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Two things changed me and thats why I created the blog, "Eavesdropping in the Boys Club" - Everything your Father should have told you about Men, had you asked.
My first life altering event was when I met my wife, she understood me like no other and I learned what unconditional love meant. I would be lost without her. She's also one of the main reasons I write about relationships, because what women go through today at the hands of unworthy men has little to do with the men and so much more to do with women and their inability to love and respect themselves.
The second major change for me was the birth of my own daughter whom I pray never meets a man like my former self in her life. She deserves better and I've promised to teach her everything she should know about men. While I'm doing this, please come along for the ride.
I'll answer any question you throw at me, I'll never judge you and I'll never preach to you. I will though tell you what happened to me when I did what you're contemplating and then you decide if you still want to move forward with your plan.
I have to caution you though as the women who write to me through my blog will confirm, I am brutally honest with them and sometimes I force you to look in the mirror and you may not like what you see. However, in the end the truth always hurts but not as much as the lies that some men may tell you.
Please stop by and say hello, I'll always make time for you thats a promise.
As for the name, "Anonymousmale1?" This is who I am at this point in my life. My real name is really unimportant, because I am not who I used to be and not who I am going to be yet, because I am still growing as a person. |
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4 August 2011: In past I have discussed the "L" words, meaning "love" and "like" and their meaning in the relationships you've had or currently have. Today I would like to discuss a sentence that will, well, leave you spellbound if it ever comes out of the mouth ...
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23 October 2009: The other day I had a thought and decided to write it down. I had several women write to me regarding this thought and so I decided maybe I should post it here for those of you women who wonder what it takes to make a man stay with you forever. T...
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How the way he kisses you says more than you Know
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17 August 2009: Most people say that there are no true aphrodisiacs other then human scent. You know the smell of a male or female and the effect that it has on one another. I disagree, I think that the one true aphrodisiac in the world is a kiss. Not the peck that ...
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Should I keep on with this relationship or should I quietly back down?
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I'm tired of my heart ruling my mind.
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The ex my mom doesn't like!
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I don't want him to end up resenting me...
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A. 30 January 2010: It's funny, I read your question and I get the feeling that you simply want someone to agree with you so that you feel better.
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I am glad that it made you feel bett... (read in full...)
The context of an "ask out"...
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If it were I that received such a e-mail I would summon the female to my office and explain to her that it's... (read in full...)
10 Things that Women should never allow any Man to talk her into...
Q. Men can be pretty persuasive. They've been known to talk women into almost every poor situation imaginable under the disguise of love. If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times that when a man starts a sentence with "If you love me", what ...
A. 7 October 2009: Thank you very much for your kind comments. ... (read in full...)
He will not stop going on about having sex with me!
Q. Well theres this dude and hes really nice and confident. He got my number and started to txt me. It was all grand until he was started trying to persuede me to have sex with him! like i dunno if he was serious but he like wouldnt let it go. I am not ...
A. 21 September 2009: You are very welcome. Thanks for allowing me to assist you with this issue.
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Ex needs me to help him get back on his feet but is that using me?
Q. Hello everyone... thank you for reading my issues and thank you even more for those who respond to them... So I have been out of my long term relationship for about 20 days and my ex continues to call me about 3 times everyday. I cant deny it I ...
A. 17 September 2009: Jadabryant21, you sound like a very intelligent young woman. However, the man you once were with sounds like his life is in shambles. Why is it your responsibility to take care of him? Reading you post I get the feeling that you are very respon... (read in full...)
Should I say "I like you but I won't sleep with you"?
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A. 17 September 2009: Not only would he think you're easy but your actions have allowed him to already think you are. Lets take a look at this from a different prospective. You've known a man for three years and although you two have kissed on a couple of occassio... (read in full...)
He will not stop going on about having sex with me!
Q. Well theres this dude and hes really nice and confident. He got my number and started to txt me. It was all grand until he was started trying to persuede me to have sex with him! like i dunno if he was serious but he like wouldnt let it go. I am not ...
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Why most Women are attracted to Bad Men
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A. 17 September 2009: Hi Deliawood,
Thanks for the nice comment. Your children are very fortunate to have a caring, intelligent & honest mother whom was strong enough to make a break from a bad relationship for their sake as well as her own.
I can only hope that ot... (read in full...)
Why is he now ignoring me after what happened?
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A. 16 September 2009: In reading your letter several flags went up for me and I am sure that you've observed them as well. By the time I completed reading your letter I firmly understood what the whole incident was about. It was never about you, or being with you (at ... (read in full...)
How the way he kisses you says more than you Know
Q. Most people say that there are no true aphrodisiacs other then human scent. You know the smell of a male or female and the effect that it has on one another. I disagree, I think that the one true aphrodisiac in the world is a kiss. Not the peck that ...
A. 16 September 2009: Hi GoGreen126,
I am glad to hear that you liked the article. I understand that you are a teenager and as adults we tend to forget that we too were once young as well.
We forget what it felt like to be consumed by love and passion and tend to downp... (read in full...)
How the way he kisses you says more than you Know
Q. Most people say that there are no true aphrodisiacs other then human scent. You know the smell of a male or female and the effect that it has on one another. I disagree, I think that the one true aphrodisiac in the world is a kiss. Not the peck that ...
A. 31 August 2009: Hi Clariss,
I am glad that you liked the article. As for your current situation you may want to gently remind him that regardless of the amounts of money he makes, he'll never be able to buy back the amount of time that he is losing being away fro... (read in full...)
How the way he kisses you says more than you Know
Q. Most people say that there are no true aphrodisiacs other then human scent. You know the smell of a male or female and the effect that it has on one another. I disagree, I think that the one true aphrodisiac in the world is a kiss. Not the peck that ...
A. 19 August 2009: Hi Rosy,
To answer your question a kiss such as the one described in the article shouldn't be done to elicit sex. When a relationship first begins we share those types of kisses while standing at the front door when dropping you off after the movi... (read in full...)
Does he just want to hook up for sex?
Q. Same problem with my ex. Except we're not talking now because I chosed not to. I want to get back together offcially. He said to be friends and hook up so that he can see if he wants to get back. I said friends is fine but no hook up. (B...
A. 10 August 2009: Your ex is a first class A--. His offer is unreasonable and disrespectful. Let me explain what he is really saying and it may open your eyes just a little bit more.
In reality he's saying that you are not good enough to be his girlfriend, but you'... (read in full...)
How do we handle the situation at the B&B we'll be staying at?
Q. I have been seeing a younger man The other night my young man took me out to a nice dinner and he asked me to a bed and breakfast for a few nights to get away It is believed there is nothing more wonderful than feeling sexy, and beautiful, and b...
A. 10 August 2009: Society has always looked the other way with older men and younger women. Finally, Finally it becoming increasingly acceptable for older women and younger men.
As a man myself, I loved older women when I was much younger and to be honest with you ... (read in full...)
He's a great guy but...I've lost respect for him! Help, I'm disillusioned here!
Q. Simple to explain my situation, but don't know what to do about it. I have a partner who is a good guy I've know for 15 years and we've been together 10 years. I think he genuinely loves me, although it's never been exactly passionate and I have inc...
A. 7 August 2009: To begin with you are none of the things that you described,(selfish, guilty, disillusioned or pathetic)you are a beautiful, caring, sensual intelligent woman and any man worth a grain of salt would love nothing more than to have you by his side. ... (read in full...)
I want to arrange a threesome for me and my boyfriend... but I think my jealousy will get in the way!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend now for about a year and a half. I know his fantasy is a threesome, which I've no qualms with having as I'm bisexual and have had many more years with women than men. I love him dearly and I know he loves me too. I th...
A. 7 August 2009: If you go forward with this idea, your relationship will be over within a month after the event. In your letter you expressed your own thoughts of jealousy but you fail to understand how he will feel afterwards. Most men like watching two women pl... (read in full...)
Did I scare him away by telling him I love him?
Q. Did I ruin things by saying I love you? We've been seeing each other for four months. He has told me many times how he loves being with me, wants me to open up to him, and that he was falling in love with me. He told me "love ya" tonight, and I ...
A. 7 August 2009: It's not as bad as you think but you did catch him off guard. He wanted to say it but he wasn't sure the time was actually right. He'll think about it and more than likely come to the conclusion that it was coming anyway, you just beat him to the ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to my friend's brother?
Q. Ok I have a very important question......One night when I spent the night over my friend house her brother and I did some freaky stuff..and now since that night I been thinking that I wanted to loose my virginity to him he's 15 and im 14.....should ...
A. 7 August 2009: Losing your virginity is a very big issue and although I understand how you could want to move to the next step it is very important to understand the consequesnces that go along with it.
At your age (please, I am not talking down to you) boys are ... (read in full...)
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