My uncle says I remind him of my abusive father
Q. I feel like ive caused a massive family rift by asking a silly question. Ive had a difficult relationship with my uncle for many of my adult years. He is often very sullen and angry around me. I get short snippy answers to anything i say. He is 48 ...
A. 30 April 2018: Ive calmed down a little today and although im still horribly hurt by what has been said i am able to reflect.
Just to clarify. My uncle is my mothers brother. He also told me during the argument that my mother did nothing to prevent my fath... (read in full...)
I think I am having a mid life crisis ... or something.
Q. I think I'm having a mid life crisis or something. I'm 30, cohabiting with my long term boyfriend (nearly 6 years). Just about to move into our first house purchased together. I hate my job. I'm on medication for depression and anxiety (the latter ...
A. 25 April 2018: Ah honey it sounds like you are having a really rough time. Firstly well done for recognising that there is a problem as thats the first step to healing. Go to the gp and tell them you need a complete meds review and check up. Tell them exactly how ... (read in full...)
Wearing jewelry from an ex whilst out on a date with a new partner... thoughts?
Q. I want to know what everybody's thoughts are on wearing jewellery from an ex partner whilst out on a date with a new partner. Thank you!...
A. 30 April 2016: It wouldn't worry me as long as it wasn't a wedding ring!... (read in full...)
Advice needed, please? Would my subsequent actions be enough for me to get pregnant?
Q. So today I hooked up with this guy and we had oral sex. We didn't have sex. Everything was fine, he ate me and I sucked him till he came on my chest. When we ended, I might have gotten some semen on my fingers since it got on my shirt too, but I ...
A. 30 April 2016: Very unlikely lovely, if your that worried tho I suggest you get the morning after pill x... (read in full...)
My homosexuality is killing me and left me alone with no options
Q. So I am posting a big question about my life, I am not sure if it fits with the nature of the contents here but I hope to get an answer! I am 34 years old and I feel that I am 50 years old , gay, middle eastern to Muslim parents, I didn’...
A. 14 April 2016: I really hope that you can get something from this site to help you. Sometimes in life it is easy to get so caught up in what isn't working that we forget about what is working! You are a young man, going by your post I would say you are reasonably ... (read in full...)
My parents are paying for my education and keeping me under tight control
Q. I be never dated before because I wasn't allowed to. I also went to an all girls school and now attend community college. My parents said since they're paying I have to commute from home and if I make good grades and get my associate, I can transfer ...
A. 14 April 2016: Be honest with your parents. Don't go behind their backs. Also as an adult they can't really stop you dating can they? What'd the worst that could happen? What are you worried will happen when they find out?... (read in full...)
30 years and she still wont listen to the truth!
Q. Just found out some one I like over thirty years ago been mad at me all this time, our last date she thought I put something in her drink, a drug, I didn't, she left me that night and went home with this other guy, who was trying to make me out the ...
A. 8 April 2016: You need to let it go lovely. I understand that being accused of drugging somebody must feel awful even if it was 30 years ago. Sadly though if she still won't take your word then you need to forget about it and move on as there's not alot else you ... (read in full...)
I need my mother to understand why I want to move out!
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 24, employed and living at home. I've been helping out with bills etc and when my mom told me she was buying a house with my stepfather I got concerned because I've been wanting to move out for ages. She doesn't make a lot and ...
A. 8 April 2016: Move out sweetie. You need a place of your own. Your mum will find it hard, none of us like the thought of our " babies" moving off to be on their own but it has to be done some time or other. In a modern world I think living with your partner ... (read in full...)
How can I get my pregnant girlfriend to understand my point about moving in with my parents?
Q. When I was 17 I got a girl pregnant. We weren't really dating just hooking up and she wanted to give baby up for adoption but I wanted to keep it. My family support me and when my son was born my gf signed over the baby to me and my parents have ...
A. 8 April 2016: Trouble is having been a hormonal pregnant woman twice in the last three years, even things that make sense don't always make sense to her. She may be worried about being treated like a child if she lives with parents ( regardless of who's) maybe ... (read in full...)
Feeling stressed and pregnant. How should I handle this discovery about my husband?
Q. Ok so I'm 6/7 weeks pregnant and I've been very very emotional and irrational the last few days. I went looking for a link in the history of my laptops Internet (my other half had obviously just been using it before me) and saw that he looked u...
A. 6 February 2016: Feeling g a bit crazy is completely normal when your pregnant. I was like it with both my daughter's. Yes its upset you because it reminds you of a time when you were not together, and the last thing you want when pregnant is to feel like things ... (read in full...)
How does one encourage diversity and diverse ethnicity in volunteer hobby groups?
Q. This is a very different question that normally gets posted on this site but I've often found help (or at least food for thought) from the least likely of sources so here goes..... How do you encourage ethnic diversity within an organisation whe...
A. 6 February 2016: Maybe appeal to a well known theatre performer to be your patron? Be honest and Advertise the fact that you want a more diverse group of people to attend maybe set up a face book page and write an honest request explaining what you have just told us ... (read in full...)
Did this married man just make fun of me, or was he falling in love with me?
Q. Hi. I've been attracted with this married guy for almost two years. When i first saw him i had a crush on him and i long to see him often. Last month we started exchanging messages. He said he wanted to know me better. We spent time together ...
A. 6 February 2016: He has a wife and probably kids who he loves. He got caught up in flurtation with you and has now ended it so you need to accept that he doesn't want to see you.
I am a wife and mother myself and if my husband cheated on me it would ruin me comp... (read in full...)
My girlfriend slept with someone else when we were seeing each other. Can't get over it. Help!
Q. I need advice from the outsiders. As a summary, my girlfriend and i have been together for a year and a half now. A few months ago, we were on holiday to an exotic island, i pop the question, she said yes and we were all happy. At the end of our t...
A. 3 February 2016: Look we do all make mistakes, granted that cheating on someone is a big one, the real question is can you forgive her and move on? If you think you have it in you to do this then put the past behind and don't bring it up again. If you feel that what ... (read in full...)
If not a pre-nup agreement, then what are some of the ways I can show him that I love him?
Q. Dear Cupid, My fiance has substantial assets. I have very little. I would like to sign a prenuptial agreement because I think it would make him more comfortable and I want to show him I love him not his assets. He does not believe in prenuptia...
A. 2 February 2016: If he's happy to marry you without one then the fact that you offered to sign one is probably enough for him to know your intentions are honorable. Try not to worry and congratulations on your upcoming marriage x... (read in full...)
Is this cheating? I don't understand myself anymore!
Q. Hay, I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We really love each other and we're planning to move in together soon. So here's my problem or should i say I don't really know if it's already a problem. I've met a man who is nearly 20 years...
A. 2 February 2016: In short unless you want to cheat , you should break contact as he seems to want more than you do... (read in full...)
I'd like to date again but I am in remission from cancer and worry every day that the cancer will return. How soon should I tell someone I'm dating about it?
Q. I am a 33 year old man who has been single for 2 years but I feel I am ready to get back out in the dating game again and see how it goes. However I am a little hesitant because of a possible terminal cancer diagnosis. Last year I was diagnosed ...
A. 8 August 2013: Each day is a gift for all of us dear, go out and grab life with both hands. You dont have to tell people about your past immediatly, just wait and see how things are going and then talk about it if you think you will see more of them. I think maybe ... (read in full...)
Was she hiding something, or trying to reassure me?
Q. My girlfriend gets a phone call from a guy while we were cuddling. They seem to know each other very well judging by their tone of their voice. Afterwards, she automatically and pro-actively explains to me who this guy was - they have known each ...
A. 30 July 2013: No offence meant but the fact that you had to ask this question suggests you are paranoid/insecure by nature, so she was prob just trying to reassure you!... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he thinks I gave him a STD
Q. ok ,,, i've been dating a guy for nine years , we were on and off , but recently we have broken up , bec we think i have STD , at least he thinks i caught it and gave it to him ,coming from my country , such is a disgrace , so i can't go to see ...
A. 20 July 2013: The problem is that you might not have an std, the ard a couple of conditions a woman can have down there that present symptoms simular to one, like thrush for instance and a man can catch it from u. Its a bacterial imbalance not an std. I really ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he thinks I gave him a STD
Q. ok ,,, i've been dating a guy for nine years , we were on and off , but recently we have broken up , bec we think i have STD , at least he thinks i caught it and gave it to him ,coming from my country , such is a disgrace , so i can't go to see ...
A. 20 July 2013: The problem is that you might not have an std, the ard a couple of conditions a woman can have down there that present symptoms simular to one, like thrush for instance and a man can catch it from u. Its a bacterial imbalance not an std. I really ... (read in full...)
Having trouble adapting to a much more aggressive culture
Q. i need advice please.im asian and married to a german man, we are already 10 years together. I dont have problem with my husband, he is ok to me. im living here in germany with my husband for nearly 3 years.my problem is the people here. im still ...
A. 18 July 2013: Hey there, I have german family and I sometimes find that their sense of humour and the way they act is very different to my own and we always seem to misunderstand eachother. There are good and bad people where ever you go, no matter what country ... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant or is it my diet?
Q. I need help. I'm turning 21 soon and yes I am sexually active. We use condoms and I just had my period a week or two ago. Now, I don't think I'm pregnant but I'm reading articles about morning bloating and they all say it's an early sign of ...
A. 10 March 2012: Take a deep breath and calm down bloating is a symptom of pregnancy but its not the only one and just because your suffering bloating doent mean that your pregnant. Dont waste your money on pregnancy tests just yet because even if you are pregnant ... (read in full...)
I know I am using her, how do I get out of this?
Q. I'm in a very difficult situation right now. I've been dating a girl now for 3 months, she's more of a rebound gf since I just got out of a long term relationship prior to meeting my new gf. The problem is I don't love her at all. I think she's a ...
A. 18 December 2011: No offence but ive been in ur girlfriends position and it sucks, a couple of people here have advised hanging on untill.after xmas but acting like a friend with no sexual.contact or romance after being in a relationship that to her may have seemed ... (read in full...)
My Bf had a message in the drafts folder of his phone saying, "I don't even know why I'm with (my name), she's f**king gross bro, like who hasn't f***ed her."!!
Q. so basically the other day my boyfriend and I of 4 months got in a fight because he found out that I had dated this guy he knows that he thinks is DISGUSTING. It doesn't make sense also because this happened like 6 years ago, it's not fair that he's ...
A. 18 December 2011: Hunny i really really hope you end it. No man has the right to say these things about you to anybody, the fact that he is being so immature about your ex says alot about what you can expect.for.the future of the relationship. Everyone has a past, ... (read in full...)
I love my fiance and I want to get on with his family! So why am I being made to feel like an outsider?
Q. I get the feeling that a certain member of the family of my fiance, doesnt like me and judges me because Im not religious. The person that I believe does not approve also has a lot of prejudice veiw points that I disagree with to the point of b...
A. 18 December 2011: Thanks guys, in answer to questions.about why spend.time with them? To avoid seeing them would.mean my fiance missing every family gathering and important event as person in question is his sister. I didnt think of hiding the facebook.statuses ... (read in full...)
I am still sleeping with my Ex but he's grown too friendly with my friend! Shall I tell her the truth?
Q. my good friend and my ex are getting friendly..... and hiding it, i know about and confronted them and they say they are just mates at the moment. my friends tell me that if our friendship is going to get awkward then mates is all they will stay. ...
A. 18 December 2011: Personally id tell her, why should he have his cake and eat it. If.shes a.real friend.then she will tell him to.get lost and so should you really. Best of luck hun xxx... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my step sister about her health/appearance? I want to help her!
Q. My step sister has a few problems that are getting seriously out of control for my parents. The first is that She is a uk size 22 now at the age of 16. She moved in with my mum and her dad (my step dad) because she cant get on with her mother who is ...
A. 18 December 2011: Thankyou all for your advice. My sis still is refusing to go to a counciler. We had that little chat tho.and atm it seems to be going a little better. I tried not to focus on her weight which she is the most touchy about, but i told her that it ... (read in full...)
In love with my cousin
Q. HI, I'm in love with my sister. Not my own sister, but she's is grandmom's sister's granddaughter. And our grandmom's had broken their relation long time back before we were born. I first meet her when I was 16 years old, and she is half year you...
A. 18 December 2011: she is NOT your sister she is your 2nd cousin so dont worry about that, as far as i no its not illegal, the only issues u may come across will be with family objecting. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is being difficult! please help!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for well over 2 years, all of which have been long distance. Right now, I'm in college and he's living back at home in NY, about 4 hours away from my parents' house. I was planning to go visit him by train on the 26th, ...
A. 18 December 2011: Hey hun there isnt an easy way to say this and without hearing his side to things its hard to judge, but in my personal experience (this sounds.almost.identical.to.something that happened.to me) when a person blows something like this out of ... (read in full...)
I don't like my husband's female friend!
Q. Hi, My husband has a female friend I really don't like. The fact that we were dating and then living together, got married and just had a baby and I am just meeting her after almost 4 years really annoys me and frankly quit ticks me off. The fir...
A. 18 December 2011: Hhhm well if thats the case i really dont blame you for.being suspicious coz i certainly wouldnt like it! If i were you I would have a very serious talk with your husband and also get to know this lady better, mabe then you will get to like her ... (read in full...)
Husband and mother in law issues...
Q. I have been married to my husband since 2008. I moved in with him because him and his mom already had a house. She put the down payment and he pays the monthly morgage. His mom is 72 set in her ways and a perfectionist about the cleaniness of the ...
A. 17 December 2011: With all due respect, i love my mother in law, but the thought of sharing a room with my husband (2 be) and his mother creeps me out alot. I wouldnt feel.comfortable sleeping in a bed next to.my husband.knowing his mother.is.watching. Why cant she ... (read in full...)
I don't like my husband's female friend!
Q. Hi, My husband has a female friend I really don't like. The fact that we were dating and then living together, got married and just had a baby and I am just meeting her after almost 4 years really annoys me and frankly quit ticks me off. The fir...
A. 17 December 2011: I think you need to tell him how you feel.asap expeshally if.this woman was a problem in a previous marriage. There is nothing wrong.with him having a female friend at all but when there are feelings like this you need to do something. Is she with ... (read in full...)
My brother threw our long lost homeless father out. Did he do the right thing?
Q. Hey i'm conflicted. You see my father left me and my mother and my older brother when we were kids. Since then we've struggled to make ends meet. But now my older brother is successful. he's an architect now. and we're living comfortably. really ...
A. 19 November 2011: Nobody here can really tell u y ur father came back.
Yes all those years ago he walked out on you and left you to fend for yourselves and that was a bad thing to do. Now he is back and homeless.saying sorry for what he did? Maby he is sorry. If i... (read in full...)
Not sure I can put up with this troublesome "friend" any more. What to do?
Q. I just don't know what to do anymore. I've gone on here more than once about this particular subject, and every time it just gets worse and worse. It's about my friend who can't make up her mind on whether or not she wants to be a good friend o...
A. 19 November 2011: You need to confront her because the behaviour isnt nice. Tell her that you know she talked about you behind your back and that if she has issues then she needs to tell you and not others. Then just leave it at that. ... (read in full...)
Astonished that he could have done something so evil
Q. Okay, here's the situation. I met this guy randomly and he asked for my number. I met him after a few days for a first day, and we instantly clicked. I saw him again and again for months and quickly fell in love with him. After the first month I ...
A. 18 November 2011: Dont give him another chance he used u and lied to u and his wife. Hes done the dirty on the both of you so it goes to show how little respect he shows other people. Its not worth risking a broken heart on someone you no for sure is capable of being ... (read in full...)
New baby, but an unsupportive abusive husband. No wonder I'm depressed. What should I do to cope with all this pressure?
Q. I've been feeling very unhappy after I got married.. been feeling depressed..I had a baby 7 months ago; I have been staying at home watching the baby and my husband has been complaining about expenses. He 's been telling me I wish That he could be...
A. 18 November 2011: My parents had a broken and abusive marriage me and my younger brother watched my father beat nd almost kill my mother in front of us. and it all began with emotional abuse and got worse.
I promise im not trying to scare you but please take cour... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose the trust of my b/f's daughter but I do think she pushes the boundaries!
Q. I'm in a relationship (for 6 years already) and my boyfriend has an 11 year old daughter. I'm very lucky in the sense that she loves me very much. We get along great and I feel she trusts me 100%. I, myself, does not have any kids of my own and ...
A. 15 November 2011: You are right to set her boundaries or she will never respect you as an adult, she will continue to treat you as a play mate who she can boss around. Kids do test the boundaries. It is their way of working out how much they can can get away with. As ... (read in full...)
Is my ex only using me while he tries and gets back with his ex wife? Should I get rid of him now or wait and see?
Q. My ex partner to whom I have a child has recently broken up with his wife and has come running back to me in order to reinstate a relationship that was never completely finished because he left to marry her. However, during his marriage of about 4 ...
A. 15 November 2011: "I have moved on and my feelings towards him have changed."
I think this says it all really. if you think you are being used then dont let him get close again because when he runs back to his wife it will only end up in tears... (read in full...)
I'm married and now my lover is also married I'm struggling to accept she is physical with another man....I don't want to share her!
Q. I am married and had a relationship with collegaue in office. We got along for couple of years well including physically and now she got married to a guy. She says she wants to continue being physical with me but I am finding it hard to accept now ...
A. 15 November 2011: so its ok for you to ave a wife then that you sleep with and lie to all the time about having sex with a collegue but not for your mistress to have a husband?
I personally dont think you deserve your wife. What is the point in being married if you ... (read in full...)
I'm sick and tired of him ignoring me! Help!
Q. My bf of 2 years was ignoring me lately and most of the times he wont call for a week. I told him repeatedly this is not acceptable, even he is busy he should have atleast left me a message. Anyway i lost my control and didnt call for nearly 2...
A. 15 November 2011: Im sorry to say but it seems like he is looking to end the relationship but is too scared to actually break up. If I were you I would end it and find a guy who is more willing to give you his time. Ur boyfriend should be happy to spend time with you ... (read in full...)
I think I'm more emotionally involved than he is, should I just cut contact?
Q. I've recently became single after being in relationships since i was 16, im now 20, and i'm finding it diffcult to get back into dating again. firstly i have been talking to a guy on the internet who i used to go to school with but he moved away. we ...
A. 13 November 2011: Because you havent seen this guy for a while it is probably difficult to know wether he is interested or not. He might write something and mean it to be taken in one way but you may read it and think he means something completely different. Maybe ... (read in full...)
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