to still be worried! After three years, should you really still be fantasizing about this ... (read in full...)
My wife has webcam sex chats with men, and hides things from me. Should I be worried?
Q. My wife does webcam sex chats and hides a lot of stuff from me. Should I be worried? ...
A. 23 January 2011: Yes, you should be worried. Perhaps you should ask her how she would feel if you were doing the same things. She'll likely say she wouldn't like you doing them, and perhaps this will make her see what she is doing is WRONG.
If she says she woul... (read in full...)
I am bothered by the thought of my ex moving on. What does this mean?
Q. My boyfriend and I dated for about a year and a half. I broke up with him because we were both in college and we were in different places in life. I was just starting college and he was graduating, and he resented me wanting to party because he ...
A. 23 January 2011: This kind of jealousy is normal, and doesn't necessarily mean you want him back. It's normal to feel regret when you see someone who have been with for so long moving on, especially when you are young and you have not had many long relationships.
... (read in full...)
I just want my fiance back!
Q. I have cheated on my fiance several times,he had an idea, but as nothing was admitted or had been confirmed was thinking he just may have got it wrong. Well thats how it seemed. Last week he walked in and showed me a text he`d been sent with the ...
A. 23 January 2011: Your friend did a good thing. I know you've come here to be reassured that what you did was okay, but frankly, it wasn't. I have cheated on a boyfriend before and I regret it to this day... The difference was, we have been together less than a month ... (read in full...)
After two years, only twice a month! Why isn't she interested in sex?
Q. Hello everyone, this is my first post and this is my first question. When I first got together with my girlfriend the sex was great... every opportunity we had we did it. It's been 2 years and 3 months now and we are both 18 years old, but now we b...
A. 21 September 2010: You guys are well past the "honeymoon phase". This doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't still feel the same about you, but her hormones maybe aren't driving her mad to "mate" with you every few minutes like they may have been in the start. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop him from being so possessive?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 10 months. I am in the 10th and he is in the 11th, (but I'm graduating early)... Well he doesn't like when other guys talk to me. At all. I can't sit with guys or talk to them and he does the same ...
A. 16 September 2010: I had this problem with a boyfriend when I was 16. I had a very close male friend (who was gay but nobody but me knew) and my boyfriend at the time forbid me from talking to him, or he would threaten to dump me. I eventually chose my friend over my ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who was so good to you?
Q. I was with my partner for 5 years. We talked about marriage and spending our lives together. However, over the last year we noticed that we wanted different things. I wanted to wait to get married, did not want to rush, I wanted to do a phd, become ...
A. 16 September 2010: You have really put yourself in a difficult situation. It's going to be very hard for you to get over somebody who has been in your life for so long, and who was so good to you.
You should surround yourself with friends, and perhaps focus heavily ... (read in full...)
My sister in law doesn't mind being naked with me!
Q. My sister-in-law (single and attractive) graduated college and recently took a job near where my wife and I live. My wife told her to stay with us in the spare bedroom until she found a place of her own. Initially, she wore a robe over her ni...
A. 13 September 2010: That does seem a little unusual, but if you can control yourself and nothing happens, and your wife is fine with it, I don't see any reason why it is bad.... (read in full...)
Why is my teacher flirting with me does he want more?
Q. okay hi i am on my sisters account yet again any way Why is my teacher flirting with me does he want more? Here is what has happened over the past few days well i had science on thursday and he always stood at the door and he smiled at me...
A. 13 September 2010: Do me, the smiling and the touching of your shoulder just sounds like him being friendly. There is every possibility he was just staring at you BECAUSE you're a good school girl, and he'd proud of your work or something along those lines. I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
He dumped me and I want him back so bad
Q. It's been about two weeks since my boyfriend of 2 years Ryan dropped me like a hot potato due to his supposed stress with school. We've talked but it always seems to turn into him telling me to 'stop being obsessive, to move on find some one here, ...
A. 13 September 2010: Excellent answer, Kristen. I am going through a similar problem and I agree 100%. If you can't make it, fake it. Pretend you're over and him and there's a much better chance that he'll come crawling back, seeing this sexy, confident woman you've ... (read in full...)
I want a steady boyfriend and excitement on the side!
Q. I'm 14 and I have one of those boyfriends that everyone says is a 'great guy'. And he is. He's generous, good-looking, absolutely adores me and has never betrayed my trust and I don't think ever wants to. I lost my virginity to him at 13 and we've ...
A. 12 September 2010: This is a track you do not want to go down.
When I was 16 (not sure about you guys but that's the legal age here) I was in a relationship with a GREAT guy. Not really serious, obviously because we were so young, but he made me very happy and he w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend parties hard and it bothers me!
Q. How can I avoid feeling so bothered and upset when my boyfriend drinks? I don't have a problem with drinking. I do have a problem when the girls at these parties take off their clothes or he starts doing something stupid. I'm not a party person, and ...
A. 12 September 2010: It's natural for you to feel like crap after hearing that kind of thing from your boyfriend -- the person who is supposed to be devoted to you and only YOUR body is watching other girls strip. I have been (and still sort of am) in a similar ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend got some single guys number at the bar
Q. Is it ok for my girlfriend to get some single dudes phone number at a bar? My GF went out with her single girlfriend last night an they were approached by two single guys. Apparently, these guys sat there and hung out with them until close. My...
A. 12 September 2010: I'm going to go ahead and say it's not appropriate for a girl (or guy) to get anybody's number for any reason while they are in a relationship. It sounds to me like she's playing at the "wingman" -- just hanging in there for her friend, and there is ... (read in full...)
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