How does one avoid date-rape and why DON'T some dates/boyfriends accept "no" for an answer?
Q. **Please mods, I think I ask a lot of important questions here and while I do mention date-rape, I put it in the cleanest way possible. Is there a way to share my experience and questions without it getting deleted? ** There are a lot of posts l...
A. 9 July 2014: As a woman the only thing I can do to avoid the possibility of being raped is by being vigilant as to making sure my drink isn't spiked, avoiding men in clubs and bars who clearly have had too much to drink, too much attitude or obviously want to ... (read in full...)
Now I've got him why aren't I satisfied?
Q. I've been having an affair with a married man for almost over 18 months now, he's been wed for about 6 weeks, has a 2-year-old son, and on Wednesday he announced he's leaving his wife for me. He said he'd told his wife "I'm leaving you, got a new ...
A. 5 July 2014: OP You are either living in a fantasy world or you are trying to get attention. Either way this is nonsense im sorry. ... (read in full...)
Can a married person having an affair have the right to accuse the partner of being deceitful?
Q. Does this make any sense or am I wrong? Here's the scenario: a single guys is having a torrid love affair with a married woman for a long time. He only sleeps with her but does socialize with other women, and men of course, from time to time, bu...
A. 3 July 2014: Getting involved with a married woman and expecting to be treated right in return? Aint gonna happen! If she will deceive her hubby and put her husband health at risk, she wont give a flying fuck about her sex toy male friend.
I don't agree wi... (read in full...)
What do you think of this married man who gets attracted to all beautiful woman he finds?
Q. At my workplace, there is a handsome man but he is married. He is of the cheating type. He is a player. At one moment he would be attracted to a particular woman and then when he sees another more appealing woman, he will be attracted to this woman. ...
A. 30 June 2014: Honey you should not worry what this guy is, does or thinks. SVC is right, he may just be a natural flirt rather than a player and a cheat. Do you know for certain he is actually following through with his flirtations? As long as you keep a ... (read in full...)
What's this woman's problem with me?
Q. Can i ask a question here for other women please, i usually dress with jeans and a low cut top, or if am wearing a skirt i make sure my chest is fully covered, so i don't think i dress trashy at all tbh, i look around at girls my own age and are all ...
A. 27 June 2014: Sadly being a true Christian doesn't stop people from acting in a way which is stupid, spiteful and obnoxious. The reason I stopped going to church was the number of people like you describe....so fucking self righteous yet pig ignorant. Tell her ... (read in full...)
Advice for a long distance relationship?
Q. So let me start from the beginning: I'm 15 years old and met my boyfriend at school in August. This was the first year he had ever been to my school, and unfortunately appears to be the last. We've had arguments and such but they always draw us ...
A. 27 June 2014: OP you are being so naïve.
"my parents, his grandparents and his mother (his father is out of the picture) all know and have admitted to us and to each other that we are in love."
What on earth? Op if you need people who are older than you t... (read in full...)
Was the choice I made cowardly or sensible?
Q. A few nights ago, I took my girlfriend out to eat. It was about 1:30 in the morning when we left home, and yes there are restaurants open at that time. I've never personally been to the place but my friend recommend it with high praise. We were on ...
A. 18 June 2014: You certainly did the right thing by getting out as fast as you could. Ask yourself the question: why would this guy be hanging around alone, in the dark, in a secluded, run down area? Why would any one with honourable intentions approach someone ... (read in full...)
I've made the worst mistake ever ...
Q. I got very drunk last night with my fiancé and a few friends. By the end of the night I was pretty inebriated. I often feel the desire to have sex when drunk however she was not interested because of the way I was acting earlier in the evening. I ...
A. 15 June 2014: OMG!!! What on earth were you thinking?!?!
You came so close to raping this girl, and even though no penetration took place you could still be charge with sexual assault!! Who did you think you were treating someone you are supposed to be in lo... (read in full...)
This married guy knows I have a crush on him and he touched and kissed me and said, "lets be casual". What does he mean by that?
Q. here's this guy a married man 47 yrs old, he's my friend and most of his family members were my friend also. last year i realized i really like him (crush). but i kept it inside me. he's so nice to me and whenever we see each other he always f...
A. 3 June 2014: Op....!!! Isn it obvious?? Your not a child, you should be clear that this married man just wants sex with behind his wifes back and wants you to act like a compliant sex toy he can play with at will without his missus finding out!
Grow a pair and... (read in full...)
My 17 yr old son met an American girl while gaming online and now her parents are offering to pay for his ticket so he can meet her! I'm scared that he'll never come back!
Q. Hi Looking for some advice! My 17 yr old son met an American girl while gaming online 4 yrs ago! They have been chatting on fb and Skype since and now he wants to go to America to meet her! Apparently her parents will pay for his ticket!! I have t...
A. 2 June 2014: Travelling the world is one thing, having someone you have never met pay for it while you are a teenager is something very different indeed. One point the others have missed is that your son could be anybody!!!! You know he isn't obviously, but f... (read in full...)
Why would they be interested in me?
Q. Two childhood sweethearts. . Looked me up after twenty years.. One grade school kept in touch more than the other from Jr high.. they have children and our grandparents. .and from different states .. I finally have a four old daughter and am not ...
A. 27 May 2014: I agree with what Mark1978 and Honeypie have said - Its a nostalgic thing. A nostalgia for a more fun time in their lives. Of course we look back on these things with a more biased and rose tinted way.sometimes when things get tough in life, and we ... (read in full...)
Twenty eight and throwing tantrums
Q. My lovely live in boyfriend has some sort of anxiety and depression. He has spoken to people about it in the past, and been on antidepressants before my time. His recount on things I've said or scenarios that have happened where he ended up getting ...
A. 26 May 2014: OP time for a reality check!!! You say he is your "loving" boyfriend but he isn't! He is an abusive, aggressive horrid person who is physically hurting you now and has been emotionally hurting you for a lot longer. Men who abuse women rarely go ... (read in full...)
What's with him? Is he just curious about us?`
Q. For more than 6 months now apparently all the classmates of a guy friend of mine (M) think we are together.They often say something about this to him, make remarks, especially the boys, but sometimes the girls too and a lot of them seem so sure of ...
A. 25 May 2014: Well as B sounds like an adolescent of about 13 I wouldn't worry yourself with if he does/doesn't fancy you. Why would you, an 18 year old, be interested in someone who behavies like a silly kid?... (read in full...)
What's with him? Is he just curious about us?`
Q. For more than 6 months now apparently all the classmates of a guy friend of mine (M) think we are together.They often say something about this to him, make remarks, especially the boys, but sometimes the girls too and a lot of them seem so sure of ...
A. 25 May 2014: Ive read your post several times and to be honest it doesn't make much sense, I also suspect you are much younger than your stated age on here.
Basically if your asking how to deal with rumours, I suggest you carry on as normal and forget about th... (read in full...)
My friend ditched me when I was going to the hospital. Why did she get angry?
Q. A friend of mine recently got very angry with me, without me understanding why. I was wondering if you could help me with this. I had become quite sick, and wasn't getting any better. I was talking to my friend that Saturday, and she asked me how...
A. 25 May 2014: OP tell us about your friends exam you mentioned. Could they exam be the reason for your friend over reacting?... (read in full...)
He's farther ahead in terms of committment than I am
Q. Is it possible to love someone yet not be IN LOVE with him? I know for sure I love my BF.. we click very well and do sweet things for each other. We always start the day off with a morning call to each other, talk/text through out the day, and end...
A. 14 May 2014: "Lately I've lost a bit of trust in him as well because I have a gut feeling he's trying to hide something, perhaps with another girl..." Obviously we cannot confirm nor deny this as we have no way of knowing but maybe you need to consider why, wh... (read in full...)
People think I'm her sugar daddy
Q. I'm 32 and have been dating a girl for 18 months. She is 11 yrs younger then I am and even though its been a year and a half both our families still don't think our relationship will last. I love her. And I hate to say that in the beginning I didn't...
A. 13 May 2014: Age gaps CAN and Do work indeed yes. However you need to bear in mind your partner is still quite young. She was still a teen when you first met. You at 32 are probably looking to settle down and as long as you are sure she is too then I think ... (read in full...)
Is this friendship appropriate?
Q. Hey. I have a little-big issue here. I've fallen for a girl way younger than me, she's 16 years old. She's extremely intelligent and mature, but at the same time she's a teenager, so she knows how things work but doesn't have a life plan and I know ...
A. 13 May 2014: You don't tell us how old you are. If you are closer to 25 than 20 then I don't think its appropriate to continue this as she is just 16.
Nothing wrong with being friends, but as you have developed strong feelings its probably very wise to dist... (read in full...)
How do I distance myself from this woman who has a fiance?
Q. There's a woman I've known since we were 16 (we're 24 now) and I've always found her attractive, though we've never been close friends. Always just acquaintances. She was always in a relationship while I've always been highly focused on my care...
A. 12 May 2014: How can you be in love with someone you have never known closely? OP this is a crush, infatuation. Being in Love - proper, grown up, sensible, real world love, takes a lot of time being close to someone. Seeing someone regularly and getting to k... (read in full...)
How important is the look of "it"?
Q. Help .... I'm about to enter into a physical relationship with a new man after a long marriage and I need to know . How important is the appearance of a woman's vagina to a man Most of the ones I've seen in porn look very similar and much tidier t...
A. 12 May 2014: Men don't care. Most of a female genital is inside the body anyway. Men look at boobs, women look at penises. The shape and style of a vagina is not something a man is likely to take much notice of.
They care more for how it feels than how it l... (read in full...)
Is this age difference morally wrong?
Q. Big question. Is it morally wrong to date a guy this young? I'm 22 almost 23, seeing a guy who is 17 almost 18. (We live in Texas so he's legal age of consent). He is wonderful to me, spends all his time with me, shows public displays of affection ...
A. 5 May 2014: Normally I would say its best to ignore other peoples name calling and opinions and if you are both happy then so what. However, I don't think in this day and age that it is appropriate for any person to put themselves into a position where by they ... (read in full...)
I feel jealous now that my ex-boyfriend has a new girlfriend
Q. I've dated this guy when i was in school. He was my first boyfriend but we broke up after 5 months, we were still young and didn't know how to work things out. Now that 7 years pass we remain friends, we still keep in touch and some days we would...
A. 23 May 2013: (It says you are 18-21)
OP according to your age and what you say, you were 11-14 when you were together? OP you and him were just children back then. He is now a grown man, not the same young boy you dated as a kid.
Why are you angry? He is... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to understand why I would be upset that he wants to hang out with a sexy young flight attendant and her friend!
Q. My boyfriend met a sexy young flight attendant at a bar last year. She lives in another city and is 30 years his junior. He says he wants to hang out with her and her friend this weekend because he wants to try to set up one of his buddies (also 30 ...
A. 23 May 2013: Hmm this is fishier than a Haddocks fanny! I think he does understand but why would he care if hes off enjoying himself?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend pointed out a larger girl to me and said if I ever got that fat he would dump me!
Q. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for just under 4 years. At the weekend we were on a night out and he pointed out a woman on the dancefloor who was probably a UK size 14/16 and he told me if I ever get as fat as that he will dump me! Now this ...
A. 23 May 2013: What a thing to say! Sounds like he has never grown out of seeing a GFas a thing to impress his mates! ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my parents permission to stay over at my Bf's house so I can meet his parents?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three months. We met through my friend going out with his friend (kinda complicated but that's the basics). I'm 17 and he's 19. He's met my parents and he wants me to meet his, and they're really ...
A. 22 May 2013: Your parents, and probably his parents too, feel its better to let you stay over (knowing damn well you'll be having sex) than risk you and your boyfriend getting up to no good in a parked car or allyway where theres a higher risk of reprocussions. ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my parents permission to stay over at my Bf's house so I can meet his parents?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three months. We met through my friend going out with his friend (kinda complicated but that's the basics). I'm 17 and he's 19. He's met my parents and he wants me to meet his, and they're really ...
A. 22 May 2013: what they dont cant hurt them? really? it will hurt them if they have a 17 year old pregnant daughter under there roof.... (read in full...)
Are relationships at 19 inevitably pointless?
Q. I'm 19 and currently at university, and I'm quite focused on stuff like my career, my studies, developing a good personality and making long-lasting friendships as that seems to be stuff that will last me for life and actually matter. Because I...
A. 21 May 2013: realistically couples who date at 19 dont usualy stay together for long as they have less in common as they mature so i agree that looking for a life partner at such a young age is likely to end in disapointment (although some people find the life ... (read in full...)
Keep getting text messages from a very weird guy. Advice?
Q. I was at a party a couple of weeks ago and bumped into one of my old friends whom I hadn't seen for a while. We used to get on really well and she introduced me to some of the people she'd come with, including this guy. I said hi to him and everyone ...
A. 21 May 2013: I agree that being more assertive in that initial situation is always best. I had years of similar situations until i learned to spot these idiots straight away and make it clear that im not intrested. You said you had to keep talking to him until ... (read in full...)
have people broken mirrors and actually had bad luck after?
Q. you might think i'm stupid for even asking this question. But this morning I dropped my mirror and a chunk of the corner cracked and came off. I am quite superstitious, so I was wondering if it is true that if you break a mirror it's bad luck? ...
A. 20 May 2013: Its an old wives tale. If you expect to get bad luck you will look for evidence to support it. We all have occasional problems and unexpected welcome suprises, but if we think we are due bad luck we forget the small lottery win, the free coffee in ... (read in full...)
My co-worker cannot take a hint!
Q. One of my co workers gave me a ride home one time. On our way there, my neighbor called me and said they were having a party in our building and to come join them. So I asked my co worker if he wanted to join the party and he said yes. I was just ...
A. 20 May 2013: Hi there Op Yes i agree completely that tiis guy was a creep but i also agree that you made mistakes out of naivity. If this guy for whatever reason got into your bed then you should have ordered him out before joining him. Lying next to him o... (read in full...)
I'm a strippper, attractive and fit so why does my boyfriend still watch porn?
Q. so i am 18 years old, my fiance is 26. we have been together for a few years and we have a pretty good sex life. generally at least once a day. im just wondering why he wants to continue looking at porn when he has me. (i'm a stripper) i'm extremel...
A. 19 May 2013: HI OP if your 18 and hes 26 that's a big red flag. No disrespect OP but i'm 24 and i wouldn't date an 18 year old. I may have found it patronizing and insulting to have people tell me how young i was at 18 but now i appreciate how big the gap is b... (read in full...)
So girls, would you rather have a chat and a long cuddle etc from a guy you are attracted to, or better that he not approach you at all, if he can't give you more time?
Q. Question for girls, I have quite long periods when I don't have time to date girls, due to time restraints of work and being on call there. My job requires me at times to be in the busy nightlife area. I often get signals from girls trying to get me ...
A. 19 May 2013: "within a few minutes we are usually having a long cuddle....then I wish her/them all the best and leave."
OP!!! That's not very nice you know. If someone chatted me up for a few minutes, had a cuddle, and then wished me all the best and gestured... (read in full...)
How do I ask my parents permission to stay over at my Bf's house so I can meet his parents?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly three months. We met through my friend going out with his friend (kinda complicated but that's the basics). I'm 17 and he's 19. He's met my parents and he wants me to meet his, and they're really ...
A. 17 May 2013: OP your being really silly!! "You may think this next bit sounds, childish (I would use a better word but can't think of one), but I also think that because if I really wanted to move out and live with him (which I don't right now) then I coul... (read in full...)
He has a bad-news friend that concerns me ...
Q. my boyfriend and i are in our mid to late twenties and have been together for almost a year. We truly love each other and I feel he is the one. We constantly are there for one another and and really love each other. With that being said witho...
A. 15 May 2013: Hi i think Zippy made a good point. Its not so much about you not wanting him to go out without you or anything like that, but rather you have simply outgrown that lifestyle and want your BF to do the same.
Bad influence best friends are always a... (read in full...)
I wasn't sure if he only wanted me for sex. Was I right to reject him?
Q. My friend at college had a huge dorm party last week and there was a lot of alcohol involved. Long story short, I had drunk quite a bit when one of her friends whom I didn't know hit on me. We ended up making out and kissing, but he was really ...
A. 14 May 2013: OP i think you have put yourself in a very vulnerable situation. If you go to parties and get really drunk then there's a strong chance someone will try and take advantage of you. Yes you probably gave him the right signals and encouraged him BUT ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend suddenly needs space. Do I give him space? Or dump him?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months suddenly says he needs to "reconnect" with his friends (aka drinking buddies) and plans to stay out every Friday night with them. He says I'm not invited "for now" - and besides I work at 7AM on Saturdays and he wants to s...
A. 14 May 2013: I disagree with the other responses.
There's a difference between your boyfriend wanting a lads night out regularly or setting aside some time away from you to do other things, and a guy going out every friday night till 5am getting drunk and part... (read in full...)
How do you talk to a girl you don't know?
Q. How does someone get into a relationship when he has no friends? I've tried talking with girls on these social online sites but i find it awkward trying to start a conversation online with a person i've never met. I mean how do people do this?....
A. 11 May 2013: Only approach women on dating sites, not facebook,etc. Get yourself on an internet dating site and start contacting people as you'll soon pick up what works.
DONT say somone looks cute. Cute sounds childish and patronising. Also avoid cheesy c... (read in full...)
Why do girls like the bad boys?
Q. Hi there :) I have a wee question in general; why do girls like bad boys as opposed to the sensible, faithful guys who will treat them right?! Kind of a silly question, but just wondered if there was anyone else who, like me, is more attra...
A. 11 May 2013: i dissagree that bad boys are the most sucessful, most the bad boys i know dont work, have drink/drug problems and always in trouble with the police.... (read in full...)
Why do girls like the bad boys?
Q. Hi there :) I have a wee question in general; why do girls like bad boys as opposed to the sensible, faithful guys who will treat them right?! Kind of a silly question, but just wondered if there was anyone else who, like me, is more attra...
A. 11 May 2013: Most of my friends like badboys and i dont get it! My friends see these guys as confident but most other people see them as arrogant, intimidating and cocky.
My mates say they like a man whos able to protect them, yet miss the point that its the ... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex. Should I ask if everything is ok with her cycle?
Q. okay, awkward subject: I've been dating a girl I really like for the past 5 months. We've been having sex on the regular basically every time we see each other. Only thing though, last month (the 25th specifically) she was on her per...
A. 10 May 2013: cerberus thats a crazy and adolescent response! its no good ejaculating inside a woman and saying its in the lap of the gods!
yes us women can just flush a baby away no probs...not like its a life or death desicion cerberuseh? must be hard for... (read in full...)
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