He's so unhygienic it's putting me off him, am I being unreasonable?
Q. I have been dating for over a year. In the early days he was relatively tidy.The guy is increasingly becoming a slob. His whole place is like a teenages bedroom clothes, rushbish, hangers, money etc chucked on the floor, plates piled up in the ...
A. 10 March 2017: I'm a messy person myself. But what you just described makes me want to vomit. It also reflects his mind. He would never bother to pursue goals and take up responsibility. How can he go ahead with work and productivity with things in that state ... (read in full...)
Fun with cyber sex? Or more?
Q. I met this guy through a dating app and we clicked! We spoke for a few days on that app. At that moment, I was still getting over a tough breakup for me. I hadn't exchanged numbers with this guy yet. One day, don't know what got into me then but I ...
A. 10 March 2017: Hello there! Everything you describe about him right now; sweet loving etc. is normal during the honeymoon period of a relationship. You really need to cross that phase in order to know the reality or have enough expertise/past experienc... (read in full...)
My 22 year old daughter has sent nude photos to her boyfriend. How do I address this?
Q. I recently discovered that my 22 year old daughter who is doing her post graduation has clicked and sent her nude pictures to her boyfriend. am concerned that its morally incorrect and also usually such pictures land up circulating. Its very...
A. 9 March 2017: Dear uncle,
I'm your daughter's generation and have been through her phase. I'm sorry that many people here weren't able to get full understanding of your situation as they have little background about the realities of the Indian society and the ... (read in full...)
Is she being very friendly or flirting with some motive?
Q. I shall try to make this short. I met a girl on a taxi when i was going to work. We chat and walk till i reach my work place. She ask my contact no. And we exchange our number. We didn't meet for the next 2 weeks. One day we happen to meet again on ...
A. 9 March 2017: I'd like to give you a slightly more culture specific advise here. this is what the situation is: Her bf is treating her badly. She sees you as a desperate way of distracting herself from a relationship and a man who is hurting her. He is spending ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend charged me for work he did for me. Should he have after everything I have done for him?
Q. I have been dating a guy for almost a year. He is going to massage school and has jobs here and there. He lives with a family member. I have helped him lots of times with homework. I recently bought a new car and gave him my old car, because he ...
A. 6 March 2017: Since it seems like he is not very financially stable, it's only fair for him to charge you for the materials, but definitely not for the work considering that you do things for him and pay all the time. I have been there and I know how it feel... (read in full...)
Terminally ill friend offered me her husband
Q. My best friend is suffering from a terminal illness and said something to me that I'm not sure what to about. I'm divorced and haven't had good luck with men and she has been happily married for 10 years. She and her husband are truly great people ...
A. 6 March 2017: This may also be an extension of her feeling bad for herself for having terminal illness and an untimely death. Natural and human to feel so. Reassure her by making her believe that every minute that's left is a blessing for her and people who love ... (read in full...)
Terminally ill friend offered me her husband
Q. My best friend is suffering from a terminal illness and said something to me that I'm not sure what to about. I'm divorced and haven't had good luck with men and she has been happily married for 10 years. She and her husband are truly great people ...
A. 6 March 2017: Everyone dies someday but our relationship with them does not. Philosophically speaking there's nothing to be judged about what she told you. However I doubt it is the wisdom speaking. The terminal illness must be taking a toll on her emotions,... (read in full...)
Should I move on? She had a crush on this guy previously. They've had recent conversations with each other
Q. I recently found out that my wife is having inappropriate conversations with someone who she had a crush on several years ago. I know for a fact that she asked this person a hypothetical question saying "Let me ask you something, what if I say he...
A. 3 March 2017: You are welcome :) Yes, coming from a similar socio-cultural background brings an immediate relatability and understanding of the situation and person. Thanks for the wishes. I wish you a happy life ahead too.... (read in full...)
She says I'm psycho but I hink she is cheating.
Q. Hi everyone Recently My girlfriend went out for a night-out and came back with a boy (who was her friend) and was in her bed watching a movie.Her flat mate (who has been her best friend since a young child) said she heard the bed moving, breathin...
A. 1 March 2017: You are young and this is probably your first lesson. Don't buy things like that. No girl goes to bed with a guy after a night out to WATCH A MOVIE!
If they really had to watch a movie, they could've invited the flat mate to watch too, or some ... (read in full...)
My married lover won't commit to me.
Q. Been having a relationship with a married man for 11 years, I have asked him on numerous ocassions for me and him to be a proper couple.....but even though he says he wants to in the future he can't right now because of the impact it will have on ...
A. 1 March 2017: Adding on to my previous comment, as wise owl says, the kids are too old to be the reason, they're an excuse. He's wasted a lot of your youth already. I don't know what you are waiting for.
As for 'real love' the way wise owl put it, I'd have to ... (read in full...)
My married lover won't commit to me.
Q. Been having a relationship with a married man for 11 years, I have asked him on numerous ocassions for me and him to be a proper couple.....but even though he says he wants to in the future he can't right now because of the impact it will have on ...
A. 1 March 2017: I'm sorry hun, but it looks like he wants to have his piece of cake and eat it too. He's dragging it on with you on the side with zero intentions of leaving his wife. He said it- I don't know. Which means he will keep having the best of both worlds ... (read in full...)
Is this recently widowed woman demonstrating a desire for a closer physical relationship with me, or is she grieving?
Q. Hello A woman i know, when we meet, we hug and kiss each other on the cheek. Not long ago her husband died. The last we met we hugged and she placed my head on her breastl Does she want a closer relationship with me? As in sexual? Or is it so...
A. 28 February 2017: Hi,
How old is she? A woman may do that to a person who is sad or hurt, to a younger one or to give comfort rather than get. If she wanted comfort, she may have lay her head on your shoulder instead.
If it were sexual, a gentleman wouldn... (read in full...)
I'm worried my reaction means I am not over him.
Q. I had a one year relationship. The guy was a jerk, and anyway we boke up. After not even seeing eaach other for like 3 months i suddenly see him on the road and i vomit. why does this happen? please tell me it's normal and that i don't still have ...
A. 28 February 2017: Aww! I'm totally over my ex. But I'd feel really pathetic too if I come across him. It happens when your final interaction was not very cordial.
Vomiting is an indication of failure in digestion- both food and feelings. Feelings also fail to ... (read in full...)
What is happening here? Neither my girlfriend nor I were virgins when we met. So why am I suddenly bothered that someone else before me had sex with her, before me?
Q. I’m with my girlfriend since almost 3 years and none of us were virgins when we get together. For me non virginity is not a problem at all, but since 1 week the idea of someone other than me inside her started to pop up in my head. I love her fro...
A. 28 February 2017: Think about it this way: Even you have been with someone else earlier. You don't have feelings for that person anymore do you? No one 'owns' anyone. A person can only own him/herself. So be happy that she has full ownership of her body and is usin... (read in full...)
Should I move on? She had a crush on this guy previously. They've had recent conversations with each other
Q. I recently found out that my wife is having inappropriate conversations with someone who she had a crush on several years ago. I know for a fact that she asked this person a hypothetical question saying "Let me ask you something, what if I say he...
A. 28 February 2017: That was me who answered earlier as anonymous. The website did not allow me to post again and I had to register. ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to sleep with him?
Q. I need your opinions and thank you in advance. I am 40 dating a guy who is 48 for 3 weeks. We have been on 16 dates already. I know it is too much with some standards but he is just head over heels for me and has told all his family and friends and ...
A. 28 February 2017: You said a lot about him being excited about you. It's great that he is. Setting that aside, how do you honestly feel about him? You don't have to do things based on how he feels. If he's head over heels, so be it. Are you?
As the other aunt sai... (read in full...)
Should I move on? She had a crush on this guy previously. They've had recent conversations with each other
Q. I recently found out that my wife is having inappropriate conversations with someone who she had a crush on several years ago. I know for a fact that she asked this person a hypothetical question saying "Let me ask you something, what if I say he...
A. 28 February 2017: Well, one's shallowness reflects everywhere. In relationships, choices, IQ, EQ etc. She may not be a big time gas lighter or anything. As you said, she may be compatible with someone who has their interests aligned along similar areas. Needles... (read in full...)
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