Is it a good idea to tell my now-ex that I was in love with him when we were dating?
Q. I'm looking for people's opinions about telling an ex that I was in love with him while we were dating. We broke up just under 2 years ago. We are not in regular contact. He told me that he was in love with me 2 months into the relationship and...
A. 17 September 2014: There is more to the story.......we have seen each other over the past 6 months and he made it very obvious that he wanted to get back together. He tried to have sex with me and I said no. He then didn't call me and I ended up calling him and we met ... (read in full...)
He said he would help, we had sex, and now, no help!
Q. A fee days ago I asked my ex boyfriend if I could borrow some money from him to invest in my business. He is a millionare so I knew he could spare it. We broke up 2 years ago and we hadn't spoken in 5 months since the last time we met up- mainly ...
A. 20 August 2014: "You use the guy, and he knows it. Walking out on you, was because you take advantage of him and how you think he feels about you". WOW WISEOWL. You really think you have it all figured out don't you? You don't. As a matter of fact I have never ... (read in full...)
He said he would help, we had sex, and now, no help!
Q. A fee days ago I asked my ex boyfriend if I could borrow some money from him to invest in my business. He is a millionare so I knew he could spare it. We broke up 2 years ago and we hadn't spoken in 5 months since the last time we met up- mainly ...
A. 20 August 2014: Not going to go into details but what happened was definatey not sex. More like touching over clothes.... (read in full...)
He said he would help, we had sex, and now, no help!
Q. A fee days ago I asked my ex boyfriend if I could borrow some money from him to invest in my business. He is a millionare so I knew he could spare it. We broke up 2 years ago and we hadn't spoken in 5 months since the last time we met up- mainly ...
A. 20 August 2014: He hates confrontation. He's afraid of showing his emotions.He closes up completely and only comes back if I initiate contact after a certain amount of time and then he is happy and normal.
He has done this to me 5 times since I have known him. Howe... (read in full...)
He said he would help, we had sex, and now, no help!
Q. A fee days ago I asked my ex boyfriend if I could borrow some money from him to invest in my business. He is a millionare so I knew he could spare it. We broke up 2 years ago and we hadn't spoken in 5 months since the last time we met up- mainly ...
A. 20 August 2014: Honeypie I have called him 5 times since Saturday, sent 3 emails and texts as well... (read in full...)
He said he would help, we had sex, and now, no help!
Q. A fee days ago I asked my ex boyfriend if I could borrow some money from him to invest in my business. He is a millionare so I knew he could spare it. We broke up 2 years ago and we hadn't spoken in 5 months since the last time we met up- mainly ...
A. 19 August 2014: Just for the record I didn't have sex with him!!! Dear Cupid misinterpreted what I wrote in my post and got the heading wrong.... (read in full...)
He said he would help, we had sex, and now, no help!
Q. A fee days ago I asked my ex boyfriend if I could borrow some money from him to invest in my business. He is a millionare so I knew he could spare it. We broke up 2 years ago and we hadn't spoken in 5 months since the last time we met up- mainly ...
A. 19 August 2014: Cerberus, I have never asked him for anything before. Zero. And to clarify, this man walked out on me 2 years ago the day after my birthday with no explanation. He just dissapeared. A year and a half later when I contacted him he said he had so much ... (read in full...)
I would really appreciate some gift ideas for a person who did me a big favour that has benefited my business
Q. This is a business question.....I would really appreciate some gift ideas for a person who did me a big favour that has benefitted my business. I am looking to spend around $300. Do you think a really expensive floral arrangement? Or something tha...
A. 10 July 2014: Thanks all for your suggestions. I thinning am going to buy a beautiful vase as well as a floral arrangement. Thanks again.... (read in full...)
I feel as if I don't know which way is up .... my friends tell me to sort myself out!
Q. Ho, I have no idea where I amin life, i am 33, split up with my wife of 2 and s half years last feb, (no third party involved). we're on good terms, still get on but do not want her back, we we're together 7years. I have recently met someone, we met ...
A. 10 July 2014: Did you write this while you were drunk?
It's very disjointed but what I gathered is that this girl is trouble. You don't need more drama in your life. Sounds like you should focus on work and possibly work towards getting a job you actually want... (read in full...)
I feel I am constantly waiting for him and wasting my life away ...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six years and we have a son together who is 3 years old. We all live together, my partner works 16 hour days, and he works nights. He only gets one day off but even on his day off i don't see him as he lays in bed ...
A. 10 July 2014: Yikes. I think the reality of the matter is that family life is boring sometimes. It could be worse. You have a husband, son and you are paid for. May not be exciting now but give it time and you can resume studying and do what you want to do. Bed's ... (read in full...)
LDR - so why doesn't he tell his family and friends that we're dating?
Q. I've been dating someone, long distance, for about a year though I've been talking to him and we've been good friends for around 5. I met him through another friend. I love him and think he's absolutely amazing, so my entire family and close...
A. 10 July 2014: Ask him!! Don't be afraid. I have been in a similar situation a couple of years ago and I wish I had just sat him down and asked him directly what the hell was going on. Ask clear concise questions and work out where you stand.... (read in full...)
Is any man excited by an average looking female body after watching porn?
Q. I am concerned that my bfs constant access to a never ending stream of physically perfect women in porn to look at and masturbate to is causing him to get bored with my appearance. He simply doesn't seem excited by the sight of me anymore yet if h...
A. 10 July 2014: Watching porn is toxic. Completely messes with your 'real' sex life as you are learning. I would be having serious talks with him.
A friend of mine went through this. His problem was so bad that he quit his job and watched it 50% of the time!! So i... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband but cannot bring myself to confess and I feel so guilty all the time
Q. Hi, I got married in 2012. During the first few months of our marriage, my husband remained busy with his friends, he had very little time for me. He made love to me on rare occasions. Then, I began to hang around with my boss, like fiends. One...
A. 10 July 2014: My personal opinion about marriage is that the whole institution is outdated so you can take or leave what I have to say.......I have been cheated on before (not in a marriage, just a de facto relationship) and he told me about it. I really wish ... (read in full...)
My grandmother is a gossip and I don't want to see her. How do I handle this?
Q. My grandmother and mother are both negative gossips. I am 32 years old and for the past 4 years have put some distance between them and myself. However, now that I have returned to the city that I grew up in and they live in my grandmother is ...
A. 6 July 2014: Thank you Honeypie, I was absolutely furious when I found out her behaviour at the gallery. I knew what she was like but this was really a new low and really showed me what she's like. Made me realise that she is a frenemy. I haven't spoken to her ... (read in full...)
My grandmother is a gossip and I don't want to see her. How do I handle this?
Q. My grandmother and mother are both negative gossips. I am 32 years old and for the past 4 years have put some distance between them and myself. However, now that I have returned to the city that I grew up in and they live in my grandmother is ...
A. 5 July 2014: Thanks CindyCares. Of course I do not hate her for being ill. I just hate her negativity. Also, I have excused her behaviour my whole life because I have been taught by my family to put my needs second to theirs. Walking around on egg shells I guess ... (read in full...)
My grandmother is a gossip and I don't want to see her. How do I handle this?
Q. My grandmother and mother are both negative gossips. I am 32 years old and for the past 4 years have put some distance between them and myself. However, now that I have returned to the city that I grew up in and they live in my grandmother is ...
A. 5 July 2014: Also, I have nothing to hide. I just hate being gossiped about. I really really want to be left out of the family. I have told her that but she doesn't hear.... (read in full...)
My grandmother is a gossip and I don't want to see her. How do I handle this?
Q. My grandmother and mother are both negative gossips. I am 32 years old and for the past 4 years have put some distance between them and myself. However, now that I have returned to the city that I grew up in and they live in my grandmother is ...
A. 5 July 2014: Put it this way, she went into a gallery where my work was exhibited and started talking to the manager of the gallery about the fact that I haven't spoken to her. The way I found about this was from the manager himself. I can't trust her with ... (read in full...)
My grandmother is a gossip and I don't want to see her. How do I handle this?
Q. My grandmother and mother are both negative gossips. I am 32 years old and for the past 4 years have put some distance between them and myself. However, now that I have returned to the city that I grew up in and they live in my grandmother is ...
A. 5 July 2014: Thank you all for your advice. I don't think I made it clear in my post that the behaviour of my family towards me over the past ten years has really been quite damaging to me ad my brother. My grandmother has a personality disorder and people only ... (read in full...)
He walked out on me. Is contacting him a bad idea?
Q. A man that I was dating walked out of my life in October '12. We were only dating for 6 months but it was intense. He told me he was in love with me and hinted toward marriage in the future. He was recently divorced, his father died while we...
A. 2 February 2014: Thanks for the replies. I know what you are saying. I guess it's just hard to believe. He showed me a few times during the relationship that he does not deal with confrontation well or at all! So, I may never find out what happened at the end ther... (read in full...)
Taken advantage of in business with friend
Q. Hi all, I have a problem with a friend that I have known since I was 12 yrs old. Recently she opened a shop and as I have a manufacturing business she asked me if I had any excess stock that she could put in her store on consignment. For those w...
A. 30 January 2014: Thank you all for your advice. I have decided to go and get a majority of the stock and leave a portion for her to work with. If she pays in time over the coming months then I can restock her slowly but no more large outlays of stock. Thanks ... (read in full...)
Taken advantage of in business with friend
Q. Hi all, I have a problem with a friend that I have known since I was 12 yrs old. Recently she opened a shop and as I have a manufacturing business she asked me if I had any excess stock that she could put in her store on consignment. For those w...
A. 30 January 2014: Chi girl you obviously didn't read my post very well.She told me that she needed loads of stock and now she doesn't reply to any messages. I am treating it like any other stockist. If another of my stockists didn't reply for weeks on end I would ... (read in full...)
My heart says give him another chance. My gut says run.
Q. I broke up with my boyf of near two years about a month ago. I wanted to do this for a while, our relationship was far from perfect, i'll explain this quickly just so you have the entire story: he drunkenly cheated on me in our own bed and I walked ...
A. 24 October 2013: RUN!... (read in full...)
I feel like he rejected me when I most needed him
Q. I have sexually lost interest in my husband of three years. I find his touch annoying. We have had our share of problems. Am suddenly remembering all the past hurt and just get turned off. One of them is that when we were dating, he made me beg for ...
A. 24 October 2013: I'm very sorry to hear this has happened to you because it is his issues.
My question is.... Why on earth do you still want to be with this person?
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I'd like at least one photo of him!
Q. Okay guys here is my biggest challenge. My new bf does not want me to take photos of him or even with him. How can I convinc him or make a deal to be able to take maybe just 1? He said even his mom has almost no photos of him. The years books don't ...
A. 24 October 2013: My ex wouldn't let me take photos of him or have a photo with him either. I didn't really mind though. The reason for him was that he thinks he is ugly. ... (read in full...)
When a guy says he wont get married as it's just a piece of paper and ring, then says maybe in 5 years, will he ever get married to me or am I fighting a losing battle?
Q. This is for the guys on here if you don't mind helping. When a guy says he wont get married as its just a piece of paper and ring, then says maybe in 5 years, will he ever get married to me or am I fighting a loosing battle? I love him so m...
A. 23 October 2013: If marriage is really important to you then quiz him casually about it. Don't make a big deal about it but you deserve to know. ... (read in full...)
Is this an early indicator that the relationship isn't going to go anywhere?
Q. Hi, I was wondering what people think of this theory? I have noticed that anyone I've dated in the past will never get past the dating phase when they never use your name in texts, conversations, anything, even if they do pay all sorts of com...
A. 23 October 2013: I think it's just rude not to use someone's name. If someone did that to me I woukdn't exactly feel special!!... (read in full...)
My husband just left me for a younger woman
Q. i am feeling like a total fool. i was informed last night that my husband of 23 years wants a divorce, he has a baby by a girl that is 24 years old and she is expecting another one by him again... yes you read this right the baby she just had is 4 ...
A. 20 October 2013: Make him pay finiancially and spoil yourself A LOT!... (read in full...)
Keep getting hurt in relationships. Are relationships really worth all the hurt?
Q. Do you think some people are better off not in relationships and instead dedicating their life to other things? The reason that I ask this question is because of men. I am beginning to think that my life may be better if I don't have relationshi...
A. 19 October 2013: I didn't like men when I was little except for my dad.
I just didn't like little boys. They scared me and were dirty and too rough.
When I reached teen years however, I did a 180 and became boy crazy. I don't think this was a good thing for me t... (read in full...)
Keep getting hurt in relationships. Are relationships really worth all the hurt?
Q. Do you think some people are better off not in relationships and instead dedicating their life to other things? The reason that I ask this question is because of men. I am beginning to think that my life may be better if I don't have relationshi...
A. 19 October 2013: Thanks for answering janniepeg but I don't think you understand my predicament at all. No I am not attracted to women. And I'm glad that you are happy with your experience of being used up by men to help shape who you are today but as I stated I ... (read in full...)
How does one turn their emotions off?
Q. How do people keep from letting their heartache effect them? Better yet, how do people NOT have heartache? I know alot of scientist types... and I love their logic and how organized they are compared to me, but the thing I envy the most is how ...
A. 19 October 2013: I am emotional as well. I think a big part of it may be that you don't have anyone to turn to. Support is important- I truly believe this but I also understand that sometimes you don't want to tell people certain things. I am feeling really down at ... (read in full...)
Do you think if you are on the fence about having kids then you shouldn't have them?
Q. I am 31. When I think of my future as a childless person I feel an immense feeling of relief and excitement. But, I like kids. The thought of having one with me 24/7 makes me feel heavy and closed in. I am also well aware that parenting NEVER ends. ...
A. 14 July 2013: Euphoric29...... Society is parent dominated. That's simply a fact. Turn on the tv and domestic adverts are shoved down your throat!! I understand that this is the way the world works but this isn't even really the point of the original question. To ... (read in full...)
Do you think if you are on the fence about having kids then you shouldn't have them?
Q. I am 31. When I think of my future as a childless person I feel an immense feeling of relief and excitement. But, I like kids. The thought of having one with me 24/7 makes me feel heavy and closed in. I am also well aware that parenting NEVER ends. ...
A. 13 July 2013: Iamheretohelpyou I am not judging other's decision I am only calling as I see it and applying it to the type of person I am. As I said some people are born to be parents and others aren't. I guess the whole point that I wrote the question in the ... (read in full...)
Do you think if you are on the fence about having kids then you shouldn't have them?
Q. I am 31. When I think of my future as a childless person I feel an immense feeling of relief and excitement. But, I like kids. The thought of having one with me 24/7 makes me feel heavy and closed in. I am also well aware that parenting NEVER ends. ...
A. 13 July 2013: Thank you wiseowle for understanding. I think the reason that I have posted this as a question is because it has only recently become more and more clear that I am quite sure that this is what I want. Society is so parent orientated that sometimes ... (read in full...)
Do you think if you are on the fence about having kids then you shouldn't have them?
Q. I am 31. When I think of my future as a childless person I feel an immense feeling of relief and excitement. But, I like kids. The thought of having one with me 24/7 makes me feel heavy and closed in. I am also well aware that parenting NEVER ends. ...
A. 13 July 2013: Well wiseowle I think most people can only go from their personal experience. Isn't that what everyone does?? I am not putting people that have children down. That would be putting most o the population down.
I am trying to be responsible and make... (read in full...)
Do you think if you are on the fence about having kids then you shouldn't have them?
Q. I am 31. When I think of my future as a childless person I feel an immense feeling of relief and excitement. But, I like kids. The thought of having one with me 24/7 makes me feel heavy and closed in. I am also well aware that parenting NEVER ends. ...
A. 13 July 2013: Caring Aunty A... It seems to me as though you think that having children guarantees that you will not be lonely when you are in your older years. Have you been to a nursing home? Most of them have kids and are as lonely as the next person. Having ... (read in full...)
Do you think if you are on the fence about having kids then you shouldn't have them?
Q. I am 31. When I think of my future as a childless person I feel an immense feeling of relief and excitement. But, I like kids. The thought of having one with me 24/7 makes me feel heavy and closed in. I am also well aware that parenting NEVER ends. ...
A. 12 July 2013: Thank you all for your comment. Although I have heard basically the same opinions from other people, I do enjoy hearing what other,s opinions are.I guess I just don't consider having a child as an achievement. You get knocked up and have it. It's ... (read in full...)
Competitive friend that destroys me emotionally
Q. Hi there, I have a friend that I have known since I was 10 and when we were little we were very good friends. She has always been a little jealous of me but loves me at the same time if you know what I mean? We are now 30 and we have always stayed i...
A. 19 April 2013: I have told her in the past a few times how much her incessant questions bother me butis he can't stop! I also forgot to mention to you guys that her best friend is someone that bullied me in high school so that gives me even less of a reason to ... (read in full...)
Does he take me for granted? Am I not a Priority in his life? NO birthday present from him either!!
Q. Hi all, I need a little help trying to decipher my boyfriend's behaviour over the weekend. We have been together for 6 months and are in a long distance relationship. He is sweet and has had a tough year with his dad dying and moving house a...
A. 26 October 2012: OK everyone,
He still hasn't been in contact with me.
I have been getting on with life but feel as though this needs to be settled. I don't really want to call him but this seems ridiculous!
Should I just leave it alone or send him an email?
... (read in full...)
Does he take me for granted? Am I not a Priority in his life? NO birthday present from him either!!
Q. Hi all, I need a little help trying to decipher my boyfriend's behaviour over the weekend. We have been together for 6 months and are in a long distance relationship. He is sweet and has had a tough year with his dad dying and moving house a...
A. 15 October 2012: I am going to give it until the end of the week to see if I hear from him. If I don't, I have already written a letter to email to him. I would prefer to speak to him on the phone but he doesn't answer so an email will have to do!
... (read in full...)
Does he take me for granted? Am I not a Priority in his life? NO birthday present from him either!!
Q. Hi all, I need a little help trying to decipher my boyfriend's behaviour over the weekend. We have been together for 6 months and are in a long distance relationship. He is sweet and has had a tough year with his dad dying and moving house a...
A. 14 October 2012: I haven't heard from him since he left my town last Sunday.
I left my phone in his hire car and he had to send it back to me but he has know that I recieved it on Thursday afternoon.
i feel as though this has become a long distance booty c... (read in full...)
Does he take me for granted? Am I not a Priority in his life? NO birthday present from him either!!
Q. Hi all, I need a little help trying to decipher my boyfriend's behaviour over the weekend. We have been together for 6 months and are in a long distance relationship. He is sweet and has had a tough year with his dad dying and moving house a...
A. 13 October 2012: I don't know about the porn thing. It is a possiblility. I just get the feeling that he doesn't have the energy for me at the moment. That I am not a priority in his life. Maybe now that we have reached the 6 months point he is wonderng if he c... (read in full...)
Does he take me for granted? Am I not a Priority in his life? NO birthday present from him either!!
Q. Hi all, I need a little help trying to decipher my boyfriend's behaviour over the weekend. We have been together for 6 months and are in a long distance relationship. He is sweet and has had a tough year with his dad dying and moving house a...
A. 13 October 2012: Thank you for the advice. If he had not been through so much this year I would definately be considering breaking up with him. The thing is this: if I break up with him he may consider it as a huge betrayal because this is the time that he really n... (read in full...)
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