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writes:My boy friend and I share the Internet. He lives in our home as his Dad is away working where he can get work, and his mother left them a long time ago. We both paid for it, but he did put in a little more for the computer as he wanted a better computer.Anyway the real problem is he will never ever get off the computer. sometimes I even walk down the street to the library because he is monopolising the computer. Yes he is in the next year at school. but it is tough. I have work to do too. My mother can't pay for a second computer. Because my Dad is not around either. How can I get him to share the computer time better than he does I made up a roster but he tore it down and ignored it.Apart from that he is very cute
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reader, person12345  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 Tell him that if you don't get half the computer half the time you won't pay for half the internet. Calculate total time spent on the computer, and only pay for your proportion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2011): If you both pay for the internet (I pay for mine on a monthly basis) but you are not getting to use it then tell him you are going to stop paying for it until he gives you fair access. He probably won't want to cough up the whole price on his own and it might make him think. You could also keep a diary of when he uses it and when you get to use it. He might not realise how much he is hogging the computer- if you show him some facts on paper it might make him think.
Otherwise, I think Cindycares has a great answer. You are both kids living under her roof. She will be able to sort things out if necessary I'm sure.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 Have you ever told him "you're hogging the computer, get off, it's my turn now"?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 I am afraid the only solution is to have your mom put her foot down. Her house, her rules , and you both are kids, so she gets to decide computer access , same if you were siblings. Ask her to talk to him and tell him clearly that he can't live in somebody else 's home and do the heck he wants with shared property.
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reader, Abella +, writes (13 May 2011):
 Is he an only child? and are you also an only child? in each of your families? Because it may be that two strong people have met their match. Talk to him about playing fair. If it means that you need to schedule some time for the internet at school and some at the library, where there will be two computers you can each book at the same time then do it.
Don't allow petty squabbles to ruin your relationship. Because in the end it is not worth it.
Does he play fair in other ways? If not then you and he need to discuss some ground rules. Do not allow yourself to become the door mat who gives in all the time. But nor should you become the strident demanding one. Just play fair. And both of you take some time out for a walk in the park and time to talk to each other. I know study is hard but the computer can become an addiction for some.
assess how balanced your lives are, apart from the big effort you both need to put into school.
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