Will I ever be able to forget what he's done to me?
Q. My boyfriend has beat me more than a couple times before and hasn't in a period of time and has told me he wouldn't ever again but I am scared of him im scared a lot of the time and if he gets really mad at me he threatens to choke me or beat me but ...
A. 11 July 2012: Please leave your boyfriend. Physical violence is a dealbreaker - things may feel "perfect" for a while, but you never know when he may snap and beat you again. You deserve better! ... (read in full...)
I told my husband I want to end the marriage and now he's acting all pitiful
Q. After being married for 12 years I've told my husband I can take it no more and I want out. He's been cheating which I found out and even after that I've put up for 3 years. We have 2 kids and I have been telling him since a year that I am not happy ...
A. 26 May 2012: "is he manipulating me again?"
Yep, sounds like it. Stick to your convictions and leave the guy!!... (read in full...)
Family Feud and my husband is siding with his sister against me. What are my options?
Q. I have had a very bad falling out with my sister in law. We never liked each other anyway but the last time I have seen her we had a massive disagreement. My husband sided with his sister against me which added to me being upset. Since then I have...
A. 19 May 2012: "My husband says that he will not side with me against his family if he thinks I am in the wrong and that it is basically tough. " Well, were you in the wrong? If you were, then I don't think he should side with you. 'do think that a husband ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about this girl living with us? I have a trust issue!
Q. Hello all, I'm in a bit of a tough spot right now. You see, I live with my wonderful fiance, we love each other to pieces, and we live with another roommate who happens to be my good friend. Well, things are not working out with our roommate...
A. 15 May 2012: If you're worried about something happening, then don't let her move in. Personally I think it's kind of tempting fate, no? Sometimes old feelings come back, or perhaps new feelings develop. It's better to not let it happen, I think.... (read in full...)
How can I marry my fiance when he constantly ogles other women?
Q. How can I marry my fiance when he constantly ogles other women? he swears I am ALL he wants and needs...I do not feel that way because despite all his promises to stop this disrespectful act it continues... time after time!!!!...
A. 15 May 2012: Depends on what you mean by oogling.
If he's stopped in his tracks and just staring, then yes, I'd say that it's pretty disrespectul and if you've spoken to him about it and he doesn't care, then don't marry him until he stops doing it.
Howe... (read in full...)
Does personality matter?
Q. If a guy is just average looking or even a little ugly (not like hideous ugly), but they have what you consider to be a really funny personality, you get along with them really well, you love to talk to them for hours, they have a cute personality, ...
A. 13 May 2012: "would you date them over a guy that has good looks but is really boring?"
Yes, of course ... there's no point in dating someone who's boring, no matter how physically attractive they are
While looks may be somewhat important (as in, does the... (read in full...)
I'm going to pharmacy school. Will that get me more girls?
Q. So my friend told me that seeing that i'm going to pharmacy school girls will be more intersted or is this just a myth? and girls don't care about this stuff? or do you say that it does help you get that girlfriend?...
A. 12 May 2012: I've never heard of anything like this and I know people who just finished pharmacy school, haha ..
If anything, probably the $$ makes you more attractive, but that can be said for most professional jobs, no? ... (read in full...)
Bitterness from boyfriend flirting
Q. My bf and I have been together for about 1.5 years now n he is now completely commited to me, but in the beggining he used to flirt with these girls. I brought up that it bothered me, then we argued, and he still insisted that she was just a friend ...
A. 12 May 2012: The bitterness ends when you realize that you're being unreasonable. Your boyfriend may have not respected your feelings the way you liked in the beginning, but it sounds like he is now putting in a lot of effort (cutting off contact with the girl, ... (read in full...)
What is your opinion about what the wife should pay for after marriage?
Q. Dear cupid, I wanted your opinion on after a couple is married what is the wife, should the wife pay for? My Hubby to be wants me to pay the mortgage and he would pay for everything else ie taxes,food, insurance,pet care, car care,everything....
A. 8 May 2012: I think you should pay whatever you feel is fair. If you both work, then you should both contribute equally. If one of you makes more than the other, the expenses should be paid proportional to your salaries. It really depends on what you and your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is really cheap and it really bothers me
Q. Hi, I am very confused and bother now. Advice would be appreciated. Me and my boyfriend had been together for almost two years. His cheapness has recently gone to a degree I can't stand it. When we go to CVS he bought three dollars of candy ...
A. 20 February 2012: I live with my boyfriend, and we've alternated (at the start) to him having at least 10x more money than me to me (now) making more than him. We've always split shared expenses 50/50. For example, rent, food, utilities are all shared 50/50. Ou... (read in full...)
B/f is dating 2 of us at the same time. He says he's just "pretending" to date her!
Q. I'v been dating a guy almost a month now, recently, he told me that he was dating a different girl and he's doing that to please her he disclosed to me that im the one he loves even though he's pretending to be dating her. Should i believe him? I ...
A. 19 February 2012: "What should i do?"
Dump him? Unless you're fine with him dating another girl at the same time as you ...
You deserve someone who is only dating you exclusively. If this guy can't offer that, then find someone better. ... (read in full...)
Should I send this email to a girl who stopped talking to me a month ago?
Q. Long story short, me and this girl went from talking to each other every day to completely stopped talking the next day. One day its all fine then, she starts ignoring my messages... Please dont judge me. Also I havent sent this email. I have wri...
A. 19 February 2012: I wouldn't send what you wrote. If someone sent that to me, I'd be a bit creeped out. It's really intense and a bit melodramatic to send to someone who you just talk to (as opposed to someone who you're in a serious relationship with).
I'd j... (read in full...)
Lies stacked upon lies and now my ex doesn't trust me
Q. I have been with this girl for 2 years and we have been very much in love. The problem is, when we first met I told her some lies about my past and as time went on I didn't know how to take them back. so I told more lies and things are in a very bad ...
A. 19 February 2012: The thing is, the 2 years that you had together were a lie. If this had happened to me, I'd never be able to trust the guy again.
However, you can certainly try to regain her trust, but it'd be really hard, if it's even possible. I'd probably... (read in full...)
I'm engaged, but I no longer feel like I love him.
Q. Help! i'm engaged but i no longer feel like i love him. he was my boyfriend and my best friend. even after he moved away for school, we made it work. he visited me each time he could and those were moments i truly treasured. after i graduated high ...
A. 19 February 2012: I think you need to be honest with your fiance. Marrying someone if you don't feel the spark anymore is dishonest to both of you. You'll just wind up regretting getting married and you two might wind up resenting/hating each other!
Also: don't fe... (read in full...)
How can I get bigger boobs and better hair?
Q. I was just wondering...how can I look more attractive? I feel I look good but how can I get bigger boobs naturally? Also how can I make my hair thicker and volumed?...
A. 19 February 2012: "I feel I look good but how can I get bigger boobs naturally?"
If you do chest exercises that work out your pecs, the muscles under your boobs will get bigger/more toned and will push them out more :D ... (read in full...)
Why are women so bitchy to me? Why am I a threat ?
Q. In my other post people had a go at me for being platonic friends with a guy . Well so why is it I try and be friends with women and it never works? I'm friendly and easy going, and don't treat people like garbage. For some reason women always see ...
A. 19 February 2012: I'm in the same age range as you and used to have a lot of trouble making female friends (but guy friends were easy) for the same reasons - a lot of girls/women were bitchy and backstabbing. But in the past 2 years, I've been making a fair number of ... (read in full...)
B/f broke up with me because of my behavior. Could we get back together?
Q. So my boyfriend of 4 months (longest relationship of mine) dumped me on Valentine's Day because he was fed up with my behaviour. I won't lie and say what I did wasn't good (when I was upset sometimes I'd threaten to break-up with him, and sometimes ...
A. 18 February 2012: Well, to be honest, threatening to break up with him when you don't really mean it is manipulative, and telling him that he's a bad person is actually emotionally abusive. So, I'm not surprised that he broke up with you.
You can care about so... (read in full...)
Does anyone deserve a second chance?
Q. when someone has cheated, should you give them a second chance?...
A. 18 February 2012: No, I would never give them a second chance, no matter what. Cheating is a choice. If the relationship isn't working out - i.e., you feel unwanted, your needs aren't satisfied, etc, then just end the relationship. Cheating is just cowardly, in my ... (read in full...)
He thinks that I should ask his permission before I go out with my friends!
Q. me and bf have been together for nearly six years both in twenties. we have been arguing really bad so i went up his house to try and sort it out but we couldn't resolve anything. i ended up going down my girlfriends house and going out ...
A. 18 February 2012: I don't think you did anything wrong, and that your boyfriend over reacted. You have every right to go out with friends. You shouldn't have to ask permission to go out. In fact, telling you that he wouldn't "allow" you to go out with your friends ... (read in full...)
I don't love him, but he doesn't listen!
Q. I just realized that I don't love him ,and I'm pretty sure he knows it ,he see's the signs obviously .I just want him out of my life *period . How can I get rid of him ? He's changed in a good way ,to little to late ,I just want him out ,I told him ...
A. 2 February 2012: I'm a bit confused. If you don't love him anymore and you want him out of your life, why don't you move out? Or ask him to?
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to accept the fact that she's friends with the guy whom she cheated on me with!
Q. i've been together with this girl for over a year now. about 5 months ago, i found out she cheated on me with a classmate of hers. When nov and december came, everything was fine, but i guess from sep to dec, there had been alot of lies and i ke...
A. 2 February 2012: What should you do?
Well, first of all, she cheated on you. And she's still friends/in contact with the guy. She lies to you. She doesn't want to be seen with you in public.
So ... my question is ... why are you still with her?? I don't se... (read in full...)
Should I be upset and jealous over his remarks??
Q. I was watching TV with my boyfriend and Faith Hill came on for a moment. This is what he said.... "Mmmm Faith Hill is a scrumptious treat. I want to eat her up. She is sooooooo fucking hot!!!" I got upset and we had a huge argument about it...
A. 23 January 2012: Am I crazy for being upset?
No, if he had just said "oh, she's hot" and you got upset over it, then I'd think that you're being a bit sensitive/insecure. However, what he said (that she's so hot and that he wants her more than you) is totally ... (read in full...)
My friends have suggested my Gf is emotionally abusive. Should I try to make this relationship work?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 2 years with a girl. I am 24, she is 23. First off I would like to say I know I am not perfect, I dont think its entirely her fault and no I dont know exactly where my fault lies, nor will she tell me half the time. ...
A. 4 September 2011: "Emotional abuse is commonly defined as the systematic tearing down of another human being."
Her behavior - calling you an asshole or selfish, saying things like she "would never marry someone like [you]", insults, slapping you all sounds like emo... (read in full...)
How do you balance a demanding career with relationships?
Q. I am a 21 year old male student. Three months ago I met a girl via an online community, we had good conversations and apparently found each other sufficiently attractive to meet up. So we did, and a relationship developed. She was to become my first ...
A. 4 September 2011: People get married and have children while in graduate school! If they can do that, then surely you can balance school and a girlfriend!! The thing is, you just need to make sure that you prioritize school, and that whoever you date understands... (read in full...)
Is it possible for me to still grow taller at 19?
Q. Is it possible for me to still grow taller at 19? I'm a guy and I just turned 19 on August 3. Here's a brief history: -Dad is about 5'8 Mom is about 5'1 3/4. Brother is 22 and 6'1 1/2. Brother stopped growing around 14-16. My dad's uncle was...
A. 31 August 2011: I've learned in biology that men usually have a final growth spurt when they're about 20 or 21 - somewhere about 1/2" or 1"... so there is hope for you! To maximize your chances of that happening, just try to be as healthy and stress-free as ... (read in full...)
Has he fallen out of love with me? Is he just putting up with this because its easier than breaking up?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend over 6 years now, hes 28 im 24 we have lived together for a year. He has become distant, doesnt make much effort these days, i also found a text on his phone saying to his friend 'Any excuse to get away from the missus ...
A. 30 August 2011: From what you have written, it sounds like your relationship is in a bit of a rut. Have you tried talking to him about how you feel like he's being distant, or that you feel like he isn't putting in much effort recently? ... (read in full...)
My boss and I text each other, now his wife is furious at me. Did I do something wrong?
Q. This is a strange one I'm having mixed opinions about. Basically my boss is 20 years older than me, and married... and male also! However we text back and forth just silly jokes, general day to day stuff, and sometimes just to see how each other are ...
A. 28 August 2011: "Was I out of order for texting him outside of work" Yes, I would say so, since he is your boss. I don't think it is very professional to send silly jokes, etc, to him outside of work. It would be less inappropriate if your texts were work-relate... (read in full...)
Break-up after 7 years
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 7 years, and like every couple we have shared good and bad times. During the last couple of months things have been especially bad, we seem to argue a lot and she tells me that I "irritate her". I ...
A. 8 April 2011: I myself have been in a relationship for over 7 years and am a little younger than you. If my boyfriend was cybersexing with another girl online, I don't care if we were together for that long .. our relationship would be over. So, I do not see ... (read in full...)
What should I wear on this date?
Q. i cant decide between 5 dresses which one i should wear for a date.. please someone give me a clue on what type of dress we have to wear on a date. your answer will be appreciated...
A. 17 January 2011: Something that you feel comfortable in :) Otherwise, you will probably look and feel awkward (and he might attribute it to you not liking him)
... (read in full...)
Ex girlfriend has been so cruel to me, should I give her another chance?
Q. My ex-girlfriends has... 1. Broke up with me more than 40 times in one year 2. Talk to her ex-boyfriend almost daily while in a relationship with me 3. Been physical agressive 4. shouted at me, at home and in the street 5. Put men in the hou...
A. 5 December 2010: She sounds pretty crazy, abusive. Were you happy with her? Or are you worried that you will be alone?
I would take her back only if she went into counselling and fixed her issues :/ ... (read in full...)
How many texts/calls a day is considered too needy or clingy?
Q. What is considered too needy or clingy? How many phone calls/texts a day? And how much can we expect phone calls/texts/communication back from a person without expecting too much?...
A. 28 November 2010: If the person is texting/phoning you to check up on you, then I would feel that's too needy/clingy/controlling. I'd probably also feel that it's too needy if one person is texting/messaging a lot more than the other.
However, it really depends ... (read in full...)
Should I have stopped hanging out with my friends to make her happy?
Q. So me and my girlfriend just broke up because I keep going to hang out with my friends at least once or twice on the weekends. Should I have just stoped hanging out with my friends to make her happy?...
A. 26 November 2010: No, as long as you make sure you balance your time with her. It's healthy and necessary to do things outside of each other. ... (read in full...)
I kissed a guy when I was drunk, told my boyfriend and now I don't know what to do!
Q. As background, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and were quite happy together. We were near engagement, so it's a very serious relationship. I went to a going away party this weekend and got blackout drunk at the end of the ...
A. 22 November 2010: I think you're on the right track. If you feel that your drinking is creating problems (and it sounds like it is) then you should get help with it. I think realizing that you have a problem and making a honest effort to change it will show your ... (read in full...)
I'm completely insecure in my marriage
Q. My wife and I have been together for 3 years now but I keep thinking she is going to find someone better than me so I am constantly thinking about it I have gotten to the point were I am now questioning her constantly and asking a lot of questions ...
A. 13 October 2010: I suggest that you ask yourself why are you so insecure? If you don't think you are good enough, you should try to improve yourself as much as you are able to. For example, if you aren't the most fit, then go exercise; if you think you're boring, ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone who was so good to you?
Q. I was with my partner for 5 years. We talked about marriage and spending our lives together. However, over the last year we noticed that we wanted different things. I wanted to wait to get married, did not want to rush, I wanted to do a phd, become ...
A. 16 September 2010: Hi, I am a female and I am currently in a PhD (research/thesis-based) program. I personally don't have children, but I know some grad students start their families while in grad school, and while it is extremely difficult, it is possible.
I jus... (read in full...)
She says all I think about is sex
Q. On Wednesday, I took my girlfriend to a restaurant with a beach view, the horse races, and a Padres game which all cost $120. Keep in mind that we are both full-time college students and I don't have a job because I write for the school newspaper ...
A. 13 September 2010: Wow, you sound like a pretty decent guy :)
I think you should talk to your girlfriend about your feelings/thoughts. After all, if you don't or can't communicate with each other, your relationship won't work.
Regarding "she says all I think... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get a girlfriend!
Q. question dear cupid, will i ever find love i've been lonely all my life. i just can't attract women doesn't matter what i try. i've run out of ideas my life lonely and empty. even when i was at school girls avoid me they never talked to me. all my ...
A. 13 September 2010: What do you mean "doesn't matter what i try" ?
The superficial (because first impressions matter a lot): Do you work out in the gym? How do you dress? Do you take care of yourself? Do you take pride in your appearance?
The deeper: Do you l... (read in full...)
My overwhelming jealousy is killing this relationship!
Q. I've always been a very jealous person. But in this relationship I'm in now, I've never been so insanely jealous. My man and I have been together 3 years, he is 31 and I am 22. I used to cheat on my ex with him, and now that we're together, I can'...
A. 12 September 2010: I will start with your boyfriend. I think you have reason to be jealous because as you said, he used to like this girl. Your boyfriend should try to maintain distance from her (like at most be casual friends) in an effort to minimize the chances ... (read in full...)
Nasty rumours caused my boyfriend to break up with me...
Q. I am getting called pregnant at school and everyone thinks its by one of the teachers that has just left our school but it isnt, I'm NOT pregnant (not that I know of.) My boyfriend is getting sick of it and he wants to break up, what should I...
A. 6 September 2010: If the rumor is not true, then it should have nothing to do with your boyfriend. He should trust you.
That said - you should talk to him about why the rumor bothers him. If he wants to break up with you because of a rumor, I don't think he's wor... (read in full...)
She kissed another guy and I'm really upset about it. What to do next?
Q. guys i neeed help pleaaaase.. my girlfriend just told me a guy in her class kissed her while they were on a break. they were talkin and he just kissed her :S i dont know what to do. i didnt even shout at her i just said ' okay' and left her. she...
A. 6 September 2010: "she said she didnt kiss him back
she moved away right away "
So you'd better go and apologize for your behavior! She (like everyone else here) did nothing wrong. If you get this upset over it, she'd feel like she'd have to hide things from... (read in full...)
She kissed another guy and I'm really upset about it. What to do next?
Q. guys i neeed help pleaaaase.. my girlfriend just told me a guy in her class kissed her while they were on a break. they were talkin and he just kissed her :S i dont know what to do. i didnt even shout at her i just said ' okay' and left her. she...
A. 5 September 2010: Well – did she kiss him back? OR did she push him away? You don’t provide enough details ...
Does she have feelings for this person? If she has no feelings for him, and he kissed her (and she didn’t kiss him back), then you should get over it.... (read in full...)
Nasty rumours caused my boyfriend to break up with me...
Q. I am getting called pregnant at school and everyone thinks its by one of the teachers that has just left our school but it isnt, I'm NOT pregnant (not that I know of.) My boyfriend is getting sick of it and he wants to break up, what should I...
A. 5 September 2010: Well - have you done anything to encourage these rumors? Like why would people say this about you? If you have been a good girlfriend (no cheating, emotional games, etc), and your boyfriend is sick of it and wants to break up .. well .. is he wo... (read in full...)
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