This could be my last chance at having a baby but everything is all wrong!
Q. I am 35 and my bf is 27. We have also only been together for 3mths. I discovered that I am pregnant. I have no kids and to be honest, at my age I had pretty much given up on the idea of it ever happening as I am prob too old now. I was on the ...
A. 26 February 2015: Oh, Sweetheart. If I could reach through the internet and give you a hug, I would. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through facing this decision.
Do you have any access to an unbiased (non-religious) counselor? Perhaps ... (read in full...)
We were dating exclusively... then I found out he slept with someone else?????
Q. I've been dating a guy for a few months now. We said both agreed that we are seeing each other exclusively (as i don't like rushing into relationships but also liked him enough to only be interested in him) But I've just found out he slept with ...
A. 25 February 2015: Wow, it sounds like you dodged a bullet there. Trust me, your future soulmate/husband will really appreciate you for taking things slow. Think of how he'll feel knowing that you didn't let dozens of guys manipulate you into bed and use you.
Be pr... (read in full...)
How can I get over my current beliefs and accept my partner's past?
Q. Hey guys, I am in a relationship with someone of "20...30... i lost count" sexual partners and past bursts of casual sex with a casual view on sex, in comparison to my 4 partners, including her and conservative values. I love this person and thin...
A. 19 February 2015: Now I have to thank you for your well thought out and kind reply. Your situation and approach to getting through this has been so similar to mine, I couldn’t help but emphasize how serious it is. Whatever you decide, know that there are o... (read in full...)
How can I get over my current beliefs and accept my partner's past?
Q. Hey guys, I am in a relationship with someone of "20...30... i lost count" sexual partners and past bursts of casual sex with a casual view on sex, in comparison to my 4 partners, including her and conservative values. I love this person and thin...
A. 18 February 2015: I’m telling you, I’ve tried to do everything you’ve mentioned. I’ve gone through all the steps you have. I’ve tried to change my paradigm to get over my moral issues with her past, just like you are trying to do. Trying to change your value system ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my current beliefs and accept my partner's past?
Q. Hey guys, I am in a relationship with someone of "20...30... i lost count" sexual partners and past bursts of casual sex with a casual view on sex, in comparison to my 4 partners, including her and conservative values. I love this person and thin...
A. 17 February 2015: That pain, that jealousy; I'm afraid it never goes away. You can learn to supress it, but it will always be there in the shadows waiting steal your happiness. I know. I've been married to a woman I love dearly for 5 years now. We have two children. ... (read in full...)
How do I stay sane without rushing into sex with the new guy, but also being faithful at the same time?
Q. Alright as of now I have two sex partners. One that I have an emotional thing going on with, and the other we're just friends but his sex is just amazing. I've been talking to this other guy for a few days now. And, weirdly I like him a lot. I think ...
A. 7 August 2010: I don't understand your rationale. You are having sex with two other guys. Why do you care about waiting to have sex with this new one? Its not like you are planning to wait for marriage.
I think if I were the new guy and I found out that I h... (read in full...)
I accused my fiance of cheating and now she is thinking of not marrying me
Q. This past week I accused my fiance of cheating. I really hurt her feelings wit dat, and now she is having seconds thoughts of marrying me. What can I do to fix it?...
A. 23 February 2010: That depends. Why did you accuse her of cheating on you?
Do you have real evidence of such behavior or was it an abusive power trip sort of thing said in the heat of a fight.
Or was it one of those things where you simply asked her where she'd ... (read in full...)
I enjoyed our day of sex at the hotel despite both of us being in relationships, but now he has become distant. Was it just the thrill of the chase or did I not live up to his expectations?
Q. I am soooo confused! After a lot of flirting, sexting, and finally making out, I slept with my co-worker. He pursued me for a long time, I was supposedly this dream of something he could never attain. We spent an entire day together at a hotel. ...
A. 23 February 2010: That's exactly what it was. He is a player, just trying to rack up as many notches on his bedpost as he can. I'm sure married women are worth extra points for him especially since he enticed you away from your husband of 19 years, that you ... (read in full...)
Is sex before marriage okay?
Q. Is sex before marriage ok? I mean what happens if it's going to be a while before you find the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with??? ...
A. 1 November 2009: Just ask yourself how you feel about your future husband having sex with other women while he's waiting to find you.
That should answer your question. ... (read in full...)
What's up with the sudden "booty calls" ??!!
Q. Hey there. I'm so confused as to what has happened in the past six months. I'm very inexperienced with guys (yes, even at my age!) but have had three occassions lately where I've received "booty" calls from diffent guys! What the heck!? I know...
A. 17 August 2009: Most guys will do or say whatever it takes to get in your pants. Usually those kind of men will break contact with you once they get sex, or until they have their fill of sex with you. You'll probably find that once they realize that you aren't ... (read in full...)
Will I still pass as a virgin when I get married even though I've had sex 3 times?
Q. had sex 3 times not planing on having sex for 2-3 years will i still pass off as a virgin when i get married? (all 3 times bled)...
A. 13 August 2009: It doesn't sound like the OP is actually engaged at this point. I think she just wants to know if going without sex for a few years will make it seem like she is a virgin again when she does end up getting married.
If whoever marries her does so ... (read in full...)
Will I still pass as a virgin when I get married even though I've had sex 3 times?
Q. had sex 3 times not planing on having sex for 2-3 years will i still pass off as a virgin when i get married? (all 3 times bled)...
A. 13 August 2009: Do you mean you could lie to your husband about it? Probably. Would he believe you? Maybe. Would it be wrong and a betrayal to your husband to make him believe that you were a virgin when you aren't? Absolutely. Just tell him the... (read in full...)
I lied to my fiancee about why my phone was off all weekend but he's not convinced. What can I do now?
Q. During the weekend i spent time with my ex boyfriend and i had switched of my phone. my fiancee tried calling but could not get through.When he asked why my phone was off i told him i had a lot on my mind and just did not feel like talking to him, ...
A. 11 August 2009: You should tell your fiance' the truth. Were you unfaithful or where you just catching up with your ex?... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my fiancee want sex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 27 years old and recently engaged, everything in our relationship is awesome except one thing: We dont have sex! I want to and I feel i need to, but my fiance never wants to. She always makes some kind of excuse or says s...
A. 4 August 2009: You two just have mismatched sex drives. It’s as simple as that. I know a lot of girls who are like this. To them sex is kind of fun in the beginning of the relationship when it’s new and exciting. And of course they want to please you becau... (read in full...)
Condom discomfort
Q. I've been married about 3 years and my wife and I were each other's first and we have always had natural, naked genital sex. Now she has a medical problem (nothing real serious) and has to go off birth control pills and stay away from other things ...
A. 10 July 2009: Do you leave any room at the tip? I know you are supposed to leave some space at the end for the semen. (Make sure you squeeze the air out though.) Some condoms even have reservoirs at the end for that purpose. That being said. My fiance has re... (read in full...)
Why do men want to get me into bed, then forget about me??
Q. I am hoping to get some input on my dating situation. I am 33 mother of 2 boys that live with me, 10 and 12. I have been single for a few years now. I started dating about 6 months ago. I have met two guys that I really liked. Seems like ...
A. 10 July 2009: Honeypie is right, you may have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince, but you certaintly don't have to have sex with any of the frogs in order to find him. A man looking for a long-term committed relationship will have no problem waiting a while ... (read in full...)
Why do men want to get me into bed, then forget about me??
Q. I am hoping to get some input on my dating situation. I am 33 mother of 2 boys that live with me, 10 and 12. I have been single for a few years now. I started dating about 6 months ago. I have met two guys that I really liked. Seems like ...
A. 10 July 2009: There are a lot of guys who just want to get as many notches in their belt as they can. They'll say anything to get what they want. Its quantity of partners that matters to them, not quality. Not all men are like this. Waiting to have sex until y... (read in full...)
I made a big fat stupid mistake and I'm scared my boyfriend will end things with me!
Q. Hi there Could really use some advice here. I was seeing a guy for a few weeks after Christmas but it was only casual. He left to work abroad for a few months and i met another guy who happened to be in the same crowd as the first guy (i.e they al...
A. 9 July 2009: If they are in the same circle of friends, then the gossip will get around to him eventually. If he finds out through the grapevine that you had sex with this guy, then he is going to feel like a cuckold and a fool. Not only will he see you as a ... (read in full...)
Cheated on: Not sure what to do now?
Q. My (ex) girlfriend and I were together for two months. In that time I fell in love with both her and her kids, and I've never been happier. That changed two weeks ago when she cheated on me. She met a co-worker's son to help him through a tough ...
A. 8 July 2009: For the love of all things holy, get some self-respect and show this woman the door! She is walking all over you and stringing you along for all your worth. Can't you see this woman has more respect for a used tampon than she does for you. ... (read in full...)
I'm not a leper am I?
Q. I'm a 20 year old girl. My parents are pretty old fashioned and conservative, especially my mom. She's spent my whole life telling me what I can wear, who I can hang out with, ect. My mom has even told me she doesn't want me dating.....
A. 7 July 2009: No sweetie, you are not a leper. Far from it. You are something to be treasured. I spent most of my college days single, and happily so. I promise you that your time will come. I've always found love when I least expected it.
Trust me at your ... (read in full...)
I hate having these negative feelings about women and it's consuming me....
Q. Hi where do i start. Im a 27 year old man and im really struggling with handling how much casual sex i see around me, though friends and people i meet out on a night out. Iv just come out of a long relationship almost 6 years. it was over due a...
A. 6 July 2009: I understand where you are coming from 100%. I've been going through the exact same thing. In fact, I want to leave my partner because I can't cope with the fact that she used to have a lot of casual sex the past. Since we've been together, I... (read in full...)
DO men like to be woken up to a blow job?
Q. My friend said she gave her boyfriend a blow job in the morning just as he was about to wake up but she didn't tell me about his reaction and I was too scared to ask because he might think I was being too nosey. Is it annoying to be woken up to a ...
A. 26 June 2009: Absolutely! Are you kidding me! I can't think of a more awesome way to greet the day. Seriously I can not imagine any guy not liking that. I've been dropping hints to my fiance' implying that such a thing is my ultimate fantasy but she always sleeps ... (read in full...)
I've devastated my fiance by leaving him, it's hurting me too
Q. Ok I am in some need of help here, and any advice is greatly appreciated.. I posted on here recently about how I had cancelled my wedding to my fiance who I have been with for 3 years and that I was considering leaving him because I feel we just wan...
A. 22 June 2009: Marriage is a huge, life changing commitment! You have every right to call off the wedding. Please don't let others make you feel guilty about this. You left him because he wasn't right for you. He is an adult. He can take care of himself.
You a... (read in full...)
We split up and I've become promiscuous, why?
Q. Hi Me and my ex split up after 5 years. The reason for the split was because he cheated and was physically abusive, at the time of the spilt i was 21 he was 27. It was not an amicable split due to finance and our property, but we finally sold tha...
A. 22 June 2009: Next time you are about to jump into bed with some meathead who just wants to get in your pants, think of this: One day (probably sooner than you think) you will meet the man of your dreams. He will respect you and treat you like royalty. He’ll t... (read in full...)
If we've been FWB for so long, does it mean something more?
Q. How long do you guys think it's normal to have the same 'friend with benefits'? Surely if it goes on too long it must mean something more? ...
A. 18 June 2009: Are you kidding me? He's getting commitment free sex here! Why would he ever want that to stop. Most guys could have a f**k buddy for life and she could mean ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to them. ... (read in full...)
What makes a woman good in bed?
Q. One for the guys here! just a general question. We all know what meakes a man bad in bed right? Well what defines weather or not a woman is good in bed? It's not that I have any probs in this department but I'm really curious lol. Will be asking my ...
A. 18 June 2009: "TasteofIndia" is spot on here. If you can get into it and really enjoy the experience, then he will really enjoy it too. If something feels good tell him so. If you want him to do something, tell him! If he knows you are having a good time, then ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has "been around"
Q. I'm stuck I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months but I met him for the first time when I was 14. I love him more than anything but the only problem is, hes got a "record" Lets just say, he's been around. My problem is that I just can't s...
A. 18 June 2009: As hard as it might be to believe, there are a lot of men out there who don't sleep around. They value and respect women like royalty instead of objectifying them and treating them like nothing more than a receptacle for their ejaculate.
If yo... (read in full...)
Should my past not matter to him?
Q. this guy and i have been together for about 8 months but never officially dating. its driving me crazy that i want to be his actual girlfriend. we act like we are anyway. he's always asking me about my past. i dont have a good sexual reputation and ...
A. 17 June 2009: People can say the past doesn't matter all they want, but for a lot of guys it really does. It sounds like this guy is trying to decide if he can handle yours. I would move on and find someone who doesn't ask about or, more importantly, care about ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex with alot of people!
Q. I recently got out of a six year relationship, this guy was the first only person ive ever slept with. Im a single mom of two, now and am trying to move on. I am old fashioned, had my ex been a better man I would've been happy having only 1 sex ...
A. 16 June 2009: I'm not religious, (At least not anymore), and I would have no problem waiting for sex if I were dating you. Oldersister is right. The guys who left you becuase they didn't get what they want, would have ended up leaving you anyway after they got ... (read in full...)
I've realised I married my best friend, not someone I'm attracted to
Q. I'm 26 and just had my one year anniversary. My husband and I have been together for seven years. I've realized I married my bestfriend and not someone I'm attracted to. We have never had a great sex life and now I feel like I'm really losing out on ...
A. 16 June 2009: Talk this out, go to counseling, and if all else fails, then consider divorce. Whatever you do, DON'T cheat on your husband.
You would be worse than just a cheater. You would be an alduterer and have to carry that stigma with you for the rest of ... (read in full...)
He always finishes the job (oral sex), am I not doing it well?
Q. I have been dating my "boyfriend" for about 9 months and we've had a physical relationship for about 6 or less. He obviously wants oral and I have willingly given it. We were firsts for each other and I feel like I am doing the worst possible blow ...
A. 9 June 2009: First of all some guys have a hard time coming that way so it may just be thats the way he is. I know I usually have to finish myself off, but I do really enjoy it as its a very different sensation than a handjob or intercourse. The best tip I... (read in full...)
Confused, she aborted her roomate's baby, says she cares about me, what am I to believe/
Q. Ill try and keep this brief, but this is a complex situation, which is why i am asking for outside help(not friends and family who have their own agendas) Met this girl through a mutual friend 6 weeks ago and we have had some of the most romanti...
A. 4 June 2009: She sounds like she's stringing you along. I mean you've been dating her for six weeks and she doesn't want to use any "labels", or post any pics? I could understand that for the first few weeks, but its been a month and a half. She should at least ... (read in full...)
Confused, she aborted her roomate's baby, says she cares about me, what am I to believe/
Q. Ill try and keep this brief, but this is a complex situation, which is why i am asking for outside help(not friends and family who have their own agendas) Met this girl through a mutual friend 6 weeks ago and we have had some of the most romanti...
A. 4 June 2009: Trust me man. This is not a roller coaster you want to be on for the rest of your life. Get out of this while you can. There are so many girls out their who will love you and not put you through all the emotional trouble this girl is going to run ... (read in full...)
He asked about my past, I told the truth and now he's acting differently
Q. I don't know why, but my boyfriend asked me how many guys I had slept with, I believe in honesty so I told him the truth even though I don't understand what the point is, it's him that I want. After I told him he kind of went all silent then said ...
A. 4 June 2009: It can be really tough for some guys to cope once they've found out that someone they are with has slept with lots of others. It just takes the feeling of intimacy and excitement away from it all.
Think of it this way.
If a man that you lov... (read in full...)
Dumped for someone else by my work fling!!
Q. Ive been sleeping with a guy at work but weve never had a relationship because he said he didnt want to commit. I didnt mind I just thought it was a bit of fun at the time nothing serious. Then last month I went on holiday for a week and when I come ...
A. 4 June 2009: It sounds like he just wasn't that into you. I know its cliché' but it happens to everybody. I'm sure there have been guys out there who liked you, but no matter how nice they were to you, you just weren't that attracted to them.
You were his... (read in full...)
He called me a selfish bitch because I don't want to have sex
Q. So I told my boyfriend that I don't want to do anything sexual with him mainly because it makes me feel uncomfortable. Well he gets mad at me cause I told him earlier I was going to gave him my virginity but I realize I wasn't ready. He called me a ...
A. 3 June 2009: NO! He is the one being selfish! If he cared or respected you at all, he would wait until you were ready. Even if that meant waiting a few years to have sex with you.
Trust me, he values sex more than he values you. Dump this jerk. You deserve ... (read in full...)
Would it be a waste to stop having sex till we are married?
Q. My girlfriend has recently been having issues with premarital sex. We have had sex, and we both enjoy it, but sometimes she feels guilty about it. It goes back and forth. She is getting closer to God, and Im all for that. She has a very promiscuous ...
A. 2 June 2009: The bottom line is that if she is growing in her faith and feels guilty for having premarital sex, any pressure from you to have it is only going to cause her to lose respect for you. She could end up harboring resentment towards you for the rest of ... (read in full...)
Hurt, my husband has left. Was it the porn or his family?
Q. I feel so hurt because my husband stopped loving me. And what hurts the most is that we have children together. I told him it was his porn or us meaning his family. And I want to know was I wrong to make him decide porn or us?he is using me and I ...
A. 26 May 2009: How do you know it was the ultitmatum that you gave him that made him leave? How did his porn viewing hurt your relationship? Was it affecting your sex life? Was he paying less attention to you because of it?... (read in full...)
Does the amount of lovers you've had in the past matter?
Q. Hi, I'm 24 and just broken up with my boyfriend. He made me feel pretty bad a lot of the time and one of the things he said which upset me was that I've slept with loads of people and I'm a slag. He used to count on his fingers the people he kn...
A. 19 May 2009: Unfortunately it does to me. I'm a lot like your boyfriend and it is the one sore spot in our relationship.
However, I never call her names or intentionally make her feel bad about it, but I do get hung up on her number from time to time and it r... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I slept with someone else when we broke up?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. He as always had a jealousy problem as well as a bad temper. HE has called me every name in the book. He is very spoiled but he also has a lot of issues with his family. I know that he loves ...
A. 19 May 2009: I wouldn't volunteer the information to him since you two were broken up at the time, but don't lie to him if he asks.
... (read in full...)
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